I Think I Done Messed Up

[so-tex]

We had friends and family at my house for the superbowl. Other than the rest of my family and friends, I have a bil that I have never been particular fond of. Every time he comes over to my house, he tries to take over everything and acts like it is his house. Now back to the superbowl, he has no interest in football, but acts like he his an authority of the game. I have no problem with that, but here is the kicker. The game starts, and he immediatly grabs the remote. O.K., I am a little pissed, but no big deal. Then he proceeds to push the mute button after the commercials to talk about them when the game is going on. After the 2nd time this happened, I politely told him to unmute, because we wanted to listen to the game. He made some smart assed remark about you could still watch the game. I told him this was my gawddamned house and we want to listen to the game. He then threw the remote to me, and boy was I pissed. I didn't want to make a scene in front of 30+ people, so I waited until he went outside to take a wizz, and then I decked him. I didn't hurt him that bad, but just enough to bloody him up pretty good. He came back in the house, grabbed his family and left. I feel bad because we had so many people over, and it was an embarrasing scene. Now I don't know if I regret what I did, but it is keeping me awake.

[V-240]

Wellll... he DID disrespect you in your own house.

[paolo59]

Yea, that scenario could keep you up thinking a little bit. Sorry for the whole situation. Is your wife really pissed at you?

[so-tex]

Wellll... he DID disrespect you in your own house.

Yes he did, but looking back, I wish I would have let it slide. Sometimes, my temper gets the best of me.

Yea, that scenario could keep you up thinking a little bit. Sorry for the whole situation. Is your wife really pissed at you?

You know, I have the best wife in the world. Sure she was a little upset, but she knows how I am.

[cowboybiker]

In before Bodyhard

[so-tex]

In before Bodyhard

Lulz, Bodyhard would have beat him to a pulp.

[cowboybiker]

Lulz, Bodyhard would have beat him to a pulp.

Meh, you gave him a chin check and you took it outside. I'm sure he'll live
Your relationship with him will never be the same. But you got your point across

I'm sure you could have handled it differently, but you didnt.
So its no longer whether you fuked up or not.
Its where do you go from here

[superman713]

It is what it is Brother.... Give an inch and he will take a foot. Sometimes you gotta put foot to ass to get your point across if verbal doesn't work. Call him tomorrow and talk it out... If he doesn't want to hear it... Fuk em. Im sure you didn't beg him to come by the house anyway.

[so-tex]

In before Bodyhard

I would rep you bitch, but I am on spread.

[so-tex]

It is what it is Brother.... Give an inch and he will take a foot. Sometimes you gotta put foot to ass to get your point across if verbal doesn't work. Call him tomorrow and talk it out... If he doesn't want to hear it... Fuk em. Im sure you didn't beg him to come by the house anyway.

So true, but as a gentleman, I invited him. After all, he is my wifes brother. As for calling him, I doubt thats gonna happen.

[Sen8or]

Hang on, a visitor/guest took charge of the remote control?

Fkn srsly?

Grounds for justifiable homicide in some states.

[cowboybiker]

So let me get this straight.

You decked him while he was peeing? Like in mid stream?

[so-tex]

Meh, you gave him a chin check and you took it outside. I'm sure he'll live
Your relationship with him will never be the same. But you got your point across

I'm sure you could have handled it differently, but you didnt.
So its no longer whether you fuked up or not.
Its where do you go from here

Our relationship was never that good. The guy is very intelligent, but he his a bum. He had to live with us for several weeks a few years ago, because his wife kicked him out of the house, because he was a lazy bastard.

[so-tex]

So let me get this straight.

You decked him while he was peeing? Like in mid stream?

No, I let him finish. . I even let him put his dick in his pants.

[Frnkd]

Our relationship was never that good. The guy is very intelligent, but he his a bum. He had to live with us for several weeks a few years ago, because his wife kicked him out of the house, because he was a lazy bastard.

Arrogant sounds like another adjective you could use....now if he realizes his ways and comes back and takes responsibility for his behavior, you got nothing to feel bad about. Of course you didn't say if you explained what he did to him and he came back with an ass remark.

[eomrat]

Bottom line.... He disrespected you in your house. Sucks that it happened but it did.

If I came to your house and disrespected you, I hope you would knock me out too.

Its awkward and creates some weird vibes and is keeping you up. You could be up anyway feeling bad because you let someone disrespect you in your house in front of 30 or more family and friends.

[so-tex]

Arrogant sounds like another adjective you could use....now if he realizes his ways and comes back and takes responsibility for his behavior, you got nothing to feel bad about. Of course you didn't say if you explained what he did to him and he came back with an ass remark.

What fukcing difference does it make. Maybe you need to edit your post, so I can understand your point.

