why guys ignore girls in the gym?

[pasl]

Why do you guys ignore girls when you work out? What reason you have for it?
One guy in the gym one day say hi to me, other day completely ignore me. He is checking me out secretely, but as i look at him, he ignores me completely. When i come to him he is smiling and nice, but then other day he ignores me, but looking at me. I do not understand this at all...is it so hard to say just hi? He is always working out very seriously and never talks to anyone, so far i am the only one.
Any ideas? I like this guy, but when he ignores me, i think i bother him.
On the other side something is telling me, he is interested, but shy.

[xvicknumber7x]

He's in the zone, chief.

[Yankees11090]

we dont like to **** where we eat. only occasionally we'll work a girl at a gym

[Luke_Skyguy]

Why you hitting on guys at the gym OP? You a *******?

[jamestown0101]

Why do you guys ignore girls when you work out? What reason you have for it?
One guy in the gym one day say hi to me, other day completely ignore me. He is checking me out secretely, but as i look at him, he ignores me completely. When i come to him he is smiling and nice, but then other day he ignores me, but looking at me. I do not understand this at all...is it so hard to say just hi? He is always working out very seriously and never talks to anyone, so far i am the only one.
Any ideas? I like this guy, but when he ignores me, i think i bother him.
On the other side something is telling me, he is interested, but shy.

I am about lifting not anything else but, when I finish, I will toss your ass around at my place. Miss, its not the 19 ****ing 50s. Start talking to him. When in doubt, suggest he come hangout/party/workout with you. Its an excuse to talk some more, hangout, spend some time. You could ask him about a machine or a workout or anything. Bring your phone out. Sort of fidget or have it out. Not too much cause excessively, it is annoying. Logically at this time, he should acquire digits. I just invite her over. This always works for me. I usually just hand my phone and she inputs her number. We smash at a later date. Life is good.

we dont like to **** where we eat. only occasionally we'll work a girl at a gym

Speak for yourself tiny tim.

[rackpullxtreme]

I just see guys doing small talk with girls and not doing anything else.

What's a girl to do in this situation when there's just small talk but he's not getting her number?

[frankenstein78]

It's purely an environmental thing. Some people refuse to date or even flirt with people they work with. Some people look at the gym as 100% functional. Go directly to working out, work out like a mad man, grab keys and GTFO. Some people view the gym as a solace. A place to be alone (amongst others), get out some of your demons, and go home, rarely talking to others there.

If you want that invisible wall between you two to be gone, you're gonna have to be the one to tear it down.

[bf527365]

I always will purposely not look at girls in the gym because they always think guys are gunna look at them like their all that, it pisses em off, dunno I'm prob not alone with that

[pasl]

thank you guys all, now I am little bit smarter and understand you more. We, girls are different. We do not like talking in the gym too, but things like "hi", "bye", how are you....are normal. Not long talking. We like serious workout too. And tip for guys who want to get number from a girl, especially if you do "small talk" and no number, you have to ask the girl for the number. I would never came up with the number first, if the guy does not ask. And I can be interested, but I would wait for the question, hey, what is your number?.....
Men and women are sooo different. Our thinking. We do analyze everything.:-)

[pasl]

I just see guys doing small talk with girls and not doing anything else.

What's a girl to do in this situation when there's just small talk but he's not getting her number?

you need to ask the girl for the number. We are waiting for it. We will not ask for it first. So, small talk is great, but if you want a number, say...the name...what is your number, so we can stay in touch.....I would never give my number to a guy without him asking me for it.:-) Hope it helps.

[rmke11y]

Not now chief...I'm in the zone

[Boffothe]

This is a subject that always makes me laugh. Women pretty much constantly list "ew guys hitting on me at the gyyyym" at the top of their pet peeves list. There are countless threads about it in the female misc talking about how annoying it is. It's in every advice column written by women to men to just leave chicks in the gym alone, they don't want to be bothered.

Thus, it becomes engrained in most men's heads not to hit on gym chicks, and the only question women have is "why don't guys talk to me at the gym????" lulz

The easiest thing to do is start a convo with HIM, and he'll see it's cool and he should take it from there. Just smile and say hi and show him it's all good to proceed

[Dale1988]

Just be like :

Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my number,so call me, maybe?

