ITT: I Help Solve Your Relationship/Man or Woman Problems

[IronPuma]

let me help you decipher the bs surrounding your recent relationship or hookup woes.

[judowrestler1]

let me help you decipher the bs surrounding your recent relationship or hookup woes.

Cliffs of situation
-Had girl in my organic class all semester but, didn't want to s-h-i-t where I ate so waited until the end to talk to her
-Went out twice before break
-talked. laughed, had a really good time and I was pretty sure she liked me
-Over the winter break so far I texted her she responded with 1 word answers, not really into the conversation etc.
-Where do I go from here and what is she thinking

[IronPuma]

Cliffs of situation
-Had girl in my organic class all semester but, didn't want to s-h-i-t where I ate so waited until the end to talk to her
-Went out twice before break
-talked. laughed, had a really good time and I was pretty sure she liked me
-Over the winter break so far I texted her she responded with 1 word answers, not really into the conversation etc.
-Where do I go from here and what is she thinking

what was the depth of the convo and you had and where were you at? do you have plans to go out anytime soon again?

[xx211aaronxx]

bish got mad cuz i texted some guy from her phone saying leave me alone pretending to be her.. went off on me and i told her i shldnt have to tell her to stop talking to this guy, so i ended it with her. tried to find out what really was happening by asking the guy and it backfired, she called me telling me if i was gonna do that she wasnt gonna deal with it and i told her we were done. she said i lost her and i was like no you lost me, im done with your ass. she told everyone the reason we broke up was becuz i was messaging her guy friends, said i was insecure becuz i knew she could do better and tried getting 2 guys to beat my ass.... what the **** is her problem and why would she do some stupid childish **** like that.

[judowrestler1]

what was the depth of the convo and you had and where were you at? do you have plans to go out anytime soon again?

More like a lot of flirting back and forth nothing too serious in the conversation. Nah, I didn't make any plans because of the 1 month long break for x-mas and her living a long way away.

Mostly talked on top of a wall outside my dorm, but we went out to the bowling alley and talked on the swingset outside the second time we went out.

[StrongMeat]

lets talk hypothetical

- you arrive at party with friends(you didnt drive)
- 2 girls feeling you, latter one lives there
- you make out with first one, other is upset obviously
- you pull girl in bathroom and caught getting BJ by live in girl
- both of you scolded and kicked out of party
- friend still at party, your car is 15 minutes away(cant blame friend, hes getting his own smash on)
- girl upset, you light a cig and accidentally blow smoke in her face
- she super upset now and calls her roomate(female) and gets picked up
- walk around listening to Johnny Cash until your friend leaves the party
- you drive home with friend, vomit on his couch
- wake up sleeping in vomit
- girl never calls you back

what would you have done?

-StrongMeat-

[IronPuma]

bish got mad cuz i texted some guy from her phone saying leave me alone pretending to be her.. went off on me and i told her i shldnt have to tell her to stop talking to this guy, so i ended it with her. tried to find out what really was happening by asking the guy and it backfired, she called me telling me if i was gonna do that she wasnt gonna deal with it and i told her we were done. she said i lost her and i was like no you lost me, im done with your ass. she told everyone the reason we broke up was becuz i was messaging her guy friends, said i was insecure becuz i knew she could do better and tried getting 2 guys to beat my ass.... what the **** is her problem and why would she do some stupid childish **** like that.

women are all varying levels of crazy but they are all crazy. the reason is she is the one feeling insecure about herself in some fashion and therefore feels the need to make herself look better in this situation and you look like sh*t sometimes they even get to the point where they themselves actually believe it to be reality. i've never seen a good experience with girls who have a lot of guy friends. except gay ones. good job ending it stay safe and good luck.

More like a lot of flirting back and forth nothing too serious in the conversation. Nah, I didn't make any plans because of the 1 month long break for x-mas and her living a long way away.

if your planning on seeing her after break at school i'd say cut it off and maybe text her when you get back. seems like she might be not as interested as you are in her. you throw her a curveball and not talk to her she night come to you and play into your hand. possibly something you said might have spooked her during your time together or she lost interest. zero contact is your best weapon here. best of luck.

lets talk hypothetical

- you arrive at party with friends(you didnt drive)
- 2 girls feeling you, latter one lives there
- you make out with first one, other is upset obviously
- you pull girl in bathroom and caught getting BJ by live in girl
- both of you scolded and kicked out of party
- friend still at party, your car is 15 minutes away(cant blame friend, hes getting his own smash on)
- girl upset, you light a cig and accidentally blow smoke in her face
- she super upset now and calls her roomate(female) and gets picked up
- walk around listening to Johnny Cash until your friend leaves the party
- you drive home with friend, vomit on his couch
- wake up sleeping in vomit
- girl never calls you back

what would you have done?

