Ask: TheAdlerian.

[27hwhc]

he was a h o m o

[DustinTheHuss]

I enjoy TheAdlerian's posts as psychology is very interesting and you post a lot of research.

Your inbox is full -- FYI.

Why are there so many angry people on here? Why can't people just relax and joke with each other and have fun?

[resoog]

you poor kid

[cookiefiend]

Fking lol at telling him his inbox is full in one thread and then when he didn't respond or apparently clear it bumping a thread that's months old to tell him again.

[DustinTheHuss]

you poor kid

Why do you always follow my posts with this?

[resoog]

Why do you always follow my posts with this?

i thought it would sound compassionate

[DustinTheHuss]

i thought it would sound compassionate

Oh thank you.

[ExPatriot]

Competence can come in many forms. Adlerian may not be rich but he is a mental health professional with multiple degrees and he squatted 1048x3.

[TheAdlerian]

Give me your advice on making money please.

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showt...hp?t=182894773

I am not interested in "making money" like you are talking about.

My goal since I was a child has been to have adventures. I used to pray when I was a kid for god to help me stay fit, have adventures, and save me from illness.

So, far I have gotten all of those things.

I have almost no interest in material objects so I buy next to nothing, thus I save all of the money I can, I help loved ones with it, and so on.

I'm like a one man communist with my main focus being public service.

Regarding my career, anywhere I go I am the best at what I do and advance but many times I turn down advances because they would put me in administrative positions which I find boring. I am saving that until I get much older.

So, I can speak to maximizing your potential.

I read your previous post and you are only going to make money at what you are excellent at. You have to know that you are excellent at it too.

Also, there has to be a market for what you are excellent at.

You need to be able to market yourself to the market you are interested in doing business with.

Thus you have to have a lot of money ready to invest in your business that you are SURE there's a market for and that you can provide better than average service for.

You said something kind of scary regarding the whole thing.

You said that you have a very high IQ and so you sound kind of like me!

What I said in this post is that I do not care for what typical people call "success" because I think it's boring. In your previous post about work, you sound like it's something you believe you "should do" vs something you are hot and excited to do.

A very smart person is not going to get much pleasure out of what motivates monkey type people. For instance, I had a friend with a professionally tested IQ of 177, which is insanely high. He ended up selling junk and various items on Ebay as a business.

It's what he enjoyed vs what he "should" have been doing according to society.

I do what I think is cool and interesting, not what's about money. According to Maslow's Hierarchy I have many Self-Actualized behaviors, which is a sign of a very smart person.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/mas...Dactualization.

So, do you really want to make money doing a job in IT that imitates what someone else did?

If it's not super easy and you aren't extremely into it, you may sabotage it or just hate it.

Self-Actualization is wealth because you will be doing whatever you want, that is positive, and making money off it, or not, you will not care.

Jews:

I have had many jewish psych clients over the years.

They are smart and nice people but go crazy, due to money.

So, some jew may be in the "button buying" business for the clothing industry. He spends all day trying to find the cheapest buttons so suit makes can save big money. Meanwhile, he wanted to be a nurse and help people, but he family pressures him to stick with the buttons, then he ends up collapsing mentally and spending money on hookers and drugs to feel better.

He is wasting his life and should have been a nurse.

That's a real story.

It's better to make 60k as a nurse than 100k as a button merchant.

[Adam16121]

Why did Philadelphia have a statue built for Sylvester Stallone, before one was built for Joe Frazier? One guy made a movie about boxing, the other guy lived the life of a boxing legend. You’re from the area, curious as to your thoughts.

[Masterchieffer]

Blind leading the blind

[Lunatic]

[DomMJr]

Nice illustration.

I'd rather less money if I just end up bullied more in the process. Not that much money is necessary. More relative

[ChaliHo]

Alderian your INbox is full clear it out

[TheAdlerian]

Alderian your INbox is full clear it out

Sorry about that.

It's ready for action.

[TheAdlerian]

I definitely have Jewish mentality. I already make enough money to live a comfortable lifestyle. But I feel like I ain't chit if I'm not rich. More importantly, I plan on having children some day and I would be ashamed to tell them I accomplished nothing in my life if all I ever did was work a 9 to 5 job.

