Do Personal Trainers have sex0rs with Clients SRS question PT's GTFIH

[FeeshKabobb]

I'm studying to be a personal trainer in may, and I want to know if that ever happens in the industry

Yes I know most of female clients are BBW in their mid 30's but still, do they ever come on to you as a PT?

Have you ever had the chance to do something with a client and if yes, are they usually the agressors or do you have to ask them out or hint at it or something?

And if not with clients, is it common with other gym members who arent you client?

Yes srs question

inb4 watching too much porn/10
inb4 negs

[InsanelyFit]

Studying to be a trainer and a question he asks is about sex0r with clients. lol.


Successful, you will be not.


EDIT: In all seriousness, you would be professional and hint that you are not interested. If they don't get it, talk to them and if all fails, dump the client. Not worth risking your reputation.

[FeeshKabobb]

Studying to be a trainer and a question he asks is about sex0r with clients. lol.


Successful, you will be not.


EDIT: In all seriousness, you would be professional and hint that you are not interested. If they don't get it, talk to them and if all fails, dump the client. Not worth risking your reputation.

I posted this on the misc earlier hence the lingo, but I heard that alot of that stuff goes on in fitness, My first choice was to be a pilot and I always wondered the same about the stewardesses and pilots, something Im always curious about

[InsanelyFit]

A mate I know is a pilot and I can confirm the pilots do get some sexy time with the flight attendants. Same as trainers that I know of.

It is up to you to decide whether you just want to fcuk clients or train them.

[rdferguson]

Are there PT's who have sex with their clients? Yes. Is it wise to do so? No. If you and a client are that way inclined towards each other and want to explore that realm, you should break off the client:trainer status of your relationship.

I once had a female client who, after her boyfriend dumped her, looked me in the eyes and said she wanted to jump on the next guy she sees. If I recall correctly, my reaction was something like: "Well, good luck with that. [glance at weights on floor] Next set."

[FeeshKabobb]

Are there PT's who have sex with their clients? Yes. Is it wise to do so? No. If you and a client are that way inclined towards each other and want to explore that realm, you should break off the client:trainer status of your relationship.

I once had a female client who, after her boyfriend dumped her, looked me in the eyes and said she wanted to jump on the next guy she sees. If I recall correctly, my reaction was something like: "Well, good luck with that. [glance at weights on floor] Next set."

strong concentration of peace

[pyaarawala]

Are there PT's who have sex with their clients? Yes. Is it wise to do so? No. If you and a client are that way inclined towards each other and want to explore that realm, you should break off the client:trainer status of your relationship.

I once had a female client who, after her boyfriend dumped her, looked me in the eyes and said she wanted to jump on the next guy she sees. If I recall correctly, my reaction was something like: "Well, good luck with that. [glance at weights on floor] Next set."

missed your chance

[WoofieNugget]

I actually got propositioned by my very first PT client ever. We worked together for 3 months and then she took me out for lunch to say thank you. Didn't think anything of it until she suggested when we were finished that we have dessert at her place because her husband was out of town and her kids were at daycare until 4. She was a mother of two, not bad looking but I turned her down and we had an awkward moment.

The funny thing was we had the ethics lecture in school literally the day before lol.

I've known both female and male trainers who have slept with clients, inevitably it leads to drama and problems. If you take your business seriously, you won't do it. But it does happen. I've been propositioned blatantly more than once, usually from wives with husbands that ignore them.

[etherHATESether]

Are there PT's who have sex with their clients? Yes. Is it wise to do so? No. If you and a client are that way inclined towards each other and want to explore that realm, you should break off the client:trainer status of your relationship.

I once had a female client who, after her boyfriend dumped her, looked me in the eyes and said she wanted to jump on the next guy she sees. If I recall correctly, my reaction was something like: "Well, good luck with that. [glance at weights on floor] Next set."

Logged in to rep.

[jando]

in the 4 years ive been training it happened twice mostly in the early part of my career. you will lose your client.

[CPWF89]

Wouldn't do it unless you were willing to drop them as a client after. If you go down that road the first time, it's bound to happen again. If it happens enough you will have one who attaches. She might see you with another client and get jealous. Well you get what I mean. Do it if you feel like dealing with the possible problems after, but it could hurt your reputation in the long term.

