Can men and women be just friends?

[FitnessBlue]

What's your opinion on this guys?

Do you have many friends of the opposite sex with no sexual relationship?

If you disagree, how do you react to your bf/gf having a friend of the opposite sex?

IMO men and women can be friends, I have many girl friends and nothing sexual ever happened. I also have a gf of 2 years. So I don't mind my gf having guy friends.

Not a chance! This has been discussed many times and the thought of it being possible is only enforced by betas and women. I would never relationship a woman with "guy friends" because I am not retarded and I am not into ignorant sloots.

The only females I know and would occasionally hang with at the club...yeah I fuked them already

[HiddenMozart]

Nope both parties would like to **** each other. I have a lot of female friends and I tell you it's not possible unless there's a BF involved, even then people still cheat.

[ForeverAlpha]

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[Granrey]

What's your opinion on this guys?

Do you have many friends of the opposite sex with no sexual relationship?

If you disagree, how do you react to your bf/gf having a friend of the opposite sex?

IMO men and women can be friends, I have many girl friends and nothing sexual ever happened. I also have a gf of 2 years. So I don't mind my gf having guy friends.

While is true it is difficult. For some reason, for me is easy to have female friends. I'm very fun and comic type. Saying that, there is always some level of sexual tension....

Also, while some guys dont like to have female friends. I do....you learn a lot on how they think and how strange and contraticting they are compared to us. They also connect you up with their female friends....

you can see the youtube video somebody posted (they have a second part as well) and you can also see the movie "when Harry met Sally"

[ForeverAlpha]

[ForeverAlpha]

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[FitnessBlue]

While is true it is difficult. For some reason, for me is easy to have female friends. I'm very fun and comic type. Saying that, there is always some level of sexual tension....

Therefore, NOT "just friends" you dumbass...

[strider1]

Not a chance! This has been discussed many times and the thought of it being possible is only enforced by betas and women. I would never relationship a woman with "guy friends" because I am not retarded and I am not into ignorant sloots.

The only females I know and would occasionally hang with at the club...yeah I fuked them already

Finally someone intelligent and honest!

[ForeverAlpha]

[HeliBrah]

we have casual conversation all the time

Uhm yea, I have casual conversations with casual acquaintances. Friends mean something different to me.

And to answer OP's question from my perspective: no, no way. Not the same way same-sex friendships work, especially not as awesome as a bond between two men is.

I haven't read all replies, but I assume people have already brought up the "one of them likes the other more than just as a friend" argument, which is valid. But even if you find the situation where both are absolutely platonic with each other and by choice, there is still a disparity between what both get out of the relationship.

One girl, who knew I am not interested in her as a girlfriend, wanted to be friends with me. And I said no, because she will, maybe subconsciously, do what every girl does to the forever aloners here and guys who get put into the friendzone: use them as emotional tampons, as brains for the tasks they can't handle themselves, as a person who texts them when they are bored, and so on.

No man really needs this, but many men give this to women in such "friendships" - and get little to nothing out of such a "friendship".

[velvetmudhole]

I believe it's possible but I also think it's rare.

"he can come too"..

uh, can he cum too

[nnl]

I think it's possible, just rare. I have a few true female friends, two of them I grew up with and it's hard to think of them as people I'd want to get with. The third just ended up being a friend over time because we legitimately enjoy seeing the same movies, etc but I'm not really attracted to her. These are real friendships: they have my back when I'm in a bind, when either of us have a bad breakup they're there to get stupidly ****ed up and mope with, I can trust them etc.

But then there's all the other girls I'm "friends" with -- of course it's loaded with sexual tension and I would like to bone them.

BTW, nothing wrong with being good friends and having sexual tension... There's a couple of girls I've hooked up with in the past that I get along really well with in a friendly way... As long as you're comfortable with the tension no reason why you can't enjoy their company for other things too. I don't see the issue with having relationships that are friend-ish.

[Contribution05]

Friends yes, best friends no.

Guys are lazy when socialising with each other. If a guy is always doing things with a girl that he'd never do with his guy friends (long phone calls, coming over for movie nights, days out to the zoo etc.) he has an ulterior motive.



Girls are pretty oblivious how disingenuous some guys really are. If What Women Want was re-shot as What Men Want, women would never look at guys the same.

This... Like he said you can have friends of the opposite sex, even good friends. But not BEST friends. All the things he listed, thats just too much for there not to be some sort of feelings.

[airmansprincess]

This... Like he said you can have friends of the opposite sex, even good friends. But not BEST friends. All the things he listed, thats just too much for there not to be some sort of feelings.

some girls definition of 'best friend' is much different though.

Best friend to me - can call on each other in crisis, no matter the time of day/night
- will be there to cheer each other up on bad days
- someone I can talk music, gaming, art and cars with (MY interests too! )
- be crazy and hang out with, ie: walking around town, jam sessions, gaming sessions, pizza or taco bell with friends,
bonfires and BS.
If my best friend (who is a guy) started giving me flowers, chocolates or other romantic expressions I would be a bit weirded out because we have never been like that, Im married, hes friends with my husband and im friends with his girlfriend. Maybe we are an exception, but it works.

