*rage* Is this an unreasonable thing to do?

[ironwilledchic]

I dated this guy for a couple of weeks. He kept on telling me that he was falling for me, I am the most beautiful girl he ever dated, etc...I believed every word bc strangely enough, I saw something pretty awesome in him, too. He even went with me to dr's appointment out of town, for support!

Anyways, yesterday he texts me first thing in the morning. He says he would really "fancy" seeing me. It was cute, I suppose. He says he has to shower and stuff and I do too. We agree to contact each other after. I text him 2 hrs later. No response for 1 hour. He then responds,
"I lost track of time, but I am going to shower now."

I respond:

"don't worry about it".

5 minutes later, he texts me that his bandmates just got out of work and he will be practicing with them instead. This is a guy who's last spoken words to me were "I think I'm falling for you".

I send a raging text when he texts me after to say "may we hang out after?". As though ditching me for his band at a moment's notice meant nothing to him, an obviously, he was lying about everything the whole time bc actions spoke louder than words.

Sorry this just happened yesterday so I am still pissed off. I usually don't fall for guys who say **** like that, but he was a nice person and didn't seem like a douche at all. He hadn't even been with a girl for 3 yrs. Before we met (so he said).

[Evolutionary1]

you actually believed that bs?

[corpsedub]

that's probably his method of operation. sweets you up. a fake WK. but underneath he's just a playa. its is what it is.

[John$Galt]

Keep freaking out over sh*t like that and you'll be foreveralone...forever.

[SirPostsAlot]

I send a raging text when he texts me after to say "may we hang out after?".


^ this is bad. nothing will run a guy off faster than sending raging texts. when girls get mad at us for blowing them off, we get annoyed at them for being mad. it will not make him like you any more. guys dont like a bitchy girl. guys like a girl that acts like they are not importiant.




this being said, here is my advice. forget him, look for new guys. if he is really "falling for you" then he will be begging you to hang out with him after u blow him off a few times to chill with other dudes. dont ACT like ur better than him. BE better than him. and dont listen when i guy says nice shet. it will always end up screwing you over. good luck i hope it works out.

[Fozzy13]

Hmm,

1) Good to know Girls dont think ther term "fancy" used that way isnt too weird...lulz, ive used it a few times.
2) Dude went with you out of town for a Dr's appt. after a couple of weeks of just dating
3) He says he's falling for you after a couple weeks of dating
4) He makes plans with you then ditches you for his friends
5) He hadnt been with a girl for so long and then suddenly says hes falling for you then ditches you.

Actions do speak louder than words...i dont think you really over reacted

[sincity88]

1) Good to know Girls dont think ther term "fancy" used that way isnt too weird...lulz, ive used it a few times.

It is weird. I'd probably think, "what a douche."

[Boffothe]

If a chick sent me a raging text message after only a few weeks, and I did anything less than literally eat her dog in front of her eyes, I'd next her

also LOL at all of the "but he said he was falling for me! I'm the most beautiful thing he's ever seen!" I bet he got in your pants, didn't he? MISSION ACCOMPLISHED

[Fozzy13]

It is weird. I'd probably think, "what a douche."

LOL, its far from being douche.

Tell a girl you fancy them or are sweet on them and they drop their panties

[jimbone21]

For being "ironwilled" you sure are being beta about this "guy"

[sincity88]

LOL, its far from being douche.

Tell a girl you fancy them or are sweet on them and they drop their panties

I'm from Jersey, not the UK. Fancy.... ha

[BrahPlease]

idk what the deal is. but idk about sending a raging text

[soliduparrow]

thinskinnedchic

[ironwilledchic]

you actually believed that bs?

Yeah, I did.

[Im12andWtIsThis]

I dated this guy for a couple of weeks. He kept on telling me that he was falling for me, I am the most beautiful girl he ever dated, etc...I believed every word bc strangely enough, I saw something pretty awesome in him, too. He even went with me to dr's appointment out of town, for support!

Anyways, yesterday he texts me first thing in the morning. He says he would really "fancy" seeing me. It was cute, I suppose. He says he has to shower and stuff and I do too. We agree to contact each other after. I text him 2 hrs later. No response for 1 hour. He then responds,
"I lost track of time, but I am going to shower now."

