Girl is trying to work things with ex. Do I wait? (srs)

[muscularpants]

SRS

So I've known this girl for a few months now, an acquaintance, but we just recently started texting. I felt a connection so I asked her to hang out and get some lunch. I asked her out on a date at the end and she delightfully said yes. A day or two before the date she said that her ex surprised her and flew into town and she was going to try and work things out with him.

I was upset but I'm glad she was honest with me about it. Normally I would just next a girl in this situation but since she was up front and honest about it, which most girls wouldn't do, I've decided to be cool about it and stay in touch with her in case things don't work out with him. She told me that she is into me and could see us having something in the future so at least I know I'm not in the friend zone.

I'm not going to wait around for her though, I'm still going to talk to girls, go out on dates, and all that stuff. I feel like my choice is a win-win. She ends up with me, that's awesome, or she ends up with him, oh well at least I have other choices. But any advice or people ever been in similar situation?

[Boffothe]

Absolutely wait around for her, it feels good being a second option doesn't it? Knowing that you're the silver medal in her eyes? As a matter of fact, you should just sit outside her door waiting for her like a good doggy!

[2TheMoon]

Absolutely wait around for her, it feels good being a second option doesn't it? Knowing that you're the silver medal in her eyes? As a matter of fact, you should just sit outside her door waiting for her like a good doggy!

Lol +1 to this

As drake says "I'm more then just an option...hey hey hey"

[b0yer2]

Keep contact between you two, but try and find new girls right now.

[velvetmudhole]

no, but you should get a haircut OP. You look like a phukking dirt hippie

[Arathor]

How does it feel knowing that she basically told you straight up that you will be a rebound?

[naomi001]

I've been in similar situation, and was that girl

in all honestly, it's better you do your own thing and don't wait around op

she still has unfinished business with the ex, otherwise who cares about the ex coming into town.

if she is honest enough to tell you about her ex in the first place, she will be honest enough to find you and tell you when she is ready for a relationship

[RoWdY_RuFf_BoY]

if she is honest enough to tell you about her ex in the first place, she will be honest enough to find you and tell you when she is ready for a relationship

Wtf, just go. The OP hasn't been intimate with her yet and you're talking about a relationship? I don't even..

This reminds me of the episode of 'How I met your mother' where Carrie Underwood was stringing along Ted, good episode.

OP, have some self respect. You say you are not going to wait around which is good, but I feel you ARE going to wait around or else you wouldn't have made this thread.

[Tresiel]

Absolutely wait around for her, it feels good being a second option doesn't it? Knowing that you're the silver medal in her eyes? As a matter of fact, you should just sit outside her door waiting for her like a good doggy!

+1 also

Lol +1 to this

As drake says "I'm more then just an option...hey hey hey"

Nah OP is happy being an option..... option 2 lol.

Oh and also:

[naomi001]

Wtf, just go. The OP hasn't been intimate with her yet and you're talking about a relationship? I don't even..

well relationship or wtv op wants.

why you mad?

She ends up with me, that's awesome, or she ends up with him, oh well at least I have other choices. But any advice or people ever been in similar situation?

just giving my opinion
good luck op

[ussy]

maybe get a tan girls love that

[muscularpants]

It is true that we have not been intimate with one another but we have already agreed that there is a connection and that there is a chance of us being something in the future.
But in the past week or two I've been talking to her I've gotten maybe 7-10 phone numbers so I have no problem finding someone else. I just feel a much stronger connection with her than the others and I know it is mutual so that's why I'm trying not to give up on this one.
And it does kind of feel like I'm a rebound.... hmm... The way I'm trying to think about that is sometimes you want someone but they're with someone else. You've just got to wait your turn. They're just learning what to contrast you against.

[TheJizzler]

Ditch her


Fast


Now


100% serious


doitphaggot.jpeg



I once missed a shot with a great, great girl to wait for a sloot that wouldn't cut her ex out of her life. Big mistake




If you want to get laid, text her:
'Hey, I'm not interested in girls who play these games. Let's not do Saturday'

She'll go phuck her ex, he'll bus his nut then he'll tell her that he just wants to be fwb. she'll be dialling you before she's changed the sheets.

[muscularpants]

Ditch her


Fast


Now


100% serious


doitphaggot.jpeg



I once missed a shot with a great, great girl to wait for a sloot that wouldn't cut her ex out of her life. Big mistake




If you want to get laid, text her:
'Hey, I'm not interested in girls who play these games. Let's not do Saturday'

She'll go phuck her ex, he'll bus his nut then he'll tell her that he just wants to be fwb. she'll be dialling you before she's changed the sheets.

