How important is physical attraction?

[Frnkd]

Seriously? A person's avi has no influence on whether I read a person's post or not. Maybe that is because I've found zero correlation between the quality of a person's avi and the quality of their posts.

Sometimes its the avi that tells me whose post it is. Like a familiar face etc. since most post don't have titles. And you are correct, there isn't any correlation, the quality has nothing to do with the avi, but the post that one would be more likely read is a post with an avi that attracts you. But that is an individual attraction. Quality is judged by the reader.
I maybe wrong but some how my simple observation seem to be turning me to look like an idiot? Hahahahahaha
It's like that telephone game. With each person passing an interpretation that eventually is so off from the original post I begin to wonder how it became so changed.....lol

I basically said in a nutshell, because this thread is one on physical relationship, when some one complemented a poster on his avi, I found it interesting because it was an example , metaphorical , of the topic, that the avi got noticed and it became representative of what a physical attraction is. That's all. But than on a reply I did go further that the avi can attract you to reading a post.

[themyth2009]

Hey, hey, hey. Dead serious here. I am Mrs Flexy. No one's avi, and I mean no one's avi, makes me go to their profile or PM them. You need to understand that. If I knew how to make it in huge bold font, I would. Mrs Flexy.

If I say someone has a nice avi, it's because it's nice. Not because I am interested in them. I tell plenty of women they have a nice avi too. And I rep those gals. And if you notice, Mr Myth's avi, was not of himself alone, but with a lovely young lady. That's why I found it nice.

Jiminy Crickets! I told Bodyhard that his shoes are great. I've told Ms Simpy that she looks like Shania Twain. I think Kimm4 is gorgeous, and I'm sure I've told her so. I've met Discdoggie IRL and told her she's gorgeous and looks like Farrah Fawcett. I've had nverstopworking (Wayne) in my kitchen and told him that he is handsome and a nice lad. And I am completely genuine in those remarks, but that doesn't mean I'm e-stalking them or even thinking of putting the moves on them.

You got that straight??


Now, speaking of nvrstopworking, he's way overdue for a steak here.

No worries Lisa I fully understood and yes the girl was lovely and made me look better for sure. SP says daughter and hookers out of jealously. His donkey dick couldnt get laid in a mourge.

Depends on what the post is about.


Sorry, I don't care how much a person knows about BB or getting lean, if they're a big fat tub of lard I'm not taking them too seriously.

Period.

For sure....

[latebloomingmom]

HOLY COW PEOPLE!!!
does no one have anything better to do on a friday night?
completely blown away by the amount of responses
and of course by how many times
Myth decided to add his two cents in
again and again
will read these in the morning after coffee when my brain works again!

[themyth2009]

HOLY COW PEOPLE!!!
does no one have anything better to do on a friday night?
completely blown away by the amount of responses
and of course by how many times
Myth decided to add his two cents in
again and again
will read these in the morning after coffee when my brain works again!

Thats cause the butt dart champion of the world SP1906 decided to be a peeeeenorrr

[Karl_Hungus]

Sometimes its the avi that tells me whose post it is. Like a familiar face etc. since most post don't have titles. And you are correct, there isn't any correlation, the quality has nothing to do with the avi, but the post that one would be more likely read is a post with an avi that attracts you. But that is an individual attraction. Quality is judged by the reader.
I maybe wrong but some how my simple observation seem to be turning me to look like an idiot?

Oh no....I didn't mean to imply that your post was idiotic at all. Since this is all opinion, rather than objective fact, your take on this is just as valid as mine. If the avi is what initially draws you to a post, who am I to question the validity of that? Perhaps it is because I am pretty familiar with this site that I know, before even seeing the avi, who the smart posters are and who are the abject morons...lol.

[LisaSkinnoble]

No worries Lisa I fully understood and yes the girl was lovely and made me look better for sure. SP says daughter and hookers out of jealously. His donkey dick couldnt get laid in a mourge.



For sure....

Mr Myth, it was not against you. Truly. I over reacted a bit. You know how I get., 'specially when it comes to Mr Flexy...

[SP1966]

No worries Lisa I fully understood and yes the girl was lovely and made me look better for sure. SP says daughter and hookers out of jealously. His donkey dick couldnt get laid in a mourge.

Thats cause the butt dart champion of the world SP1906 decided to be a peeeeenorrr

Nice, I see your panties bunch up easily these days. So much for the sense of humor you used to have.

