I PREFER guys who have been in love previously, what about you?

[Imonlydancing]

If a guy has never been in love or a relationship then I try my best to avoid having a relationship with him because someone who has never been in love before tends to become quite clingy, a little too soppy and OBLIVIOUS as soon as they fall in love especially if it's their FIRST. So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'. I don't specifically mean a lonely virgin (no offense intended) but also guys who have dated a lot of girls and have never actually had a relationship or been in 'love'.

I prefer someone who's been in love, may have been heartbroken (in the past) and is over it or a mutual break up, doesn't dwell on the past and knows that the future is great etc instead of someone who's not experienced any of that. I guess i can relate to someone better and that we'd probably be in a similar stage in life. This might sound quite harsh but I do think people who haven't already experienced this are so naive and gullible in that aspect regardless of age, until they've experienced it.

does or did anyone else share this view?

I can pretty much guess what most of my friends would say.

[ryigan12]

have you been hanging with my ex gf? wow. She said this exact **** last night when she dumped me. Granted, I have been in love before her, and was heartbroken. But She still called me in experienced.

[akazid]

If a guy has never been in love or a relationship then I try my best to avoid having a relationship with him because someone who has never been in love before tends to become quite clingy, a little too soppy and OBLIVIOUS as soon as they fall in love especially if it's their FIRST. So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'. I don't specifically mean a lonely virgin but also guys who have dated a lot of girls and have never actually had a relationship or been in 'love'.

I prefer someone who's been in love, may have been heartbroken (in the past) and is over it or a mutual break up, doesn't dwell on the past and knows that the future is great etc instead of someone who's not experienced any of that. I guess i can relate to someone better and that we'd probably be in a similar stage in life. This might sound quite harsh but I do think people who haven't already experienced this are so naive and gullible in that aspect regardless of age, until they've experienced it.

does or did anyone else share this view?

I can pretty much guess what most of my friends would say.

Whether someone hasn't or has been in love doesn't make them more or less clingy. That's just naive.

I know plenty people who are the most non-clingy people surrounded by tons of other people. If they haven't formed relationships it's becuase they've possibly never pursued one. They have their own habits. These people won't, in any way, be "clingy" and people just become disinterested in relationships with them becuse they don't "cling". They have other stuff to do.

Can think of 2-3 people I know who are like this. Very successfull job wise and extremely independent. Little, if any, relationship experience and the least likely people to be clingy.

If you want to find out if someone is clingy or not don't jump into bed with them first thing. Get to know them. If they become obsessive/clingy before a relationship just drop them. A simple clingy-ness filter.

[UkraineFatty]

[JtotheIzzo]

Whether someone hasn't or has been in love doesn't make them more or less clingy. That's just naive.

I know plenty people who are the most non-clingy people surrounded by tons of other people. If they haven't formed relationships it's becuase they've possibly never pursued one or have so have their own habits that don't make them "clingy" and people just become disinterested in relationships with them.

Can think of 2-3 people I know who are like this. Very successfull job wise and extremely independent. Little, if any, relationship experience and the least likely people to be clingy.

If you want to find out if someone is clingy or not don't jump into bed with them first thing. Get to know them. If they become obsessive/clingy before a relationship just drop them. A simple clingy-ness filter.

The 2-3 people that you know are very successful and independent, how did they become like that? I am in college and want to become very successful job wise.

[soliduparrow]

i aint into dudes

[iamdetermined]

At least you know they'll love you with all your heart, wont do you wrong, etc. Someone who's been in a relationship will be thinking about their ex/ exes all the time and is more likely to cheat or dump you in a horrible fashion. I dont see why girls put so much emphasis on having "experienced" guys....its no mystery that there are so many foreveralone virgins if no girl wants to be their first

[RobertPlant]

thats why players play and guys like the one above me sit on the bench

[kkennedy91]

If a guy has never been in love or a relationship then I try my best to avoid having a relationship with him because someone who has never been in love before tends to become quite clingy, a little too soppy and OBLIVIOUS as soon as they fall in love especially if it's their FIRST. So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'. I don't specifically mean a lonely virgin (no offense intended) but also guys who have dated a lot of girls and have never actually had a relationship or been in 'love'.

I prefer someone who's been in love, may have been heartbroken (in the past) and is over it or a mutual break up, doesn't dwell on the past and knows that the future is great etc instead of someone who's not experienced any of that. I guess i can relate to someone better and that we'd probably be in a similar stage in life. This might sound quite harsh but I do think people who haven't already experienced this are so naive and gullible in that aspect regardless of age, until they've experienced it.

does or did anyone else share this view?

I can pretty much guess what most of my friends would say.

Not all people who fall in love for the first time are naive and gullible. I fell in love recently with my current Gf about 3 months ago. Im not naive or gullible, partly because of this place tbh. I know there is potential for heart break and im accepting of that. Relationships are what you put into them. Its not all rainbows and unicorns lol. I know that guys like me are hard to come by and that I will find someone/ maybe did find someone. Im not going to die alone or anything stupid like that lol.

You're making assumptions about people and generalizing that all people who fall in love for the first time are love struck morons. We aren't. I waited around for a girl who fit my ideals. I found that. But I know she isn't perfect. But I look past all the flaws and find them charming and what makes her, her.

As for the clingyness, ya I wanna spend time with her but I know that she needs to do her own thing. Like I said not everyone is oblivious. Or soppy.

[justins1983]

So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'.

I prefer someone who ... doesn't dwell on the past.


So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'.

I prefer someone who ... doesn't dwell on the past.


So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'.

I prefer someone who ... doesn't dwell on the past.