[SageFit]

One of my trainers is sleeping with a client of ours. He doesn't know that I am aware of it but i'm waiting for the ****storm that is about to ensue. Technically it's not illegal just highly frowned upon here. If we lose the client he's going to have a lot of answering to do. He's also my head trainer so frankly he should know better but honestly, if I were single, i'd probably do the same too. She's gorgeous, great body, and her dads a popular surgeon in the area. I can't even be too mad at him.

[ChessGuy]

It happens to me all the time. Hawt chicks love guys with beer bellies and double chins. It seems that I can't step foot into a gym these days without all the cuties throwing themselves at me..

Oh wait.... then I woke up. lol

[Garage Rat]

It happens.
If you want to be successful and avoid problems you need to be all business when your with clients.

[JoeCannonMSCSCS]

Since personal trainers are members of the health care system, if you did have sex with a client, at the least you might lose your certification and if you broke up a household, you might be sued.

[KyleAaron]

In Australia, to get employed, or to get insurance as self-employed, you must be registered with a fitness organisation. Fitness Australia's code of ethics states that a trainer should not form a personal relationship with a client which might compromise the professional relationship. If you breach the code of ethics, people can make a complaint against you, and your registration revoked. This would then end your employment or insurance.

I've never heard of it happening, though. A complaint, I mean. Most employers would get rid of you, though. Too much drama, not worth the trouble.

You work in a gym, and as a trainer usually have free or cheap access to other gyms, there are literally hundreds of fit and good-looking people you can crack onto who are not your clients. Even if not married, why would I mess with one of my 8 or so women clients when there are 2,800 other women coming to the centre? And thousands more at other centres. And millions in the country.

Seriously, keep it in your pants, don't be fcking stupid.

I can't believe SageFit's head PT is doing this and getting away with it, SageFit has previously told us he fired a guy for sitting down while training someone, and this numpty gets to bonk a client and get away with it? That is seriously fcked up priorities, sorry mate but there it is.

[SageFit]

In Australia, to get employed, or to get insurance as self-employed, you must be registered with a fitness organisation. Fitness Australia's code of ethics states that a trainer should not form a personal relationship with a client which might compromise the professional relationship. If you breach the code of ethics, people can make a complaint against you, and your registration revoked. This would then end your employment or insurance.

I've never heard of it happening, though. A complaint, I mean. Most employers would get rid of you, though. Too much drama, not worth the trouble.

You work in a gym, and as a trainer usually have free or cheap access to other gyms, there are literally hundreds of fit and good-looking people you can crack onto who are not your clients. Even if not married, why would I mess with one of my 8 or so women clients when there are 2,800 other women coming to the centre? And thousands more at other centres. And millions in the country.

Seriously, keep it in your pants, don't be fcking stupid.

I can't believe SageFit's head PT is doing this and getting away with it, SageFit has previously told us he fired a guy for sitting down while training someone, and this numpty gets to bonk a client and get away with it? That is seriously fcked up priorities, sorry mate but there it is.

You're thinking of it very black and white. There's no proper answer to it. Things like that can be frowned upon but you can't control two single people who are attracted to each other. I don't need to tell people they can't see each other and make it into some weird romeo and juliet thing. Besides, the guy trains 40+ hours a week. If I fire him I'm only screwing myself. It's frowned upon but it's not like she's married and he's a homewrecker, they're both 26 and like each other. I can't be overly mad about something that isn't necessarily illegal or against the rules.

[KyleAaron]

Sitting down while training people isn't illegal or against the rules, either.

Muddled priorities.

[ChessGuy]

You're thinking of it very black and white. There's no proper answer to it. Things like that can be frowned upon but you can't control two single people who are attracted to each other. I don't need to tell people they can't see each other and make it into some weird romeo and juliet thing. Besides, the guy trains 40+ hours a week. If I fire him I'm only screwing myself. It's frowned upon but it's not like she's married and he's a homewrecker, they're both 26 and like each other. I can't be overly mad about something that isn't necessarily illegal or against the rules.

Your organization, your call.

What would happen if one of them were married?

[sf69]

You're thinking of it very black and white. There's no proper answer to it. Things like that can be frowned upon but you can't control two single people who are attracted to each other. I don't need to tell people they can't see each other and make it into some weird romeo and juliet thing. Besides, the guy trains 40+ hours a week. If I fire him I'm only screwing myself. It's frowned upon but it's not like she's married and he's a homewrecker, they're both 26 and like each other. I can't be overly mad about something that isn't necessarily illegal or against the rules.

I would at least have a serious talk with the particular trainer. Won't be good if your trainers get a bad reputation and we know how things can get messy between people very quickly especially after a brake up or something. I’ve seen it happen. I would also maybe refer that client to a different trainer.

