Make it clear from the off-set that I'm not paying for her share of the bill while asking her out on a date.
Seems fair to me, it filters out the scroungers and then you can see if they are worth paying for in the future. I mean hardly any women ask men out, so yeah it's better to make your intentions clear from the start as opposed to telling them once the bill has landed on your table lol.
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11-10-2012, 09:36 AM #271"It is not knowledge, but the act of learning, ... which grants the greatest enjoyment. When I have clarified and exhausted a subject, then I turn away from it, in order to go into darkness again ..." - Carl Friedrich Gauss
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11-10-2012, 09:38 AM #272
what's a scrounger?
here's another question
do you think that the hotter the chick is
the more she will expect you to pay for everything if you go out?
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11-10-2012, 09:41 AM #273
scrounge (skrounj)
v. scrounged, scrounging, scrounges Slang
v.tr.
1. To obtain (something) by begging or borrowing with no intention of reparation: scrounged a few dollars off my brother.
2. To obtain by salvaging or foraging; round up.
v.intr.
1. To seek to obtain something by begging or borrowing with no intention of reparation: scrounge for a cigarette.
2. To forage about in an effort to acquire something at no cost: scrounging around the kitchen for a late-night snack.
Basically someone who just leeches off others. Seen many girls who take advantage of men and get free dates lol."It is not knowledge, but the act of learning, ... which grants the greatest enjoyment. When I have clarified and exhausted a subject, then I turn away from it, in order to go into darkness again ..." - Carl Friedrich Gauss
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11-10-2012, 09:44 AM #274
does this tend to happen more with cold-call type of dating?
meaning just going up to some random hot chick ya dont know and asking her out?
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11-10-2012, 09:45 AM #275
No I'm not mad it's the internet not real life. I meet men on here all the time with no respect. It's just the internet.
Not mad but this section is here because the female members wanted a section in which there rules, otherwise they would all be in the regular misc. The only way that works is if the women in this section report behavior that breaks those rules. If the women didn't report this then I'm more disappointed in their lack response then in your disrespect.
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11-10-2012, 09:46 AM #276
Srs question, if a girl asks me out does that mean she's going to pay?
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11-10-2012, 09:47 AM #277"It is not knowledge, but the act of learning, ... which grants the greatest enjoyment. When I have clarified and exhausted a subject, then I turn away from it, in order to go into darkness again ..." - Carl Friedrich Gauss
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11-10-2012, 10:01 AM #278DAYUM!!!
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11-10-2012, 10:04 AM #279
this confuses the sh*t out of me
see...what if ya got this girl sitting in your class and you like her, think she's cute so ya ask her out
all ya know about each other is the idle chit chat ya do on a daily basis
who pays for the date?
or...it's a friend of a friend and ya'll are double dating it
who pays?
why is she a scrounger?
for example
its a first date
you spend it just asking each other lots of questions...
the sole purpose being..will you like each other enough
for a second date
who pays?
what is the definition then of a girl that is not a scrounger? if she puts out on the first date? cause that would just be a sloot
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11-10-2012, 10:06 AM #280
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11-10-2012, 10:13 AM #281
Amazed at this day and age women paying their fair share on a date is this upsetting to some women. My husband was broke when we dated....I paid for most everything (and that was 30 years ago)....best investment I ever made. Why is "who pays" an issue. If you like the company and you have the means...what????
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11-10-2012, 10:16 AM #282
Lbm, on all thr scenarios above it should be 50/50.
Does it mean that the girl has the decency to actually be willing to pay? No. I'd personally pay for date #1 willingly, then via text or call, I tell the girl we're splitting the bill next time. Needless to say plenty of girls go cold afterwards.Arsenal F.C / San Antonio Spurs
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11-10-2012, 10:18 AM #283
Like I said, make it clear that she will be paying for her own share when I ask her out.
How's that confusing?
or...it's a friend of a friend and ya'll are double dating it
who pays?
why is she a scrounger?Expecting people to pay for her despite the man not knowing her all that well.
for example
its a first date
you spend it just asking each other lots of questions...
the sole purpose being..will you like each other enough
for a second date
who pays?
what is the definition then of a girl that is not a scrounger? if she puts out on the first date? cause that would just be a sloot
I still would not pay for a chick on a first date even if she makes it clear she's putting out (In fact this will probably be a turn off, do not like sloots at all, I like chicks with some class [srs], would probably walk out on her if she was a sloot srs). I honestly do not understand how people can expect others to pay for something THEY'VE eaten and not someone else. Even if a chick insisted that she'll pay for me, I would not let her."It is not knowledge, but the act of learning, ... which grants the greatest enjoyment. When I have clarified and exhausted a subject, then I turn away from it, in order to go into darkness again ..." - Carl Friedrich Gauss
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11-10-2012, 10:21 AM #284
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11-10-2012, 10:23 AM #285
double dating: when two couples go out together
NOT: when you schedule two dates on the same night
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11-10-2012, 10:25 AM #286
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11-10-2012, 10:28 AM #287
I gotcha babe
be upfront about it but not rude
yes? if she agress then there should be no hard feelings and no problems
if it turns into something serious then you would re-assess at that time
and depending on your financial situation ( i.e how fat the wallet is) and hers
you will decide together who pays for what and when
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11-10-2012, 10:28 AM #288
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11-10-2012, 10:36 AM #289
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11-10-2012, 11:11 AM #290
Oh I see.
Well in that case, I dunno, I mean when families go out to dinners ect it all ends up being a fight at the end on who is going to pay lol.
Yup, keep it open and satright forward. Most girls are understanding and know where you are coming from. If a girl really is broke (and you know it) you can either pay for her (Depending on how much you like her) or do some other activities which involves little or no money.
if she agress then there should be no hard feelings and no problems
if it turns into something serious then you would re-assess at that time
and depending on your financial situation ( i.e how fat the wallet is) and hers
you will decide together who pays for what and when"It is not knowledge, but the act of learning, ... which grants the greatest enjoyment. When I have clarified and exhausted a subject, then I turn away from it, in order to go into darkness again ..." - Carl Friedrich Gauss
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11-10-2012, 11:19 AM #291
I don't know everyone is saying that on the first date you shouldn't be spending money on a girl you don't know and stuff like that. Makes sense to me, if the girl isn't interested, thats like $30 wasted, and money doesn't grow on trees. You didn't get anything and she gets a free meal. To be honest most girls don't seem like they're worth spending money on like that. Then again i haven't talked to a girl in months so i wouldn't really know. But thats what its looking like.
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11-10-2012, 11:23 AM #292
I would disagree you did not get anything....young people need to understand the value in the experience itself. You always learn something new.
Again if you have the means and you desire the company....then it is all good. You never walk away from an interaction with nothing.
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11-10-2012, 11:30 AM #293
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11-10-2012, 11:33 AM #294
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11-10-2012, 11:49 AM #295
I dont understand why so many people apparently take into account cultural expectations when they go on dates. If Im out with a girl, its just me and her, nothing else matters. If she dosnt offer to pay then Ill buy, money is not important if Im enjoying my company. If she offers to pay then I would probably tell her we will flip for it. Heads: I pay, Tails: we split the bill. If she is insistent then the toss up will be either all me or her.
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11-10-2012, 12:59 PM #296
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