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01-27-2013, 10:40 PM #61
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01-27-2013, 10:41 PM #62
- Join Date: Dec 2003
- Location: Sydney.... CITAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!
- Age: 41
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First step: Be prepared to fail, FAs are scared to death of failure, if you aren't prepared to fail then you aren't prepared to succeed.
"Alcohol and night swimming... it's a winning combination!".
And the people bowed and prayed to the neon god they made.
I steal my **** from MacGyver...
If women ran the world, we'd still be searching for the wheel.
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01-27-2013, 10:46 PM #63
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01-27-2013, 10:47 PM #64
Anyone who has no social status and has had constant failure is scared to death of failure, this is no mystery. I don't get it i've failed so many ****ing times with girls i've had my feelings hurt so many times from girls because i simply wasn't good enough how in the **** do you think i'm just going to have any confidence at all when it comes to girls. Eventually it comes to the point there is no point in trying because you have no ****ing confidence.
Failure is crucial to fa's
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01-27-2013, 10:52 PM #65
I dont get how you are supposed to advance with females when you are like me and have hardly any experience at 24 i talk to girls i try to go out with them but nothing ever changes. I just don't ****ing understand them. I'm so behind everyone else i feel like my only chance is to find that perfect match who understands me but i doubt that will ever happen no good looking girls will give a **** about me they have a million other options
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01-27-2013, 10:58 PM #66
- Join Date: Dec 2003
- Location: Sydney.... CITAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!
- Age: 41
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I'm unsure as to why you keep failing, perhaps, you need to make adjustments to power through to success if you keep doing the same thing I guess. I've seen some pathetic fuglies lay top shelf women and this keeps me in the game. I've failed **** tonne too man, I've had a lot of success too.
"Alcohol and night swimming... it's a winning combination!".
And the people bowed and prayed to the neon god they made.
I steal my **** from MacGyver...
If women ran the world, we'd still be searching for the wheel.
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01-27-2013, 11:05 PM #67
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01-27-2013, 11:20 PM #68
- Join Date: Dec 2003
- Location: Sydney.... CITAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!
- Age: 41
- Posts: 4,175
- Rep Power: 745
Where do you live? Find a PUA forum for your local area and see if you can find a wingman to hit the night spots with. Read some PUA material too, most of it is garbage and they are essentially trying to sell a product so just be careful not to fall for the "This one line will make her panties melt" bull**** and pay out the $$ everything you need is online and free. I've learnt more applicable information just approaching 10 girls then I did reading ten books.
"Alcohol and night swimming... it's a winning combination!".
And the people bowed and prayed to the neon god they made.
I steal my **** from MacGyver...
If women ran the world, we'd still be searching for the wheel.
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01-27-2013, 11:38 PM #69
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01-27-2013, 11:46 PM #70
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01-27-2013, 11:59 PM #71
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01-28-2013, 12:08 AM #72
Fock brahs seriously just shed a tear watching the perks of being a wallflower... Fuark I highly recommend all FA's to stay away from that movie... Will seriously make you depressed at the life you never had...
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You know the saying, once you go indian, you never go back Crew
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01-28-2013, 12:29 AM #73
- Join Date: Dec 2003
- Location: Sydney.... CITAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!
- Age: 41
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Huh? You can expand your social circle this way, by meeting new friends with a common goal to meet women. Expand it else where as well, join a team sport, I met heaps of guys through joining a local NRL team that I now call friends and hang with regularly. I have NEVER had a ONS ask me "ohh geez how many friends do you have?" If < 20 I will not root you. I approach in a club, my game is on point, then we generally make plans to kick on back at her place. My last girlfriend I met asking her out at a shop she was working in, she didn't even meet a single friend of mine until the 4th date.
"Alcohol and night swimming... it's a winning combination!".
And the people bowed and prayed to the neon god they made.
I steal my **** from MacGyver...
If women ran the world, we'd still be searching for the wheel.
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01-28-2013, 12:35 AM #74
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01-28-2013, 01:38 AM #75
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01-28-2013, 01:42 AM #76
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01-28-2013, 02:36 AM #77
- Join Date: Jan 2013
- Location: Louisville, Kentucky, United States
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I don't know why you a$$h0les keep using the word ******* to describe us FA's. That'd imply we were gay, and having sex with men, which is clearly not the case since (obviously) none of us can get laid.
Do you think that calling us names will somehow get us to "man up" as you call it? I'm every bit as much of a man as you jock douchebags are that come on here with your pseudo-advice. How many of you are veterans? I've had plenty of time "away from the keyboard". Even in the best shape of my life, with plenty of Army buddies, and going out with those guys to Seattle and Tacoma.. going to concerts, clubs, bars, etc. I never felt like I belonged in those places, and I never made any female friends, let alone dated anyone. I had plenty of confidence back then. Maybe not social confidence, but I liked myself a lot better. The way you people make it sound, I should have had no problems getting laid, but it never happened, because getting laid is fukking impossible, and it always will be.