Sadhguru, Indian teacher on Youtube, talks about this issue a lot too.

He is concerned with people "top" at something because what is the point and where does it end.

The other day I was talking to a young girl who knows Meek Mills and other celebs. She has low self-esteem and I was wondering if it's because of knowing celebs.

I pointed out that as compared to Meek, I am no one, however, I am still proud of myself.

However, Meek might have low self-esteem because he knows Stevie Wonder, and Stevie might have low self-esteem because he knows Tom Cruise and Tom might have low self-esteem because he knows the King of England. The King might feel sad about himself because he knows the Rothchilds, and so on.

Sadhgurus warns against that kind of treadmill of lust and want with no real goal.

So, you end up rich, which is nice, but you aren't actually enjoying your life.

Also, let's say you get rich, but when you are there, you will meet people who are richer, so then what?!

As an example, YEARS ago, I knew a manlet guy in the gym and he would always try to copy my lifts. He seemed a little manic but otherwise and okay guy. One day I came into the gym and he loved TERRIBLE and that's because he severely injured his back lifting. He had a morphine patch on his arm, lost his job, and couldn't be a volunteer fireman anymore.

So, he wanted to be like someone else and hurried the process and destroyed his life.

MILLIONS of people do that at work where they destroy their relationships, neglect family, neglect enjoyment, all for money and success, but then they fail at everything else.

So, that's up to you.

I know little about IT as a business but I would choose doing something you think is cool/helpful/fun over a dull task you are not excited about.

As I noted, ALL of the jewish guys I worked with went crazy with debauchery from trying to be "successful" at things they didn't care about. That's because culturally the "success" and money part is too important to jews.

The button dude was very nice and smart too. He and I got along great, I think about him a lot, but he was also a very sad example of a person damned by cultural beliefs.

[TheAdlerian]

Gay?

Psychotic?

Desperate?

Yes!

[TheAdlerian]

Nice illustration.

I'd rather less money if I just end up bullied more in the process. Not that much money is necessary. More relative

Wow, that's really good stuff!

I like to think that's how I conduct my personal life.

I like to give more than I ask for because I win in regard to "goodwill" which is a business idea.

Goodwill means what people think of your brand/you, so it is worth money, so to speak. If you are seen as wanting nothing, then people want to work with you and give you things you didn't ask for.

Regarding the topic of making money in a career, I supposed it's a good idea to be providing a high value thing at very easy prices.

[TheAdlerian]

Why did Philadelphia have a statue built for Sylvester Stallone, before one was built for Joe Frazier? One guy made a movie about boxing, the other guy lived the life of a boxing legend. You’re from the area, curious as to your thoughts.

That's an entertaining question.

I HATE the Rocky statue for many reasons.

Firstly, it does not look like Stallone AT ALL so what the hell was the motivation for making it?

It was like they didn't want to honor Stallone, so they made the statue of a "different Rocky" although it's supposed to be the character and the character looks like Stallone.

It's like making a statue of Ronald McDonald looked like a fireman because you like firemen better, but you call it Ronald McDonald anyway.

The second reason I hate it is what you said, Rocky is not real. However, Philly has real classic boxing gym, boxers, and so on, so why not one of them?

HOWEVER....I know why the statue exists.

Back in the 70s, a lot of TV and movie actors were thought to be the characters they played on TV.

I remember James Garner used to play Rockford, a detective on TV. He got beat up by some guys because he was "Rockford" and always won fights. Other guys who would play villains would get spit on by women, etc.

So, I met people, Italians from Kensington Philly and South Philly who actually believe that Rocky was a real person.

I once had a drug client who was in Rocky as an extra and he considered Stallone to be Rocky. The same thing goes for people in Kensington, a long time ago. That's because the movie was extremely meaningful to many white people here.

So, the Rocky statue is "as if" it were of a real person, back when it was created.

Now, the whole movie character has lost its punch, so to speak, and it's like having a statue of Luke Skywalker by a museum.

[CaroKannDefence]

How much material can a singularity hold, before it becomes a multiplicity (if that’s the right word)?

[Paul Kreul]

That's an entertaining question.