That sucks about the great girl. The fact that I haven't even gone on a date with her yet means that I'm not super attached to her. I even told her that I would date other people. If I find a good girl with a good connection, I'm going to give that girl a try. Currently as I type this I am texting this girl that I am kinda digging as well. When the semester starts I plan on seeing if she wants to hang out just to see if there is a spark. So there ya go. Not waiting around like a doggy at her front door.

[jamestown0101]

SRS

So I've known this girl for a few months now, an acquaintance, but we just recently started texting. I felt a connection so I asked her to hang out and get some lunch. I asked her out on a date at the end and she delightfully said yes. A day or two before the date she said that her ex surprised her and flew into town and she was going to try and work things out with him.

I was upset but I'm glad she was honest with me about it. Normally I would just next a girl in this situation but since she was up front and honest about it, which most girls wouldn't do, I've decided to be cool about it and stay in touch with her in case things don't work out with him. She told me that she is into me and could see us having something in the future so at least I know I'm not in the friend zone.

I'm not going to wait around for her though, I'm still going to talk to girls, go out on dates, and all that stuff. I feel like my choice is a win-win. She ends up with me, that's awesome, or she ends up with him, oh well at least I have other choices. But any advice or people ever been in similar situation?

No real man every waits or compromises for anyone or anything. A real man leads, he dictates, and the rest of the world acts accordingly.

[frankenstein78]

Put her out of your mind completely. Seriously. If you get a surprise phone call in the future, cool. Maybe you'll be single, maybe you won't at that time. You're only going to be wasting energy you could be using elsewhere by even keeping this girl in your mind. Don't linger. These are words I wish others would have told me a long time ago, so take this for what it's worth.

[Arathor]

It is true that we have not been intimate with one another but we have already agreed that there is a connection and that there is a chance of us being something in the future.
But in the past week or two I've been talking to her I've gotten maybe 7-10 phone numbers so I have no problem finding someone else. I just feel a much stronger connection with her than the others and I know it is mutual so that's why I'm trying not to give up on this one.
And it does kind of feel like I'm a rebound.... hmm... The way I'm trying to think about that is sometimes you want someone but they're with someone else. You've just got to wait your turn. They're just learning what to contrast you against.

Bro, you are not her first choice. Doesn't that make you feel ****ty? All that stuff she said about liking you is worthless if she likes someone else even more...

You are nothing more than a backup plan in case her relationship fails. You are her financial and emotional safety net.

[muscularpants]

Put her out of your mind completely. Seriously. If you get a surprise phone call in the future, cool. Maybe you'll be single, maybe you won't at that time. You're only going to be wasting energy you could be using elsewhere by even keeping this girl in your mind. Don't linger. These are words I wish others would have told me a long time ago, so take this for what it's worth.

Thank you. That's what I've been wanting to hear because that's what I plan to do. It's really a win-win situation in my head whereas all this other advice everyone is giving me is kind of risky. They aren't even officially together right now. What if her ex doesn't work for her and they stop talking in a week? I feel like any other guy would flip out and cut ties with her at this point. I have nothing to lose if I just stay in touch with her.

[jamestown0101]

Put her out of your mind completely. Seriously. If you get a surprise phone call in the future, cool. Maybe you'll be single, maybe you won't at that time. You're only going to be wasting energy you could be using elsewhere by even keeping this girl in your mind. Don't linger. These are words I wish others would have told me a long time ago, so take this for what it's worth.

Strong this is strong! I concur. If she calls you up OP, get some of that pink means pussy, troll her afterward. The more clever ways you can piss her off the better the sex will be later. I just suggest you avoid complacency since, waiting for pussy while she gets her **** pushed in is utter stupidity. Your her back up guy and believe me, your at the bottom of the list at best.

Thank you. That's what I've been wanting to hear because that's what I plan to do. It's really a win-win situation in my head whereas all this other advice everyone is giving me is kind of risky. They aren't even officially together right now. What if her ex doesn't work for her and they stop talking in a week? I feel like any other guy would flip out and cut ties with her at this point. I have nothing to lose if I just stay in touch with her.

The point is her ex is getting free vagina while in all probability, you cater to her, and she is just another skank you should be treating like a piece of prison ass. The trick with bishes is to let them play their cards, you be that catalyst of chaos in setting **** in motion, putting work in, and romping bishes left and right. My criteria is sexually adventurous and aesthetic. If none of the above, she could stick a fork into a toaster oven for all I care. If your about to disregard, why the **** not troll her, and get a laugh. I am a terrible person.

[knot4reel91]

Yeah, wait for her. What the actual fuk. Why is BB.com so damn beta? Be a man.

[muscularpants]

Bro, you are not her first choice. Doesn't that make you feel ****ty? All that stuff she said about liking you is worthless if she likes someone else even more...

You are nothing more than a backup plan in case her relationship fails. You are her financial and emotional safety net.

I mean it sucks but they've been together on and off for many years. I can't really be too upset because I have other girls I'm talking to as well. If they don't work out then she's my other option. But it does suck that she's my first choice, as of right now, and I'm just her second.

