Why do you guys ignore girls when you work out? What reason you have for it?
One guy in the gym one day say hi to me, other day completely ignore me. He is checking me out secretely, but as i look at him, he ignores me completely. When i come to him he is smiling and nice, but then other day he ignores me, but looking at me. I do not understand this at all...is it so hard to say just hi? He is always working out very seriously and never talks to anyone, so far i am the only one.
Any ideas? I like this guy, but when he ignores me, i think i bother him.
On the other side something is telling me, he is interested, but shy.
04-10-2012, 08:56 PM #1
why guys ignore girls in the gym?
04-10-2012, 08:57 PM #2
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04-11-2012, 12:59 AM #7
It's purely an environmental thing. Some people refuse to date or even flirt with people they work with. Some people look at the gym as 100% functional. Go directly to working out, work out like a mad man, grab keys and GTFO. Some people view the gym as a solace. A place to be alone (amongst others), get out some of your demons, and go home, rarely talking to others there.
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04-11-2012, 01:08 AM #8
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04-11-2012, 05:45 AM #9
thank you guys all, now I am little bit smarter and understand you more. We, girls are different. We do not like talking in the gym too, but things like "hi", "bye", how are you....are normal. Not long talking. We like serious workout too. And tip for guys who want to get number from a girl, especially if you do "small talk" and no number, you have to ask the girl for the number. I would never came up with the number first, if the guy does not ask. And I can be interested, but I would wait for the question, hey, what is your number?.....
Men and women are sooo different. Our thinking. We do analyze everything.:-)
04-11-2012, 05:47 AM #10
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04-11-2012, 06:03 AM #12
This is a subject that always makes me laugh. Women pretty much constantly list "ew guys hitting on me at the gyyyym" at the top of their pet peeves list. There are countless threads about it in the female misc talking about how annoying it is. It's in every advice column written by women to men to just leave chicks in the gym alone, they don't want to be bothered.
Thus, it becomes engrained in most men's heads not to hit on gym chicks, and the only question women have is "why don't guys talk to me at the gym????" lulz
The easiest thing to do is start a convo with HIM, and he'll see it's cool and he should take it from there. Just smile and say hi and show him it's all good to proceed
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04-11-2012, 06:14 AM #16Confront my presence, fraternal sibling!
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04-11-2012, 06:30 AM #19
Ok, I like all your opinions. Girls do come to workout to the gym (most of them), but they also like to watch. For many reasons, what you are doing, so they can try some new exercises, what your body looks like...if that exercise you do is worthed or not, if you are good looking, if you smell nice....guys...we register everything!:-).....And girls do not want to be bothered at the gym like guys, but on the other side if we like someone, we want to be approached.:-)
04-11-2012, 06:31 AM #20
I talk to girls at front desk, have hooked up with a few. I talk to girls in boxacise class, haven't asked for any numbers though coz I'm always shaking afterwards (push-ups/planks/etc involved - anyone else have this happen?) and don't wanna look like a scared lil phaggot. Def a few have been intredasted though, just hope to see them when not in post-boxing Parkinson's mode. HOWEVER... When in weights room, rarely, RARELY, do I talk to womenz. And you know what? I only just realised this is the odd one out. Don't know why. I guess it's such a solo activity, I hardly even speak to friends when I'm there. Small talk gets old quick, and any intredasting conversations will be interrupted every 2 mins by my set. Doesn't make for a good conversational arena when you stop halfway through whatever you're saying, lifting weight like your life depends on it, face goes beetroot, grunts are had, etc.
Also, I think a lot of guys feel like pick-up in the weights room would be corny/wankerish/poser sh*t. Argue all you want, but most guys lift weights to impress / attract the opposite sex. Talking to womenz whilst doing this is kinda like showing off a nice car as your opening move - very one-dimensional. Watch "Clerks" where they're in the grocery store and the guy tells a girl how much he lifts then flexes his arm, she actually gets impressed and goes out with him. Such rubbish would never happen IRL.Confront my presence, fraternal sibling!
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I have a female friend who says that she small talks guys at the gym, that she's interested in a lot of them but they won't ask for her digits. She's tired of dating losers online and wants a guy who lifts like she does. The conversation with guys revolves around diet and exercise and never goes anywhere but small talk in the gym. These guys will say hi and walk over to talk to her if their friends aren't around.
Guys who do approach her and ask for her number are not attractive.
I even created a thread on here for her, yet most said that guys are conditioned to not pick up on women at the gym.
I think most of the complaints are women who don't want unattractive or sleazy married guys picking up on them.
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Reminds me of this girl at my gym. Shes def my type looks wise, pretty thick, solid, tight. She usually ends up working out near me. Last time I was doing bb curls and she stood next to me and did her curls, lulz. I dunno what to say or if its appropriate really, I am usually just focusing on my contractions and breathing, then checking her out inbetween sets.
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04-11-2012, 12:11 PM #29
I am in the ****ing zone. Point is to lift so, that takes full precedent over other things but, it doesn't remove my being a man and wanting to beat up the coochie. Women are allowed out of the kitchen and bedroom. Its not the 1950s. They can put work in too. Just saying.
OP, there is a chick at my gym who I am curious about how she would look on my dick. Most people would assume the gym or work place is off limits since, they cannot detach sex and pleasure. That or some formality or excuse about being professional. Notasingle****isgiven.jpg. Women talk equality and all this **** but, only when it suits their narrative and bull**** argument that consists of female logic and stupidity. You guys want equality? Woman up. Invite him out. Acquire digits.
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I just check girls out don't approach because usually the girls have this really focused look and aren't looking for people to bother them and I don't want to interrupt my workout either. Also, the only girls I see actively checking out guys and not really lifting and trying to get noticed are the very average, not very fit girls who don't even go to the gym that often.
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