gimme your recipe for da perfect man....

[BrotherWolf]

Why?



Hey nerds are in apparently. Beauty and the Geek is thriving on tv lol

tv nerds dont count

[acrawlingchaos]

these list always make me rage, like a Russian without vodka...or with vodka Russians sound angry all the time

Why?

Because these lists are usually difficult standards to hold up to, those that speak specifically about their lover do so through rose colored glasses. Personally, I am more interested in what people think they have to offer. It would be interesting to see how it compares to your own laundry list of expectations.

[Lunu]

Because these lists are usually difficult standards to hold up to, those that speak specifically about their lover do so through rose colored glasses. Personally, I am more interested in what people think they have to offer. It would be interesting to see how it compares to your own laundry list of expectations.

Through rose coloured glasses? Sure, a lot of these qualities are hard to find in a man but I think that's why you'll find most of the women are with them. No doubt they have certain qualities that are less appealing as well but that's not what this thread is about. Every single thing I mentioned is totally and 100% the truth and I imagine what everyone else has said is as well. With that said, I would never create a list like that if I was single. If I WAS single, I'd look for a much shorter list of qualities.

[V.I.C]

ok I'll list a few of mine
1. confident even to the point of being cocky (interesting challenge)
2. sense of humor ( how else would he understand me?)
3. man better like to cook (cause I don't)

4. intelligence
5. the inability to put up with bullsh*t (mine)
6. man of his word ( if he says he is gonna do something then he is gonna bust ballz to get it done)
7. ya gotta exercise ( if I am doing it he has to do it too)
8. can partake of alchohol on occassion but cannot be an alchoholic
9. can talk me into trying new things and going new places
10. likes children

I dont see "being nibble enough to jump out the window when I am done with him" any where in your list.

You've changed LBM!!

[lynore]

^^^ Fixed

Also I think I won the lottery when I met you.

<3

Awwww You two are great and appreciate each other. I feel the same way about my hubs and we are married 37 years.

[latebloomingmom]

I dont see "being nibble enough to jump out the window when I am done with him" any where in your list.

You've changed LBM!!

haaahaaaaaha..good memory Vic...hmmm.. see number 5?
this one is a bit more accurate..and kinder
sh*t that sure made Wyo Mad though didnt it???

[Miranda]

Personally, I am more interested in what people think they have to offer. It would be interesting to see how it compares to your own laundry list of expectations.

i've seen my boyf's ideal partner checklist you know. it starts with

money
tits

i've neither and we're still together

[taiga1]

Kind/compassionate
Intelligent
Funny/witty
Affectionate
Passionate
Adventurous/fun-loving
Strong-minded
Gracious
Family-oriented
Always wants to better himself
Cares about his health/fitness/appearance
Makes me feel safe/supported/encouraged
Has his own hobbies/interests
Is okay with me having my own hobbies/interests

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a list of qualities you are looking for in a significant other. I try to be a better person everyday and I want to find someone who appreciates that and wants the same for themself.

That being said, there is obviously no perfect person. And when you love someone, you love their imperfections. Even if you do occasionally want to strangle them lol.

At the end of the day, I want to know that someone puts me and my happiness at the top of their list. And I want to do the same for them.

Love isn't easy...yet it's so simple, really.

[V.I.C]

haaahaaaaaha..good memory Vic...hmmm.. see number 5?
this one is a bit more accurate..and kinder
sh*t that sure made Wyo Mad though didnt it???

LMAO.

Kind/compassionate
Intelligent
Funny/witty
Affectionate
Passionate
Adventurous/fun-loving
Strong-minded
Gracious
Family-oriented
Always wants to better himself
Cares about his health/fitness/appearance
Makes me feel safe/supported/encouraged
Has his own hobbies/interests
Is okay with me having my own hobbies/interests

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a list of qualities you are looking for in a significant other. I try to be a better person everyday and I want to find someone who appreciates that and wants the same for themself.

That being said, there is obviously no perfect person. And when you love someone, you love their imperfections. Even if you do occasionally want to strangle them lol.

At the end of the day, I want to know that someone puts me and my happiness at the top of their list. And I want to do the same for them.

Love isn't easy...yet it's so simple, really.

