Dont really see the point of life anymore(srs)

[Shepherd1125]

joocy, wats happening to you man?

[Maiar]

life is pointless. If you're unhappy it's your own fault.

[DarthScorpio11]

Idk. Best friend lives literally 10 seconds away and wont talk to me anymore. My father lives 10 min away and wont talk to me anymore. He abandoned me as a child. My mom walks around the house like I dishonored the family.
Hardly any family talks to me. Been working out 2 years as hard as I can and look like I've never seen a gym. When I was 18 I had dreams but now they are gone. I'm almost 22 and have accomplished nothing. I'm a failure

I'm 22, dropped out of college because of depression, and learning problems. Work multiple jobs that i don't like, making less than i would like. I have social anxiety, and everyone think I'm weird, and a loser. Almost everyone i know avoids me, even my own family. My dad died less than a year ago. I grew up in a family with a bipolar mother who was in and out of the hospital, and a father who had other issues. Was bullied pretty much from elementary school till present. Heath issues, and fear that i might develop mental issues, since it's in my family genes. Constant suicidal, and other self destructive thoughts. No real social life. No girlfriend, or anything. Trust me, i know how bad life can be.

[ParasiteComplex]

srs. these *******s don't care about helping you. They're only stroking themselves.

they did their charity work for the day. Their lives are better for it, now. If you're legit, OP, you know most of these *******s are just mouthing off **** they they know about. ****ing wannabe self-help therapists.

[Shepherd1125]

I'm 22, dropped out of college because of depression, and learning problems. Work multiple jobs that i don't like, making less than i would like. I have social anxiety, and everyone think I'm weird, and a loser. Almost everyone i know avoids me, even my own family. My dad died less than a year ago. I grew up in a family with a bipolar mother who was in and out of the hospital, and a father who had other issues. Was bullied pretty much from elementary school till present. Heath issues, and fear that i might develop mental issues, since it's in my family genes. Constant suicidal, and other self destructive thoughts. No real social life. No girlfriend, or anything. Trust me, i know how bad life can be.

jesus christ man, that's some rough shxt.

[forthenoodz]

honestly, i used to be like that. why live if life is full of sorrow?

go find your purpose. and give yourself a chance to find that purpose. think of all the people that'll be sad to see you go.

[Fellowcitizen]

You clearly look like you lift OP, don't let the misc's warped view of bodybuilding cloud your judgement in that regard, your physique is better than 90% of the male population and people will notice your effort.

The way I see it you cast aside all the poisonous things in your head, the feelings of despair in humanity (which to be honest I get every time I watch the news) negative self image (if you keep thinking you look like chit you are essentially harming yourself) etc and concentrate on the things and people that make you happy, and maybe talk to a psychiatrist about your issues. (don't get on the meds)

Also, if you take issue with people's selfishness and behaviour then maybe it's time to do something about it, it seems like you have a good sense of conscience and human ethics, maybe follow that route in terms of having something to aim towards, try and be brave about it. If you have so little regard for your life, then what have you got to lose?

[CloserBrah]

OP, quickest thing you can medicate is to eliminate using sleep as a way of hiding from the world. We humans are social creatures whether you like it or not. It's in our DNA. We're meant to enjoy new and flourishing relationships while maintaining those with the ones we love. You probably need to get out more and meet some new people who make you feel like you want to be social with. Stay strong and seriously cut that sleeping out.

[DarthScorpio11]

srs. these *******s don't care about helping you. They're only stroking themselves.

they did their charity work for the day. Their lives are better for it, now. If you're legit, OP, you know most of these *******s are just mouthing off **** they they know about. ****ing wannabe self-help therapists.

I don't know about everyone else, but i actually do care. I know what it's like to feel like wanting to die, and to be honest, i kinda still do. But i know that feelings can betray you, and aren't to be trusted. OP, think of yourself as a soldier on a battlefield. Things around you may be horrible, and desolate, but you have to keep on fighting until the end.

