Anthony21's Non-Stop Endeavor for Strength

[Anthony21]

Well, it's very natural to be upset. Channel all that into your workouts. Eventually the new situation will be normal to you, but right now it's going to be a big change and when other people would choose booze & drugs, just lift heavy-ass weights instead.

That's going to be a big part of my therapy.

[KenshinH]

Wow man, I'm really sorry to hear that ... Don't want to pry into your personal life but is this irreconcilable? Is there no possible way that you guys can change so that the core issues can be mended or do you two not feel for each other the same way anymore?

I ask because, next to marriage, divorce is the biggest life change you'll encounter - and one of the most expensive! If the decision is final and once the emotions have calmed, you should seriously think about how the finances will work, especially with a child. Basically, you DO NOT want to be screwed when it comes time to divide up assets. I recommend getting a divorce lawyer ASAP once you're sure there's no turning back. If there is any significant income inequality between you two - whether she makes a lot more or less - you can be sure she will fight for as much as she can get. This is not about her being greedy, this is about her ensuring she is in the best possible position financially after this. Her family and close friends are telling her the exact same thing, so you need to level the playing field to protect yourself.

It's hard for me cause of my daughter but if we would of stayed together I don't think it would of been good for my daughter, she might have resentment possibly you know?

I really appreciate that man and i'm hoping it adds fuel to my workouts.

Move to the Bay Area and we'll lift together

But seriously, if there's anything you need or just someone to talk to, PM me, or email/FB me.

[Anthony21]

Wow man, I'm really sorry to hear that ... Don't want to pry into your personal life but is this irreconcilable? Is there no possible way that you guys can change so that the core issues can be mended or do you two not feel for each other the same way anymore?

I ask because, next to marriage, divorce is the biggest life change you'll encounter - and one of the most expensive! If the decision is final and once the emotions have calmed, you should seriously think about how the finances will work, especially with a child. Basically, you DO NOT want to be screwed when it comes time to divide up assets. I recommend getting a divorce lawyer ASAP once you're sure there's no turning back. If there is any significant income inequality between you two - whether she makes a lot more or less - you can be sure she will fight for as much as she can get. This is not about her being greedy, this is about her ensuring she is in the best possible position financially after this. Her family and close friends are telling her the exact same thing, so you need to level the playing field to protect yourself.



Move to the Bay Area and we'll lift together

But seriously, if there's anything you need or just someone to talk to, PM me, or email/FB me.

I appreciate the advice Ken, I really do.

She actually makes more than me but it's not by a large difference. I have no idea what's going to happen with the house, 2 cars we have and all that sh!t. I think though she'll split the time between my daughter 50/50 you know?

This has been something evolving for a year plus and finally just hit it's boiling point. We both love each other but are not IN LOVE with each other anymore.

[ulsak]

Wow man, I'm really sorry to hear that ... Don't want to pry into your personal life but is this irreconcilable? Is there no possible way that you guys can change so that the core issues can be mended or do you two not feel for each other the same way anymore?

I ask because, next to marriage, divorce is the biggest life change you'll encounter - and one of the most expensive! If the decision is final and once the emotions have calmed, you should seriously think about how the finances will work, especially with a child. Basically, you DO NOT want to be screwed when it comes time to divide up assets. I recommend getting a divorce lawyer ASAP once you're sure there's no turning back. If there is any significant income inequality between you two - whether she makes a lot more or less - you can be sure she will fight for as much as she can get. This is not about her being greedy, this is about her ensuring she is in the best possible position financially after this. Her family and close friends are telling her the exact same thing, so you need to level the playing field to protect yourself.



Move to the Bay Area and we'll lift together

But seriously, if there's anything you need or just someone to talk to, PM me, or email/FB me.

I wish I could double or triple rep you, man. You are a true friend.

I appreciate the advice Ken, I really do.

She actually makes more than me but it's not by a large difference. I have no idea what's going to happen with the house, 2 cars we have and all that sh!t. I think though she'll split the time between my daughter 50/50 you know?

This has been something evolving for a year plus and finally just hit it's boiling point. We both love each other but are not IN LOVE with each other anymore.

Sometimes a separation can make change or at least see things clearer. But as you said, if the love ain't deep enough why struggle. Keep lifting the amazing way you done so far, it's an awesome therapy that kept me going through troubles I had and will have with my relation. Me and Mrs U are having our issues now and then too..
And Happy new year!

[Anthony21]

I wish I could double or triple rep you, man. You are a true friend.


Sometimes a separation can make change or at least see things clearer. But as you said, if the love ain't deep enough why struggle. Keep lifting the amazing way you done so far, it's an awesome therapy that kept me going through troubles I had and will have with my relation. Me and Mrs U are having our issues now and then too..
And Happy new year!

Appreicate the words of wisdom bro.

[Jasonk282]

One thing is for sure...we all got your back bro if you need to vent or chat.

[Anthony21]

One thing is for sure...we all got your back bro if you need to vent or chat.

