Know this feel... my now Ex GF used to talk about how she didn't like guys to be too skinny, and she'd always convince me to bulk once I got down to around 13-14% BF. Most people don't realize that you have to get very lean to be shredded, and there will be a time in between shredded and "big" where you seem to get smaller/lose muscle even though what you're losing is just the fat that's causing the muscle to look bigger.
After the whole breakup thing what I did with myself became completely up to me... I decided I wanted to see abs, and that I wouldn't stop until I got there. Disregarded everything anyone said to me, and
knew what I wanted to achieve... Also realized that 95% of the population has no idea what they are talking about when they say you are getting too skinny.
I think the big thing here is that the general population is naiive. Here is what I experienced during my cut, for the most part.
18% -> 14% (little definition added, still layer of fat covering muscle) "you're getting smaller, too skinny"
Makes it somewhat difficult to stay motivated, because definition seems so far away, and you feel smaller, but STICK WITH IT, you know what you want.
14% -> 12% (slight definition added, still belly fat, not a lot of ab def) "you're getting even smaller, I can see your ribs, still no abs, not possible etc etc"
12% -> 10% (can see all abs, huge vein running up bicep, way more muscle definition) "you got HUGE, what's your routine? You look great, etc etc." In reality, I'm even smaller than before lol.
10% -> 8% (Still working on this)
I think the point I'm making is that most people think 8-10% BF looks very good, but they also think that 17% looks better than 13% because you look bigger/stronger without much difference in terms of definition. Most people don't realize you have to go through a period of looking smaller to start looking bigger/better.
My Ex used to tell me I'd always have a gut too, that I probably just wasn't genetically prone to having abs, and that I should just lift and get bigger. Do what you want to do, you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Set your goals based on what makes you happy and follow through on it. I'm happier than I've ever been with my body because I ignored everyone and cut down to the BF I want. Feelsgoodman.jpg
Some people are also insecure and/or jealous. Caught my brother's GF saying she wants him to remain overweight so she doesn't have to worry about other girls as much. Strong WTF, wonder if that's what my Ex was doing too? Either way, ignore the "too skinny" BS and do what makes you happy.
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