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View Poll Results: Can men and women be just friends?
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01-04-2013, 11:40 AM #61
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01-04-2013, 11:53 AM #62
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There are 3 girls in my motorbike club, All great mates. Would NEVER even think about doing things with them because i'm not attracted to them. I'm great friends with some of my friends girlfriends too.
A better question is "can a man and woman be BEST friends / friends that hang out 1 on 1"
In which case. No. In that case at least someone is getting there feelings hurt. You cant spend THAT much time together without there being some kind of sexual tension.[300 Spartan Crew]
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01-04-2013, 12:08 PM #63
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01-04-2013, 12:13 PM #64
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01-04-2013, 12:16 PM #65
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01-04-2013, 12:19 PM #66
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01-04-2013, 12:26 PM #67
I think that should be the definition for this thread, because too many people say "yea, we're friends", but never meet 1 on 1.
I have guy friends who are not my BEST friends, but I can do things with them 1 on 1. If you can't do that with a woman, then its not really about the distinction between friends and best friends, its a distinction between friends and acquaintance.
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01-04-2013, 12:31 PM #68
lol
I never had sex with them!
Guy friends, were always just that, friends! srs
One particular "friend", called a guy I was dating (who I was hoping to turn into bf lol), and told him lies and chit, long story short, chit went downhill from there.
He's done something similar, to another guy I was getting to know and also tried to break me up with one of my bf-but coudn't -srs
we had mutual friends and so they called him out on it, as it became obvi to them. so I'm not crazy!
Any other girls have a similar exp??
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01-04-2013, 12:31 PM #69
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I would want to meet them before I make any decisions, if they are either gay or obvious betas I wouldn't care, but if they are attractive or confident/funny then I would give her an ultimatum.
Some call it insecurity, I call it cutting my losses. Nothing good will ever come of being in a relationship with a girl who has other options that she regularly spends time with.
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01-04-2013, 12:33 PM #70
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01-04-2013, 12:34 PM #71
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01-04-2013, 12:35 PM #72
You are dumb as fuk. You were never friends, you friendzoned him. He tried to crawl out of it. He failed. Thats what really happened.
And the saddest part is, consciously or subconsciously you were aware of all of this and enjoyed the drama, because women think its the spice of life and would love their lives to be just a tiny tiny bit like a retarded soap opera.
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01-04-2013, 12:40 PM #73
lol...why am i dumb as fuk!
I disagree with you, because I made myself clear to him from the beginning, that a guy friend will always be a guy friend, so he knew that.(no cocky) because I respect friendships.
I never flirted with him, or was flashy in front of him in any way srs.
I respected him, like a brother.. and he knew that, that's what made it phucked up
Edit: plus I always brought my bf with me, when this so called friend was aroundLast edited by naomi001; 01-04-2013 at 12:45 PM.
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01-04-2013, 12:42 PM #74
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01-04-2013, 12:44 PM #75
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01-04-2013, 12:48 PM #76
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01-04-2013, 12:49 PM #77
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01-04-2013, 12:54 PM #78
We're going to need to simply disagree here.
I initiate interaction with girls on a daily basis that I have absolutely ZERO intention of sleeping with. You need to open yourself up to all experiences because you never know what will come of it.
2-3 years ago though I would have agreed with you and I do believe that's how it goes for the [very] large majority.
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01-04-2013, 12:57 PM #79
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01-04-2013, 01:02 PM #80
I think that as you get older and mature, the definition of "friends" change a bit. Sure when you're younger you're friends with all sorts of people, but you're also constantly meeting new people and never give much thought to it. When you get older, you have your friends that you've known for a long time and your close with, kicking it with mainly those people... those are your friends.
Sure, male and females can be acquaintances, however I don't think that they can be friends in the sense of one on one hanging out and txting/talking all the time without attraction on one or both sides.
There is a BIG difference between being an acquaintance and being a friend. If you don't know this, you've still got a lot of growing to do.Every time you tell me how you should've, could've or would've it reminds me how I do, did and will. Your defeatist attitude and lack of willpower pushes me harder to not be like you.
You can call me callous, egotistical, delusional or vain. I am fully aware that I am nowhere near perfect. But despite your detraction's and insults, the fact of the matter is that Im doing what you wish you were, to one day become your complete antithesis.
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01-04-2013, 01:06 PM #81
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01-04-2013, 01:07 PM #82
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01-04-2013, 01:09 PM #83
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01-04-2013, 01:19 PM #84
No! If he replies that he meets up with some of them 1-on-1 on the regular and he sees no indicators of the girls he is friends with being interested in him beyond platonic friendship, then I will accept his view.
But I doubt thats the case.
In the meantime, I ring up my buddies (not even best friends, just buddies) and meet 1-on-1 to grab a bite, go to a bar after work or go see a game.
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01-04-2013, 01:23 PM #85
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01-04-2013, 01:24 PM #86
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01-04-2013, 01:34 PM #87
and all this 'logic' is exactly why you ALL have maturing to do. My best friend met me and my husband after we were married, never ever has there been any chance of anything more then friendship, and we are really good friends. As well as I have a handfu of other guy friends, all also married and I know and am friends ith their wives as well, but hang out with the guys more, because frankly I'd rather play dungeons and dragons, video games, go to the gym, go shooting and talk music then bake cookies, do crafts and gossip. LOL! So yea, I get along much better with the guys in our group of friends then the girls.
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01-04-2013, 01:36 PM #88
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01-04-2013, 01:36 PM #89
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01-04-2013, 01:39 PM #90
lulz - I got acquaintances that say they are friends with me, but really just don't know how to get out of the friendzone. And they are the type who give you BJ's when you are drunk. They are also the ones who go "OH NOOOO" when I say on nights out in group settings, that I don't drink that night. Co-incidence? I think not.
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