That's much appreciated bro.

[The Big Sleep]

So ashamed I haven't been sub'd to this until now haha. Keep it up bud!

[Anthony21]

So ashamed I haven't been sub'd to this until now haha. Keep it up bud!

Thanks bro.

[Anthony21]

I wanted to post up my workout from last night. I stayed in the gym way longer then I had expected, this is due to all the personal BS going on in my life. I wanted to keep lifting and could of but it is what it is.

12/28/12

Squat 4x5
130x5
160x5
195x5
230x5

Squat 1x3
270x3

Squat 1x8
195x8

Bench 4x5
100x5
125x5
150x5
175x5

Bench 1x3
205x3

Bench 1x8
150x8

*I skipped the Pendlay rows cause mentally I wasn't in to them at that time but will not let this happen again.

DB incline S/S w/pull ups

45x10....6 pull ups
50x8....6 pull ups
50x8....6 pull ups

DB side laterals S/S w/ DB curls
20x12....30x10
20x13....30x10
15x15....25x8

Incline skull crushers
50x12
50x12
50x10

DB shurgs
60x8
60x8
60x22

[KenshinH]

Good job getting some work in despite the situation bro! The gym can be a sanctuary.

I appreciate the advice Ken, I really do.

She actually makes more than me but it's not by a large difference. I have no idea what's going to happen with the house, 2 cars we have and all that sh!t. I think though she'll split the time between my daughter 50/50 you know?

This has been something evolving for a year plus and finally just hit it's boiling point. We both love each other but are not IN LOVE with each other anymore.

Sounds like you guys have pretty much made up your mind. And besides, life is too short not to be in love with the one you're with.

I would just caution that you don't put off thinking about how to share custody of your daughter and the division of assets. She may be saying 50/50 now - and actually mean it! - but when the time comes, she may or her lawyer definitely will make every possible attempt to shrink your "half" of the pie. If you know a lawyer or someone knowledgeable in family law, give them a call.

[Filmbuff81]

Man I drop off the face of the earth ill for a couple weeks and all hell breaks loose.

I hope everything works out in the end.

Sad that you are unable to reconcile but obviously you both are making what you feel is the best decision for each other and your daughter.

I have seen some close friends and family go through divorce and be better off for it in the end, so as long as you both can co-parent amicably then everything else will fall into place.

[Anthony21]

Man I drop off the face of the earth ill for a couple weeks and all hell breaks loose.

I hope everything works out in the end.

Sad that you are unable to reconcile but obviously you both are making what you feel is the best decision for each other and your daughter.

I have seen some close friends and family go through divorce and be better off for it in the end, so as long as you both can co-parent amicably then everything else will fall into place.

Yea crazy right lol but I'm trying to work on things and she came back last night.

I think we just need I get marriage counseling to start hashing things out.

[KenshinH]

Yea crazy right lol but I'm trying to work on things and she came back last night.

I think we just need I get marriage counseling to start hashing things out.

Glad to hear brah! Definitely give counseling a shot before calling it quits.

[Juicemw]

Sorry to hear about all the stuff still going on Ant , like Ken said, if you need to vent and blow off steam I'm always around in PMs. My girl and I have been together a long time and we've had some rough patches, including 6months where we literally seperated, didn't talk, I moved 700 miles away, and after that time she came back to me, feeling better, stronger and more in love. So I 100% know what you're going through.

good lifts on Friday though. Don't sweat skipping the rows, sometimes that **** happens.

[The Big Sleep]

Sorry to hear about the stress with the relationship AC. Let the iron be your release from all the BS. You got my contact info if you need to talk man. My brother is divorced so I know how tough that can be

[moshvr]

Sorry about the rough patch Anthony, but I'm glad you guys are going to look into counseling to sort things out!

Keep using the gym as an outlet though if you're feeling frustrated/down!

[NC_Tarheel]

Hope everything works out for the best man...

[Retoaded]

Yea crazy right lol but I'm trying to work on things and she came back last night.

I think we just need I get marriage counseling to start hashing things out.

counseling worked wonders for a couple that we are very close too, and they had some major, major issues and now its a few years later and they are still together. still rough going but they are pulling it off for their daughter. worth a shot.

[bigbird916]

Sorry to hear about the ongoing marriage problems bro. Keep your head up

Really good work on your MC workouts tho man! Glad your kicking ass still!

[MakeGoBoom]

Sorry about your luck dude. Hope it all plays out in the end. I know I've danced that line with my wife a couple times. The one thing I've learned is its almost always a communications break down. Usually one or both parties are assuming something that simply isnt true. You really have to lock on communication or everything falls apart.

That being said, protect your interests with your daughter. If things get ugly its always someones last ditch move to go for the throat. No one wants to see that happen so no one expects it. Until its to late and they've already made their move

[Celtic8Laoch]

Hey man sorry to hear about your troubles. It doesnt seem like it now but you will most likely emerge a stronger minded person after all this is over. Stay strong.

