Dating acceptable age differences

[polishedball]

Just curious what everyone's thoughts are on what kinda age difference is acceptable in a relationship. I typically do not worry about it myself, but just found myself today not asking a person out as I thought they might be too young for me. I have since decided next time I run into her i'll ask anyhow as I don't worry about age and am not sure why I was reserved earlier. Most likely didn't want her thinking I was some sorta old creepy guy, but when we parted ways (mind you pretty much strangers) I got the have a goodnight and rub on the shoulder. I'll go with that too mean i'm not too creepy...

[GuyJin]

Is she over twenty? (Or whatever the age of consent is where you live). Do you like her and feel comfortable with her? (I'm not hinting at the wild mambo; I'm just saying do you like being around her). Do you see her as an emotionally mature lady? If so, ask her out. I'm about twelve years older than my wife; we started dating when she was twenty and I was thirty-two. No biggie, and there are others on the forum who have an even bigger gap in their ages for dating or marriage.

Aeneus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bottom line is if she's mature enough and if so, the age gap shouldn't be an issue.

[itsagoodday]

If you don't mind and she doesn't mind, it really shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. And there's only one way to find out what she thinks about it

[SP1966]

Well I don't ask out women who are closer to my daughters age then my own. Of course, given my wife for some reason sees no need for me to be dating, I don't actually ask anyone out. On the bright side, I haven't been turned down (by anyone other then my wife) in almost twenty years.

[2nd_chance]

I always heard half your age plus 5. So if you're 50 then 30. If you're 45 then 28.

[latebloomingmom]

I always heard half your age plus 5. So if you're 50 then 30. If you're 45 then 28.

this is the exact formula my son told me just the other day..but that would be let's see now...43 divided by 2..plus 5..good golly??whew way too young..

[BillReilly]

This is a great question. I guess the right answer is whatever works for you, but there has to be some guidelines. When I was in my early thirties I had a girl in her early twenties tell me I was way too old for her. It was a casual conversation and I was not actually interested in her. Ever since I've figured it was best to stay within my decade.

The thing is, I'm having a really tough time finding women in my age group that are not grannies. By that I mean they act like they are ready to retire. Maybe I'm immature or maybe women age faster, but I feel like a kid around women my age these days. There are some exceptions here and there, but I'm thinking they go away in the next decade.

[itsagoodday]

this is the exact formula my son told me just the other day..but that would be let's see now...43 divided by 2..plus 5..good golly??whew way too young..

And I'd be looking at 22 year olds. Oh, heck no. I'd have to start stalking them on college campuses.

[TenThreeFive]

Yup, over 25 if you are 40, anything under and it gets into the creep zone. (not to mention angry brothers, dad)

[latebloomingmom]

And I'd be looking at 22 year olds. Oh, heck no. I'd have to start stalking them on college campuses.

see? this is what I am saying..I am on a college campus everyday and those kids are just babies..

[mslman71]

And I'd be looking at 22 year olds. Oh, heck no. I'd have to start stalking them on college campuses.

[SP1966]

this is the exact formula my son told me just the other day..but that would be let's see now...43 divided by 2..plus 5..good golly??whew way too young..

Geez, thats the formula for men.

For women you use this formula: Take his total worth and subtract a percentage per child, on a sliding scale, lower the percentage as the number of children increases. Then subtract his age from that of the average life expectancy male of his background. Now multiply his remaining life expectancy by the average number of times per year you expect him to request kinky sex. Take that number, combined with whatever remaining assets left over after his children take their share and you have the ratio you're looking for. The lower the ratio the better the catch.

[itsagoodday]

I am on a college campus everyday and those kids are just babies..

I remember them more as drunk babies. Or maybe that was just me.

[latebloomingmom]

Geez, thats the formula for men.

For women you use this formula: Take his total worth and subtract a percentage per child, on a sliding scale, lower the percentage as the number of children increases. Then subtract his age from that of the average life expectancy male of his background. Now multiply his remaining life expectancy by the average number of times per year you expect him to request kinky sex. Take that number, combined with whatever remaining assets left over after his children take their share and you have the ratio you're looking for. The lower the ratio the better the catch.

what the?? thanks a lot now I got a headache...

[Corbi]

I was 29 and dating a 19 yr old, frickin drove me nuts too as I simply could not hold a conversation with her.

[SP1966]

what the?? thanks a lot now I got a headache...

Sorry, when you're shooting for a quality sugar Daddy headaches aren't an option!

[latebloomingmom]

I was 29 and dating a 19 yr old, frickin drove me nuts too as I simply could not hold a conversation with her.

sure ya can ...just use the word 'like' a lot
"like where do you want to eat?'
'like that teacher is such a drag'
I was gonna like pick ya up and take ya on a date but like man, I am so broke'

[SP1966]

I was 29 and dating a 19 yr old, frickin drove me nuts too as I simply could not hold a conversation with her.

Conversation? Not sure how that plays into it.

[latebloomingmom]

I remember them more as drunk babies. Or maybe that was just me.

well I dont know..I only see them walking past me in the daytime when they are supposed to be attending classes...

[Phattso]

I would hope that age would not make a difference, but I am afraid for some, it does.

[Inama]

In the last three years I dated a woman much older than me and then one much younger. I do think that age matters. It matters in the same way education, life experience and careers matter. These are not deciding factors, but any of them can ruin a relationship. I am happily now dating women within my age range (2-3 years either way).

[itsagoodday]

well I dont know..I only see them walking past me in the daytime when they are supposed to be attending classes...

Supposed to be. Heh. Sucker

[flairon]

I always heard it was 1/2 +7

I dunno, if they are over 18 and are mature enough to hold a decent conversation and are ok with your age...well i guess thats the age you can date. Its just not too often you're going to find that combination

[-=FLEX=-]

In the last three years I dated a woman much older than me and then one much younger. I do think that age matters. It matters in the same way education, life experience and careers matter. These are not deciding factors, but any of them can ruin a relationship. I am happily now dating women within my age range (2-3 years either way).

^^^ this.

I have dated women a lot younger and a bit older than me, but in the end I prefer women in my age group, but even then there are huge variations in compatibility.

My ex-wife was about 3 years younger than me and I felt like we grew up on different planets: nothing in common.

My current GF is about 2 years older than me and it's like we grew up together and are long-lost friends.

I'll take compatibility over any other trait/metric any day.

happy_as_hell/10

[SP1966]

^^^ this.

I have dated women a lot younger and a bit older than me, but in the end I prefer women in my age group, but even then there are huge variations in compatibility.

My ex-wife was about 3 years younger than me and I felt like we grew up on different planets: nothing in common.

My current GF is about 2 years older than me and it's like we grew up together and are long-lost friends.

I'll take compatibility over any other trait/metric any day.

happy_as_hell/10

Did you just out Lisa's age on a public forum?

[polishedball]

Did you just out Lisa's age on a public forum?

Well there was an "about" in there lol

[-=FLEX=-]

Did you just out Lisa's age on a public forum?

She has it in her profile so it's there in every one of her posts.

[Brackneyc]

I was 29 and dating a 19 yr old, frickin drove me nuts too as I simply could not hold a conversation with her.

Did you try texting her, or "friending" her on FB . LOL

[SP1966]

Well there was an "about" in there lol

Missed that!

She has it in her profile so it's there in every one of her posts.

Missed that too!

[Corbi]

Did you try texting her, or "friending" her on FB . LOL

I should try that, hell it's only been 20 yrs but I don't recall her last name?