The Official Guide To Being a Badass
Most of the articles on the internet about being a badass focus on getting laid
Now, there sure ain’t nothing wrong with gettin’ some, but this post ain’t about that. It’s not for the aspiring pick-up artist, nor is it about getting ripped or being able to kick someone’s ass
It’s about going through life as a true badass…
It’s About Being An Agent of Awesome on a Grand Adventure
… And having a helluva good time along the way
Enjoy…
1. Be cool to everyone
One time I was in line for something at the local bagel shop and the line got kinda messy, hard to tell who was next. I was in a hurry, and felt I was next, but this other dude started walking up to the counter, kinda cutting in front of me. I called him out on it and was basically a total ******* to the guy. He turned around and said “Hey we’re all in this thing together man”
How right he was. I’m not saying let people walk all over you, but we are all in this thing together, and the cooler you are to everyone else, the cooler they’re gonna be to you.
“Be nice to people on your way up because you’ll meet them on your way down”
Wilson Mizner
2. Put people before ones and zeros
It can be so easy to get caught up in making a buck. We’re conditioned to believe money will make us happy, but we forget about what’s really important, each other
Instead of trying to extract value from this world, add to it in your own unique way, in a way no one else can but you, contributing massive value to people’s lives in the most impactful way you possibly can.
When you fall down in life and climb out of the holes along the way, be the hand that reaches down and lifts the next guy up and says “Here, let me show you the way”
3. Make as many mistakes as possible
Be amazing at making mistakes, make more mistakes in the next year or two than you’ve made in your entire life. When we make mistakes, that’s when we learn.
If you’re not making mistakes, you probably aren’t learning and growing, and that which doesn’t grow dies
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new”
Albert Einstein
4. Stay in your own business
I once heard a guy say “At 18 I worried about what everyone thought of me, at 40 I stopped caring what they thought, at 65 I realized they weren’t thinking about me at all”
At some level we all care what others think, the guy who says he doesn’t care what people think of him wants people to think he doesn’t care what people think of him.
Even though we ALL care what others think to some degree or another, the more you can realize that what others think of you really isn’t any of your business, and that your business is what you think of you, and what you think of them, the more badass your life will be.
Just like your thoughts are your business, their thoughts are their business. Stay in your own business
5. Piss people off
Don’t intentionally piss people off, remember, you wanna be cool to everyone.
But when you walk your own path in life, others will be irritated and often offended. That’s their problem, not yours
Refer to #4, their thoughts are none of your business, stay in your own business. BTW, I have to give credit for the whole “Stay in your own business” thing to a true badass, who’s teachings called “The Work” have had a profound impact on my life, Byron Katie
“The secret to success is to offend the greatest number of people”
George Bernard Shaw
6. Right Your Wrongs Immediately
Whenever you’re wrong, and someone else becomes wronged in the process, fix things as soon as possible.
For one, this will keep a lot of your relationships with people running fairly smooth, but also, as you get into the habit of righting your wrongs as you go, you’ll become much better at seeing when your wrong. You’ll notice patterns within your behavior and more and more you’ll be able to catch yourself in advance before you go and step all over someone else’s toes and end up owing them a pedi just to make things right.
Admit your wrongs as soon as possible and do whatever you can to make things right.
7. Slay that scary ol’ dragon
There is an AWESOME life, FAR beyond the inner most depths of your imagination, waiting for you right on the other side of that **** you’re afraid of
And no matter how hard you try to avoid the things that frighten you, there is no way around them, only through
Funny thing is, doing what you fear usually isn’t bad at all, it’s the thinking about it that’ll **** with you
The big scary nucleus of the thing we’re afraid to do is like a dragon… cuz just like a dragon it’s total ****ing make believe
We must approach the dragon head on, feel it’s fiery breath and do what needs to be done
“Are you paralyzed with fear? That’s a good sign. Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”
Steven Pressfield
8. Stand up
If you’re a regular reader of this blog, it’s a safe bet you’re of stronger body and mind than the average citizen.
When you see someone being taken advantage of, abused or wronged, who may not have the strength to stand up for themselves, do whatever you can to kibosh the injustice
When you see our planet or the people in it being given a raw deal, rise up and take a stand
I’m not talking about being some self-righteous white knight so you can get an ego fix, I’m just talking about looking out for your fellow man and doing the right thing when it needs doin’
“We live in a culture where people are more offended by ‘swear’ words and middle fingers than they are famine, warfare and the destruction of our environment.”
RSIFFIAOI
9. Say “no”
It’s important to know when to say “yes”, but it’s much more important to know when and how to say “no”
If you don’t know how to say “no” you’ll end up over-extending yourself, committing to things you can’t really give 100% to and spending your time running around trying to make everyone else happy. You’ll lose your focus and dilute your power.
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying ‘yes’ too quickly and not saying ‘no’ soon enough”
Josh Billings
10. A.B.L. – Always be learning
Read books, listen to audiobooks, take courses, read blogs, work with coaches and mentors and model others doing things that you wanna know how to do. These days you can find the answers to whatever you need, as well as the guidance, often times for free. Information is everywhere.
Choose which actions to take from what you’ve learned and take them with everything in you. And then refer back to #3 and make as many mistakes as possible, cuz that’s when the real learning begins
11. Drop The Mask
Grandma was right again. Just be yourself.
If you aren’t, others will know it, and more important, you’ll know, and hate yourself for it
And what’s awesome is, being you is the one thing you can do better than anyone else in this entire world
I recommend Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now” to learn more on this subject
12. Do the **** you love
Life is over quickly.
While you’re here, do some totally awesome stuff. Now, I don’t know what that is for you, maybe it’s climbing mountains, surfing, starting businesses or just sitting around writing about stuff that’s important to you. Believe it or not, it’s writing that gets my juices going more than just about anything else in the world
Maybe it’s one thing, a bunch of things or always something new.
Whatever it is, whether as a career, hobby or random adventures in awesomeness, spend as much time as possible doing the **** you love
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