Hello misc, I'm really struggling here to make a decision. I'm someone extremely easy going with everyone. I get along with almost any personality and I'm usually the guy people like to hang out with. However, I've gotten friendzoned a few times by some of my oneitis, because I was playing it too nice and I was almost striving for the 10/10. Could have taking it with a 6-7/10, but I dunno why I was never satisfied, always stopped after I had won the chase.
Almost a year ago, I started reading up on this issue, became aware of a lot of things about myself, mostly that I did not know how to escalate and not give a **** with the 10/10. Started lifting a few months after, and with my confidence through the roof I started to approach a lot of women. Got into law, I was receiving a lot of attention now. I was always a don juan kind of guy. I never wanted to put everything in a single basket.
But here's the issue, I've started to deal with multiple girls at the same time and now I have two girls that I like very much, but can't decide on which one to choose.
One, which I thought had boyfriend, that I playfully teased and now that is now into me (she's now single). I never thought anything would happen between us, but I had a crush on her. She's a solid 9/10, doesn't hang out with a lot of boys, is smart and just moved closer to my house. She's not an attention whore and really keeps to herself. I was first going for her. I've known her for quite a while, a few months. But as I said, she had a boyfriend at that time.
And a second girl, which I always wanted to talk to, but never had the opportunity to. Shes the girl you've looked at and just smile thinking you would never go out with because she was out of reach. She had given a few signs of interest before, but we never got to hang out together. She's another 9/10. Does have a little more guy friends, but isn't too keen on getting talked to by strangers, so she also keeps to herself. Thing is, she's closer to my values. I don't drink, she doesn't, she closer in term of culture to me than first girl, but I don't know her as long as the first girl. It's only been a couple weeks.
Recently, I went to a party and both girls were there. They were both looking forward to it because I was coming.
I received massive interest from both girls, but again more from first girl. I had started to escalate with her before and she was very receptive.
I had a lot of physical contact that night, the first time for both girls. The message was very clear to both of them that I was really interested.
I spent more time with the second girl during the night because I don't know something keeps on attracting me to her. But yet, first girl always pops back up in my mind.
Did not make a move on both of them, because obviously I did not know which one I wanted a relationship with.
Now I'm feeling terrible for playing around with their minds. I would hate if someone would do this to me. I know it's the game, I've been playing it. But I really think I should make a decision. I really don't know why previous to the party I was looking for hook up with the second girl. But now that the party is over, first girl has come back to my mind more than ever.
I know I have more chance with the first girl. I'm probably only a date away from making something serious with her.
As for second girl, I just need more time and it's just more risky.
I'm supposed to have dinner with both girls this week... I think I just decide.
Any advice on how to take the best decision? Because if I choose one, I want to respectfully end it with the other one.
-What is the mindset to have when deciding between two girls?
Thread: How to choose between two girls
02-02-2013, 07:04 PM #1
How to choose between two girls
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IMO, keep hanging out with both, but keep it PG or 14A. If they ask about the other, then just tell the truth; that you are hanging out with other girls, but not serious. Don't worry so much about who to choose, because it's not going to be all your choice. Girl A or B could decide one day that they've found someone they are more attracted to. Why settle at such an early stage of the dating game? Keep hanging out and having fun. You'll gravitate to one of them sooner than later.
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Keep both until one of them leaves or you lose interest towards her."In the reflection of the water's stream, I watch the current carry me, Irresolute and indiscriminate, this liquid flux is transcendent.
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