So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'.

I prefer someone who ... doesn't dwell on the past.


So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'.

I prefer someone who ... doesn't dwell on the past.

bitches be crazy

[Imonlydancing]

have you been hanging with my ex gf? wow. She said this exact **** last night when she dumped me. Granted, I have been in love before her, and was heartbroken. But She still called me in experienced.

Maybe she's implying that you're not experienced enough for her or immature??

I don't know but my view on a person does change as soon as i hear that they've never had a gf or have never been in love before. I start to proceed with care and make sure I don't get too involved. Even if they're really confident, charming and have dated girls before i think it's a downfall as soon as they fall in 'love' and want a relationship.

I guess this is just from my experience though.

[manletgenetics]

sloots gonna sloot.

[Aisha11]

Age: 21. You don't even know what love is yet. No one in this age group does. Stop being such a presumptuous ****.

[Dave P]

Age: 21. .

This is what my gut reaction was when I read this thread.



5 years from now you will laugh at yourself for making a thread like this.

[Imonlydancing]

Age: 21. You don't even know what love is yet. No one in this age group does. Stop being such a presumptuous ****.

If I don’t know what love is (which I think I do have a good understanding and know I yet a lot to learn) then at least I’ve witnessed it many times with the elderly people :P




Plus it’s why I’ve typed love as “love”

sloots gonna sloot.

Please expand…



or fix up something coherent so I know why you think what you think.


x

[Imonlydancing]

This is what my gut reaction was when I read this thread.



5 years from now you will laugh at yourself for making a thread like this.

Yes and I’ll probably laugh at what I think in 5 years after another 10 years etc

It still doesn't change my view :S

[kickblake]

If a guy has never been in love or a relationship then I try my best to avoid having a relationship with him because someone who has never been in love before tends to become quite clingy, a little too soppy and OBLIVIOUS as soon as they fall in love especially if it's their FIRST. So i've LEARNT to avoid it being someone's first 'love'. I don't specifically mean a lonely virgin (no offense intended) but also guys who have dated a lot of girls and have never actually had a relationship or been in 'love'.

I prefer someone who's been in love, may have been heartbroken (in the past) and is over it or a mutual break up, doesn't dwell on the past and knows that the future is great etc instead of someone who's not experienced any of that. I guess i can relate to someone better and that we'd probably be in a similar stage in life. This might sound quite harsh but I do think people who haven't already experienced this are so naive and gullible in that aspect regardless of age, until they've experienced it.

does or did anyone else share this view?

I can pretty much guess what most of my friends would say.

This sounds to me like a projection of your own intimacy issues onto the guys you date.

[Imonlydancing]

This sounds to me like a projection of your own intimacy issues onto the guys you date.

I doubt it, because everything is fine up until someone says the part where they've never had an actual gf.

[NyC_BosaNaC]

love doesn't exist, just a bunch of chemical reactions and society pressure....lol at OP

[Aisha11]

If I don’t know what love is (which I think I do have a good understanding and know I yet a lot to learn) then at least I’ve witnessed it many times with the elderly people :P

Derp I've seen other people other people in love therefore I know what it's like to be in love. Jesus christ, shut the **** up.

What you want is someone that knows how to conduct themselves properly in a relationship. Not one that knows what love is. They aren't inclusive, and even then it's still a ****ing moronic view to hold all things considered.

[Spartaperez]

I thought I was in love..then I realized I just love to fukc

[MorbidAngel15]

what an awful thread and then people wonder why so many guys are forever alone



OP is a retard

[iamdetermined]

I doubt it, because everything is fine up until the part where they've found out how many guys i've slept with.

Fixed

[Molec]

OP thinks its a given that someone is gonna fall in love with her and she is worried they might get too clingy, etc.

OP...get over yourself

[Brahseph]

at least I’ve witnessed it many times with the elderly people :P

You literally know not one thing about another couples relationship. Dont act like watching a couple gives you insight on their connection/love/devotion/need for each other. It also doesnt give you insight on the issues in the relationship.

[nzgs]

I don't believe in love; silly feminine concept. Traits like loyalty and compatibility don't have anything to do with experience.

[MorbidAngel15]

You literally know not one thing about another couples relationship. Dont act like watching a couple gives you insight on their connection/love/devotion/need for each other. It also doesnt give you insight on the issues in the relationship.

yea OP is definitely a retard, no doubt about it now

[Gallowglass]

OP isn't going to get much sympathy here...

But to be honest I don't really mind about things like this. If you like someone, OP, and you enjoy spending time with them, don't write them off because no-one else shares your opinion. If you approach new situations and people with a checklist mentality, sure, you'll get (if you're lucky), everything you wanted on your checklist. That makes for a secure way of life, but also a bland one, with no surprises, no risks, and no rewards. If you're willing to trade your happiness for security, you'll get neither.

[Brahseph]

OP isn't going to get much sympathy here...

But to be honest I don't really mind about things like this. If you like someone, OP, and you enjoy spending time with them, don't write them off because no-one else shares your opinion? If you approach new situations and people with a checklist mentality, you'll quickly get frustated. People and things do not work like that.

This is pretty much how everyone should live. If someone makes you happy..... why the fck would you write them off for something that is so childish.

[LikeAMachine]

I agree OP, anyone who hasn�t experienced a real love and a real relationship doesn�t even know what the fkc they are looking for to begin with.

For example:

This I guy I work with, he wifed up the first girl who fcked him on the regular. Had a kid, a horrible divorce etc. etc.


What did he do?

He got a serious girlfriend�the first girl who would bang him�..W�..T�.F man

I don�t even