I don't post a whole lot, I like to read mostly and comment from time to time.
But because I'm so irked I'll go ahead and vent a little and hopefully some of you will understand!
My mother is awesome, I love her to death. She has been through a lot in her life, and I admire her strength and determination.
But when it comes to talking about weight loss or getting in shape, I just can't stand to talk to her.
She was probably over 200lbs in 2010, now she's weighing in at 157 [she is around 5' 8 or 9"] and aiming to lose a few more. She wants to be toned though... obviously after birthing 3 children and being over 200lbs her skin is more lose and whatnot. I've tried tell her YOU HAVE TO USE WEIGHTS. Most of her weight loss has come from dieting, she doesn't run or do tons of cardio, and she has never lifted a weight. But she refuses to believe me that she has to work out to get the tone she wants.
I can't even tell you the number of times she's told me to take it easy with the weight lifting, stop being so obsessed with muscle, etc etc etc. She actually said to me not long ago "I think you need to see someone about this. It's not normal for a girl to be so obsessed with lifting weights and wanting muscle. No normal guy will find that attractive when you look like a man." She actually wanted me to seek counseling lol... because she thought there is something going on inside me that I feel the need to lift weights and be strong.
I actually laugh just re-reading that.
Today we were talking and I told her my goal weight is 135-140 and I'm at 130 stead the last week or so. I sent her the picture below of Nicole Wilkins off season as kind of a close image to what my goal is [thinking her off season look would be much more acceptable to my mother vs. the cut contest look lol] She said "Her shoulders and arms are too big and she has no boobs." [I have explained to my mom I plan on getting a boob job to maintain a normal/natural size] She then proceeded to tell me that 140 is heavy for 5' 5". I then explained to her that no, not when it's muscle. And explained how two people that are 5' 5" and 140 can actually look like complete opposites. How there is a difference between me being 140 and 12-15% bodyfat and me being 140 and being 25-30% body fat. She didn't get it. She assumed that meant I was going to be all cut and jacked and manly looking and asked me "What does [insert husbands name] think of it, does he find it attractive? Why do you want to be so bulky?"
At this point I gave up and stopped replying and came here lol. I could go on and on and on about the absurd things my mother says to me/about me. She honestly doesnt get it. I want to be healthy, strong and fit lol not a man. I'm far from manly....as most of you would be able to tell from looking at my Avi and stats haha I'm still pretty thin. I hope I'm not the only one with a delusional mother. Anyways....
Thread: the mother rant.