Yeah I'm pretty certain she won't see reason so I'm going to maintain and good relationship with her.
She was bad with her BC.
I know, but mistakes happen.
Ireland.
I will talk to her. I doubt she'll be convinced though.
I just want a good life for my child. I want it to be happy, loved and have a good future. If that means adoption, so be it. If that means raising it, then I will do my best. Some people have to remember it's not just myself that calls the shots. She has more of a say that I do and there's not much I can do but support her.
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10-24-2012, 03:14 PM #154
teenagers shouldn't be having kids in the first place.
sorry op but your life is ruined. Nobody will want to date you now seriously. Single moms get around, because guys willl even phuck female cameljockey. not to mention the economic strain it will cause you
my advice is to push your ex down a flight of stairs.. or move to europe.
Source: the cause of several abortions probably. Thank GOD.
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10-24-2012, 03:16 PM #155
Thanks. What would be ideal now is to have a good relationship with her going into this, and be on the same page for the kid. I have lots of support and both her and I have savings.
First of all, read the thread.
Second of all, I'm not even from the US and I don't have an IQ that's <100. I'm currently in the top 3 of my class for Accounting.**Irish Misc Crew**
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10-24-2012, 03:17 PM #156
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10-24-2012, 03:24 PM #160
You're in uni doing accounting? Talk to your parents, maybe they will help you until you graduate. It would be a shame for you drop out in order to get a chitty job to raise this kid. Better to get your degree so you can get a decent accounting job and give your kid a decent upbringing. Good work trying to maintain a good relationship with your ex, that's important. My parents aren't together but are friends and we are family, I had a better upbringing than most of my friends whose parents are together because mine were mature enough to get along for my sake even tho their relationship hadn't worked out. Still had family dinners, family holidays, father came over most days, etc. I guess that is what you should aim for.
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10-24-2012, 03:41 PM #164
I'm one year older than you and I'm in uni studying to get a good, profitable career. That's what you should be solely doing at your age, not having to worry about some accidental "potential life form".
Lol at you pro-life ***gots. If you're financially and mentally stable enough to raise the kid properly, then fine, thump your bibles away as much as you want. But when this absolutely toothless stance of yours has the potential to completely **** your life over, you're committing the worst mistake of your life. Negs on recharge, you ***got.Last edited by multipleorgasm; 10-24-2012 at 04:30 PM.
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It sounds like in your current situation there's really nothing you can do OP. If the courts don't recognize you and she refuses adoption, have fun making those child support payments.
But srsly though, every time you jerk off you kill millions of potential lives. Why don't you give ALL your sperm a chance at life OP? Why??
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10-24-2012, 04:03 PM #168
Stay on good terms with your ex, make sure she is in to raise the kid together with you, then bring up that you want shared custody 50/50. Don't make it a fight coz she will win, stay civil and on good terms and just talk to her and say that you want to raise your child properly so you want to have him half of the time and share custody and do things together as a family etc. I think she would prefer that situation to have to fight you in court and having the kid 100% of the time without your help.
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10-24-2012, 04:32 PM #174
we were engaged for 3 months after being together over a year, i find out shes cheating, kick her out, she gets married two weeks later, then I find out this summer months after she was pregnant a week before I booted her
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10-24-2012, 04:34 PM #175
Has the misc taught you nothing?
For the husband who told his wife he loved her before his plane went down in a field. For the wife who stopped in the stairs to call her husband to say she will love him forever. For the mothers & fathers who kissed their kids goodbye that morning for the last time. For the policemen, firemen, & other rescue workers who rushed in to help others & lost their lives. For the soldiers who fought back & made the ultimate sacrifice. Today, tomorrow, years from now, we will remember.
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10-24-2012, 04:35 PM #176
Been in the same exact situation OP and I now have a beautiful five year old little girl and I haven't been with her mom since she was born(paternity test needed, sloots gon sloot. Srs) I realized even though I wanted my daughter to have a real family, it wasn't worth a life of unhappiness with her mom. Be the best father you can be and always be there for your kid. Best of luck to you man
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10-24-2012, 04:49 PM #178
Unless you're one of the rare dudes on here that actually fuks different chicks every second night, having a child won't ruin your life (even if you don't live with the child).
You'll find it'll mature you, give you a better perspective on the world, and you'll discover a capacity to love and feel pain that you never knew you had.
You'll thank yourself (and its mother) that you didn't abort.
Yeah, having kids is hard, particularly at a young age, but keep on good terms with the mum, be mature, and you won't even need the courts to intervene.
Good luck mate. It'll be ok.Getting too old for this...
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10-24-2012, 04:57 PM #179
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Goodnight sweet prince basically setting you the baby and your girlfriend up for a chitty life of working multiple jobs just to get the bare essentials. Do you know how much a baby costs? Probably one of the most expensive things out there for an average person and you are just 19, some adults can't even handle the financial obligations.
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