Nicely put

[UnaChispita]

Honest/Trustworthy
Good sense of humor
intelligent
Values/ethics in line with mine
Attractive (no specific "type" though)
Motivated
Able to work through conflict with me w/o resorting to sarcasm/name-calling
Financially responsible
Gets along with my family
Has a hobby he is passionate about but not necessarily the same as mine

[Wtuttle]

Kind/compassionate
Intelligent
Funny/witty
Affectionate
Passionate
Adventurous/fun-loving
Strong-minded
Gracious
Family-oriented
Always wants to better himself
Cares about his health/fitness/appearance
Makes me feel safe/supported/encouraged
Has his own hobbies/interests
Is okay with me having my own hobbies/interests

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a list of qualities you are looking for in a significant other. I try to be a better person everyday and I want to find someone who appreciates that and wants the same for themself.

That being said, there is obviously no perfect person. And when you love someone, you love their imperfections. Even if you do occasionally want to strangle them lol.

At the end of the day, I want to know that someone puts me and my happiness at the top of their list. And I want to do the same for them.

Love isn't easy...yet it's so simple, really.

Fully agree

[penny0527]

I like a man who brings me booze when I've had a bad day.

[latebloomingmom]

I like a man who brings me booze when I've had a bad day.

amen sister
cook me dinner
hand me a drink
and do the dishes..I'd be in trouble

[flyfreefit]

Just because you love chocolate and you love pizza doesn't mean you should blend 'em into a smoothie. Just sayin'

[Fawnl]

^^^ Fixed

Also I think I won the lottery when I met you.

<3

Oh ****... you guys are beautiful.

[latebloomingmom]

Just because you love chocolate and you love pizza doesn't mean you should blend 'em into a smoothie. Just sayin'

well now this is true logic

[LisaSkinnoble]

well now this is true logic

Really? I don't get it. I see how it applies to food, but I can't for the life of me apply it to relationships. I think it's a bunch of nonsense.

I need to word this better. I think varied interests and diversity in a mate is a good thing. I like that Flex is well-bred and well-educated, yet I love that he curses like a sailor when he's in traffic and drink beer with the best of them. Similarly, I think he appreciates that I love ballet as much as I love a good hockey fight.

[Keltron]

funny how some of these things contradict each other..
you want a dominant introvert?
what would that really be like?
" d*mn it woman I told you I dont want to talk about it!!"

I don't think the two necessarily conflict. You don't need to be loud and in-your-face to be dominant.

[flyfreefit]

well now this is true logic

Ain't it?! haha.

Really? I don't get it. I see how it applies to food, but I can't for the life of me apply it to relationships. I think it's a bunch of nonsense.

I need to word this better. I think varied interests and diversity in a mate is a good thing. I like that Flex is well-bred and well-educated, yet I love that he curses like a sailor when he's in traffic and drink beer with the best of them. Similarly, I think he appreciates that I love ballet as much as I love a good hockey fight.

Allow me to put it this way. Let's say this is my personal recipe for the perfect man... 3 ingredients just to make it simple:

- family oriented
- goal oriented
- strong minded / dominant

The first two are pretty much universally positive traits, I'd assume. The last one is just a preference.

Now let's say you put these three qualities in one man, and in return you get a man who never has time for you because he is busy with his own family and goals, and is too strong minded for you to have much of a say in it. And can you really tell someone to stop hanging out with their family or to cut out their goals and stick you somewhere in the mix?

My point is that there are too many determining factors and "side effects" of picking and choosing personality traits. When you have someone that works for you, it's because you have molded into one another. Relationships don't start and end with a list.

Oh and should also note that I like to play the Devil's Advocate once in a while. I appreciate the dialogue.

[trackblonston]

funny how some of these things contradict each other..
you want a dominant introvert?

How is this contradictory?

[LisaSkinnoble]

Oh and should also note that I like to play the Devil's Advocate once in a while.

Clearly.

The key is to find the right "mix" in a partner. You describe situations requiring ultimatums. Ultimatums don't belong in a relationship. No one needs to choose between one passion and another (unless that "passion" is unhealthy, like drugs or gambling).