I'm so sick of people with no clue what they're talking about trying to act like subject matter experts. It is possible for us to be doing everything right and still fail. You guys say we're afraid of rejection. I disagree. It's not fear of rejection that keeps me FA.. it's certainty of it. How many times do I need to be rejected before I accept reality? I am incapable of attracting a mate. It's ok too. I really don't want kids anyway. This is a fukked up world, and I don't want to try raising children, knowing they'd inherit my crappy genetics, and knowing that if I had a son, he'd probably end up like me. I would prefer to spare any possible offspring the youth I spent in social isolation, constantly teased and treated like **** by everyone, even teachers. Mostly I know I wouldn't be a good father figure. What possible lessons could I impart? How to suck at everything, and go through life alone? That's one lesson nobody should have to learn.
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01-28-2013, 02:38 AM #78
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01-28-2013, 02:54 AM #79
You don't suck at everything bro.
Everyone is good at something.
I see that you weren't feeling it in bars clubs and concerts...
An earlier post had it right I think. Join a club for a hobby. Start gaining social experience little by little, even if it only means helping some.
You said you were treated li
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01-28-2013, 03:25 AM #80
You don't suck at everything bro.
Everyone is good at something.
I see that you weren't feeling it in bars clubs and concerts...
An earlier post had it right I think. Join a club for a hobby. Start gaining social experience little by little, even if it only means helping someone get better at something.
You said you were treated like ****. Try surrounding yourself by people that don't.
Start with the baby steps.
You said you have no way to attract a mate right? What I suggest is observing people socializing in public. Listen to the conversations and take note at what the people are doing in each part of the interaction. Think about why those interactions make the other person want to be around the other.
People want to be around people who can make them feel good, tell jokes, stories, be able to listen, be able to challenge them, be able to show genuine interest in the person, and be able to have fun. You want to present those qualities first before asking a woman out.
Master the basics before anything else.
So go out there and join that little organization of yours, and talk to people with the intention to make your presence enjoyable. Take those baby steps and take notice of how people like being around you when you do something right, that's how you get social confidence (which you never had). And yes this does mean telling an interesting story or having an interesting debate.
More importantly, do things that you enjoy, to put your self in a better mood. Get in better shape, become good at doing certain things. It's easier to be social when you are not angry.
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01-28-2013, 03:39 AM #81
Didn't want to enter this thread as i thought that it would just be another FA circle jerk and im trying hard not to stop coming here and just wallowing in my self pity but this was actually a good post except one part which i just learned. Where you said we can be doing everything right and still fail that is not true at all....i always thought i knew everything but just realized how bad my "game" is. Chances are you are not doing something right, if you were then youd be getting laid. Though i agree a lot with the part about rejection its usually because you are not changing your ways...just stop coming on here and typing stuff like this after a whille it will just make you worse than you already were
Do not think that what is hard for you to master is humanly impossible; and if it is humanly possible, consider it to be within your reach.
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01-28-2013, 03:41 AM #82
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01-28-2013, 06:13 AM #83
OP, your speaking too generic to get real help. "I fail with women..." How exactly do you fail? Do you fail at initiating conversation with them? Do you fail at getting numbers?
"You are so far behind..." Exactly what do you mean and what efforts are you making to get up to speed. People have suggested meetup.com, I'm suggesting church or charity work. You have to put some effort, other than Mormons no one is going to come to your door and ask you to join up with them.
Honestly, I am probably worse of than you socially when it comes to females, but I am working on it and my mentality is nowhere defeated as yours. Some lady even called me scared at a party this weekend because I would not approach some old lady. Wasn't attracted to her so why bother. Lady is crazy anyways... let stuff roll off your back and don't take it too personal. People say/do mean things and yeah sometimes they are right, but a lot of time they are just insecure individuals themselves.
Anyways, I'm making some effort to get out more and put myself in better situations... why not give it a try yourself? And, if you give more specific examples I think you might get more help on here.
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01-28-2013, 06:30 AM #84
I think the guys talking about confidence are spot on. It's more important than game, money, looks, whatever... confidence in yourself. You can't control external factors, but you can control yourself. Just because things in life don't go exactly as you wanted doesn't make you any less of a person or take away from who you are.
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01-28-2013, 06:39 AM #85
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01-28-2013, 06:40 AM #86
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01-28-2013, 06:42 AM #87
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01-28-2013, 06:43 AM #88
That's not your fault, that's the girls fault for being straight up rude. Find better quality girls.
BTW... I have not been on a formal date in 2-3 years. She never called/text'd me back after I text'd her 1x and called her 1x for date 2. Been on friendly dates though, which I guess if you look at it can be good practice interacting other than not being romantically interested.
Your outlook is too negative and nothing good will come from it. Start being more friendly and smiling more. I'm trying man... rome wasn't built in a day.
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01-28-2013, 06:49 AM #89
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01-28-2013, 07:31 AM #90
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