Listening to death metal makes me feel better. Helps me get out a lot of anger, and frustration without doing anything stupid.

[nattyamg]

If you are honestly a good person and have a good heart, what makes you think there aren't people out there like you? There are billions of people on this planet. Not everyone is selfish, insane, untruthful, and manipulative. You're not, I'm not, and a ton of other people aren't

this. they may appear that way but you need to get to know them

[ChickeNudeSoup]

srs. these *******s don't care about helping you. They're only stroking themselves.

they did their charity work for the day. Their lives are better for it, now. If you're legit, OP, you know most of these *******s are just mouthing off **** they they know about. ****ing wannabe self-help therapists.

Or maybe some of the people giving advice ITT have gone through similar or worse things and have experience dealing with the same shjt. You don't have to be a therapist to give advice dumb *******.

[Coonsmell]

stfu up OP. carry on or off yourself, stop making threads about bulls*it. we already know life sucks

wut

[Badger505]

Don't give up bro. Vegeta wouldn't.

[doughnutking]

Sound like you need to get drunk and have a good night sleep. Alternatively smoke some buddha.

[ParasiteComplex]

Or maybe some of the people giving advice ITT have gone through similar or worse things and have experience dealing with the same shjt. You don't have to be a therapist to give advice dumb *******.

And I don't, you dumb bitch? I'm telling the ****ing OP to find his own ****ing reason for dealing with this **** instead of listening to ****ing skittles & rainbows sappy **** from you life ignorant retards that think you know anything about depression.

[rjones416]

you actually have a decent physique and look pretty cute. stop being a ******* op.

[MC707]

I expected "alpha" miscers complaining about "hating these threads coming up daily". Instead I see all brahs supporting another brah. Feelsgoodman.jpg

Trust me that many of us feel/have felt like you. I keep failing in a lot of $hit, even today I ****ed two opportunities. But I'll keep fighting. Disregard everything, acquire aesthetics. Listen to these miscers, awesome advice IIT.

[dekd]

Feel free to shoot me a message if ya need someone to talk to brah

[hotpajamas]

srs. these *******s don't care about helping you. They're only stroking themselves.

they did their charity work for the day. Their lives are better for it, now. If you're legit, OP, you know most of these *******s are just mouthing off **** they they know about. ****ing wannabe self-help therapists.

This is half-truth.

I can't speak for anyone else here except for myself, but this is something that I struggle with everyday. I wouldn't offer sympathy to the OP just for the sake of feeling better about myself, but I would offer sympathy to the OP in the vain hope that by encouraging him I can become encouraged. s'not any less selfish, but just so we're clear this "charity" work is more of a group hug & less of a ego-charge.


having said that, OP many are in the same boat. the only thing that consistently pulls me forward is knowing that whatever after this is infinite. when I die, there is nothing. nothing will maintain itself timelessly. while it doesn't make total sense to prolong the inevitable, I have to believe that there is something remaining in life to validate the struggle. if i'm wrong, well sure i wasted maybe 70 years, 80? Set against the scope of infinity, 80 years is literally nothing. it's a short ride to be on, may as well see it out while it lasts. know what i mean? hope this helps

[DarthScorpio11]

this always helps me when i feel like crap

[brent89]

Move srs. Only north America has this individualistic culture. Move to Japan or Korea etc where it's group culture and all about one for all and all for one. Some place like Brazil where they have beautiful everything and life is more laid back. Italy the whole place stops working to take a nap in the afternoon. Moving to somewhere else in the world will literally be like starting a new life. All your problems will disappear. You will have the chance to start fresh and whatever mistakes you made before you don't have to make this time around. I suggest some place sunny since sun has been shown in every study to make people happier. Also since you are different culture the chicks will think you are the sexy foreign guy and want to get to know you better. With working out again pretty much only north America really does that so you won't have to worry about looking like **** and we all know as the years go by you will look better and better. All the pressure gone to look good and you can focus on enjoying it plus in a few more years start to look real good.

