Ex BF says he still loves me but would rather smash randoms than be with me

[kickblake]

He's just trying to have his cake and eat it to. I can't blame him for trying, but there's no reason you can't say no.

[J9S3]

He's putting you on the back burner while he pursues other options. If nothing pans out, he wants to know you'll still be there for him.

Exactly this OP, he's off exploring other options and adding names to the list so to speak to satisfy his need to feel alpha, while thinking he can keep you on a lead and go back to you when and if he's ever bored of it or doesn't find anyone better than you.

You did the right thing in cutting contact! This is classic behaviour from a guy, shame for him that you came to the misc for help and he got exposed lmfao.

[RAGEDEMON87]

Plz grow a backbone OP, women are so fukin
Stupid, he loves you but wants to fuvk other women while your at home twidling ya fkn
Thumbs, is that ok with ur peanut brain

In b4 men are allowed to cheat, how
Bout u fukk off heartless cnts

[Isabeli]

Well, he can still be in love you and sleep with other people. Men don't even need to like or even be that attracted to a girl in order to have sex with her. It's entirely possible that he does love you...but he doesn't respect you.

Date around and have some fun yourself....

[Fozzy13]

he doesnt love you.



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[Fozzy13]

Well, he can still be in love you and sleep with other people. Men don't even need to like or even be that attracted to a girl in order to have sex with her. It's entirely possible that he does love you...but he doesn't respect you.

Date around and have some fun yourself....

are you phucking retarded? How the phuck can you say you love someone and not even respect them.....gtfo

[RCAK]

It's done, going back to him would be foolish on your part. Set some standards for yourself. He says he loves you, but words are meaningless.
Actions matter above everything else. If his way of showing love does not sit well with you, it's not congruent with the standards you set for yourself, then you're clearly incompatible to begin with.
Trust me, go out and see other people. Tell him your uncomfortable with him doing other girls, whilst keeping you as his back up plan. It's not fair on you.
Cut the cord now.

Lol'd, his methods are pretty much what most women pull on us guys, that's life son..

[Thy_Kingdom]

Well, he can still be in love you and sleep with other people. Men don't even need to like or even be that attracted to a girl in order to have sex with her. It's entirely possible that he does love you...but he doesn't respect you.

Date around and have some fun yourself....

Agree with this.

OP, just understand when you guys get married; he will sleep with other women. If you're okay with that, then everything will be okay.

[justanothagirl]

Agree with this.

OP, just understand when you guys get married; he will sleep with other women. If you're okay with that, then everything will be okay.

I would never stay in a marriage where the other person cheats on me. I'm 100% not okay with that, I deserve better.

[Fozzy13]

Agree with this.

OP, just understand when you guys get married; he will sleep with other women. If you're okay with that, then everything will be okay.

lol, strong dumb.

[Isabeli]

are you phucking retarded? How the phuck can you say you love someone and not even respect them.....gtfo

The 2 are mutually exclusive to many....
At this point in time....he respects his c*ck and its wishes more than he respects her. In fact, a man is only as loyal as his options. You could even argue that he does actually respect her enough to be honest about his true intentions when the vast majority would just cheat and keep it all to themselves.

[Thy_Kingdom]

lol, strong dumb.

ツ Forever Alone Crew ツ

The 2 are mutually exclusive to many....
At this point in time....he respects his c*ck and its wishes more than he respects her. In fact, a man is only as loyal as his options. You could even argue that he does actually respect her enough to be honest about his true intentions when the vast majority would just cheat and keep it all to themselves.

I agreed with your earlier post re: love but not this. You sound jaded as fukc.

There are guys who have the chance to fukc other women, but choose not to cheat. brb fukcing some slut and throwing away years in a relationship for a 1hour session.

[justanothagirl]

There are guys who have the chance to fukc other women, but choose not to cheat. brb fukcing some slut and throwing away years in a relationship for a 1hour session.

