Ask a guy whose fiancee left him 28 days before the wedding anything

[BeastMode101]

op i'm sorry to hear this. concentrate on your work and lifting, build your life and she'll be mirin. then blow her off. srs

she's probably getting smashed by that there "big____"

gl

here's some motivation



WATCH IT SRS

[Archangel_Lost]

gjdm, dodged a bullet instead of being locked down with that slew for life

[Mike1991]

Gotta look at this positively bro

-you had a great 7.5 years (I assume if you were getting married)
-she left you before you got married, huge bonus
-dont have a family yet so you arent splitting anything up

Fuk it. thats life, sh!t happens.. you will get over it.

[bbkonmai]

better than marry/divorcing and giving half your income to the bish. you lucked out, brah.

[DTRrex]

In my experience, some girls who constantly bug their boyfriends to marry them are the ones thinking of cheating. They met someone interesting, and do not want to mess up a good thing if her current boyfriend is going to marry them. By you saying you will never get married, that gave her incentive to look elsewhere for love, attention, affection, longevity. Once a girl's eyes start to wander, it's f*cking hard to get her to commit again the same way she did previously. The thought has already been planted in her head.





Ironically, I am sure my previous post is relevant to your situation, but you are in denial and disregard it in hopes that you/I am wrong. I know you feel it in your gut that she is seeing another man, however, right now you are too broken to admit it. Whatever the reason why she left you DOES NOT MATTER. I have no clue why you keep probing at it or pestering her to tell you why. Do you not realize you are showing weakness and she is getting less attracted to you every single time you contact her? DO you not realize that once she stops investing emotion, effort, time in you that the relationship is essentially over.. or at least you should treat it that way. If she wanted to work things through, she would have truthfully tell you what her concerns were and work things through like adults... however, she gave you the run around. She did this because she wants out of the relationship. Even if she tells you the truth, it is irrelevant if she no longer wants to be in the relationship. She no longer loves you the way she once did.

Let me tell you something, no women leaves a man who she truly loves....not even if you push her off the balcony. Why? Because women operate on emotion, not logic, and if she loves you she would travel across the world for you, but if her heart falters or weakens...(normally when another man is involved) the most important thing for you do is to reclaim the attraction you once had. She NEEDS to feel that you are powerful.. and in control of your life. All women wants to see their man's life fall apart without them...it makes them feel powerful, special, and meaningful. You take that away, and they crave for it, and come after you for validation. Right now by you crying, moping around the house, and waiting by the phone, you are essentially showing her that you need her desperately. Every women wants this, craves it... but ironically it makes them less and less attracted to you. Why? It's because behind every relationship is a power struggle. You as a man should maintain it at all times, somewhere in the relationship you lost it, thus is one of the main reasons why she left you.

Repped.

This is one of the more insightful and legit posts I've seen on the Misc lately. Especially the bolded. I know because I had to learn that the hard way. Everything you wrote is as true and reliable as the sun rising and setting.

I'm also grateful because you posted everything I wanted to say but saved me from writing the novel.

OP, read this post... then read it again. Then read it one last time for good measure.

[rammstein2k]

OP you should take this as a lesson and realize you cannot control another person's decisions. Don't get married ever. You are basically agreeing to having no control over your future.

[basoon12345]

In my experience, some girls who constantly bug their boyfriends to marry them are the ones thinking of cheating. They met someone interesting, and do not want to mess up a good thing if her current boyfriend is going to marry them. By you saying you will never get married, that gave her incentive to look elsewhere for love, attention, affection, longevity. Once a girl's eyes start to wander, it's f*cking hard to get her to commit again the same way she did previously. The thought has already been planted in her head.





Ironically, I am sure my previous post is relevant to your situation, but you are in denial and disregard it in hopes that you/I am wrong. I know you feel it in your gut that she is seeing another man, however, right now you are too broken to admit it. Whatever the reason why she left you DOES NOT MATTER. I have no clue why you keep probing at it or pestering her to tell you why. Do you not realize you are showing weakness and she is getting less attracted to you every single time you contact her? DO you not realize that once she stops investing emotion, effort, time in you that the relationship is essentially over.. or at least you should treat it that way. If she wanted to work things through, she would have truthfully tell you what her concerns were and work things through like adults... however, she gave you the run around. She did this because she wants out of the relationship. Even if she tells you the truth, it is irrelevant if she no longer wants to be in the relationship. She no longer loves you the way she once did.

