First post will be about my story, second will be about general info about no fap. Will happily answer questions.
My story and placebo experiment
You can skip this if you want but I wanted to include it in just in case you're thinking why I'm trying so hard to tell you how bad it is. Second part of this section will be about an experience I did on a friend that imo further proves that this isn't placebo.
Five months ago I was your typical miscer. I'm an intelligent person (imo) but I never applied myself in anything. I bullsht my way through HS with the minimum amount of work required and went to a top uni. First year of uni I failed. This wasn't school anymore, you had to actually work to achieve anything and I had NO motivation at all to do so. It wasn't as if I was partying and socialising either. I was literally doing sht all, just sitting in my room watching movies, browsing the internet and fapping at least once, sometimes twice a day. I had a gym member but could never be bothered to go to, ate junk food because it was too much effort to cook real food, missed all my lectures even though they were a 30 seconds walk away. I couldn't even be bothered to speak to girls because none of them looked good enough to me unless they were 10/10, in which case they wouldn't even look at me. Porn raised my expectations to a ridiculous level. Who looks like Kayden Kross, Jynx Maze or Tori Black irl? Not many girls.
After I failed I got incredibly depressed. In my mind I hated the fact that I didn't try hard enough but my body just couldn't be bothered to put any effort in. I went to a doctor to see if there was anything wrong with my hormone levels but nothing, test was normal and estrogen was low. I just couldn't put a finger on why me, at one time the most active kid who had a strong desire to achieve something in life, was now just happy to sit back and watch life pass him by.
Around this point I legit considered taking my life. It was Christmas time 2011 and I was going to do it after the holidays, so that I wouldn't ruin Christmas for my family for the rest of their lives. In the meantime, I just gave up everything and started miscing a lot (this isn't my account btw. I have 20k posts on other account). One day I stumbled across the No Fap to end all No Fap threads. I read a bit of it and my jaw just dropped open at how ALL of the symptoms in that post matched me to a FUKIN Z. I was shocked because at this point I was fapping twice a day and never even considered that this could be the root of all my problems. I tried changing everything earlier except this and my situation didn't change, so this could be the only thing, right? But I didn't believe it. I was sure that I was fuked in the head and everyone experiencing those changes were just having a placebo effect. Part of the reason for that was because so many miscers were posting saying how it doesn't work.
Anyway, I reluctantly went on no fap to see if anything changes. First day of no fap, I failed. Second try, I managed about 3 days then failed because of a hnnnng thread on the misct. Third try, managed a week then failed. Fourth try, failed after 2 days.
At this point I re-read that thread and saw the addiction part and saying how bad it can be. I couldn't believe how hard it was to stop and I finally admitted to myself that I was addicted. I was still skeptical about those changes that people experienced but decided to fuk it and went to extreme measures to cut down all exposure to porn or anything that might trigger me to fap (more on this later). A week went by and I didn't feel any different. Two weeks went by and still nothing. At this point I was about to give up because people were commenting how they noticed a difference as soon as 3 days but some people on the misc persuaded me to continue for a bit longer.
During the third week is when I started to see something. Midway through the week I noticed that as I was effortlessly talking to people without giving it much though. I was having random chats with everyone about stuff that I wouldn't know what to say about before. In the supermarket, I was talking to the cashiers, people around me if the opportunity came, without any hesitation or uncomfort. During the fourth week I woke up one day feeling extremely confident. I felt like I was worth something, if you know what I mean. I thought about how good my life was (note that 4 weeks earlier I wanted to kill myself) and all of my good qualities, and around this point I thought about all the insecurities I used to have and how I was dramatizing them 10x while no one around me gave a sht. Two months in these effects kept on increasing but I then started getting random boners. Girls looked really nice, I loved having intellectual conversations about anything with anyone. Then one day I woke up feeling like a completely different person. All this confidence, everything, it felt like I was on the next level of it. I thought about how I wouldn't want to be anyone else in the world right now. My future was looking bright (i.e. instead of thinking I failed first year of uni, I thought about how this was an important lesson that I learned early) and I was just putting a positive spin on everything in life. My voice got deeper, people were respecting me more, I didn't take sht from anyone (response came naturally), I got funnier, had the ability to talk confidently.
5 months in and when I think back to how I was I want to slap myself for being that pathetic. That's how much my life changed. Near the end of the fourth month I had a chance to fuk a 8/10 sloot and came within 5 minutes of doing it but then I had an epiphany. I didn't want to fuk a random bish that dozens of men have jizzed in. I didn't give a sht about 5 seconds of pleasure a day from fapping. All that sexual energy I had in me was being put into my life in a positive way. I was more productive in school, more aggressive in the gym, sharper in life generally. This is when I decided that I wouldn't have sex again until marriage but if your goal is to fuk women, trust me they start to notice you a lot more.
Ok so I'm getting kind of tired of writing so I'm gonna try and finish this quickly.
About 3 weeks ago my brah had a fire at his house and had to come live with me while insurance took care of it. I've known this guy since we were 5 and we've been through a lot of sht together. Not tryna sound like a bish but he's one of the few people I trust and tell everything and he does too. I knew he was a regular fapper because we openly used to talk about pornstars and the best porn sites, etc.
When he came to live with me by chance my internet ran out and as I was about to renew it I had an idea. I knew he fapped and I wanted to prove to myself that what I was experiencing wasn't a placebo effect. So I didn't renew the internet and told him that they took the service out from our area so he couldn't fap. He had nowhere else to go during the day as we went gym together, hung out with other friends together, and then came home together so I knew he wasn't fapping.
This guy is very, very shy. He has literally no confidence even though he has a better physique than me and good facial aesthetics too. For the next 3 weeks I saw this guy transform from a little pussy who couldn't stand up for himself whenever anyone made a joke about him to a guy who knew he was the sht. He literally transformed in front of me. Before everytime you spoke to him it felt a bit awkward because he wouldn't know how to take the conversation forward. Everytime I called him to tell him to come out he'd say he was too busy, when all he was doing was sitting home home watching tv.
He started becoming so much more social. Idk if this is even possible but he went from being someone who acted like he had no knowledge of anything to holding intelligent conversations with everyone.
This proved to me that this isn't a placebo effect and this is partly the reason I spent so much time writing this thread.