This I agree with, it all depends on how well a man can prioritize.

[Lesleyy1995]

He is using you as a mat and you are allowing it. He is keeping you there until something better comes along and when he does he'll cut the strings in a Heart beat. Have some respect For yourself, plenty of fish in the pond. Loose his number and change yours. If you dont respect yourself, nobody will...

[newtmiscer]

ツ Forever Alone Crew ツ


I agreed with your earlier post re: love but not this. You sound jaded as fukc.

There are guys who have the chance to fukc other women, but choose not to cheat. brb fukcing some slut and throwing away years in a relationship for a 1hour session.

its pretty funny, especially when all women here vehemently defend how the majority of women are sloots, etc, then they assume all guys are sloots.

[justanothagirl]

He is using you as a mat and you are allowing it. He is keeping you there until something better comes along and when he does he'll cut the strings in a Heart beat. Have some respect For yourself, plenty of fish in the pond. Loose his number and change yours. If you dont respect yourself, nobody will...

Thank you.

[Lesleyy1995]

are you phucking retarded? How the phuck can you say you love someone and not even respect them.....gtfo

Exactly

[sincity88]

My ex gave me that line. He told me that I was "the one" and wife material, but he wanted to go out and have his fun and that I should wait for him until he grows up and then he plans to make me his wife and the mother of his kids... Oh and he told me this after he told me he was going into the Marines. LOLWUT.

Don't waste a second more of your time on him.

[tinycat]

Lose him.
He's not worth the STD risk, if he hasn't given you some already.

You seem like a nice girl (because it looks like you care about him, and are still looking for the best in a guy who's obviously a pig, and a situation that's obviously doomed), and you deserve someone to put in the same effort into a relationship that you do.

He's getting on his level, banging sluts. They don't do girlfriend things for him, or care about him, and in exchange he doesn't have to care or do things for them either. This isn't the treatment that you want, so move on.

There are plenty of guys who would love to have a girl who wants to be committed to just them. Give yourself a chance to find them and ditch the loser.

[justanothagirl]

Lose him.
He's not worth the STD risk, if he hasn't given you some already.

You seem like a nice girl (because it looks like you care about him, and are still looking for the best in a guy who's obviously a pig, and a situation that's obviously doomed), and you deserve someone to put in the same effort into a relationship that you do.

He's getting on his level, banging sluts. They don't do girlfriend things for him, or care about him, and in exchange he doesn't have to care or do things for them either. This isn't the treatment that you want, so move on.

There are plenty of guys who would love to have a girl who wants to be committed to just them. Give yourself a chance to find them and ditch the loser.

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

[frankenstein78]

Get out now OP. He can't have his cake and eat it too.

This. He wants the best of both worlds. He won't come out and say it because it sounds real bad, but he wants to keep you as his girlfriend (for more than the purely physical side) and be able to smash other women at the same time, while you stay completely loyal to him. It's unrealistic and selfish, but it's what he wants because he feels like he has missed out by behaving too good in the past.

Trust me on this. I speak from experience (after divorce). Eventually he'll come to a more realistic place, but you can't wait around for a few years for that to happen.

[cnatboy]

My ex (GF) told me the same thing when she ended it after returning from a 2 month trip to Europe.

-Still love you
-Want to end up together
-Never been single and independent
-Need to have no regrets to have successful marriage etc. in future

Decoded: "Saw some nice cawk in Europe, need to get me some of that. Wait here, I dunno how much I'll like it, BRB maybe."

Cut through his BS excuses, move forward with your life, cut him out complete NC and do your own thing. Once someone would rather smash others than be with you, there is no going back and the best thing you can do is save your own dignity and go succeed in your own life, without someone that takes you for granted.

Good luck OP

[HeBrewHammah]

There are plenty of guys who would love to have a girl who wants to be committed to just them. Give yourself a chance to find them and ditch the loser.

thissssssss.