Let me tell you something, no women leaves a man who she truly loves....not even if you push her off the balcony. Why? Because women operate on emotion, not logic, and if she loves you she would travel across the world for you, but if her heart falters or weakens...(normally when another man is involved) the most important thing for you do is to reclaim the attraction you once had. She NEEDS to feel that you are powerful.. and in control of your life. All women wants to see their man's life fall apart without them...it makes them feel powerful, special, and meaningful. You take that away, and they crave for it, and come after you for validation. Right now by you crying, moping around the house, and waiting by the phone, you are essentially showing her that you need her desperately. Every women wants this, craves it... but ironically it makes them less and less attracted to you. Why? It's because behind every relationship is a power struggle. You as a man should maintain it at all times, somewhere in the relationship you lost it, thus is one of the main reasons why she left you.

How does a girl that bug their boyfriend about marriage indicate sign of cheating?

[Comstarr]

Cliffs:
- Dated for 7.5 yrs
- we moved to ATL from upstate NY for my job over a yr ago
- work has had me all over world in the last 2 years and I think thats making her upset w/ no support network
- she left on friday night after giving me about 20 different reasons why she needed to go to New Orleans to "think"
- she's flying to boston tomorrow to see her brother
- she pretty much wont talk to me, keeps saying she needs space to think
- wedding date is 23 days from today, still have not called it off

shes not seeing her brother bro, she's comin to the 617 to let me clap dem cheeks sorry brah

[soflalivin]

Honestly, if she is not sure and needs time to "think" with less than a month to go, it might be best to call off the wedding.

[daitrong]

Updates?

[dhillon11]

maximus decimus meridius

[MrAWatts]

Go..

Sorry op, I'd be absolutely devastated. Hope you twomcan sort it out.

[JmoFinD]

Tell her you guys are through and turn the wedding into an epic party for you and your friends.

Initially, the dude from the venu told us we couldnt get our money back so I was going to throw a rager, dude ended up giving us 50% of money paid minus the deposit

[JmoFinD]

Hey guys

Lastest updates

- called off the wedding
- decided that we needed to split
- moved in w/ a couple of friends in Sandy Springs, GA
- she is still in Nola with her girlfriend
- she had the balls to call me and ask me to pay part of her rent for July because she couldnt afford it lol, I couldnt believe her balls by calling and asking me this..I'm literally lol'n as i write this
- took a week off from work but am back on my grind and ready to get focused
- joined a new gym closer to my place and am rdy to get back on that grind too
- decided that I already paid for the honeymoon to the Dominican Republic and I will be going, taking my brother instead of ex
- a girl that my ex hates texted me this week asking if we can hang out when I get back to NY next weekend for a couple of weeks
- still feeling pretty down but confidence is slowly coming back, I dont need to get bombed every night to sleep anymore

[CarlitosBX]

Hey guys

Lastest updates

- called off the wedding
- decided that we needed to split
- moved in w/ a couple of friends in Sandy Springs, GA
- she is still in Nola with her girlfriend
- she had the balls to call me and ask me to pay part of her rent for July because she couldnt afford it lol, I couldnt believe her balls by calling and asking me this..I'm literally lol'n as i write this
- took a week off from work but am back on my grind and ready to get focused
- joined a new gym closer to my place and am rdy to get back on that grind too
- decided that I already paid for the honeymoon to the Dominican Republic and I will be going, taking my brother instead of ex
- a girl that my ex hates texted me this week asking if we can hang out when I get back to NY next weekend for a couple of weeks
- still feeling pretty down but confidence is slowly coming back, I dont need to get bombed every night to sleep anymore

Sandy Springs is a decent place tons of money ballers rolling around in nice cars over there especially around buckhead lol
I told you man she wasn't worth it, after her calling for you to pay for her chit thats fking hilarious


Just phuck around with chicks man confidence will come back in no time!

[QuickNutkus]

Hey guys

Lastest updates

- called off the wedding
- decided that we needed to split
- moved in w/ a couple of friends in Sandy Springs, GA
- she is still in Nola with her girlfriend
- she had the balls to call me and ask me to pay part of her rent for July because she couldnt afford it lol, I couldnt believe her balls by calling and asking me this..I'm literally lol'n as i write this
- took a week off from work but am back on my grind and ready to get focused
- joined a new gym closer to my place and am rdy to get back on that grind too
- decided that I already paid for the honeymoon to the Dominican Republic and I will be going, taking my brother instead of ex
- a girl that my ex hates texted me this week asking if we can hang out when I get back to NY next weekend for a couple of weeks
- still feeling pretty down but confidence is slowly coming back, I dont need to get bombed every night to sleep anymore

Good for you bro. Seriously I'm actually happy seeing this working out for you. Fuk sloots. And lol at her asking you for rent money after what she did. She's gonna find out really quickly she made the biggest mistake of her life, and your life is only going to get better. Reps.

