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03-17-2012, 07:39 AM #121
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03-17-2012, 07:41 AM #122
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Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 07:43 AM #123
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03-17-2012, 07:45 AM #124
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Resident smart arse and grammar fool....instagram: heartandfitness
Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 07:46 AM #125
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03-17-2012, 07:49 AM #126
uhhh if this were true..based on my AVI?????? no one would ever listen to a d*mn thing I say and my rep points would be at zero (or in the red). whew....thank goodness it depends on the subject of the thread..but then again, I am still a newbie just starting out here with a lot to learn so I spend a lot of my time..reading..
I know..hard to believe right?
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03-17-2012, 07:58 AM #127
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03-17-2012, 08:02 AM #128
see this is what I am saying!
IC why is she only allowed to have three teeth? what did she say shhhhhhhhh one day and whamo someone hit in her in the kisser with a dictionary?
what happens if this attraction fades into the marriage..does your spouse then become more of a friend?
Yes, but do you care if you find HER attractive or not?? Just saying
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03-17-2012, 08:08 AM #129
I dunno, satan looks pretty ripped in every image I've ever seen of him. I'm sure he's fighting off hot chicks with his pitchfork.
No, but that is when I'd break out the paper bag over the head approach for sex. It's selling the idea that's the hard part. "But honey, you know how turned on I am by crinkling!"
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03-17-2012, 08:26 AM #130
me too!
well, one must maintain standards..
yep...and here is the tight rope line we sometimes walk...how to express our concerns without getting our heads bit off in the process..
so how much money does it cost for cabfare these days??
was gonna say your pockets must be bulging but thought better of it
oh man, just thought of something...you dont carry one of those man-type purses???
whew...if so, my image of you is soooo completely blown
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03-17-2012, 08:32 AM #131
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03-17-2012, 08:34 AM #132
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03-17-2012, 08:37 AM #133
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You know what on first point no one wants to feel forced to do anything. I would never even suggest that someone else join a gym let alone my significant other. Seems like a way to tell them that you do not improve of them and build up resentment. I would rather let them know that fitness and attraction are important to me. It is a big commitment to join a gym, workout and eat health. If it is not a personal priority it wont last.
Resident smart arse and grammar fool....instagram: heartandfitness
Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 08:39 AM #134
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Resident smart arse and grammar fool....instagram: heartandfitness
Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 08:42 AM #135
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03-17-2012, 08:46 AM #136
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Resident smart arse and grammar fool....instagram: heartandfitness
Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 08:49 AM #137
If the only suggestion that's been offered thus far is 'want to work out at home', I don't think it's offensive to say 'would you rather have some time to yourself and look into some classes at a gym'. Fat women know they are fat. Believe me, because I've been one for the last few years and as you can see by my stats, I still am. I had plenty of people ask if I'd looked into joining a gym over that time, and I wasn't offended by it. No, I didn't run out and join one when people suggested it, but it did put the idea into my head. And when I was ready to do it for myself, I did.
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03-17-2012, 08:49 AM #138
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03-17-2012, 08:56 AM #139
I think physical attractiveness is important initially. If its someone you're with for a long time, attractiveness is still important, but after a while, that person becomes more attractive for different reasons.
If it's just a tag and bag mission, its all about being hot. It doesn't matter if they can tie their shoes or carry a decent conversation if their whole purpose in your life is to service the unit and be gone before the alarm goes off in the morning.
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03-17-2012, 08:59 AM #140
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03-17-2012, 09:00 AM #141
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If someone knows they are fat and knows the gym exists why do they need me to suggest it or ask if they looked into it. Someone asks for my input, etc different. I would prefer to be with someone that I know fitness, etc is important to them going in. Rather than try to make my life priorities theirs.
Well maybe it is my new opening line...how do you like my big sack????Resident smart arse and grammar fool....instagram: heartandfitness
Open Heart Surgery on May 26, 2012. My life goal is to educate and inspire other heart patients. Medical study for new heart patient drugs to start in January 2013. If you have a family history of heart disease please get your blood tested ASAP and your kids. It could save their life.
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03-17-2012, 09:24 AM #142
Honestly, that's great. But my gym suggestion was in response to someone who wanted to know why his wife wouldn't work out with him in their home gym anymore. Sure, maybe she just doesn't want to work out right now. And yes, she's going to have to want it for herself to start any sort of exercise regimen.