[Arathor]

It is possible if there is no sexual attraction whatsoever.

[SoberToaster]

can they be friends? sure
voted no though because it's always extremely unlikely that they both feel the same way.
especially if you like their personality, think they are attractive.

[tund3]

LMAO! Cot damn.

[hublife]

Yes they can...




















































































I've had sex with every female friend I've ever had who weren't my buddies girlfriends.

[NitrogenWidget]

This... Like he said you can have friends of the opposite sex, even good friends. But not BEST friends. All the things he listed, thats just too much for there not to be some sort of feelings.

If an attractive woman is seeking my "friendship" she has always had an ulterior motive.
Be it to make me one of her orbiters due to my many skills or she see's me as an option.
Either way it's only a matter of time before she shows her cards & that time gets shorter if another woman comes on the scene. LOL!

What I do know is if I treat her like a friend & show zero interest in dating her while going after women who show interest they wind up wanting me.
When I used to treat them like a Boyfriend without benefits I got chumped & chumped hard. They would try to put me in an "almost dating" situation & not want me talking to other women, ect and damn I was one sad mofo. LOL!

[DarkOmen]

So since many people think that men and women can't be friends, how do you guys deal with your gf having a few guy friends??

[HeliBrah]

So since many people think that men and women can't be friends, how do you guys deal with your gf having a few guy friends??

In those situations these guys are usually ****gy creepers and orbiters. Since white knighting doesn't work if you as a boyfriend got your shît together, its all good.

Only situation I dislike is if they think they can put on some moves or try to be physical with long drawn out hugs and crap. Then they get put in their place.

[fretslayer]

Yes and no.

There are some girls I'm just not attracted to in a romantic sense - they aren't my type, but they'd still make good friends.

But if there's even a tinge of attraction.. forget about it.

This^

I have some women friends, and it's because I have ZERO attraction to them.

[NitrogenWidget]

So since many people think that men and women can't be friends, how do you guys deal with your gf having a few guy friends??

Most women i've dated with guy friends pretty much forget about them when I come into the picture and rarely spend time with them.
Either way, I've always met them,

If she keeps these guys on active duty and she's taking advantage of them then she is not GF material or a good person so I wouldn't date her for long.

Also, if a woman tells me "he's just a friend" I make sure to ask if he is an "ex's" or if she's kissed / done anything sexual with them.
If the answer is "yes" then I walk because that's a huge lie in my book.
Unless she is really hot & I want to smash.
But I won't get serious with her.

[stratoo]

I have several female friends who I will never be attracted to. It's a different story with hotties though.

[fretslayer]

Most women i've dated with guy friends pretty much forget about them when I come into the picture and rarely spend time with them.
Either way, I've always met them,

If she keeps these guys on active duty and she's taking advantage of them then she is not GF material or a good person so I wouldn't date her for long.

Also, if a woman tells me "he's just a friend" I make sure to ask if he is an "ex's" or if she's kissed / done anything sexual with them.
If the answer is "yes" then I walk because that's a huge lie in my book.
Unless she is really hot & I want to smash.
But I won't get serious with her.

And that's how it's done ladies and gentlemen. Repped.

[FitnessBlue]

So since many people think that men and women can't be friends, how do you guys deal with your gf having a few guy friends??

Like I said earlier brah, I won't relationship a retard like that. If it came to light after relationship status (wouldn't happen but just sayn), I would disregard her on the spot.

[moviebrah]

I happen to believe that it is only possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex if and only if nothing sexual has ever happened between you two. I personally only have two actual girl friends and one of them I pretty much just gave up on because she joined this crazy religious zealot group which I want no part of in any way. My other friend, she has had a boyfriend since day one and while there has been tension and or flirting between us at times, her boyfriend is a really awesome guy and has been there for me through a lot of tough times with my ex last semester so I would never do anything to hurt the two of them. On the other side of the coin, I tried to be friends with a girl who I found completely unattractive and she ended up completely ruining things by blindsiding me and asking if I wanted to date. No thanks jeff. Any time I have attempted to remain "friends" with a girl who I have had some kind of a sexual history with it usually does not end well. The same goes for if I have any kind of attraction to her, it is really just too hard to sit there and accept the fact nothing will ever happen between us. Perhaps as I mature and grow older my view on this topic will change. I continue to speak to my ex as some kind of pseudo friendship but I don't think there is anything close to a title for what we have lol. Sex and attraction is still there and always will be there.

[Fielder]

Yes, i have a lot of female friends. That being said, that with except of a handful who are basically smaller versions of the stay-puff mashmallow man i would probably still get really drunk and bang every one of them. But i will do anything when i've had tequila!