[lllDBOlll]

Hope all goes well big man!

[mmorton]

I'm here for you brother as I'm going thru the same thing right now as you know.

Do what's best for you and your daughter and stay sharp. It's a harsh reality but you have to look out for you right now

[Anthony21]

Sorry to hear about all the stuff still going on Ant , like Ken said, if you need to vent and blow off steam I'm always around in PMs. My girl and I have been together a long time and we've had some rough patches, including 6months where we literally seperated, didn't talk, I moved 700 miles away, and after that time she came back to me, feeling better, stronger and more in love. So I 100% know what you're going through.

good lifts on Friday though. Don't sweat skipping the rows, sometimes that **** happens.

Sorry to hear about the stress with the relationship AC. Let the iron be your release from all the BS. You got my contact info if you need to talk man. My brother is divorced so I know how tough that can be

Sorry about the rough patch Anthony, but I'm glad you guys are going to look into counseling to sort things out!

Keep using the gym as an outlet though if you're feeling frustrated/down!

Hope everything works out for the best man...

counseling worked wonders for a couple that we are very close too, and they had some major, major issues and now its a few years later and they are still together. still rough going but they are pulling it off for their daughter. worth a shot.

Sorry to hear about the ongoing marriage problems bro. Keep your head up

Really good work on your MC workouts tho man! Glad your kicking ass still!

Sorry about your luck dude. Hope it all plays out in the end. I know I've danced that line with my wife a couple times. The one thing I've learned is its almost always a communications break down. Usually one or both parties are assuming something that simply isnt true. You really have to lock on communication or everything falls apart.

That being said, protect your interests with your daughter. If things get ugly its always someones last ditch move to go for the throat. No one wants to see that happen so no one expects it. Until its to late and they've already made their move

Hey man sorry to hear about your troubles. It doesnt seem like it now but you will most likely emerge a stronger minded person after all this is over. Stay strong.

Hope all goes well big man!

I'm here for you brother as I'm going thru the same thing right now as you know.

Do what's best for you and your daughter and stay sharp. It's a harsh reality but you have to look out for you right now

I really appreciate all the kind words and can't express how much this log has meant to me due to you good bros. Thanks a lot for everything. I think things are going good. Me and Diana (my wife) have been talking and she has moved back in. I'm going to counseling today to work on the issues I need to change as a man and we'll set something up for marriage counseling.

Family is the most important thing to me and i'm not going to lose it without any sort of fight.

I'm about to this the gym today for a killer workout. A lot of footage will be captured since I bought an iPod shuffle yesterday. I'm able to record more while still listening to my music.

[Stncldsnake]

So sorry to hear Ant, great work non the less and try to have a safe and Happy New Year bro, hit me up anytime you need to vent, been in these shoes bro!!

[ulsak]

I really appreciate all the kind words and can't express how much this log has meant to me due to you good bros. Thanks a lot for everything. I think things are going good. Me and Diana (my wife) have been talking and she has moved back in. I'm going to counseling today to work on the issues I need to change as a man and we'll set something up for marriage counseling.

Family is the most important thing to me and i'm not going to lose it without any sort of fight.

I'm about to this the gym today for a killer workout. A lot of footage will be captured since I bought an iPod shuffle yesterday. I'm able to record more while still listening to my music.

Whatever how it turns out you got my support, but it sounds promising

[The Big Sleep]

I really appreciate all the kind words and can't express how much this log has meant to me due to you good bros. Thanks a lot for everything. I think things are going good. Me and Diana (my wife) have been talking and she has moved back in. I'm going to counseling today to work on the issues I need to change as a man and we'll set something up for marriage counseling.

Family is the most important thing to me and i'm not going to lose it without any sort of fight.

I'm about to this the gym today for a killer workout. A lot of footage will be captured since I bought an iPod shuffle yesterday. I'm able to record more while still listening to my music.

"You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Anthony21 again."

Perseverance and resiliency--Let those traits define you man

[shoefanatic23]

I know I'm late on this, but sorry to hear about the personal issues going on man.

[Anthony21]

Thanks guys. I had my first day of counseling by myself and things went better then expected.

Today this morning was the start of Week 3, day 1 for me with MC. I had to end the new year with a bang and knock out a killer workout, well that definitely went down this morning.

Enough talking and let's get to the workout.

To all you guys who supported me, provided advice and support i'm forever in debt. THANK YOU

I'm wishing you all a Happy New Year and stay Strong(er)

12/31/12

Squat 5x5
135x5
170x5
200x5
235x5
270x5

Bench 5x5
100x5
130x5
155x5
180x5
205x5

Row 5x5
90x5
115x5
135x5
160x5
180x5
*Pendlay rows were supersetted with dips
Body weight dips
10, 10, 10, 10, 10

incline db curls
30x8, 30x8
Tricep push downs
90x15, 110x12, 110x8
*These two exercises were supersetted.