I have a real problem. I was a social setting today with some friends and lots of new people I didn't know and I spied this very solid 9/10 (face+body) checking me out. I looked away and then thought 'wut was she really checking me out' and looked back and she was still looking at me. This gave me a confidence boost but then she kept looking at me and this is where I have a problem. If a hot girl keeps staring at me it gives me anxiety, it's involuntary and I don't know how to control it. Heart starts racing, palms get a little sweaty, lose my train of thought... I basically turn into a beta.
This is a real problem and happens a lot.
The way around it is for me to approach them and break the ice before it reaches the awkward phase of catching a girl keeping on looking at me. But half the time it's not possible.
I totally blew it with the chick today, I think she could see I was getting a little flustered... I'll skip how it ended.
Anyway, input please.
07-11-2012, 03:25 PM #1
I get anxiety when hot girls keep staring at me - it's a problemPeople who rep me get ripped. Srs.
07-11-2012, 03:40 PM #2
if she was death staring your with a weird look or without ever turning away then I would probably feel awkward too...if you just often caught her staring at you then why not just stare back a bit and smile/smirk in a confident and cocky way as to say "busted, now do something about it woman"
if you don't have the balls to get up and go speak to her (imagine that feel if she was like 'wat? I was staring at that thing/bird/person right next/behind you'...lol), then turn it into a staring game and build up some tension until one of you decides to act on it.
do you have imperfect skin, not the best looking set of teeth, or goofy/big ears or something? maybe your natural reaction is to think they're staring at something on your face that you are self-conscious about and you automatically become uncomfortable?
07-11-2012, 04:04 PM #3
I'm not self conscious about my appearance. Not because I think I'm perfect or amazing but I'm at peace with my look and I do know I'm quite attractive to some women.
I just wish I could flick a switch and it would stop happening (me getting super awkward when a girl stares too much).People who rep me get ripped. Srs.
07-11-2012, 04:36 PM #4
bro, she was clearly just mirin! from your profile pic, you're killin it with the aesthetics (no homo), so I don't blame her for glancing over. The intensity of her staring is definitely a little off, but maybe thats just what she's like? just be confident knowing you look great, and approach the said bish and spark up some convo! you already know she's checking you out, go in and get some.
best of luck OPIF HARD WORK PAYS OFF THEN EASY WORK IS WORTHLESS.
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