[xfirewolfx]

Exactly why the OP needs to give people IRL another chance instead of assuming everyone in the world is a piece of sh*t. If people on the Misc can be serious for once, I'm pretty sure the odds of that happening IRL are a lot higher. The Misc is troll city and we have 2 pages of people trying to help. That should say a lot about OP's assumptions about the people who surround him

Well I give everybody IRL a chance. If I never met them and they needed help or $5 I would help them. Its just that nobody IRL will help me back

I guess I just have some problems I need to workout myself. 90% of my life I have been the best / nicest / motivated person but over time something happened and I lost it all. Thank you misc for talking to me

[Zachary533]

Age: 21

Life hasn't even started for you mate.

[twodollarhooker]

You have depression go see someone before you do something stupid.

[grillin77]

From my experience, you can't always trust thoughts and feelings. Whether the storm, for brighter days are ahead. Get some blood work done bro. Things like low vitamin D can zap your energies and mental health.

[busbybabe]

I'm getting alot of questions from people about motivation, and how I stay motivated through hard times, and busy times..to answer this, i'm gonna share something very personal with you guys.

I had a girlfriend.. actually she was unofficially my fiancê.. she was the most beautiful girl in the entire world.. i'm not even kidding, she really was.
I loved her all the way to the moon and back, never thought love like that actually existed.. we had been through everything together- good, bad, sickness, health-
in the end everything was just perfect.. it was like taken out of some movie.. almost like a dream.
I've had a very tough life.. i'm not gonna get into it, but i've experienced things you only think happens in horrormovies.. whenever someone talks about hard times, 99% of
the time i can say that i've experienced worse.. and besides those things, i've had to bury half my family.
But when i met my girl, it was like all the S"#t i've been through.. all the horror and all the pain, had all let me to her.. and she made it all worth it.

She passed away a year ago... she died from a blood clot between her lung and her heart, and one in her leg.. they were caused by new generation birthcontrol pills
her doctor hadn't warned her about side effects, and when she had been feeling weird for weeks and went to see him, he just said the had the flu.. didn't even check her.
I was devastated.. she was everything to me, she gave me everything by breathing.. she was my life..
I broke down completely.. i'm not gonna sugar coat anything, i tried to kill myself 3 times within the first few months.. i wandered to her grave at night, i still do..
my family litterally had to force feed me, cause i was just crumbled together in my room crying..crushed..destroyed.
this went on for months and months.. my father was still at home every day, after several months i thought he was still just there to look out for me..
but it turned out his heart couldn't handle seeing his son like this.. and it was actually killing him..
no one wants to hurt their family, so i decided to step up and carry on.. for my familys sake.. i started going to the gym as often as i could..
after the first time at the gym i already felt better.. i started going 5 days per week again.. it made me strong enough to start seeing psychiatrists, doctors, and do everything i could to get better.

So why am i sharing this? because i'm 100% sure that going to the gym and getting the bad stuff out of my body, is the only reason why i'm still here today.
i'm still on anti-depressive medication.. who wouldn't be, you're not supposed to lose the person you were meant to spend the rest of your life with, before you've had a chance to grow old together.

the whole "what doesen't kill you makes you stronger" thing is Bulls#¤t.. you get weaker, because you lose more and more faith.. find something worth fighting for, and do what you gotta do..
i'm fighting on for my family, and while i'm here i'm gonna try to live out the one and only dream i've ever had.. to become some rolemodel within the fitness world.

Anyways.. no excuses guys..


Found this on my FB thought it would be useful

[VinMichael]

Well I give everybody IRL a chance. If I never met them and they needed help or $5 I would help them. Its just that nobody IRL will help me back

I guess I just have some problems I need to workout myself. 90% of my life I have been the best / nicest / motivated person but over time something happened and I lost it all. Thank you misc for talking to me

I see were you are coming from OP, but you need to learn something. You need to learn how to take. It's nice that you give stuff to people, and I am 100% for that, but don't give with the intent to receive, brah. That is actually selfish if you think about it. Give only because you want to, not because you want something in return. If you want something, quit thinking, and just f*cking take it!

