Emotional roller coasters How do you deal with them?
Yesterday I was so screwed up. One point I was on this high, then later the dam low came in. I had the "****its" and felt like why bother do anything, then later I was focused, then back to a low again.
Hope this isn't just me. Wondering if I'm getting scared of failing or just scared all together? Not sure. I maintained my weight over the past week mayeb that's it. i didn't have a loss so maybe I am dwelling on that i have no F...'n clue.
So who else deals with this and what do you do to push through it? Just curious what you all do to help yourself.
Much as I'm loath to agree with Geer_Matt on anything, this time he got it right.
(See, Matt, I can give a compliment where it's due).
Assuming you aren't suffering from legitimate depression, you have to work through it. Focus on the positive. You've maintained your weight, and at the very least, you haven't gained any. That's a plus.
Failure is a part of life. At one point, we all do, in any endeavor. I've failed more times than I can count, but I never, ever gave up on myself no matter how low I felt. Michael Jordan once said he missed more than twenty thousand shots in his life. But he kept on going and ended up as perhaps the greatest basketball player of all time, and people remembered him for the shots he made, not the ones he missed. Failure is only a temporary bump in the road. Giving up makes failure final.
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Yesterday I was so screwed up. One point I was on this high, then later the dam low came in. I had the "****its" and felt like why bother do anything, then later I was focused, then back to a low again.
Hope this isn't just me. Wondering if I'm getting scared of failing or just scared all together? Not sure. I maintained my weight over the past week mayeb that's it. i didn't have a loss so maybe I am dwelling on that i have no F...'n clue.
So who else deals with this and what do you do to push through it? Just curious what you all do to help yourself.
Also wondering if it's from lack of carbs?
I still question why i work so hard with minimal gains each year. Get used to these feelings man it's only gonna get worse for you. You can either push through these feelings or give up.
Glad to see you're still at it but this is why so many people never make it in bodybuilding. It's a lifestyle that takes forever.
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It depends, are you down because you did not make progress with your weight loss or just down in general? If it's just in general I suggest you go see a doctor. Depression can be brutal. If it's due to your progress with the weight loss, then you just cannot let that get to you, no matter how much you feel like you are not making progress and don't want to go back in the gym you need to force yourself.
There were days when I was really heavy that I felt the weight loss was not happening quickly enough and I wanted to give up. I would just talk myself into driving to the gym, then I would say ok I am going in and just doing 15 min of cardio. Then once I was on the treadmill I would see the weight room and I would say ok I will go in there and just do a few sets. By the end of my time I had completed my entire workout for the day and I felt 100% better for it.
One step at a time helped me trick my mind to get it done.
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Plateaus are part if the process. Just like the boring middle part is a part of the race.
Look at baseball. Do you really remember much about the 4th inning where nothing happened or the bottom of the 9th?
Dwelling on things like this is not productive and wont help your cause.
You have come a long way and you should focus on the strong achievements you have made instead of the little things along the way that will come up.
Take a step back and look at last weeks routine. was there anything different about it? did you eat out and not write it down? did you skip some workouts? all these little things will add up and once they happen they happen. put it behind you and get back in there.
You might have been 100% spot on with everything as well and still made no progress but thats just the way things go. It might be that way for a couple weeks and then the scale will start moving in the right direction.
I've been there too. My last chest day sucked, and I was feeling really good about it going in. Couple that with the fact that I my weight went in the wrong direction (currently bulking) & I had the F-it feeling for a minute.
Then I thought to myself "Self, you can have one bad week, or a bunch of bad years." And I'll be if I didn't have the best arm workout I've ever had yesterday.
This is not a completly linear thing. There will be dips and rises. Stay focused on the trend.
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How do I deal with it? I go to the gym no matter what.
This. If its an injury I work around it. If its life I find a way. I just relocated my family from Florida to NY and get here and get a call my father died in an accident. I head back to Fla for the last 3 weeks to get his stuff in order and be with my family. I didn't miss many days in the gym. I went to my cousins gym winher as a guest the entire 3 weeks. Why? Because that's one place where I dont have to focus on things that aren't perfect. When I walk through the doors I check out emotionally and it's a nice break.
You're focussing on the progress and results, probably because you are impatient, as most are.