[WoofieNugget]

Sitting down while training people isn't illegal or against the rules, either.

Muddled priorities.

It is if you have expressly told the person you don't want them sitting down while training repeatedly. I doubt if he has done the same about boinking his clients.

He's right, you can't tell people (especially two single ones) what to do with their sex lives, although it would definitely be something I would have a conversation about sooner rather than let it go on. At the very least simply say that their relationship has obviously changed and it would be a good idea for her to work with another trainer. Good thing neither of them are married, I once had to tackle a wife at a front desk who had jumped over it to get at the girl who was sleeping with her husband - who was one of the other staff members. Not a good time.

Gyms are like any workplace except worse because usually people are in tight clothing and in good shape, unlike office dwellers.

[JohnSmeton]

Like professionals in here have said, if your serious about your business you wont. That doesnt mean you wont get turned on while training them and them wearing there low cut shirts exposing their breasts. the fact is yes some will be attracted to you and some may be bold enough to try to bed you, if your serious about your business no

keep your pleasure outside of business,there is a time and place for that, its a bad idea mixing the two in my opinion

[KyleAaron]

The point is he fires people for a minor case of being unprofessional, but ignores it when there is a major case of unprofessional. Why? "Well he does a lot of PT..." In other words, the boss will compromise on ethics when he's getting a lot of money for it. Integrity?

People can't control their feelings. They can control their actions. If you're interested in someone, you stop working together, and then pursue the relationship.

True love leading to a long-term relationship. Relationship breakup. Badmouthing the trainer, and the facility. Reputation? "Yeah, at that place the trainers crack onto you..." Someone accused of stalking. Or sexual harassment. Lawsuits for the centre. There is only one good way this can end, there are many many bad ways. What are the chances of each? Who here would like to bet their business on it? Any takers?

Tell him to transfer her to another trainer, preferably at a time he's not usually working. Not complicated, or much less so than the alternatives.

I respected SageFit for his success. He's lost it now. Cowardly. Says nothing so long as the cash keeps coming in. Unprofessional.

[SageFit]

The point is he fires people for a minor case of being unprofessional, but ignores it when there is a major case of unprofessional. Why? "Well he does a lot of PT..." In other words, the boss will compromise on ethics when he's getting a lot of money for it. Integrity?

People can't control their feelings. They can control their actions. If you're interested in someone, you stop working together, and then pursue the relationship.

True love leading to a long-term relationship. Relationship breakup. Badmouthing the trainer, and the facility. Reputation? "Yeah, at that place the trainers crack onto you..." Someone accused of stalking. Or sexual harassment. Lawsuits for the centre. There is only one good way this can end, there are many many bad ways. What are the chances of each? Who here would like to bet their business on it? Any takers?

Tell him to transfer her to another trainer, preferably at a time he's not usually working. Not complicated, or much less so than the alternatives.

I respected SageFit for his success. He's lost it now. Cowardly. Says nothing so long as the cash keeps coming in. Unprofessional.

Except you're basing your opinions on it. I say you can't control a person's love life, only denounce. It isn't a big deal frankly, and if it becomes one it gets taken care of.

The guys been with me for 4 years and has never had random relationships with a client. If these two end up actually going out with each other I don't think anyone would have any issues with it or think any different of him. It's not like it's something he's known for. I have to give him some sort of pass on this in the understanding that they actually like each other and it's not just him being a horndog.

[audion]

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[SFT]

There will always be temptations. Diet, sex, cheating, or a number of other things. Like most people said, if you value your career and reputation, you will not have sex with clients. Don't **** where you eat.

If you are legitimately interested in someone you train, then I would suggest you treat it like that. You don't have to be having sex with them while they are a client. You can hold off, finish out the session, and ask them out. Make it clear that your professional relationship is over.

I would personally not tolerate trainer and client relationships. However, I would not fire my trainer if he was not known for doing this. If this was the first time and they are interested in each other, I would let him know that she is no longer his client, but he is free to do as he pleases. The problem isn't if they end up dating, the problem is when they break off the relationship and there is drama in your business. I'd make it clear that I don't **** where I eat, and I certainly won't tolerate other people ****ting where I eat.

By being a dick, your employees will lie to you. If you level with them, it is easy for them to understand that you're actually a human being, like them, but they will also understand that you don't want to risk drama in your workplace.

