What should I get my bf for his b-day? HELP!

[bysam]

Okay I think the female misc will have better ideas than the other misc so this is why I'm asking.
I really love him and we have been together a little more than 7 months and this time I want to give him something really special. I mean I have given him material presents like clothes and stuff but I want to do something more special for him.

When I say special though I don't mean anything sexual. We did that once and since then decided to wait till we get married or at least I have decided to wait till I get married. I know people have their different opinions and whatnot on that matter but that's besides the point lol

I willing to spend up to $700 but after that I'm broke. I don't mind spending money on him but is there a way to spend money on him without getting material things? Maybe a vacation but is $700 enough?

I really need help!

[bysam]

Im not very romantic so this is important to me

[wakechica]

$700? You want to spend up to $700 on a 7 month relationship? Seriously, I wouldn't spend that much money on my boyfriend of 2 years. I'd rather make his day special for him. What does he like? Enjoy doing etc.? That should give you some ideas.

Just my thoughts. I might be wrong and it's normal to spend 100s of dollars on the other half but I don't even have 700 to spend!

[Shazamalopolis]

I agree with wakechica, that's way too much money to spend on such a young relationship. Just make the day all about him. Cook for him. Give him a massage. Blow him (vulgar I know). Buy him a small gift of something he likes. Baseball hat of his favorite team, etc etc. Men really aren't too hard to understand. Try something new and unexpected in bed. Initiate it as well. He won't even care if you got him a gift.

[Kemo1990]

no....im pretty sure that you decided not to have sex....if not he might be a closet homosexual. <--- im justa saiyin
give him a watch or something

[latebloomingmom]

is there an activity that you both would enjoy doing together as a couple (non-sexual in nature)?
backpacking? golfing? . Are there any festivals or events in your area around his birthday? how about a music concert? a really nice dinner?

[RoccoTanno123]

You're 19 and will spend $700 on a 7 month relationship but won't do sexual stuff? Strong priorities. btw, whoever said you decided, not to have sex, not him, unless he's gay or just not sexually attracted to you, is completely spot on.

[IdaVictoria]

Look around for those experience gifts! Bungee jumps, super car track driving, mountain climbing, hang gliding or something like that..

http://www.xperiencedays.com/

[PervedOut]

I came in to say get him a gym membership, but realized that would probably give mixed signals lol

[hypesdown]

700$ Got damn. And you're 19?

He must be good in bed?

When will it be mine turn

[UnaChispita]

Girl,

Don't second guess your decision to be abstinent just b/c these boys are teasing you! If you decided it wasn't the right time, that shows maturity. And I know why you shared that info; b/c you knew what types of responses you were likely to get.

I'm with wakechica and LBM on this one.

Here is one thing I did for the man I was involved with for a long time:

When I realized I was in love with him, I starting making a numbered list of all the reasons I loved him. After that, I kept the list in my purse and would add to the list when something struck me. When we were together--in the car, whatever, I'd have him pick a number and I'd read off whichever that was. He liked it. So, do something thoughtful like that.

The longer I live, the more I realize that the material objects we buy for others are really unimportant. It is the effort, time and appreciation we show those we care about that truly matter.

Just my .02

[Keltron]

We know nothing about the guy so it's hard to say exactly but I personally would love a box dvd set of cool discovery, history channel series like Barbarians Week, Deadliest Warrior, stuff about weapons and warefare, etc.

Im not that much of a sports guy unless it's a 49ers game, olympic lifting meet or a boxing/mma match.


Whatever you decide on, have a $70 cap, not a $700 one. Don't spend your hard earned money on someone you've only known for 7months. You worked for it, you earned it, spend it on yourself.

[WinSauce]

I don't mean anything sexual. We did that once and since then decided to wait till we get married or at least I have decided to wait till I get married. I know people have their different opinions and whatnot on that matter but that's besides the point lol

LMAO was it that bad? ilulzsohard

Hey you should get him a couple of nights of stay in Vegas...for ONE if your not gonna have sex with the poor guy lol. Or you could introduce him to one of your hot friends FO FREE, maybe shell actually put out lol.