Take it from a former fat man, this takes time, and lots of it.
Not to mention work.
How long did it take to for you to become overweight? How long have you been living overweight?
You also need to alot for the time and consistancy required to get to your goals.
This is a new lifestyle for you.
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Thanks for all the reply's, much appreciated. I can honestly say it is more of a in general feeling not just related to my weight. Happy to say as of right now I feel great yet again.
Seriously when I have those feeling, a weight in my hands now give me a weapon. I feel like breaking something. I know what is right and wrong so I hold back from following through.
Oh yeah and geer_matt I think i might put you on speed dial. LMFAO!
Thanks to you all. I just needed to hear everything you guy's posted I just helps knowing I can come here to get some great advice.
How long did it take to for you to become overweight? How long have you been living overweight?
You also need to a lot for the time and consistency required to get to your goals. This is a new lifestyle for you.
Those are good questions for you to think about. You will get lots of the tough love here, and that might be helpful. If the fatman lifestyle has been a lifelong thing you might have some hangups in your mind you need to get out. Changing your mindset is an important part of the process. Failures are bound to happen along the way. Learn to take them in stride and don't let them consume you. If you are tracking your progress and are generally moving forward towards whatever goal you have in mind, accept it and move on. Keep striving for improvement and it will all get better.
By the way, you should experiment with different food options to see what works best for your lifestyle and tastes. There are many ways to achieve your fat loss goals, so find a nutrition plan that fits you best. A few weeks experimenting with a different plan is nothing in the grand scheme of things. It took decades to amass the fat, it will take many months to remove it too. The sooner you can get used to that idea, the better.
Thanks for all the reply's, much appreciated. I can honestly say it is more of a in general feeling not just related to my weight. Happy to say as of right now I feel great yet again.
Seriously when I have those feeling, a weight in my hands now give me a weapon. I feel like breaking something. I know what is right and wrong so I hold back from following through.
Oh yeah and geer_matt I think i might put you on speed dial. LMFAO!
Thanks to you all. I just needed to hear everything you guy's posted I just helps knowing I can come here to get some great advice.
Jtbny: Sorry to hear of your dad.
sometimes, you just have down days. can't be up up up every minute, every day. you say this is a feeling in general, you have, and to that i say, that life really is about choices and attitude. ever see someone who has a lot stacked in their favor, but they don't succeed? but then, those who have far less 'stacked' in their favor, soar to success? what's the differentiating factor, would we say? attitude.
attitude about life. about one's job. about fitness. whatever it is, can affect the outcome considerably. so, even on some tough days you're having, try to see the positive in the overall day. look for the positive, and your overall demeanor will change.
hope this helps a bit. it can be easier said than done, though....i know.
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it takes time to take the weight off and the more ya got? the longer it takes and that is just how it is..
some days ya feel strong and some days ya wanna say f*ck it and walk away but...ya do it anyways
keep trying
you aint dead yet!
not where I wanna be but..damn sure not where I used to be
develop the ability to laugh at yourself would ya? everybody else is already doing it.
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Yup, as a former fatty, I still go on the coaster rides. For me, I had to look at any trends that takes me to the lows. It seemed that "socializing' was my down fall, I'd have a great workouts all week. Then Friday comes and I'm down at the pub...one drink with the mates leads to 3 or 4, then the munchies..then waking up the next morning with a hangover or just the blahs and not wanting to go to the gym. Or Saturday afternoon Bar Bs, again have a few drinks, snack heavy carbs, then load up on the pot luck table. And the next morning get on the scale and get depressed...a whole weeks worth of working out down the drain for what?
Now I switched to drinking soda water and lemons...my mates think it is G&Ts, pass on the unhealthy snacking and call it a night early. Its a battle...but being smart about it, knowing where the land mines are steering away from thems has been my best bet. BB is REALLY a lifestyle. For me the "easy part" is my hr in the gym each day, its' the other time when I'm not sleeping that puts me through the roller coaster ride.
Keep it up Mate, you'll get through this as a strong man.
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we all have those days. Just deal with it the best you can. Work through it. I had mine today. My hypoglycemia was acting up even tho I ate a boat load of food. Made weight lifting a challenge. Hard to lift but got it done.
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