Misc bros, I need some opinions. GF says her boss tried to feel her up (2k reps)

[Jorge0886]

Bro there is only one thing you can do:

Sit her down, don't sugar coat anything, and ask her to give you the straight fuking truth. If you feel like she's telling the truth, then decide how you two are going to move forward. If you feel like she's lying, or she comes clean with something happening between them, then fuking ditch her. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, but if you KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) it's obvious what needs to be done.

[Bouncerz]

Bro srs, are you really asking us what to do?
have some dignity and dump her before she dumps your for being such a beta.

[Yuuzhanvong]

She continued to hang out with him after he felt her up?
She only told you almost 5 months after?

Come on OP.







She fukkked him brah. Sorry.

[thegenerel]

1st page and no one mentions going to HR. either you guys are too young to have jobs or you are lost

[NBisMe]

In for updates after visit with boss

[aFish95]

Did OP died?

[That70sShowDude]

in for more updates

OP making me late for class, lol

[cmcneilly]

Happened 4-5 months ago and just now saying something? Wut?? I'd have to assume that something more had to have happened

[RustlingJ]

Did she also pretend to sleep when he put his penor in her mouth?

[The_Assassin]

the way she said 'i need to tell you something. 4 to 5 months ago...'

equals she probably did something more than she's told you, sorry.

[midlandsbrah]

Not sure what you meant by this post, but read my bodyspace. You'll cringe lol

UPDATE:

Sorry brahs, was busy all day yesterday. We went to my parents and then hers. And I had some gay training course this morning.

Appreciate the opinions and the love guys.

Anyways, chat with my dad went alright. I pulled my dad aside after the fact and asked him his opinion. He said he made the conversation as blamelessly as possible because if accusations happened my gf would have just been defensive and potentially lying etc. She basically told him everything she told me. Same happened with her parents. My dad, her step dad, and I have asked if anything else happened. She answered no again. She has asked me to be there with her when she makes the phone call to quit so she doesn't break down and agree to stay or go for coffee? So she's agreed to quit work.

I told her parents and her, that my dad and I are going to have a little "chat" when my gfs out. Her boss and my dad are friends, business acquaintances. And I have worked for him quite a few times so we both think we need to go talk with him personally and tell him our relationships with him are over and he crossed a big fukking line and to never fuk with us again. My gf hasn't objected to that either? So either A, my gf is just retarded and is telling the truth. Or B, shes waiting for chit to hit the fan. Because obviously when my dad and I go we're going to get his side of the story.

So all in all not much to update on as of yet. My dad said just be calm and try to control my anger. Be patient and wait until the convo with her boss etc. So if my gf did do something I'll find out from the boss or because guilt will spew out of her eventually. I saw her this afternoon and she asked if I believed her and trusted her and got really emotional today, red flag?

And if it turns out my gf really is a doe head, she is important enough to me to sit her down and tell her it's not okay. She needs to smarten up, learn not to put herself in ridiculous situations. Even still I don't know how I'd get passed this with her. I got very stern with her last not and told her it is not okay to have a personal relationship with other guys and tell them about her personal life and seek affection from them. And if she doesn't learn how to stick up for herself and our relationship then it will be over.

So anyways she's getting her chit done today as in quitting, shes trying to get pogey because she was laid off with little hours so were waiting to see if she still get it. Once my dad and I pay our old friend a visit that will be a tell all. Should be an interesting visit if **** hits the fan, or if he acts like a cowardly *******.

Thanks again guys, sorry for not updating sooner. Proceed to support, or to mock me haha

EDIT: And boss is mid 30s, 4/10, pothead, oxy addict

Seems to me that quiting is a cop out seen as she wasnt getting many hours anyway if i understood it properly.

Still many questions unanswerd why wait 5 months? Why not report to HR? Why not quit earlier as she wasnt working much anyway?

Getting emotional to me is skechy as well if i was under suspition of cheating i would laugh it off and act like it was no big deal.

[theninthplanet]

bump

[AndreFoisy]

Ignore the ***gy responces. Truth is she probabl sucked him off or he ****ed her while she was a sleep theres a small possiblith he fingered her **** at the very least. A side from this she liked the attention and keeps going back for more especially if he's paying her. She doesn't respect you and why should she? your a little bitch **** one of her friends and get over it You got FOISED by her yeah..

[TheBurtStare]

I saw her this afternoon and she asked if I believed her and trusted her and got really emotional today

I don't understand why trust would be an issue unless she feels guilty?

Also why was she putting herself into a situation of being in a bed, drunk, with another man? That's just asking for trouble, especially as she knows her boss is a creep in the first place.