[mrshester]

I like Keltron's ideas. I have never had that much money to just freely spend on a bday gift, and I think I'd probably stroke if hubs spent that on me at one time, and we've been married almost 7 years now, lol. He really loved the boxed DVD sets I have bought him, and its something he can still enjoy today. Maybe something similar and a nice dinner (his choice)? Save the money and put some away to grow and if you're still together when you get married and are still saving yourselves, get some damn sexy lingerie

[Jeff203]

sex is free....just sayin'

oh, and most guys like it.



edit: fawk just read that whole waiting till marriage thing.....the next best option is to take him to Friendly's for a happy ending.

[Artistry]

It's a little depressing that so many people are so against waiting to have sex (although, I will admit that dabbling and then deciding to be abstinent is confusing...).

Anyway. If you don't cook for him on a regular basis, which I'm guessing is the case, I actually think that would be a really good, personal gift. Make all of his favorite things and show that you're really paying attention to him instead of going on a spending spree. Honestly, if someone in a relationship of only seven months spent that much money on me, I'd flip out a bit. Throwing buckets of money at someone is easy, and it rarely translates to actual affection.

Again. Seven months. Not even a whole year. Holy crap, woman, dial it back a bit...

[UnaChispita]

sex is free....just sayin'

oh, and most guys like it.



edit: fawk just read that whole waiting till marriage thing.....the next best option is to take him to Friendly's for a happy ending.

Do I want to know what "taking him to Friendly's" means? Wait...yes, I do.

It's a little depressing that so many people are so against waiting to have sex (although, I will admit that dabbling and then deciding to be abstinent is confusing...).

Anyway. If you don't cook for him on a regular basis, which I'm guessing is the case, I actually think that would be a really good, personal gift. Make all of his favorite things and show that you're really paying attention to him instead of going on a spending spree. Honestly, if someone in a relationship of only seven months spent that much money on me, I'd flip out a bit. Throwing buckets of money at someone is easy, and it rarely translates to actual affection.

Again. Seven months. Not even a whole year. Holy crap, woman, dial it back a bit...

Damn...How'd you get so wise at the ripe old age of 22? Impressive! Wish I knew at that age what you figured out.

You are a smart woman.

[Fozzy13]

Is he muslim? If so then do not get him pork!! srs.


but one idea safe, even if he is muslim is to go skydiving. that is all

[latebloomingmom]

Depending on the cultural/religious values of the OP...choices she makes with her own body are her's to make. This includes when or if she would like to do anything sexual in her relationship with her boyfriend. This is a decision they will make together as a couple. If she is honest about her feelings and he is honest about his..then they will figure this one out together...believe it or not young-ins there will be times in life when you are under doctor's orders to abstain

[Kemo1990]

It's a little depressing that so many people are so against waiting to have sex (although, I will admit that dabbling and then deciding to be abstinent is confusing...).

Anyway. If you don't cook for him on a regular basis, which I'm guessing is the case, I actually think that would be a really good, personal gift. Make all of his favorite things and show that you're really paying attention to him instead of going on a spending spree. Honestly, if someone in a relationship of only seven months spent that much money on me, I'd flip out a bit. Throwing buckets of money at someone is easy, and it rarely translates to actual affection.

Again. Seven months. Not even a whole year. Holy crap, woman, dial it back a bit...

this cooking is a good idea...unless you cant cook well...

[UnaChispita]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to latebloomingmom again.

[foxyfeline]

Is your boyfriend into sports? If so, maybe buy him a jersey of his fav team/player, or lottery tickets... oh wait, he already won the lottery didn't he!

Have a BBQ! Cook a steak dinner or something he likes for the two of you. You can always bake some special sweets too (maybe put his name on them with icing).