Quality over quantity anyday ladies. ten ho's ain't worth anything to me, but dat dere one good girlllllllll.... yeahhhhhhhh buddddddayyyyyyyyyy

[justanothagirl]

This. He wants the best of both worlds. He won't come out and say it because it sounds real bad, but he wants to keep you as his girlfriend (for more than the purely physical side) and be able to smash other women at the same time, while you stay completely loyal to him. It's unrealistic and selfish, but it's what he wants because he feels like he has missed out by behaving too good in the past.

Trust me on this. I speak from experience (after divorce). Eventually he'll come to a more realistic place, but you can't wait around for a few years for that to happen.

True, I agree.

My ex (GF) told me the same thing when she ended it after returning from a 2 month trip to Europe.

-Still love you
-Want to end up together
-Never been single and independent
-Need to have no regrets to have successful marriage etc. in future

Decoded: "Saw some nice cawk in Europe, need to get me some of that. Wait here, I dunno how much I'll like it, BRB maybe."

Cut through his BS excuses, move forward with your life, cut him out complete NC and do your own thing. Once someone would rather smash others than be with you, there is no going back and the best thing you can do is save your own dignity and go succeed in your own life, without someone that takes you for granted.

Good luck OP

Thank you.

thissssssss.


Quality over quantity anyday ladies. ten ho's ain't worth anything to me, but dat dere one good girlllllllll.... yeahhhhhhhh buddddddayyyyyyyyyy

So true.

[MuscularVibe]

hes confused. Us guys want more than one hole to screw..We are greedy when it comes to smashing and thats just part of life, move on from him he does not love you, sorry..

[ddarco]

Run OP, run

[jamestown0101]

Any opinions?

My ex bf says he still loves me and he sees a future with me, but because he never had his time as a "bachelor" he feels he missed out and he wants to smash randoms now. At the same time he'll get angry when I start talking with a guy, when it's his choice not to be together exclusively (what the heck?).

I also don't want to sit around all lonely while he's out smashing girls every night. I mean while he's doing that, I feel it's only normal that I start looking for other guys and start dating again, see if I can find someone who is a bit more mature, loyal and can give me the things my ex lacks.

Obviously I cut out contact and I changed my number, since I don't want to be with a guy that can't be faithful to me an prioritizes random lays over someone he supposedly loves.

PS: When we were in a committed relationship, he didn't have anything to complain about sex-wise either, I was great and probably had a higher sex drive than he had. Obviously after we broke up I didn't want to sleep with him anymore especially since he's seeing other women and because I simply don't trust him anymore. Then he complains that I don't wanna sleep with him and about being put in the friend zone, but FWB is not my thing, I think it's trashy and I feel I deserve better than that.

Your ex sounds like myself in being brutally honest. I would say straight up, if a girl is getting fat, I would call her out on that, and yes, water works would follow. Its just a better way to be then to fake it. Age 24 &&& 103lbs clearly not the issue. If he wants to smash other people and you think you found your husband, it would be a bit misleading now wouldn't it? Now if you met new people and he knew you weren't on the hook, he may think differently. Likely, he has options and doesn't care at this point. Time to move on.

[justanothagirl]

Your ex sounds like myself in being brutally honest. I would say straight up, if a girl is getting fat, I would call her out on that, and yes, water works would follow. Its just a better way to be then to fake it. Age 24 &&& 103lbs clearly not the issue. If he wants to smash other people and you think you found your husband, it would be a bit misleading now wouldn't it? Now if you met new people and he knew you weren't on the hook, he may think differently. Likely, he has options and doesn't care at this point. Time to move on.

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. : )

[MyAvatar]

I know dat feel as a man. He's not thinking straight. If he was mature enough he'd realize how empty all his extra smashing is versus being with a woman he wants to love

[justanothagirl]

I know dat feel as a man. He's not thinking straight. If he was mature enough he'd realize how empty all his extra smashing is versus being with a woman he wants to love

I agree.