I HATE the Rocky statue for many reasons.

Firstly, it does not look like Stallone AT ALL so what the hell was the motivation for making it?

It was like they didn't want to honor Stallone, so they made the statue of a "different Rocky" although it's supposed to be the character and the character looks like Stallone.

It's like making a statue of Ronald McDonald looked like a fireman because you like firemen better, but you call it Ronald McDonald anyway.

The second reason I hate it is what you said, Rocky is not real. However, Philly has real classic boxing gym, boxers, and so on, so why not one of them?

HOWEVER....I know why the statue exists.

Back in the 70s, a lot of TV and movie actors were thought to be the characters they played on TV.

I remember James Garner used to play Rockford, a detective on TV. He got beat up by some guys because he was "Rockford" and always won fights. Other guys who would play villains would get spit on by women, etc.

So, I met people, Italians from Kensington Philly and South Philly who actually believe that Rocky was a real person.

I once had a drug client who was in Rocky as an extra and he considered Stallone to be Rocky. The same thing goes for people in Kensington, a long time ago. That's because the movie was extremely meaningful to many white people here.

So, the Rocky statue is "as if" it were of a real person, back when it was created.

Now, the whole movie character has lost its punch, so to speak, and it's like having a statue of Luke Skywalker by a museum.

I imagine it's a popular tourist attraction, but how do the locals like it? Also, ever cruise the filming locations?
I grew up in the neighborhood John Hughes filmed his movies in Illinois, my brother even went to the same HS as Ferris Bueller..love to scope out locations of good flicks/shows

[TheAdlerian]

How much material can a singularity hold, before it becomes a multiplicity (if that’s the right word)?

I think you have that one backwards.

If you are talking about theoretical black hole singularity it starts are multiple things and ends up a singular thing. After that, they're no coming back.

It's a tiny dot that has the entire mass of the star and any other material sucked into it and compressed into that tiny dot of super dense matter.

All of that is theoretical though and we don't know if it's real.

I'm not sure if that's what you are talking about though.

[TheAdlerian]

I imagine it's a popular tourist attraction, but how do the locals like it? Also, ever cruise the filming locations?
I grew up in the neighborhood John Hughes filmed his movies in Illinois, my brother even went to the same HS as Ferris Bueller..love to scope out locations of good flicks/shows

It's a tourist attraction and people pose for photos by it all the time.

I doubt many young people care about Rocky today because they are not very educated and may not know who he is.

Probably every older person likes Rocky and likes the idea of the statue.

I think yuppies who moved here have mixed reviews and don't like it because it's a movie character. I tend to think the same way. It's in front of our museum which is a pretty good museum and I don't think it's in the right sport.

For instance, I like Superman and comic characters but I don't think a statue of Superman belongs by a museum. So, if it was up to me I would move the statue to downtown.

Rocky:

I used to work right in Kensington where Rocky was filmed.

All of that area is a HUGE drug area now but back when Rocky was filmed it was a factory worker type of area that was poor but now it's totally destroyed with people shooting up openly in the streets and homeless camps.

I was part of a team to try to get the homeless people and drug users out of that area. The plan did not work in my opinion and I was in a lot of weird situations so I didn't care for that mission much, but they are still trying to figure out what to do about that area.

They could legit film an apocalypse movie there now.

[Goodguy03]

What's your take on the controversy surrounding Applied Behavior Analysis? (srs)

[TheAdlerian]

What's your take on the controversy surrounding Applied Behavior Analysis? (srs)

My first job in psych was Behavioral modification with Autistic and MR adults.

The Lovaas Method was popular at the time which involved slapping people in the face when they did a weird behavior.

So, you are talking to Johnny and you are discussing washing his hands then he starts mumbling and flapping his hands around. You then slap Johnny in the face and start talking about hand washing again. You keep doing this until Johnny focuses on learning to wash his hands.

I refused to do this.

Instead, my focus was on getting autistic people involved in fun things they liked and then pair that with more fun things until all of that was better than sitting there biting themselves and so on.
.
ABA is Behaviorism of the BF Skinner variety. He came up with the idea that we are conditioned by things in our environment.

