I've been called fat by my family my whole fking life. Especially my younger sister. I'm a 17 yr old guy btw. Of all people, I'd expect that they would support me, as I'm finally doing something about it now, but no, they carry on demotivating me, trying to throw me off, they buy me junk food, then when I say "I can't eat it, thank you though, I'm trying to lose weight". they just call me ungrateful. Now my younger sis has just hated on me and constantly insults me every day. IMA GUY BTW. I can't deal with her, even when I ignore her she carries on, and I snap sometimes, but I can't deal with it. I do everything for my sis and she still treats me like $hit. It's mainly my sister that is the trouble. She calls me obese (when I'm not, I'm only 195 lbs), says I'll never do anything, calls me a fat cun*, says I'll never get anywhere in life, and ironically, it demotivates the hell out of me. How can I use her to fuel my passion, and keep staying committed to my workout and clean eating nprogram, and kind of cut her out of my life and just do my own thing? I wanna make her feel unimportant, what do I do or say? This is such a complex situation, because it's my family. |Tips? And why does she do this? I can't talk to her, she's so stubborn, and rude and insecure.
Thread: my own family hating on me...?
11-07-2012, 03:30 PM #1
my own family hating on me...?
11-07-2012, 03:41 PM #2
Honestly, my family doing that would be the most motivation for me to prove them wrong. Question though, is your family overweight? If so that may explain why they don't want you to change your physical appearance, as they don't have the dedication to do it themselves. Overall, I would just do your best to not take personal offense (yes, easier said than done) and keep on keeping on and hit the gym. Just look at it as, just because you can't do it, doesn't mean I'm gonna let you stop me from doing it.
11-07-2012, 03:44 PM #3
11-07-2012, 04:18 PM #4
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Generally I've heard the same thing from my family members and teammates. My family doesn't really say anything too often, it's just when they are in a bad mood and I say something involving fitness or health (like if I need more food or something), and they call me skinny and anorexic. This one kid several days ago during a morning workout for the football team I'm on was deadlifting, I asked him how many more sets he had left, and told me to "get out of here you skinny sh*t". He meant it as a joke, but it still hurt because I was just starting to try and put on more weight for the off-season. You've gotta get mad and instantly start working out or jogging, or whatever it is you need to do. Don't say anything to them or flip out, just keep doing whatever it is you want to do. I'll try if you do. GL mate.
11-07-2012, 04:19 PM #5
Dude seriously... use that chit as motivation. aint nothing better....
when they buy junk food and offer it to you and you refuse, you shouldnt feel bad in any way, just walk off smiling because you know in your head you did the right thing.
I was a mssive fat dude back in the day, no one ever gave me chit, dont know why, the only one poerson who did was my uncle, and he layed into me HARD. just once....
All i needed was that!!! EVERY SONGLE day i went out and did cardio all that was in the back of my head was that sentence my uncle said to me, every time i was a Mc Donalds with friends all i could remember was that sentence my uncle said. and belive it or not that one sentence got me 'fit' so next time you get called "fat" dont get angry at anyone just let it build up in your head and when your in the gym or doing cardio let it all come out.
Belive me."you have to get ugly to get big" Kevan Wilson.
11-07-2012, 04:31 PM #6
11-07-2012, 04:31 PM #7
Its sad that you let that get you down. But i understand. People laughed at me in the gym bro, an old man told me to get off a machine halfway through a set and I did. You have to believe in yourself. I am dieting right now too. That extra fat you have really interferes with testosterone, making you emotional. shed it, become a man. done.
11-07-2012, 05:07 PM #8
11-09-2012, 01:44 AM #9
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Look at what we have here!
I used to be in a similar situation like you except it's my elder brothers and other relatives that called me mr. pig, fat@ss, fatty, brownies (i'm fat and had the darkest skin color in the family), and some other flowery names they can think of. I kinda felt like an outsider in the family but who cares.
NOW THEY'RE THE FATTER ONES [Finally!] (This used to be my main motivation, to make them eat their words). It's seems unproductive but hey, if that's the only thing you have as a motivation then why not use it.
good luck, Make them eat their words for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.Kid on the gym sees you working out your shoulders ...
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11-09-2012, 05:42 PM #10
11-10-2012, 10:44 AM #11
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Motivation. They lash out to hurt you and take the focus off of themselves.
The best thing you can do (will frustrate them the most) is smile and just pretend like it doesn't bother you at all. Then calmly ask them if they want some help transforming their own bodies. Even when they won't listen just mention how good you feel now that you are training and how easy it is.
Watch them flip their lids when you kill them with kindness. The teasing will stop. Just don't give in by getting upset, that is what they are trying to achieve.
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11-11-2012, 07:48 PM #17
Mind you that was the first or second time i had the guts to take my top of at the beach. once he said that i couldnt take my top off untill recently.
as i said it sound that bad but he said it in front of everyone and it was embarassing!!!"you have to get ugly to get big" Kevan Wilson.
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