[paolo59]

? No one has ever been half as good looking as they thought they were. And to be truthful, most of us never deserved the love and devotion that we've gotten in this life! LMAO Thank the good Lord for blessings daily, no?

[IronCharles]

? No one has ever been half as good looking as they thought they were. And to be truthful, most of us never deserved the love and devotion that we've gotten in this life! LMAO Thank the good Lord for blessings daily, no?

[Karl_Hungus]

? No one has ever been half as good looking as they thought they were. And to be truthful, most of us never deserved the love and devotion that we've gotten in this life! LMAO Thank the good Lord for blessings daily, no?

I deserve it, but then again, I am 3 or 4 times as awesome as the average person.

[paolo59]

I deserve it, but then again, I am 3 or 4 times as awesome as the average person.

Brother, you're being modest! I would have thought 6 or 7 at least!

[Karl_Hungus]

Brother, you're being modest! I would have thought 6 or 7 at least!

Thanks brah ... looks like I have to recalibrate my awesome-o-meter.

[kimm4]

Physical attraction has always been on the bottom of my list. 17 yrs later and my beautiful husband is bald, still short and a good 40 lbs heavier. He came home one day, I glanced over for a second and was stricken with horror. I screamed "Where the fuk are your 2 front teeth?!" They had literally fallen out of his mouth! He played hockey as a kid and his 2 front teeth got knocked out, so they replaced them.

I took almost 6 months for him to get replacement teeth. He had to keep going back, so they could do all this "supposed" prep work.

I always had a rule that you didn't have to be the best looking guy. But there was no way in hell I would be caught dead with a man who was missing his teeth!

If this isn't true love, I don't know what is...

[clive]

Men do seem to be more fussy than woman on the matter of attractiveness in finding their partners.
I know I couldn’t of married a "plain Jane" but at the same time I wouldn’t of married a woman purely on looks alone.

[EntropyS]

100%

[Frnkd]

I'm sorry if I overreacted. I'm that serious about our Jim.

No doubt, you two prove it all the time!

[larryinpa]

Sexual attraction is everything in a relationship. Doesn't mean the person needs to be "in shape". If there's a strong physical attraction, that chemistry can transcend lumps, weight gain, etc. I know this is true for me at least.

[Iceman1800]

I think its important but more at the start than after a period of time. I always felt people get more or less atractive once you get to know them over time. A girl might be a 10/10 upon first seeing her but if she turns out to be nasty or rude, that usually drops her way down the scale

[theKurp]

I think you're right that many a man places a good deal of importance on looks. So many stories to tell of men who run off with their secretaries or men who just cheat on the wife with hookers. So many sad stories.

Go to any dating website of your choice and read the women's profiles. I think you'll come away with the impression that placing importance on looks isn't exclusive to, or even heavily weighted toward men.

Forgive me if I want to believe that there are still men out there who love their wives for 40 or 50 or more years because of more than their looks. Just as I want to believe that there are women who love their husbands regardless of who much money they bring home.

I hope that when I'm 87 and Flex is 84,he'll still sit on the front porch and tell me he loves me. I'll be an old wrinkly lady by then, for sure. But I really hope Mr Flexy will see beyond the wrinkles.

I think what you're overlooking is that the criteria for physical attraction evolves as one ages. When I was in my 20's, I was physically attracted to girls in their late teens and 20's. Now I'm physically attracted to women in their late 30's, 40's and early 50's. Physical attraction is in the eye of the beholder and the eyes for many don't remain stagnant in their view.

[themyth2009]

Mr Myth, it was not against you. Truly. I over reacted a bit. You know how I get., 'specially when it comes to Mr Flexy...

I know that never thought other wise.

Nice, I see your panties bunch up easily these days. So much for the sense of humor you used to have.

I was going commando so dere....what you talking about Willis I was only kiddin and was so drunk could hardly walk.

? No one has ever been half as good looking as they thought they were. And to be truthful, most of us never deserved the love and devotion that we've gotten in this life! LMAO Thank the good Lord for blessings daily, no?

Lol for sure to all of this in my case.

[Corbi]

Just a thought, but have you tried offering her a gym membership instead of a 'honey, your stuff is still in the closet' approach? Much though I loathe group classes and things like zumba, they do seem to appeal to a heck of a lot of women. Perhaps if she found something like that fun, well, it's a start!