So, when I was working with these people I would use positive activities in the environment to reward what I wanted them to do. There were no punishments except maybe sitting in a quiet room and whatnot.

Controversy:

Autistic people are extreme retards.

They are less functional that a pet.

A dog will enjoy attention, petting, food, playing, and normal things a human would enjoy. An autistic person might try to smash you in the head for trying any of those positive things.

So, they have to be trained to stop all of their weird behavior by engaging them in more positive behaviors. There is no ASKING autistic people, you have to do things to them.

Modern Autism:

That started about 2005 when the psych field allowed autism to be changed and normal behaviors classified as autistic. This was to raise more money for the autism association.

In psych, you are not supposed to give a diagnosis if there are other explanations. For instance, if someone's mom just died, you can't classify someone as having Generalized Anxiety disorder, because the death probably caused the anxiety BUT not if you find out the anxiety was there before the death.

You have to determine if psych problems have mundane or real clinical reasons for existing.

So, what happened in the last ten years is that all of these kids got misdiagnosed as "autistic" when really they are shy, products of single moms, isolated kids, and so on. Now, they are normal people who think they have autism and so they are "standing up for the rights" of autistic people.

Autistic people are retards and would not stand up for their rights, do not know they are autistic and don't care.

However, these fake autistic people don't like Behavioral Therapy because it's impersonal. However, it's the way to treat autism or anyone who can't communicate well.

Is that what you are talking about?

[Goodguy03]

My first job in psych was Behavioral modification with Autistic and MR adults.

The Lovaas Method was popular at the time which involved slapping people in the face when they did a weird behavior.

So, you are talking to Johnny and you are discussing washing his hands then he starts mumbling and flapping his hands around. You then slap Johnny in the face and start talking about hand washing again. You keep doing this until Johnny focuses on learning to wash his hands.

I refused to do this.

Instead, my focus was on getting autistic people involved in fun things they liked and then pair that with more fun things until all of that was better than sitting there biting themselves and so on.
.
ABA is Behaviorism of the BF Skinner variety. He came up with the idea that we are conditioned by things in our environment.

So, when I was working with these people I would use positive activities in the environment to reward what I wanted them to do. There were no punishments except maybe sitting in a quiet room and whatnot.

Controversy:

Autistic people are extreme retards.

They are less functional that a pet.

A dog will enjoy attention, petting, food, playing, and normal things a human would enjoy. An autistic person might try to smash you in the head for trying any of those positive things.

So, they have to be trained to stop all of their weird behavior by engaging them in more positive behaviors. There is no ASKING autistic people, you have to do things to them.

Modern Autism:

That started about 2005 when the psych field allowed autism to be changed and normal behaviors classified as autistic. This was to raise more money for the autism association.

In psych, you are not supposed to give a diagnosis if there are other explanations. For instance, if someone's mom just died, you can't classify someone as having Generalized Anxiety disorder, because the death probably caused the anxiety BUT not if you find out the anxiety was there before the death.

You have to determine if psych problems have mundane or real clinical reasons for existing.

So, what happened in the last ten years is that all of these kids got misdiagnosed as "autistic" when really they are shy, products of single moms, isolated kids, and so on. Now, they are normal people who think they have autism and so they are "standing up for the rights" of autistic people.

Autistic people are retards and would not stand up for their rights, do not know they are autistic and don't care.

However, these fake autistic people don't like Behavioral Therapy because it's impersonal. However, it's the way to treat autism or anyone who can't communicate well.

Is that what you are talking about?

Agreed. Seems like educators/parents see the benefits in therapy but many outspoken "autistic" adults see it as "changing who they are." When a kid is trying to chew his own arm off, or trying to strip naked in public, there needs to be an intervention. Replacing harmful/inappropriate behaviors with healthy ones seems very beneficial, and somehow these impostors can't see that.

[wrassler45]

Remember typing this Fraudlarian? Classic Fraudlarian

[wrassler45]

That's not true.

At the time Brian Shaw was working at that gym in Philly. I had no clue who he was and he already squatted way more than that. The record at the time was a couple hundred pounds more.

I was just doing it to do it. Plus, I was taught to go to parallel, because the full squat can blow your kneecaps.

