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06-04-2013, 07:44 AM #361
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06-04-2013, 08:20 AM #362
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06-04-2013, 08:24 AM #363
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06-04-2013, 10:01 AM #364
I'm just giving you a hard time. I think you did the right thing, up to a point. Then you stopped listening to the guys in this thread and texted her back and met her and etc and so on. I know what it's like to be **** on by someone you thought you loved. That's when you've got to calm down and think logically--acting emotionally is a no no. It's hard because your whole world seems to have turned upside down and something inside of you feels like it's dying.
You let HER make the decisions and control the situation. Everything was about her wants and her needs.
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06-04-2013, 04:04 PM #365
I have the same, my ex lives also 100m from my house, and we have a nice park in front of my house, and i see her everyday walking her dog with her new bf, so i know the pain in the stomach. So what everbody else say: go out and have some fun. Maybe it works to write down on a paper all the **** she has done to you, and when you feeling nostalgic, you can read it. This helped me alot.
Goodluck buddy!Last edited by RaaaR; 06-04-2013 at 04:38 PM.
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06-04-2013, 05:31 PM #366
Going with my middle brother (he's 30) and my cousin.
Thanks mate.
I used to play 3 times a week, then I snapped my right ACL clean in half. Had a full knee-reconstruction and as of about 1.5 years ago back to once a week. Also work 40+ hours a week plus study part-time, so playing indoor once a week is enough at the moment.
How can you see why she left me? I have not said, in detail, what our relationship was like and what went on. Rash comment/s not needed.
Yeah, I've seen my ex walking her dogs a few times. I saw her this morning walking her dogs (about 7am) as I drove past on my way to the office.
I'm trying to go out and just enjoy myself. I went to dinner with a friend of a friend a few weeks back - was a feeling of total bliss having dinner with a woman and just being able to enjoy the company with a few glasses of wine. Didn't do anything with her at all; the company was the best thing in the world.
I might take you up on the offer of writing everything down - might just help pull me through that little bit more.
Cheers mate
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06-04-2013, 05:48 PM #367
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06-04-2013, 08:07 PM #368
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It's refreshing to see an OP stay positive in a thread after a breakup. Usually we get those forever alone *******s who smother their ex after a breakup.
OP you better be on dat dere no contact. Show up with a hot bish next time you know she will be around, she'll get so jelly. Anyway good luck and start smashing randoms
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06-04-2013, 08:17 PM #369
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06-07-2013, 10:53 PM #370
You always got to keep in mind, maybe you've realized this by now, if not, you will eventually. No matter how great or hot you think your ex was, there's a million other hot chicks out there you could get with and be happy. Take a look around while you're in Europe. It's a pussy buffet out there. I know when I really accepted that little tid bit, it was easy for me to move on
my Spanish name is el mucho ding dong
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06-08-2013, 09:46 AM #371
Trying to get into another relationship is the wrong way to go about trying to get back to normal. You need to just go out and bang every chick you see. If you try and date other girls all you will end up doing is remembering how much you loved your ex and how these other chicks aren't as good as her. If you go out and bang ever chick that you find you will start to realize that your ex wasn't all that hot, that she wasn't all that exciting in bed, that she was boring, etc, etc. Then after a good 6 months to a year you can start seriously dating again.
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06-08-2013, 01:44 PM #372
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06-08-2013, 02:18 PM #373
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This is definitely a possiblity, but I would go on with life as if that is not gonna happen. Easier said than done... but go out ASAP and find another girl and have fun with her. Maybe the original will come back, but its easier emotionally to try and move on, and then if she comes back it will be a pleasant surprise.
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06-08-2013, 03:55 PM #374
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06-09-2013, 03:59 AM #375
Went out with a bird from work last night, had a few (too many haha) wines; was a great night. Really enjoyed talking to her and we get along really well
Yeah she most probably does. Who knows, she may come to that realisation down the track. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing to work through this and get on with my life.
Yep, that's exactly what I'm doing. She might come back in the future, but I'm not waiting around; I'm just moving forward at a slowly increasing pace
Thanks mate. The pain sucks
Yes I am understanding of that and the fact that it has happened now...
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06-09-2013, 10:18 PM #376
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06-16-2013, 04:54 AM #377
Another weekend, another setback. FML
She texted me last night saying "I kinda miss you", then a few hours later said "I'm really lonely without you".
Then this morning she said "I'm sorry, last night I was drunk and I didn't mean what I said".
The **** man. I haven't text her back but this has really pushed me back a fair bit.
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06-16-2013, 05:10 AM #378
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06-16-2013, 05:24 AM #379
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06-16-2013, 08:26 AM #380
Use all this frustration as fuel for your lift, you will get much stronger both physically and mentally. Put everything you have into them and you will be exhausted afterwards, and most likely be able to get some good sleep. Go hang out with friends and have some fun. Whatever you do, just get out of the house.
You only have one shot at life, and our advice can only go so far. In the end, just do something. If you end up getting back together, great, if you don't, who cares? Wake up and put a smile on your face. The tough times are the ones you will be able to look back and laugh about later.
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06-16-2013, 09:04 AM #381
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06-16-2013, 09:10 AM #382
I'm confused. You wrote her "I'm really lonely without you" or she did?
If she wrote this after her first message and you haven't replied both of you, she just felt bad about her ago and wrote that morning message.
But if you wrote "I'm really lonely without you", I wouldn't judge you. Breakups are tough. But the general advise is NC. Because appearently she is mind ****ing you.
I would suggest you to change your number if this will keep happening. I'm also having trouble with NC. I'm thinking of changing mine also.
For your own good.
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06-16-2013, 09:12 AM #383
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06-16-2013, 11:12 AM #384
Please do not respond. These kind of girls are poison to your mind. She gets pleasure out of ruining you. She wants the empowerment of knowing she owns you and you pine after her 24/7.
Her ego has been hit because you didn't respond. Stay with NC and you'll soon see her for what she really is. A manipulative mentally damaged girl.
One day anything she says or does wont affect you in the slightest and then you know you've been set free
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06-16-2013, 02:37 PM #385
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06-16-2013, 03:15 PM #386
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06-16-2013, 08:07 PM #387
I think we've all gone through this atleast once in our lives... (not to that extent of 7 years)
you can screw as many girls as you want however this wont fill in that empty "gap".
Really the only thing to do here is go out with your mates, think positive about your future and keep yourself occupied.
distant yourself from any connections you have with her, ********, instagram...all that stuff that keeps reminding you of her.
after 7 years, its better she admits to it now than you getting married and then her bringing up the fact she doesnt love you anymore.
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06-16-2013, 08:09 PM #388
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06-16-2013, 08:10 PM #389
I don't know why this guy isn't negged repeatedly. He was given clear advice that he broke numerous times and set himself back time and time again. It even got to the stage where she told him not to touch or kiss her because she was creeped out by him. I mean, if he wasn't so stupid he would have just 'no contacted' and listened to everyone.
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06-16-2013, 08:13 PM #390
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