Good luck with that approach, it's the same as telling her she's fat. I have talked to my wife numerous times about joining my gym, it would only cost $25 a month but she wants no part of it so I stopped talking about it. last week she finally decided on her own to get back in shape and is back on her diet and pulled all her exercise stuff out and is using it. Women will decide when it's time for them to lose weight and get in shape, not us.

A girl might be a 10/10 upon first seeing her but if she turns out to be nasty or rude, that usually drops her way down the scale

Big time truth there! We had a young woman who used to work with us in office, nice body with a so so face. Anyways one morning I said "good morning" to her and she totally blew me off, I heard she had doen this to a few others as well. So from that time forward I couldn't stand her and thought she was an extremely ugly and nasty person.

[ChocoChick]

But that doesn't mean the people he married were not attracted to him, does it? Perhaps being attracted to someone has less to do with their physicality than one would think. Funny intelligent men trump pretty boys any day in my book.

Ditto.

Smart, funny, men are sexy as hell.

[latebloomingmom]

It's pretty important. Sometimes I just can't drag myself away from in front of the mirror!?

tsk tsk be careful of that there Narcissism...
btw: cars have mirrors too ya know..so at least you can leave the house

[latebloomingmom]

This is true. And I think attraction is cyclical. Perhaps you meet someone you think is pretty, you date, you have heaps in common, and then you're in a long term relationship. As the relationship grows stronger, you see that person as more and more beautiful. The more you love someone, the more you're attracted to them.

Ah, lovely thread. Has me thinking about true everlasting love.

very pretty words Lisa..
I have always told my son that initial attraction is important
it is what will make you cross the room to go and talk to someone
but it takes a lot more than that to stay together.

[latebloomingmom]

Of course not, got to get the covers off before you can make an informed judgement!

hee hee...

[latebloomingmom]

Cool, you daughters cute!

I think those are all ummm..nieces..ya nieces
It's a big family tree

[themyth2009]

very pretty words Lisa..
I have always told my son that initial attraction is important
it is what will make you cross the room to go and talk to someone
but it takes a lot more than that to stay together.

Like what? Crazy sex? You didnt think I was going to say good conversation....

I think those are all ummm..nieces..ya nieces
It's a big family tree

At work they call them my daughters...so SP was on the right track.

[latebloomingmom]

Physical attraction was far more important to me in my youth than it is now. Now I find that my attraction is governed more by my brain than it is by my eyes. After 18 years together, I still find my husband to be very attractive, but he definitely doesn't look like he used to. Sometimes I get a bit shallow and think, "Damn, I miss his 6 pack abs and hair!" But to be honest, he's so damned funny and easy to be with . . . and that's a HUGE turn on.

On the other hand, I really don't know how I would take it if he ballooned up and got WalMart fat. I promised to love and honor him til death do us part, and barring some terrible thing like infidelity or abuse on his part, I would do that. But I won't lie, I think it would be difficult to get all sexually geared up for a 350 lb man. But as much as I love sex, I love the laughing we do, the stories we tell, the way he holds my hand in the car and kisses my forehead when I come home from work a lot more.

agree^^^ Simpy...no one really believes that the person we marry at _____ age is going to stay the same..."time marches on and it is marching across my face"
but the hope is of course, that there is a whole lot more going on in the relationship that will sustain it over time..however, thank you for actually admitting that certain conditions such as extreme obesity would make it harder to be physically attracted...

[themyth2009]

Ditto.

Smart, funny, men are sexy as hell.

Smart, funny man checking in. I am a legend in my own mind.

[itsagoodday]

I believe you were a bit shortsighted in stating that beautiful personality is more important than beautiful visuals, when it comes to the subject of this thread, which is the importance of physical attraction.

I'm not disagreeing with you at all about the bulk of the world's views. However, I did say "to me" in my original statement, and I'm stickin' with it. To me, a bad personality can make an otherwise attractive person become completely unattractive. Actually, it seems that other people are saying this as well, but they have been expressing themselves better than I did.

Let's say I see a gorgeous hunk of man from across the room at a party, who looks so spectacular I am considering tackling him and dragging him into the nearest bathroom by his zipper. However, as I get closer to him, I realize that he's punching his sister with one hand, strangling a puppy with the other, and stomping up and down on Mother Theresa's grave. I will never again look at that guy and think 'what a handsome man, I am so attracted to him!', because now I know he's a flaming *******.