And waiting 5 months to tell you this? I think she's feeling guilty about what happened and using the logic if she tells you half the story it will get it off her mind. Imagine if on the way home from work one day a random person grabbed her ass, the first thing she would do is tell you because she felt scared.

I don't see any other reason for not telling you at the time, but telling you 5 months later, other than it's because something else happened.

That being said, just because there is so many red flags doesn't mean anything else did actually happen, the misc has a vendetta against woman and think they are all sloots and remember you don't know she's done anything wrong just yet.

Good luck brah, and remember to stay calm, no point doing something stupid as fukk that will get you into trouble over a girl.

[D3th 2 Aw3]

Don't have time to post anything right now but were going to see her boss right now. I'll update later on tonight. Thanks fellas.

[Krazshni]

did OP died?

[BrocepCurls]

confront him and do this

[_gnasher_]

inn

[herculez09]

bump op?

[Big22Bill]

I didn't read what everyone else wrote op BUT I women is always quick to cry rape or throw a man under the buss. Why would she act like she sleeping if she didnt like it ? What if she slide is dick in that im guessing she would have laid there an acted like she was sleep still ? Why would she had not said get the f off me. Black mail would have been her best option but wtf op there is more to the story end it now .

[D3th 2 Aw3]

I'd like to say thank you too all of you who have posted legit advice and opinions. It has helped me tremendously. I could have not have stayed this calm and intact without.

So my dad and I ended up meeting him at a restaurant for lunch. My dad set it up so he thought he would only be meeting with my dad. (My dad and he are good friends, my dad has counseled him in the past with regards to his divorce and drug problems). He was not expecting me to be there and was surprised. Obviously as soon as he seen me there he knew what was up. My dad and him made small chat at first. As soon as he sat down it was apparent he was on something. He wasn't slurring his speech but what he was saying was skewed.

The conversation was turned by my dad to the subject. I honestly was sitting there ready to tear out his throat so I couldn't even speak. Anyways boss turned to me and apologized profusely. He started making excuses like addicts do. He was referring to a night where he was snow plowing with my gf, gf shovels and he plows. Saying he was looped out on lorazepam. Gf told me he made her feel very uncomfortable that night, staring at chest etc. I kindly told him to go fuk himself and said he was a fuking retard for driving impaired with my gf in the truck. I then told him I'm not fukking around and referred back to the incident of what this is about. All he could do was apologize. I can't count the number of times he apologized.

My dad then told him hes been there for him in the past, but this time hes not. He said boss fukked around with our family and if he ever does it again... basically threatened him. I then told boss our relationship if over, he crossed a big fukking line and the best thing he could do now was to get help. I basically inferred that we ar eno longer friends and I could tear his fukking throat out for what he did. He didn't say much, apologized alot.

I eventually went out for a cigarette so my dad could ask him point blank if my gf enticed him or lead him on and he said no. They came out, he apologized again. I told him to get help and we left. Boss is leaving for rehab in 2 weeks.

[yondy12]

I'd like to say thank you too all of you who have posted legit advice and opinions. It has helped me tremendously. I could have not have stayed this calm and intact without.

So my dad and I ended up meeting him at a restaurant for lunch. My dad set it up so he thought he would only be meeting with my dad. (My dad and he are good friends, my dad has counseled him in the past with regards to his divorce and drug problems). He was not expecting me to be there and was surprised. Obviously as soon as he seen me there he knew what was up. My dad and him made small chat at first. As soon as he sat down it was apparent he was on something. He wasn't slurring his speech but what he was saying was skewed.

The conversation was turned by my dad to the subject. I honestly was sitting there ready to tear out his throat so I couldn't even speak. Anyways boss turned to me and apologized profusely. He started making excuses like addicts do. He was referring to a night where he was snow plowing with my gf, gf shovels and he plows. Saying he was looped out on lorazepam. Gf told me he made her feel very uncomfortable that night, staring at chest etc. I kindly told him to go fuk himself and said he was a fuking retard for driving impaired with my gf in the truck. I then told him I'm not fukking around and referred back to the incident of what this is about. All he could do was apologize. I can't count the number of times he apologized.

My dad then told him hes been there for him in the past, but this time hes not. He said boss fukked around with our family and if he ever does it again... basically threatened him. I then told boss our relationship if over, he crossed a big fukking line and the best thing he could do now was to get help. I basically inferred that we ar eno longer friends and I could tear his fukking throat out for what he did. He didn't say much, apologized alot.

I eventually went out for a cigarette so my dad could ask him point blank if my gf enticed him or lead him on and he said no. They came out, he apologized again. I told him to get help and we left. Boss is leaving for rehab in 2 weeks.

