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    Talking to Children about Tragedy

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    Just thought this may be helpful information on the subject in light of the shooting in Connecticut.
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    I've asked my son before what he would do and he's provided the right answer. I will ask him again tonight right after I hug him.
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    I heard about this news just as I was getting back to my home campus with 95 Second Graders after a happy, fun-filled field trip. I was shocked and sickened. I didn't mention a thing to any of them. We'll no doubt have discussions come Monday morning.
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    when I moved up to DANBURY last year, I thought I was getting away from this stuff, but now, here is this outrageous tragedy, literally a few miles away from my house....

    my wife, who still teaches in NY, and similarly aged children, came home all distraught over this....
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    Originally Posted by JOHN GARGANI View Post
    when I moved up to DANBURY last year, I thought I was getting away from this stuff, but now, here is this outrageous tragedy, literally a few miles away from my house....

    my wife, who still teaches in NY, and similarly aged children, came home all distraught over this....
    I can imagine. I don't know how you speak of such horrific and senseless things with 7 and 8 year olds. Much less littler ones in Kinder or First Grade.
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    Originally Posted by JOHN GARGANI View Post
    when I moved up to DANBURY last year, I thought I was getting away from this stuff, but now, here is this outrageous tragedy, literally a few miles away from my house....

    my wife, who still teaches in NY, and similarly aged children, came home all distraught over this....
    My niece teaches over towards New Haven... too close for comfort. Apparently teaching is becoming a hazardous job! In our school system, you have to sign in to get past the front door. This was provoked my a kid whose father came in and beat the crap out of a student years ago when I was in school.

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    I saw an interview on the 'Newshour' last night with 3 specialists. It was very good. One mentioned something that just struck me; let a child's own questioning be your guide and impetus. One shouldn't 'force' a conversation, but be open and responsive when approached. No details necessary, just honest and loving responses to a kid's questions. Children process things in a unique and distinct way.
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    Not one child today brought up what took place in Connecticut on Friday. I chose not to bring it up either. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, to be truthful. That's certainly not to say that it won't be brought up by one of them later on during the week. I am going to follow the advice of 'let their questions be your guide.'

    We've certainly had some immediate 're-vamping' of security in and around campus. There won't be anything as 'easy-access' as there was before. There will be much more control of just who enters, and when they do it. Our 'Latino' parents are much more accustomed to entering the school, and literally walking their children to their designated pick-up areas. Often wanting to wait until the teacher comes along to collect their class. Same for the end of the day. It's hard to control and know who is in the building at any one time at school opening and dismissal. That will change drastically tomorrow morning! That in itself just might illicit some questioning from the kids.
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    It seems to me that we've seen an act that was purely evil.

    I simply have no other way to explain it.
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    although the things like that are horrible..and i have sadness for everyone involved..i have never found it hard or even a dilemma to talk to kids about it..Actually i dont really think I just "talk" about it..might bring it up.."hey did you watch the news in school today?"...small talk about it for a minute..then its over..its nothing to really discus to me..
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    Originally Posted by mikieson View Post
    although the things like that are horrible..and i have sadness for everyone involved..i have never found it hard or even a dilemma to talk to kids about it..Actually i dont really think I just "talk" about it..might bring it up.."hey did you watch the news in school today?"...small talk about it for a minute..then its over..its nothing to really discus to me..
    That's all well and good brother. I've had things come up in the classroom, and had a little one just break down and start crying her eyes out. Her grandmother had died some weeks prior. Little hearts and minds deal with things in their own way, to be sure. But when you've got 21 of them in a classroom at any given time, you'd better think long and hard about how you go about approaching this pitiful, unforgiving, and heart-wrenching world!
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    The answer is very easy to arrive at. Be a good parent, let the person in such pain talk. You listen. Most people want to TELL the injured/scared person things. Do not ask the stupid questions, let them talk and most importantly, be a good parent!

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    We've certainly had some immediate 're-vamping' of security in and around campus. There won't be anything as 'easy-access' as there was before. There will be much more control of just who enters, and when they do it. Our 'Latino' parents are much more accustomed to entering the school, and literally walking their children to their designated pick-up areas. Often wanting to wait until the teacher comes along to collect their class. Same for the end of the day. It's hard to control and know who is in the building at any one time at school opening and dismissal. That will change drastically tomorrow morning! That in itself just might illicit some questioning from the kids.
    I got a memo from our school as well that said things have changed already.......
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