[_zman]

I've been to hell and back and it sounds like you're still in hell. And it was actually at the same age you are now. But you can pull through just like I did, it took me a couple years though.

I suggest moving and starting your life over. Eventually I learned to accept my family doesn't give a **** about me and once you figure out it's all about taking care of yourself because no one else truly cares about you, that's when you'll feel better. You change your attitude and your life WILL change I guarantee. Be that smiling guy that everyone wants to hang out with, you'll make new friends, new circles, new job etc.

[DarthScorpio11]

I'm getting alot of questions from people about motivation, and how I stay motivated through hard times, and busy times..to answer this, i'm gonna share something very personal with you guys.

I had a girlfriend.. actually she was unofficially my fiancê.. she was the most beautiful girl in the entire world.. i'm not even kidding, she really was.
I loved her all the way to the moon and back, never thought love like that actually existed.. we had been through everything together- good, bad, sickness, health-
in the end everything was just perfect.. it was like taken out of some movie.. almost like a dream.
I've had a very tough life.. i'm not gonna get into it, but i've experienced things you only think happens in horrormovies.. whenever someone talks about hard times, 99% of
the time i can say that i've experienced worse.. and besides those things, i've had to bury half my family.
But when i met my girl, it was like all the S"#t i've been through.. all the horror and all the pain, had all let me to her.. and she made it all worth it.

She passed away a year ago... she died from a blood clot between her lung and her heart, and one in her leg.. they were caused by new generation birthcontrol pills
her doctor hadn't warned her about side effects, and when she had been feeling weird for weeks and went to see him, he just said the had the flu.. didn't even check her.
I was devastated.. she was everything to me, she gave me everything by breathing.. she was my life..
I broke down completely.. i'm not gonna sugar coat anything, i tried to kill myself 3 times within the first few months.. i wandered to her grave at night, i still do..
my family litterally had to force feed me, cause i was just crumbled together in my room crying..crushed..destroyed.
this went on for months and months.. my father was still at home every day, after several months i thought he was still just there to look out for me..
but it turned out his heart couldn't handle seeing his son like this.. and it was actually killing him..
no one wants to hurt their family, so i decided to step up and carry on.. for my familys sake.. i started going to the gym as often as i could..
after the first time at the gym i already felt better.. i started going 5 days per week again.. it made me strong enough to start seeing psychiatrists, doctors, and do everything i could to get better.

So why am i sharing this? because i'm 100% sure that going to the gym and getting the bad stuff out of my body, is the only reason why i'm still here today.
i'm still on anti-depressive medication.. who wouldn't be, you're not supposed to lose the person you were meant to spend the rest of your life with, before you've had a chance to grow old together.

the whole "what doesen't kill you makes you stronger" thing is Bulls#¤t.. you get weaker, because you lose more and more faith.. find something worth fighting for, and do what you gotta do..
i'm fighting on for my family, and while i'm here i'm gonna try to live out the one and only dream i've ever had.. to become some rolemodel within the fitness world.

Anyways.. no excuses guys..


Found this on my FB thought it would be useful

damn bro, that's crazy. You've been through a lot for anyone, especially a 19 year old. Your story was pretty inspiring.

edit: found this on ********. Oh, nvm. Still, interesting story...

[TheDesertFox]

Just so you know OP, I've dealt with serious depression and social anxiety since my teenage years, literally since I was 13 yrs old, I lost my motivation to live, my friends, my happiness, everything. How can you call that living at 13? I think you should seek help, get someone to talk to and unleash your feelings, there is always hope. I used to think about suicide all the time, carried a note in my wallet asking for forgiveness in case I ever went through with it, but I learned that at my age, not only is it the cowards way out of my problems, but it also makes absolutely no sense to end my life at such a young age because who knows what tomorrow may bring. You're young and there is much hope and change to be acquired, there is time, much time for you to make something out of life, whatever it may be, make something out of it. If you can't find something to live for, find something you would die for.