Look at Lynore who posted here. Married 37 years and still madly in love and appreciative of each other. She and her husband have found the key.

[taiga1]

Really? I don't get it. I see how it applies to food, but I can't for the life of me apply it to relationships. I think it's a bunch of nonsense.

I need to word this better. I think varied interests and diversity in a mate is a good thing. I like that Flex is well-bred and well-educated, yet I love that he curses like a sailor when he's in traffic and drink beer with the best of them. Similarly, I think he appreciates that I love ballet as much as I love a good hockey fight.

I feel ya on this one. I love diversity too...personally it's a battle between my girly girl and my tomboy side. I love to shoot guns and play in the dirt, but am just as comfortable going to a musical and nice restaurant. I love to put on a dress and heels and drink wine with the girls, but am just as happy wearing my cowboy boots, drinking beer and shooting pool in the bar with dirt floors. One-dimensional is rather boring, I think.

And, yeah, like everybody else has said...you and flex are too stinkin' adorable!

[latebloomingmom]

wow I was quoted three times and I was just slinging bullsh*t

[latebloomingmom]

I don't think the two necessarily conflict. You don't need to be loud and in-your-face to be dominant.

what's dominant mean to you Kel?
this was a joke ya know..
man nobody gets me
people get all touchy feely in these kind of threads sometimes

[latebloomingmom]

Really? I don't get it. I see how it applies to food, but I can't for the life of me apply it to relationships. I think it's a bunch of nonsense.

I need to word this better. I think varied interests and diversity in a mate is a good thing. I like that Flex is well-bred and well-educated, yet I love that he curses like a sailor when he's in traffic and drink beer with the best of them. Similarly, I think he appreciates that I love ballet as much as I love a good hockey fight.

taken stricltly as a food issue Lisa, I did not apply it to relationships but probably should have.
I am all for varied interests..keeps things interesting.

[penny0527]

I feel ya on this one. I love diversity too...personally it's a battle between my girly girl and my tomboy side. I love to shoot guns and play in the dirt, but am just as comfortable going to a musical and nice restaurant. I love to put on a dress and heels and drink wine with the girls, but am just as happy wearing my cowboy boots, drinking beer and shooting pool in the bar with dirt floors. One-dimensional is rather boring, I think.

This is me with the exception of cowboy boots. If you don't step outside your comfort zone you'll miss out on experiences and people you might not have known.

A man who can go to a nice restaurant and also a seedy bar and have fun in both is awesome.

[Wtuttle]

I feel ya on this one. I love diversity too...personally it's a battle between my girly girl and my tomboy side. I love to shoot guns and play in the dirt, but am just as comfortable going to a musical and nice restaurant. I love to put on a dress and heels and drink wine with the girls, but am just as happy wearing my cowboy boots, drinking beer and shooting pool in the bar with dirt floors. One-dimensional is rather boring, I think.

And, yeah, like everybody else has said...you and flex are too stinkin' adorable!

Why again must you live on the other side of the country?

Totally lesbo...

[Keltron]

Just because you love chocolate and you love pizza doesn't mean you should blend 'em into a smoothie. Just sayin'

Strong knocking before trying

[Keltron]

what's dominant mean to you Kel?
this was a joke ya know..
man nobody gets me
people get all touchy feely in these kind of threads sometimes

Well, I definitely wasn't offended or anything.. but I AM touchy feely in another way? lol..

Anyway, good question actually. I guess a dominant guy would be one that says, "Lets eat at xx or zz.. which do you like?" and assumes that if she likes neither, she'll say something. This would be in contrast to a guy who says, "Hey, where do you wanna eat?"

[latebloomingmom]

Well, I definitely wasn't offended or anything.. but I AM touchy feely in another way? lol..

Anyway, good question actually. I guess a dominant guy would be one that says, "Lets eat at xx or zz.. which do you like?" and assumes that if she likes neither, she'll say something. This would be in contrast to a guy who says, "Hey, where do you wanna eat?"

used to drive my husband nuts going out to eat...
he'd drive up and down the street with the restaurants offering suggestions
"chinese? mexican? how about a hamburger? "
between the two kids in the backseat and me and my bigmouth in the front..
hahhaa I kinda felt sorry for him but he tried hard to please us all