[Swimfag]

Because (in my experience) most guys in the gym are socially awkward autistic *******s that can't spit game to save their life, and only work out because they think it'll grant them magical confidence and the ability to pull all women

no hate, just an observation

[Dale1988]

Because (in my experience) most guys in the gym are socially awkward autistic *******s that can't spit game to save their life, and only work out because they think it'll grant them magical confidence and the ability to pull all women

no hate, just an observation

Yeah bodybuilding has to be the biggest foreveraloners sport there is. Brb cant to to bar because im on a cut. Brb cant go to restaurant cause it will screw up my macros, etc.

[ol matey]

you need to ask the girl for the number. We are waiting for it. We will not ask for it first. So, small talk is great, but if you want a number, say...the name...what is your number, so we can stay in touch.....I would never give my number to a guy without him asking me for it.:-) Hope it helps.

I've had a few girls ask for number / make the first move. All were rewarded with action. Some I wouldn't have gone for but bonus points were given for courage to act. What's that sh*t women always talk about? Equality? Well.... If you wanna be treated equally, act our equals.

[pasl]

Just be like :

Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my number,so call me, maybe?

haha, well, this is a good one! True. On the other side I am shy too! And do not want to look stupid too.:-) But I agree and like it.

[pasl]

I've had a few girls ask for number / make the first move. All were rewarded with action. Some I wouldn't have gone for but bonus points were given for courage to act. What's that sh*t women always talk about? Equality? Well.... If you wanna be treated equally, act our equals.

so you think I should come to the guy who is one day smiling and waiving at me, doing cardio on purpose behind me, and other day pretend he does not know me....I should come to him and say..what??? I honestly never have done this before. Always guys come to me and are talking to me, that bothers me, it is true, but not from this guy that I like.

[pasl]

Ok, I like all your opinions. Girls do come to workout to the gym (most of them), but they also like to watch. For many reasons, what you are doing, so they can try some new exercises, what your body looks like...if that exercise you do is worthed or not, if you are good looking, if you smell nice....guys...we register everything!:-).....And girls do not want to be bothered at the gym like guys, but on the other side if we like someone, we want to be approached.:-)

[ol matey]

I talk to girls at front desk, have hooked up with a few. I talk to girls in boxacise class, haven't asked for any numbers though coz I'm always shaking afterwards (push-ups/planks/etc involved - anyone else have this happen?) and don't wanna look like a scared lil *******. Def a few have been intredasted though, just hope to see them when not in post-boxing Parkinson's mode. HOWEVER... When in weights room, rarely, RARELY, do I talk to womenz. And you know what? I only just realised this is the odd one out. Don't know why. I guess it's such a solo activity, I hardly even speak to friends when I'm there. Small talk gets old quick, and any intredasting conversations will be interrupted every 2 mins by my set. Doesn't make for a good conversational arena when you stop halfway through whatever you're saying, lifting weight like your life depends on it, face goes beetroot, grunts are had, etc.

Also, I think a lot of guys feel like pick-up in the weights room would be corny/wankerish/poser sh*t. Argue all you want, but most guys lift weights to impress / attract the opposite sex. Talking to womenz whilst doing this is kinda like showing off a nice car as your opening move - very one-dimensional. Watch "Clerks" where they're in the grocery store and the guy tells a girl how much he lifts then flexes his arm, she actually gets impressed and goes out with him. Such rubbish would never happen IRL.

[PervedOut]

Female logic at its finest. Wearing an uncomfortable push-up bra and spandex pants to the gym...doused in perfume/make-up/earrings and claiming to want to be left alone by men.

notsureifsrs

[mydawgs]

Female logic at its finest. Wearing an uncomfortable push-up bra and spandex pants to the gym...doused in perfume/make-up/earrings and claiming to want to be left alone by men.

notsureifsrs

This, and perfume in the gym is just inconsiderate....do young women know what happens to perfume mixed with heat and sweat? Make your eyes water.

[dunnie]

It's purely an environmental thing. Some people refuse to date or even flirt with people they work with. Some people look at the gym as 100% functional. Go directly to working out, work out like a mad man, grab keys and GTFO. Some people view the gym as a solace. A place to be alone (amongst others), get out some of your demons, and go home, rarely talking to others there.

If you want that invisible wall between you two to be gone, you're gonna have to be the one to tear it down.

might be this

or

give him signs that you are interested

[rackpullxtreme]

give him signs that you are interested

What are the signs?

