From my wife.
Put on some muscle. (Um, hence the gym membership, 5x5 routine etc..) Not that she would know as she's never asked.
You'll always have a gut. (is is legal to punch your wife in the face?)
Jimmies Rustled.
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11-05-2012, 07:56 PM #1
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11-05-2012, 08:01 PM #2
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11-05-2012, 08:04 PM #3
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11-05-2012, 08:06 PM #4
Got this exact speech from my girlfriend a week or 2 ago.
"you almost getting too skinny now. you were perfect 10 kilos ago. Your gut is like the only body fat you have left you need it."
etc etc etc
I was like lol. gtfo.
Down from 253 to 197. 6'4 so im looking average. My aim is to get down to 185ish Atleast try and hit 12%
I think that the people we hung around most are so used to us being that heavy weight that once the realization that wow you really are skinny now, its kind hard to come to terms with. They are comparing as now to what we used to be like the before weight was more normal? Thats just how i see it anyway
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11-05-2012, 08:09 PM #5
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11-05-2012, 08:14 PM #6
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11-05-2012, 08:47 PM #7
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11-05-2012, 09:01 PM #8
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11-05-2012, 09:19 PM #9
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11-05-2012, 09:53 PM #10
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11-05-2012, 10:54 PM #11
People don't like change. They think that it's unhealthy, even when it's healthy.
Just make sure that you're not taking fitness more seriously than your relationships (this has cost many people their friends, girlfriends or wives) and you'll be fine.Diet is what separates the Jacked from the Frustrated.
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11-05-2012, 11:08 PM #12
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11-06-2012, 12:06 AM #13
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11-06-2012, 01:23 AM #14
Im lucky there, lost tons of weight in the face quite early on. Basicly none left now, so I get the same questions.
And I can tell em that I am sick! (nerve damage/daily chronic headaches) lucky me eh!
Wife been giving me the too skinny speach for the last 20 lbs or so, i've had to promise her that ill bulk up with muscle once I hit low bf (6pack).
Finally managed to sway her over to bodybuilding perspective tho , so now she's wants me to get bigger chest , bigger arms etc. but not too big ... they are never happy are they ?
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11-06-2012, 03:21 AM #15
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11-06-2012, 05:32 AM #16
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11-06-2012, 06:26 AM #17
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My wife was like that for a while too.* It is an honest assessment to a fatty losing weight.* Think about it....
> start obese
> lose some weight and make it to 'fat' status (small victories :/)
> keep losing weight and make it to 'normal' w/ clothes on
> at about this point my wife was still ok with my weight loss
> lose some more and start looking skinny with clothes on
> wife starts giving me sh*t about looking too skinny
> tell her to stfu.* Proceed to tell her that I'm getting 'LEAN', not 'skinny' fkn aware yourself
> continue to lose weight.*
> veins poppin, waist shrinking, blurry 4 pack
> wife now is like 'uh...ok you keep doin dat dere'
> see...I told you to stfu
Just keep going truushot....she'll get used to it and understand what you're doing eventually.
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11-06-2012, 06:30 AM #18
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11-06-2012, 07:13 AM #20
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11-06-2012, 09:12 AM #21
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11-06-2012, 09:31 AM #22her: you are getting skinny
you: i am worried about your increasing waistline : DDDDDD
to OP.. congrats on your progress.. something's working.. keep at your goals, **** what people say. Misery loves company.
Ever think your gf might be scared of you achieving that optimal physique? Like maybe you'll start attracting a whole lot more of the opposite sex all of a sudden? lol..
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11-06-2012, 09:35 AM #23
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11-06-2012, 10:08 AM #24
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11-06-2012, 10:17 AM #25
Yeah this could be a combination of things....
Either they're afraid you'll attract someone new, are jealous that they aren't losing at the same rate you are or just don't understand and are worried you will get too skinny.
I think it comes from a good place, I know it's frustrating though....________________
Nicki Bucci
Fitness Personality, Model & Writer
www.nickibucci.com
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11-06-2012, 11:04 AM #26
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11-06-2012, 11:38 AM #27
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11-06-2012, 11:53 AM #28
Know this feel... my now Ex GF used to talk about how she didn't like guys to be too skinny, and she'd always convince me to bulk once I got down to around 13-14% BF. Most people don't realize that you have to get very lean to be shredded, and there will be a time in between shredded and "big" where you seem to get smaller/lose muscle even though what you're losing is just the fat that's causing the muscle to look bigger.
After the whole breakup thing what I did with myself became completely up to me... I decided I wanted to see abs, and that I wouldn't stop until I got there. Disregarded everything anyone said to me, and knew what I wanted to achieve... Also realized that 95% of the population has no idea what they are talking about when they say you are getting too skinny.
I think the big thing here is that the general population is naiive. Here is what I experienced during my cut, for the most part.
18% -> 14% (little definition added, still layer of fat covering muscle) "you're getting smaller, too skinny"
Makes it somewhat difficult to stay motivated, because definition seems so far away, and you feel smaller, but STICK WITH IT, you know what you want.
14% -> 12% (slight definition added, still belly fat, not a lot of ab def) "you're getting even smaller, I can see your ribs, still no abs, not possible etc etc"
12% -> 10% (can see all abs, huge vein running up bicep, way more muscle definition) "you got HUGE, what's your routine? You look great, etc etc." In reality, I'm even smaller than before lol.
10% -> 8% (Still working on this)
I think the point I'm making is that most people think 8-10% BF looks very good, but they also think that 17% looks better than 13% because you look bigger/stronger without much difference in terms of definition. Most people don't realize you have to go through a period of looking smaller to start looking bigger/better.
My Ex used to tell me I'd always have a gut too, that I probably just wasn't genetically prone to having abs, and that I should just lift and get bigger. Do what you want to do, you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Set your goals based on what makes you happy and follow through on it. I'm happier than I've ever been with my body because I ignored everyone and cut down to the BF I want. Feelsgoodman.jpg
Some people are also insecure and/or jealous. Caught my brother's GF saying she wants him to remain overweight so she doesn't have to worry about other girls as much. Strong WTF, wonder if that's what my Ex was doing too? Either way, ignore the "too skinny" BS and do what makes you happy.
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11-06-2012, 12:00 PM #29
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11-06-2012, 12:17 PM #30
my gf has now been AWARE'd for a few months...no worries over here thank god. but her family is a different story. she's down to a normal bodyweight for her height, and they're saying if she loses any more weight she'll look like olive oil....she'd have to lose another 50 lbs or more to look like that lmao. i just tell her to say 'i'm only losing 5 more lbs' or 'i'm just eating healthy now not focusing on weight' and to keep pushing through with her goal.
if there's one thing i've always despised...it's being told the similar things here...especially when i get called 'skinny' and 'anorexic looking' by people who can clearly see from progress pictures that my body actually looks like i lift weights as opposed to spending all day hovered over a toilet waiting to vomit...
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