[Arathor]

Thank you. That's what I've been wanting to hear because that's what I plan to do. It's really a win-win situation in my head whereas all this other advice everyone is giving me is kind of risky. They aren't even officially together right now. What if her ex doesn't work for her and they stop talking in a week? I feel like any other guy would flip out and cut ties with her at this point. I have nothing to lose if I just stay in touch with her.

If you just wanna get laid then sure keep in contact with her, but if you want a relationship don't bother.

Can you imagine how bad it would feel to wake up one day and realise that your girlfriend is only with you because she settled for less?

[muscularpants]

If you just wanna get laid then sure keep in contact with her, but if you want a relationship don't bother.

Can you imagine how bad it would feel to wake up one day and realise that your girlfriend is only with you because she settled for less?

I wouldn't call it settling for less. I mean it is a possibility but I could see it happening another way. I've had two options and I was more into one than the other at one point. I realized that she wasn't the right one for me and went for the other option because I wasn't thinking about who was sexier or whatever, I was thinking about who I would be more compatible with. We dated for over 2 years.

[frankenstein78]

Thank you. That's what I've been wanting to hear because that's what I plan to do. It's really a win-win situation in my head whereas all this other advice everyone is giving me is kind of risky. They aren't even officially together right now. What if her ex doesn't work for her and they stop talking in a week? I feel like any other guy would flip out and cut ties with her at this point. I have nothing to lose if I just stay in touch with her.

I said put her out of your mind. If by "stay in touch" you mean text or IM her more than once in the next month, you need to reread what I wrote. If/when you do that, keep it friendly, nothing more.
Also consider that she still has a flame for her ex. If you guys do get together in the near future, that's still gonna be there. Keep moving forward.

[jamestown0101]

I mean it sucks but they've been together on and off for many years. I can't really be too upset because I have other girls I'm talking to as well. If they don't work out then she's my other option. But it does suck that she's my first choice, as of right now, and I'm just her second.

RESPECT! Now push those other girls into coming out. If they aren't adventurous sexually and about to doll themselves up, you know the drill: disregard but, not before trolling. Smashing is the goal but, if it doesn't go down, I am getting a laugh out of the experience. The trick is to not personalize any of it. Being a phaggot or butt hurt is the mating call of the loser. Your doing this right brah. I would lose her name and number. If she contacts you, cool but, remember, you were her last resort. Not her top option. With that said, when girls play their cards out, she is the back burner chick, instead of bottom bitch. Drunk dial fuel. Nothing more. She struck blood first son.

[muscularpants]

I said put her out of your mind. If by "stay in touch" you mean text or IM her more than once in the next month, you need to reread what I wrote. If/when you do that, keep it friendly, nothing more.
Also consider that she still has a flame for her ex. If you guys do get together in the near future, that's still gonna be there. Keep moving forward.

Totally read it wrong! But why should I stop talking to her? I want to show her that I'm okay with her decision and I feel like if I do that she'll think that I'm too attached to her and really upset. I plan on talking to her every once in a while but not so rarely that she forgets about me.

[jamestown0101]

Totally read it wrong! But why should I stop talking to her? I want to show her that I'm okay with her decision and I feel like if I do that she'll think that I'm too attached to her and really upset. I plan on talking to her every once in a while but not so rarely that she forgets about me.

Your putting too much emphasis on one bish. Who gives a **** what she thinks? She isn't over her ex who likely doesn't take her chit. He is getting some of that pink means pussy! If you got options, start hitting some of that, if she is on your fb, let party pics, and pics with hotties upload. Its even more clever when bishes tag you or leave messages like, "your all mine tomorrow <3" and other female chit even if its entirely irrelevant. If other bishes are eye ****ing and mirrin hard, its gonna fast track everything. Having options gets the vagina wet. Still, every other girl is just practice brah!

[frankenstein78]

Totally read it wrong! But why should I stop talking to her? I want to show her that I'm okay with her decision and I feel like if I do that she'll think that I'm too attached to her and really upset. I plan on talking to her every once in a while but not so rarely that she forgets about me.

Keep talking to her and: YOU = DOORMAT. Simple equation. If you're okay with her decision, that should only mean you're okay with expecting to never hear from her again. If she calls you up months from now, well after she and her ex have no contact, it might be ok. But assume you'll never see or hear from her again. If she finds a reason to call you, bonus. She must not be your #1 choice now. Put her on the far back burner.

Forget about you? If she does, she was just messing with your head this entire time and never saw you as a real option.

[AryanManmoreBDD]

Get more/other girls phaggot!

[muscularpants]

I had a girl over yesterday and we fooled around for a while. So I am getting other girls, I am still staying with the simple life of women who I don't have any emotional attachment to.