I have a female friend who says that she small talks guys at the gym, that she's interested in a lot of them but they won't ask for her digits. She's tired of dating losers online and wants a guy who lifts like she does. The conversation with guys revolves around diet and exercise and never goes anywhere but small talk in the gym. These guys will say hi and walk over to talk to her if their friends aren't around.

Guys who do approach her and ask for her number are not attractive.

I even created a thread on here for her, yet most said that guys are conditioned to not pick up on women at the gym.

I think most of the complaints are women who don't want unattractive or sleazy married guys picking up on them.

[dunnie]

What are the signs?

I have a female friend who says that she small talks guys at the gym, that she's interested in a lot of them but they won't ask for her digits. She's tired of dating losers online and wants a guy who lifts like she does. The conversation with guys revolves around diet and exercise and never goes anywhere but small talk in the gym. These guys will say hi and walk over to talk to her if their friends aren't around.

Guys who do approach her and ask for her number are not attractive.

I even created a thread on here for her, yet most said that guys are conditioned to not pick up on women at the gym.

I think most of the complaints are women who don't want unattractive or sleazy married guys picking up on them.

if im the one that has to initiate contact after the 3rd or fourth time i wont talk to her anymore.

[LikeAMachine]

Female logic at its finest. Wearing an uncomfortable push-up bra and spandex pants to the gym...doused in perfume/make-up/earrings and claiming to want to be left alone by men.

notsureifsrs

lol yup


Eeeww he's a creep he's staring at me.


Oh why doesn't he talk to me.

not sure if srs

[GloboRick]

Reminds me of this girl at my gym. Shes def my type looks wise, pretty thick, solid, tight. She usually ends up working out near me. Last time I was doing bb curls and she stood next to me and did her curls, lulz. I dunno what to say or if its appropriate really, I am usually just focusing on my contractions and breathing, then checking her out inbetween sets.

[Ruby3]

bishes be pulling out the "i have a bf" line.
you have to do all the work if you're interested

[jamestown0101]

I just see guys doing small talk with girls and not doing anything else.

What's a girl to do in this situation when there's just small talk but he's not getting her number?

Well, the membership fee is paid and its to their discretion to revoke memberships. A friend of mine was a party animal and let me just say, he was wilding out, and creeping hard on girls. Eventually, he got reported, too aggressive, and even members that were checking out the gym would not return. One act of stupidity involved his membership being permanently revoked. I would say, don't **** where you eat but, I am going to consciously contradict said advice cause, I just don't give a ****. I will be discreet about it as I would be in the work place. Thing is that, I am not a ******* that will reside in a pile of my own emotional vomit. Most *******s are that way so, that advice is specifically for them. For us real men, it doesn't matter where we stick it.

It's purely an environmental thing. Some people refuse to date or even flirt with people they work with. Some people look at the gym as 100% functional. Go directly to working out, work out like a mad man, grab keys and GTFO. Some people view the gym as a solace. A place to be alone (amongst others), get out some of your demons, and go home, rarely talking to others there.

If you want that invisible wall between you two to be gone, you're gonna have to be the one to tear it down.

Respect.

I am in the ****ing zone. Point is to lift so, that takes full precedent over other things but, it doesn't remove my being a man and wanting to beat up the coochie. Women are allowed out of the kitchen and bedroom. Its not the 1950s. They can put work in too. Just saying.

OP, there is a chick at my gym who I am curious about how she would look on my dick. Most people would assume the gym or work place is off limits since, they cannot detach sex and pleasure. That or some formality or excuse about being professional. Notasingle****isgiven.jpg. Women talk equality and all this **** but, only when it suits their narrative and bull**** argument that consists of female logic and stupidity. You guys want equality? Woman up. Invite him out. Acquire digits.

bishes be pulling out the "i have a bf" line.
you have to do all the work if you're interested

Sort of. I hit on them, be right up in their space, and I tell them what to do. She follows or I disregard. Basically, I am getting a glimpse of her in the bedroom. Can she take directions?

[guvanata2]

I just check girls out don't approach because usually the girls have this really focused look and aren't looking for people to bother them and I don't want to interrupt my workout either. Also, the only girls I see actively checking out guys and not really lifting and trying to get noticed are the very average, not very fit girls who don't even go to the gym that often.