[SageFit]

There will always be temptations. Diet, sex, cheating, or a number of other things. Like most people said, if you value your career and reputation, you will not have sex with clients. Don't **** where you eat.

If you are legitimately interested in someone you train, then I would suggest you treat it like that. You don't have to be having sex with them while they are a client. You can hold off, finish out the session, and ask them out. Make it clear that your professional relationship is over.

I would personally not tolerate trainer and client relationships. However, I would not fire my trainer if he was not known for doing this. If this was the first time and they are interested in each other, I would let him know that she is no longer his client, but he is free to do as he pleases. The problem isn't if they end up dating, the problem is when they break off the relationship and there is drama in your business. I'd make it clear that I don't **** where I eat, and I certainly won't tolerate other people ****ting where I eat.

By being a dick, your employees will lie to you. If you level with them, it is easy for them to understand that you're actually a human being, like them, but they will also understand that you don't want to risk drama in your workplace.

Theoretically what would you do in my position. He's my head trainer and been with me 4 years, she's with us 3 years and definitely a permanent client. They're same age, both single and they're dating, not just screwing. To me it seems as though this is just a harmless thing. Sure it can end badly but how do you go about taking care of it before that point. She's been training with him for that long so she's not going to take another trainer. It's not as clear cut as the others make it seem. This isn't just a trainer ****ing random clients ya know?

[SFT]

Theoretically what would you do in my position. He's my head trainer and been with me 4 years, she's with us 3 years and definitely a permanent client. They're same age, both single and they're dating, not just screwing. To me it seems as though this is just a harmless thing. Sure it can end badly but how do you go about taking care of it before that point. She's been training with him for that long so she's not going to take another trainer. It's not as clear cut as the others make it seem. This isn't just a trainer ****ing random clients ya know?

That's definitely a messy one. If they were just having sex, I would squash it really quickly. I certainly would never suggest that you fire your head trainer of 4 years, at least in this scenario. If you didn't have a policy in place, I would put one in place in the future. That makes things less personal. At my old gym, we had a policy of no relationships with clients, but the owner actually broke his own rule twice... Assuming he didn't, it is simple to enforce and leaves no questions. You bring him into your office, and say look, we have our policies that all trainers abide by. If you are dating [client's name], then she will not be able to continue on as a client here. This is nothing personal, but our policies need to followed by all staff, including myself.

In my mind, best case scenario is your trainer and one client stay happy. Worst case scenario (if she is crazy), is they break up and she uses her contacts within your facility to spread rumors, lies, and generally harmful statements about your head trainer.

I agree that this is not as black and white as Kyle makes it out to be. Kyle and I disagree about this scenario, as well as many others. In a perfect world, it would be nice if your trainer met his wife at your facility. That would be great. However, the general rule that most people put into place is to avoid having trainers preying on lonely house wives and other crazies at your gym. I would think that rules need to be consistent or they have no meaning.

I honestly am not 100% sure what I would do in your current situation, but moving forward I would consider the no client/trainer relationships rule. There are plenty of things to deal with as a business owner, if you can avoid this drama by simply having the person in question workout at another gym, then I think it would be best.

[After reading my response, I remembered a story of my friend who was going behind the owner's back anyways... To tell you the truth, I don't think there is any good way to handle this. If a trainer is a repeat offender - having sex with clients left and right, I would get rid of them. On the other hand, if they are truly dating, the situation is different. To me, there conflict of interest in a way. I would not be charging my girlfriend for personal training sessions. Perhaps this is another reason that it would not make sense as things move forward. Maybe you say, "Hey you can train together on your own time (in the facility), but not during your normal work hours". Again, there is no easy answer here...]

[WoofieNugget]

Sage, if I were you I'd just have the conversation with him. Likely he knows that you know what is going on, and others have probably figured it out too. Simply say "I know you and x are in a relationship outside of normal training. Do you think that you can/should continue with her as a client? If you want we can set her up with someone else of her choosing and you two can pursue whatever you are going to pursue. Unfortunately as the owner of the business I can't chance anything happening that might affect things around here." If he's a reasonable guy then it would probably be fine.

Nipping it in the bud is a good idea though, only because if others know it is going on then rumors start, and others may see it as implicit permission to do similar things.

[Footballa_19]

Don't **** where you eat.

Unless you're a really organic gardner. Srs though, words to live by. Just my opinion. I work my ass off too hard to let a girl ruin it for me. I accept that I work in a tempting industry full of good looking people, and I leave it at that. If you can't handle the heat, get outta the kitchen!