I started squatting because I got a serious blood clot in my leg in 1996. This made it so I was in constant severe pain, had terrible swelling, and couldn't do the athletic stuff I loved. This was making me suicidal. Like going shopping for food was horrible because of the pain of walking. At the time when it was really bad, I was working at a PA state prison doing drug therapy with inmates about to get out.

I treated the inmates great, was funny, liked talking to them, etc. So, these guys didn't like seeing me in pain walking around this giant facility. In our office, the lifers were our secretaries. There was a 275 pound gay hitman, who was a powerlifter once featured in Sports Illustrated there. He and I got along great, and we talked about politics, life, women, etc. One day he was upset that I was in pain, he was like, I know you lift, but do you do squats, I didn't, and then he gave me this big speech that squats would return the blood flow to my leg but opening up small blood vessels.

This was a VERY passionate speech and I could tell he didn't want me to suffer. I thought that an awesome "godly" moment where a hitman wants to heal me. So, I did as he said.

I got into doing squats and noticed I just kept going up and up in weight. I could barely find pants to wear I was packing on muscle. Then at Philly Sports Club I did that 1048. My shoulders had bloody lightning bolts all over them. When I was in the middle of the squat one of the trainers was showing new people around and he said, "And over here we have Superman doing squats", lol.

So that story ought to piss you off.

On another occasion, I felt bad for Brian Shaw because I thought he looked like a fat unhappy baby. He looked so unhappy all the time, so I gave him some tips he didn't ask for about losing fat. I was telling him he should do HIIT. Later, I found out who he was as felt bad, lol.

People in Philly used to call me HHH because I look almost exactly like him.

In Denver I used to workout with pro wrestlers and shaved my head, then I used to get compared to Goldberg. My one buddy even sent a pic of me to Goldberg saying, this is your twin.

I am a large man.

LMAO Remember typing this out Fraudlarian? This was a classic post. Probably my favorite post of yours

[Cleveland33]

That's an entertaining question.

I HATE the Rocky statue for many reasons.

Firstly, it does not look like Stallone AT ALL so what the hell was the motivation for making it?

It was like they didn't want to honor Stallone, so they made the statue of a "different Rocky" although it's supposed to be the character and the character looks like Stallone.

It's like making a statue of Ronald McDonald looked like a fireman because you like firemen better, but you call it Ronald McDonald anyway.

The second reason I hate it is what you said, Rocky is not real. However, Philly has real classic boxing gym, boxers, and so on, so why not one of them?

HOWEVER....I know why the statue exists.

Back in the 70s, a lot of TV and movie actors were thought to be the characters they played on TV.

I remember James Garner used to play Rockford, a detective on TV. He got beat up by some guys because he was "Rockford" and always won fights. Other guys who would play villains would get spit on by women, etc.

So, I met people, Italians from Kensington Philly and South Philly who actually believe that Rocky was a real person.

I once had a drug client who was in Rocky as an extra and he considered Stallone to be Rocky. The same thing goes for people in Kensington, a long time ago. That's because the movie was extremely meaningful to many white people here.

So, the Rocky statue is "as if" it were of a real person, back when it was created.

Now, the whole movie character has lost its punch, so to speak, and it's like having a statue of Luke Skywalker by a museum.

Wait wait wait - you tell me I'm fake Philly and you don't even know the origin of the Rocky statue?

The Rocky statue was not built by a request from the city. It was built by a request from Slyvester Stallone as a prop for Rocky III.
IIRC - there are actually three, the one in Philly, Stallone has another, and I don't know what happened to the third.
It was left there after filming. The art museum finally told the city to move it because it is a movie prop not actual art.

[wrassler45]

Wait wait wait - you tell me I'm fake Philly and you don't even know the origin of the Rocky statue?

The Rocky statue was not built by a request from the city. It was built by a request from Slyvester Stallone as a prop for Rocky III.
IIRC - there are actually three, the one in Philly, Stallone has another, and I don't know what happened to the third.
It was left there after filming. The art museum finally told the city to move it because it is a movie prop not actual art.

He will ignore this post. He's a joke but for some reason some of the newer guys are buying into his shtick