I respond:

"don't worry about it".

5 minutes later, he texts me that his bandmates just got out of work and he will be practicing with them instead. This is a guy who's last spoken words to me were "I think I'm falling for you".

I send a raging text when he texts me after to say "may we hang out after?". As though ditching me for his band at a moment's notice meant nothing to him, an obviously, he was lying about everything the whole time bc actions spoke louder than words.

Sorry this just happened yesterday so I am still pissed off. I usually don't fall for guys who say **** like that, but he was a nice person and didn't seem like a douche at all. He hadn't even been with a girl for 3 yrs. Before we met (so he said).

Simple, tomorrow txt him and be like "Hey, seems like you blew me off, wanna make it up to me?I'm thinking *insert here the place or actions you want desired*" and boom problem solved.

Thing to note:He's not your bf, dating is more so *testing the waters*, if you went to hang out with yours girls whether it be at the gym, a gathering, or just socializing and he reacted the same you'd probably flip your ish.You guys aren't dating, he owes you nothing, and regardless of how you feel, your entitlement isn't justified, and even further could completely put him off of you.These "mixed messages" he seemed to send you is something you women do all the time, funny how it's a problem when your not even together.

Anyway, a band is a pretty big commitment, and it seems you obviously don't understand it as your a girl.It's a condescending thing to say, but it sounds like you have a stereotypical girl view on it.P.S. a guy not giving you what you want doesn't make him a douche, nor does not getting instant gratification and thus defacing his professed desire for you, immature girl crap like that surely isn't going to let you keep any man worth something for too long.

[RandomMisc]

strong overreaction

[Awarebrahhh]

OP you made the exact same thread in the general misc section and you ended up getting blasted out of there and being called a stage 5 clinger. I guess you still haven't gotten it through your head.

[40inchZyzz]

I dated this guy for a couple of weeks. He kept on telling me that he was falling for me, I am the most beautiful girl he ever dated, etc...I believed every word bc strangely enough, I saw something pretty awesome in him, too. He even went with me to dr's appointment out of town, for support!

Anyways, yesterday he texts me first thing in the morning. He says he would really "fancy" seeing me. It was cute, I suppose. He says he has to shower and stuff and I do too. We agree to contact each other after. I text him 2 hrs later. No response for 1 hour. He then responds,
"I lost track of time, but I am going to shower now."

I respond:

"don't worry about it".

5 minutes later, he texts me that his bandmates just got out of work and he will be practicing with them instead. This is a guy who's last spoken words to me were "I think I'm falling for you".

I send a raging text when he texts me after to say "may we hang out after?". As though ditching me for his band at a moment's notice meant nothing to him, an obviously, he was lying about everything the whole time bc actions spoke louder than words.

Sorry this just happened yesterday so I am still pissed off. I usually don't fall for guys who say **** like that, but he was a nice person and didn't seem like a douche at all. He hadn't even been with a girl for 3 yrs. Before we met (so he said).

On a side note, you know what i've personally now confirmed about women? it is that they fall easily "fall for guys who say **** 'like that' " the fact that you brought up that you usually don't means you've been building up a defence mechanism to give you that reassurance that those words don't reach your heart, but deep down, you, and hence, women, infact do. Thanks for your fine piece of knowledge from which i've extrapolated

[Fozzy13]

I'm from Jersey, not the UK. Fancy.... ha

Bro, thats language of alpha men from the 60's

[MabjitGupta]

Simple, tomorrow txt him and be like "Hey, seems like you blew me off, wanna make it up to me?I'm thinking *insert here the place or actions you want desired*" and boom problem solved.

Thing to note:He's not your bf, dating is more so *testing the waters*, if you went to hang out with yours girls whether it be at the gym, a gathering, or just socializing and he reacted the same you'd probably flip your ish.You guys aren't dating, he owes you nothing, and regardless of how you feel, your entitlement isn't justified, and even further could completely put him off of you.These "mixed messages" he seemed to send you is something you women do all the time, funny how it's a problem when your not even together.