[bysam]

$700? You want to spend up to $700 on a 7 month relationship? Seriously, I wouldn't spend that much money on my boyfriend of 2 years. I'd rather make his day special for him. What does he like? Enjoy doing etc.? That should give you some ideas.

Just my thoughts. I might be wrong and it's normal to spend 100s of dollars on the other half but I don't even have 700 to spend!

Yeah I want to refrain from material objects but if I know there is something non materialisit then I'm willing to pay the money. By non materialistic I mean like flying lessons or football tickets something that's more of an experience

[bysam]

I agree with wakechica, that's way too much money to spend on such a young relationship. Just make the day all about him. Cook for him. Give him a massage. Blow him (vulgar I know). Buy him a small gift of something he likes. Baseball hat of his favorite team, etc etc. Men really aren't too hard to understand. Try something new and unexpected in bed. Initiate it as well. He won't even care if you got him a gift.

Yeah its a lot of money but his happiness is worth more to me than anything. Im willing to sped three money but it didn't necessarily mean I have to. But thanks cooking for him would be fun!!

[bysam]

is there an activity that you both would enjoy doing together as a couple (non-sexual in nature)?
backpacking? golfing? . Are there any festivals or events in your area around his birthday? how about a music concert? a really nice dinner?

I like the concert idea a lot but he is already planning on going to one a few days before his birthday. I mean I like doing a lot off things with him mostly because of the fact that I'm with him just makes everything fun

[bysam]

Look around for those experience gifts! Bungee jumps, super car track driving, mountain climbing, hang gliding or something like that..

http://www.xperiencedays.com/

Thanks for the link!!!

[lSOFit]

Girl,

Here is one thing I did for the man I was involved with for a long time:

When I realized I was in love with him, I starting making a numbered list of all the reasons I loved him. After that, I kept the list in my purse and would add to the list when something struck me. When we were together--in the car, whatever, I'd have him pick a number and I'd read off whichever that was. He liked it. So, do something thoughtful like that.

The longer I live, the more I realize that the material objects we buy for others are really unimportant. It is the effort, time and appreciation we show those we care about that truly matter.

Just my .02

Just wanted to say i did something very similar for my boyfriend, wrote down 101 reasons why i loved him and made a giant card with all the reasons written inside. he absolutely loved it. If you could make him something, that would mean alot more than spending $700 trust me.
I think a cheap vacation is a good idea, but i would try to find something other than a hotel, they arent romantic or private enough in my opinion.

[bysam]

Girl,

Don't second guess your decision to be abstinent just b/c these boys are teasing you! If you decided it wasn't the right time, that shows maturity. And I know why you shared that info; b/c you knew what types of responses you were likely to get.

I'm with wakechica and LBM on this one.

Here is one thing I did for the man I was involved with for a long time:

When I realized I was in love with him, I starting making a numbered list of all the reasons I loved him. After that, I kept the list in my purse and would add to the list when something struck me. When we were together--in the car, whatever, I'd have him pick a number and I'd read off whichever that was. He liked it. So, do something thoughtful like that.

The longer I live, the more I realize that the material objects we buy for others are really unimportant. It is the effort, time and appreciation we show those we care about that truly matter.

Just my .02

I'm willing to spend the money on something with purpose I don't necessarily have to spend that much but if I really know there is something that is special to him and will make him happy and be pricey then I'm just as willing as I am to do something that costs nothing. All I want is for it to be special thanks for your advice!!!
That's a really cute idea I have a compiled list if the things I live about him but it's not extensive. Thanks

[bysam]

I came in to say get him a gym membership, but realized that would probably give mixed signals lol

He already has one lol but yeah I see your point

[bysam]

Is he muslim? If so then do not get him pork!! srs.


but one idea safe, even if he is muslim is to go skydiving. that is all

He is not muslim but i am . . .