Sorry bro, 6 pages, just saw your thread, didn't read the responses but from your original post and what you just wrote this is my 2cents:

#1: Her boss is a lying ******* and he definitely DID have sex with her, from the way you described him sounds like he's very used to lieing and saying "sorry" just got him off your back. He probably does not treasure the friendship you had with him in the first place

#2: Your girlfriend is also absolutely lieing (dead srs), couple reasons for this: he felt her up while she was awake and she pretended to be sleeping, she told you 4 or 5 months later & she still works with him

[HYMENATOR]

Sorry bro, 6 pages, just saw your thread, didn't read the responses but from your original post and what you just wrote this is my 2cents:

#1: Her boss is a lying ******* and he definitely DID have sex with her, from the way you described him sounds like he's very used to lieing and saying "sorry" just got him off your back. He probably does not treasure the friendship you had with him in the first place

#2: Your girlfriend is also absolutely lieing (dead srs), couple reasons for this: he felt her up while she was awake and she pretended to be sleeping, she told you 4 or 5 months later & she still works with him

Yeah this doesn't really resolve anything. Is he saying sorry for feeling up her leg or sorry for fingerbanging her and then fuking her?

[D3th 2 Aw3]

Sorry bro, 6 pages, just saw your thread, didn't read the responses but from your original post and what you just wrote this is my 2cents:

#1: Her boss is a lying ******* and he definitely DID have sex with her, from the way you described him sounds like he's very used to lieing and saying "sorry" just got him off your back. He probably does not treasure the friendship you had with him in the first place

#2: Your girlfriend is also absolutely lieing (dead srs), couple reasons for this: he felt her up while she was awake and she pretended to be sleeping, she told you 4 or 5 months later & she still works with him

Yeah this doesn't really resolve anything. Is he saying sorry for feeling up her leg or sorry for fingerbanging her and then fuking her?

I think she is telling the truth. I was there during all phone calls where things could have been discussed. I read all recent texts and older texts. If anything happened she wouldn't have been so open to telling my parents, her parents or my dad and I meeting up with him. Maybe I'm out to lunch... I personally think my gf is just a naive immature 21 year old who was scared of the repercussions or her speaking out. If you can justify all that and still believe she did anything enlighten me (srs), no guy wants to be toyed with

[MooseLaddin]

Lmfao pay her 20 dollars an hour to hang out lmfaoooooooooooooo

[HYMENATOR]

I think she is telling the truth. I was there during all phone calls where things could have been discussed. I read all recent texts and older texts. If anything happened she wouldn't have been so open to telling my parents, her parents or my dad and I meeting up with him. Maybe I'm out to lunch... I personally think my gf is just a naive immature 21 year old who was scared of the repercussions or her speaking out. If you can justify all that and still believe she did anything enlighten me (srs), no guy wants to be toyed with

If you believe her than I believe it. Best thing to do is put it all behind you and never mention it again I would say. It will poison your relationship if you keep referring back to it.

[D3th 2 Aw3]

If you believe her than I believe it. Best thing to do is put it all behind you and never mention it again I would say. It will poison your relationship if you keep referring back to it.

Appreciate it man. It's hard to because I'm leaving out details but witnessing it in person is different. I don't know if it will poison our relationship, it has potential to because she never told me when it first started happening.

[kamboo]

Burn it.....burn it all

[SpiderSense]

If something happens in a relationship that was not initiated by you and you stopped it when it happened then there is no reason to tell in my opinion. it creates unnecessary worry for your SO. i had a chick who was drunk come up to me and kiss me, i pushed her off of me and said woah what are you doing, dont do that. girl said sorry and went on with her night. she apparently had liked me for a while... i didnt say anything because it was bogus and it would make my gf worry. i stopped it and i didnt initiate it.

GF obviously feels she has wronged you in one way or another. maybe they were rubbing eachother and she felt bad and stopped it. and now the guilt is eating her up. people will always soften the blow when telling people things they dont want to hear.

One of few voices of reason ITT, vs. woman haters on a witch hunt.

OP you definitely need more info.

Is boss Handsome B. Nice, or some old creeper?

You can always talk to her coworkers before confronting her boss.

For me, I'd probably just take it at face value for now.

A forum full of FA's and virgins can't seem to understand everybody doesn't make all the right moves under pressure, every single time.

Or maybe GF did nothing at the moment cause she feared losing her job, not like jobs are exactly easy to find right not.

Plenty of reasons aside from her cheating to explain her behaviors.

Not saying she's innocent or guilty, but leave it up to all these bitter ass losers around her to call for her head.

[SpiderSense]

But regardless I'd say GF should probably start looking for a new job IMO.