But maybe, just maybe, she thinks the option is home gym or nothing, if that's all that's been discussed. Maybe she doesn't want to turn down the 'free' home gym and ask for the 'not free' gym membership. Maybe she just doesn't want to be fat and uncoordinated in front of her husband. When she worked out with him before, she was in great shape. Maybe she got sick to death of using the equipment she had at home, and the thought of a swim or zumba would be more appealing.
Anyway, totally off topic, I apologize. But I disagree that extending the possibility of a gym membership to a spouse or SO is automatically a death wish. Assuming you have enough tact to bring it up gracefully, that is. You deserve to have your leg ripped off and be beaten over the head with it if you start the conversation with "Hey lard@ss, remember when you used to be hot?"
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03-17-2012, 09:50 AM #143
Night ops skillz that Bigtimemuscles yearns to possess.
"For purely carnal purposes......". LMAO.
You said it. Folks have to come around on their own. It has to be something they really want.
The arse you kick today will be one you are proud of in the near future.
Nothing and i mean nothing more sexy than a woman who has grown younger through hard work. There is a unique confidence and "realness" about them that cuts through layers of BS. They've faced life's challenges and carved their way to where they are. Proud but not arrogant. Enthusiastic and passionate to have fun with new experiences not stuck in some rut. Charged up about living. Strong & vibrant. I'm down with that!
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03-17-2012, 10:14 AM #144
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Her self-consciousness and need for reassurance means she obviously knows herself that she's not where she wants to be physically. Next time she asks "honey, do you still think I'm pretty?" tell her of course you do, but you miss the self-confident girl that she used to be. What does she think she needs to get back to that person? And you will pitch in to support that. Coming from a stay at home mom who also had periods of being out of shape out after babies, just having time alone to find myself again was a step. She may not even mention diet/exercise at first, it may be that she wants time to get her hair done, go shopping, do "girly" stuff that make her feel a bit better again. You have to re-discover yourself as a woman after having a baby.
We have a home gym that my husband uses but I like getting out away from the house and training at the gym. Also if she is self-conscious, working out with you may make her feel a bit of pressure. You ARE the man she most wants to impress, after all.
The other advice of dragging her stuff out and putting it right in her face will hurt her feelings and possibly make her feel worse, which does NOT cause someone to want to improve themselves. My husband did something similar one time and I didn't appreciate it then and it sticks with me now, lol. A woman's memory is loooong.
^^exactly^^"A champion is someone who gets up even when he can't" ---Jack Dempsey
I eat for living, not just lifting.
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03-17-2012, 10:55 AM #145
It's important, but the interior is just as important as someone's exterior, to me. If one is fortunate enough to find someone he/she clicks with physically...AND....that person is also a thoughtful, caring person? Such a person is truly blessed.
I think that you named the thread well, lbmom. Because physical attraction is subjective. Maybe someone's attractiveness is beneath the surface, and ''attracts'' someone else who finds such a person sexy, 'hot,' etc...to him/her.Last edited by whatevergirl; 03-17-2012 at 11:02 AM.
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03-17-2012, 11:01 AM #146
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03-17-2012, 01:02 PM #147
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A female poster here, sorry i don't recall which one, awhile back posted something along these lines. No way in hell am i going to a gym with all the young thin hotties walking around, I would be embarrassed.
My wife basically told me the same thing and of course the 1st time she came to my gym for some reason the first 2 women she she's are trainers and I will admit they are both smokin hot. But then last week she met me there and noticed that probably 50% if not more of the women are pretty damn big and none of them cared what others thought of their appearance. I think she's coming around to the idea of possibly joining."You know that little thing in your head that keeps you from saying things you shouldn't? Yeah, well, I don't have one of those."
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03-17-2012, 01:18 PM #148
This may have been covered so neg away if I missed it...
[A] definition for physical attraction: sexual desire: a desire for sexual intimacy.
... Which is not to be confused with being attracted to someone because of their physical attributes alone.2 + 2 = 5 (for extremely large values of 2)
Try SCE to AUX
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03-17-2012, 02:10 PM #149
I must admit, the idea of being the only water buffalo around a herd of young thin hotties was a factor that kept me from trying the gym sooner as well. I shouldn't have worried, it really is a vibrant cross-section of every age, weight, and athletic ability. Not sure if it's just my gym, but I've found that during the middle of the day, there's less people and those who are there tend to be of the less fit variety. I usually am there between 11-2, and mostly I'm hanging out with little old ladies and housewives. I'm not too far off from the latter myself, and even if the little old ladies are really judgmental, I figure they can't see me that well.
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03-17-2012, 03:57 PM #150
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