Anyway, a band is a pretty big commitment, and it seems you obviously don't understand it as your a girl.It's a condescending thing to say, but it sounds like you have a stereotypical girl view on it.P.S. a guy not giving you what you want doesn't make him a douche, nor does not getting instant gratification and thus defacing his professed desire for you, immature girl crap like that surely isn't going to let you keep any man worth something for too long.

gut tipsens braori

[LikeAMachine]

Keep freaking out over sh*t like that and you'll be foreveralone...forever.

This.

OP, chill the feck out

[Im12andWtIsThis]

gut tipsens braori

lmao

mmmmmmmega troll!

[Sleev-les]

Simple solution...NEXT.... Its not worth getting pissed over some douchebag.... I learned a long time ago to not let women get under my skin... If you play games, I just write it off and meet someone new.

[soliduparrow]

i hope this helps

[alanking]

I dated this guy for a couple of weeks. He kept on telling me that he was falling for me, I am the most beautiful girl he ever dated, etc...I believed every word bc strangely enough, I saw something pretty awesome in him, too. He even went with me to dr's appointment out of town, for support!

Anyways, yesterday he texts me first thing in the morning. He says he would really "fancy" seeing me. It was cute, I suppose. He says he has to shower and stuff and I do too. We agree to contact each other after. I text him 2 hrs later. No response for 1 hour. He then responds,
"I lost track of time, but I am going to shower now."

I respond:

"don't worry about it".

5 minutes later, he texts me that his bandmates just got out of work and he will be practicing with them instead. This is a guy who's last spoken words to me were "I think I'm falling for you".

I send a raging text when he texts me after to say "may we hang out after?". As though ditching me for his band at a moment's notice meant nothing to him, an obviously, he was lying about everything the whole time bc actions spoke louder than words.

Sorry this just happened yesterday so I am still pissed off. I usually don't fall for guys who say **** like that, but he was a nice person and didn't seem like a douche at all. He hadn't even been with a girl for 3 yrs. Before we met (so he said).

ya know girl i would/could never do that to such a beautiful being as yourself,infact i find the very thought of it repulsive........i'l tell you what though if you ever need to talk about it or anything all you have to do is PM me and i will be more then happy to comfort you.your's truly Alanking

[ironwilledchic]

Thanks for all of the advice. I talked to my mom about it, too, bc she met him once when I had to stop by while we were out together.

Ha ha. My mom said that he seemed guileless, and so he probably was just clueless about all of it. I felt so bad for getting angry about it! Ugh. He won't even talk to me now. I am pretty sure that he had no idea that canceling our plans like that was a no no. I don't know if he will ever get back with me, but I really liked him. Oh well...:/

[ironwilledchic]

Simple solution...NEXT.... Its not worth getting pissed over some douchebag.... I learned a long time ago to not let women get under my skin... If you play games, I just write it off and meet someone new.

This is sad, but I think he was the one. He had no job, skinny as fuark, but he seemed to really like his life, and really like me. He said he would sometimes wake up and stare at me when I was asleep (this is true bc I caught him once). We had great conversations
together and had similar philosophies on
things. Gawd...I hate that I pushed him away. After talking to my mom about it, it seems clear that she was right.
I pushed him away bc I knew he was starting to get to me. The first sign that I could be hurt and I push him away for good. Fml.

[ironwilledchic]

This.

OP, chill the feck out

It's too late. Pretty sure its cuz I was hormonal and PMS. I'm serious. :/

[ironwilledchic]

On a side note, you know what i've personally now confirmed about women? it is that they fall easily "fall for guys who say **** 'like that' " the fact that you brought up that you usually don't means you've been building up a defence mechanism to give you that reassurance that those words don't reach your heart, but deep down, you, and hence, women, infact do. Thanks for your fine piece of knowledge from which i've
extrapolated

I hope you realize that guile is one of the qualities that is ugliest to find in a person. Don't ever use kind words in an insincere way, just to get up in them drawers...or you'll get yours one day, too.

[ironwilledchic]

thinskinnedchic

Lately, apparently so...