[JmoFinD]

Good for you bro. Seriously I'm actually happy seeing this working out for you. Fuk sloots. And lol at her asking you for rent money after what she did. She's gonna find out really quickly she made the biggest mistake of her life, and your life is only going to get better. Reps.

Thanks bro, she actually got made at me for not giving her money lol. I've literally taken care of her for the last 3 years, I've paid every bill so that she could focus on getting her masters. Oh well, you live and you learn I guess

[pharmer_john]

Ex has money to go to NOLA but no rent money?
You should feel relieved that she's gone because it would only get worse.

[BadaBingBdaBoom]

came in thread sad for OP remembering this thread from a couple weeks ago....


left a happy camper

[Metalhead44]

Not sure how seriously you'll take advice from a 18 year old,but i hope you can gather the strength to move on with your life without becoming bitter.Tbh if something like this happened to me,i'd probably swear off women forever and live as a hermit.

[JmoFinD]

Ex has money to go to NOLA but no rent money?
You should feel relieved that she's gone because it would only get worse.

Same exact thing I said to her

[JmoFinD]

Not sure how seriously you'll take advice from a 18 year old,but i hope you can gather the strength to move on with your life without becoming bitter.Tbh if something like this happened to me,i'd probably swear off women forever and live as a hermit.

Not really looking for advice but it does feel better to get some of this off my chest

[Archangel_Lost]

Same exact thing I said to her

so, just to be clear here, you didn't give her any money, right?

[Hallowed666]

Hey guys

Lastest updates

- called off the wedding
- decided that we needed to split
- moved in w/ a couple of friends in Sandy Springs, GA
- she is still in Nola with her girlfriend
- she had the balls to call me and ask me to pay part of her rent for July because she couldnt afford it lol, I couldnt believe her balls by calling and asking me this..I'm literally lol'n as i write this
- took a week off from work but am back on my grind and ready to get focused
- joined a new gym closer to my place and am rdy to get back on that grind too
- decided that I already paid for the honeymoon to the Dominican Republic and I will be going, taking my brother instead of ex
- a girl that my ex hates texted me this week asking if we can hang out when I get back to NY next weekend for a couple of weeks
- still feeling pretty down but confidence is slowly coming back, I dont need to get bombed every night to sleep anymore

Wow gjop. I think now you're ready for the horrible cliche "everything happens for a reason.". Do work, keep moving forward and there is something so much better in store for you. Truth.

[JmoFinD]

so, just to be clear here, you didn't give her any money, right?

Absolutely not

[JmoFinD]

Wow gjop. I think now you're ready for the horrible cliche "everything happens for a reason.". Do work, keep moving forward and there is something so much better in store for you. Truth.

Thanks, its tough but I know moving on is the right thing. Nice avi ;-)

[xVERITAS]

she probably just wants to hop on dat BBsea one last time before she ties the knottt, gnome sayin?

[m323]

have her get rent money from that Nawlin's *** she was gettting while making her mind up.

F her, seriously.

U got lucky that she spoke up, and lucky she didnt change her mind back. Your marriage would have been full of fights with her blaming you because you convinced her to come back and get married, when she thought it was wrong choice.

dont give her a dollar, cut off all support lines to her, delete from fb, dont talk to her friends that are around

[JmoFinD]

have her get rent money from that Nawlin's *** she was gettting while making her mind up.

F her, seriously.

U got lucky that she spoke up, and lucky she didnt change her mind back. Your marriage would have been full of fights with her blaming you because you convinced her to come back and get married, when she thought it was wrong choice.

dont give her a dollar, cut off all support lines to her, delete from fb, dont talk to her friends that are around

Right on lots of points, I've unsubscribed to her fb updates and have debated deleting her as a friend

[CarlitosBX]

Right on lots of points, I've unsubscribed to her fb updates and have debated deleting her as a friend

If you don't delete her you not moving on Broski you got my PM replied?