[so-tex]

Bottom line.... He disrespected you in your house. Sucks that it happened but it did.

If I came to your house and disrespected you, I hope you would knock me out too.

Its awkward and creates some weird vibes and is keeping you up. You could be up anyway feeling bad because you let someone disrespect you in your house in front of 30 or more family and friends.

Yeah Doug, it seems like you understand the situation. Problem is, I have been under a lot of stress lately, and was barbequing since 5:00 a.m. I am usually a very disciplined person, but I just lost it today.

[eomrat]

Yeah Doug, it seems like you understand the situation. Problem is, I have been under a lot of stress lately, and was barbequing since 5:00 a.m. I am usually a very disciplined person, but I just lost it today.

I know what you are saying and I know about how stress can creep up on you.


I also know that if I don't want to get knocked on my ass, that I don't disrespect people in their own damned homes in front of their loved ones.

You feel bad. I understand. But if the wife is OK with what happened then that is a good sign and I think you are OK.

And no, the problem isn't that you have been under stress or that you have been BBQ'ing since 5am. The problem was that someone thought they could come into your home and disrespect you.





Problem solved.

[GuyJin]

I have only two rules when I visit someone's house.

1. I don't take over the television set for any reason, even if that person is watching a dumb show (IMO) or plays with the remote. It's their house and they can do what they like. Same deal with playing music I may not care for.

2. I never disrespect his wife's cooking. Even if it tastes like sawdust I'll just smile, choke it down, and have done with it.

I expect no less from my house guests.

FWIW, So-Tex, while it may be an overreaction on your part, Cowboy-bitch() gave the best advice. From now on, see what happens and handle it accordingly.

[so-tex]

I know what you are saying and I know about how stress can creep up on you.


I also know that if I don't want to get knocked on my ass, that I don't disrespect people in their own damned homes in front of their loved ones.

You feel bad. I understand. But if the wife is OK with what happened then that is a good sign and I think you are OK.

The wife is O.K. now. It is me and my adrenaline factor right now, and right/wrong factor. I could have had an intelligent conversation with him about what I expect when you come to my house, but I truly believe that it would have made no difference. Now I will never know.

[so-tex]

I have only two rules when I visit someone's house.

1. I don't take over the television set for any reason, even if that person is watching a dumb show (IMO) or plays with the remote. It's their house and they can do what they like. Same deal with playing music I may not care for.

2. I never disrespect his wife's cooking. Even if it tastes like sawdust I'll just smile, choke it down, and have done with it.

I expect no less from my house guests.

FWIW, So-Tex, while it may be an overreaction on your part, Cowboy-bitch() gave the best advice. From now on, see what happens and handle it accordingly.

Thanks, Guy Jin. And thanks to CB and eom. I am feeling better now.

[eomrat]

Now I will never know.

No, you will not. And it does not matter. There was more going on there than I think you realize.


Think about this. Your BIL is a grown man. At what age did you know that it wasn't OK to do the crap he did? 8? 9?

[so-tex]

No, you will not. And it does not matter. There was more going on there than I think you realize.


Think about this. Your BIL is a grown man. At what age did you know that it wasn't OK to do the crap he did? 8? 9?

Great wisdom you have Doug. He has always been a selfish person since I have known him. I just hate the fact that it came down to this.

[-=FLEX=-]

I decked him.

Was soooooo NOT expecting this.

LMAO

[62Wolf]

We have just the opposite problem in our family. The wife and I rarely watch TV, and we've always had a rule that when it's time to eat, no tv, radio, no answering the phone, etc. It's our family time to have uniterrupted conversations. Her side of the family are TV addicts. They have multiple TVs and they are on 24/7. However, as much as those rattle boxes bother me at thier house as multiple sets are blaring at once, I respect thier place and don't touch the remotes nor pitch a fit. They know the rule at our house and have to go "Cold Turkey" for an hour to an hour and a half, but same thing: they know our rules and respect them also. As for family issues, I've learned a long time ago that there are "relatives" and there is "Family".

[Cakes89]

Crazy as$ texan... u don't say..


U didn't goof opie u did the right thing

[Jrob69]

The less time you spend worrying about it now the more time you can spend not dealing with him, cept for funerals and weddings. Just make sure you give him a good glare when you see him, or he will be back at your house.

[sqt]

When in another's lair, show him respect or else do not go there.
If a guest in your lair annoys you, treat him cruelly and without mercy.

[DubfromGA]

Highly understandable.


The guy sounds like a real ass. Your sister, his wife, knows that better than anyone. She'll forgive you....probably already has.

No, I let him finish. . I even let him put his dick in his pants.

LMMFAO at this .


Dude feeling the relief......and then....POW.