-StrongMeat-

not sure if srs but i would have banged the live in gf. the other cant kick me out and she has a bedroom. win win situation

[StrongMeat]

not sure if srs but i would have banged the live in gf. the other cant kick me out and she has a bedroom. win win situation

very serious

for clarification, first girl was 8/10 second girl is 6/10 and desperate

-StrongMeat-

[judowrestler1]

if your planning on seeing her after break at school i'd say cut it off and maybe text her when you get back. seems like she might be not as interested as you are in her. you throw her a curveball and not talk to her she night come to you and play into your hand. possibly something you said might have spooked her during your time together or she lost interest. zero contact is your best weapon here. best of luck.

Yeah that's what I figured.

[IronPuma]

very serious

for clarification, first girl was 8/10 second girl is 6/10 and desperate

-StrongMeat-

hmmmm well i really cant blame you then for trying to get it in with the 8/10 but maybe picked a better place. possibly asked your buddy to use his car. that way when the other girl gets drunk and leaves you can still bang the other girl if you want.

[JFizzle23]

-I Broke off a relationship where we'd grown VERY close. It's been about 2.5 months.
-Reason was due to colleges being rather far away, which is definitely a problem. Was very sad at the time.
-It was VERY sudden, and I regret it at times. She still wanted to be friends, but at the time I couldn't do that.
-Not heartbroken/sad anymore, but 2 good opportunities have come up in that time, but "it" just wasn't there.
-Lately...I've really debated texting her and seeing where it goes. Maybe waiting for Christmas morning or something. Because when we stopped... she said all she wanted for Christmas was to know I cared about her.

Would I be stupid for texting her?
And would it come off as I'd be crawling back?

[IronPuma]

-I Broke off a relationship where we'd grown VERY close. It's been about 2.5 months.
-Reason was due to colleges being rather far away, which is definitely a problem. Was very sad at the time.
-It was VERY sudden, and I regret it at times. She still wanted to be friends, but at the time I couldn't do that.
-Not heartbroken/sad anymore, but 2 good opportunities have come up in that time, but "it" just wasn't there.
-Lately...I've really debated texting her and seeing where it goes. Maybe waiting for Christmas morning or something. Because when we stopped... she said all she wanted for Christmas was to know I cared about her.

Would I be stupid for texting her?
And would it come off as I'd be crawling back?

lol'd at waiting for chirstmas cause of what she said...real cute. i mean if you really do care for her and want it to work then dont wait another minute. the worst regret is not doing something especially related to love or strong feelings which im sensing your having. if you want her back then call her right now and tell her how you feel. if you want something in life you'll make it work. best of luck brah.

[IronPuma]

anyone?

[BlackGenetics10]

Just tell me what to do and ill do it, srs tired of seeing bs threads where things blow up in peoples faces because they dont follow advice.

Cute chick ive know for a while but never really labelled as friends, we roughhouse (me throwing her around/dominating her and her coming back for more) and ive rubbed my boner on her unintentionally and seen her blush and smile immensely. However, she does not show any kind of interest in her texts, leading to me taking it personal and cutting contact/not showing much interest in person. She is always the first person to speak to me unless i need her for something in these times. I've given her the benefit of the doubt in this texting matter many times, initiated with her far more than i normally do, and I'm sure at this point it can only be hurting me.

The other day i sent the line:

Me:Send me a pic
Her an hour later: What
Me: Send me a pic so i can show Santa what i want for christmas
no response, delete her number

I sent her a text before lightly joking with her over her attire, and she responded 2 hours later "Ha, ok".


I don't want to be the guy that over analyzes everything but i sort of have to get you guys' opinion i guess. In my opinion, she could have atleast responded to the text in some way, but nope that was the end of it. Yet the next morning i can feel her staring at me and she sings my name (which i ignore cause i was busy at the time) when someone calls me. The only excuse for the texting disrespect could be her crazy arse fuark mom who constantly checks her messages, but i also flirt with her sister (sent her sister the same santa line before actually) and her sister is less attractive but a lot more responsive to me.
She's also forgetful-which is why i gave her more chances than normal to begin with.

That's pretty much everything i can say. What do?

I am attracted to her very much but thats probably clouding my judgement.

[IronPuma]

Just tell me what to do and ill do it, srs tired of seeing bs threads where things blow up in peoples faces because they dont follow advice.

Cute chick ive know for a while but never really labelled as friends, we roughhouse (me throwing her around/dominating her and her coming back for more) and ive rubbed my boner on her unintentionally and seen her blush and smile immensely. However, she does not show any kind of interest in her texts, leading to me taking it personal and cutting contact/not showing much interest in person. She is always the first person to speak to me unless i need her for something in these times. I've given her the benefit of the doubt in this texting matter many times, initiated with her far more than i normally do, and I'm sure at this point it can only be hurting me.

The other day i sent the line:

Me:Send me a pic
Her an hour later: What
Me: Send me a pic so i can show Santa what i want for christmas
no response, delete her number

I sent her a text before lightly joking with her over her attire, and she responded 2 hours later "Ha, ok".


I don't want to be the guy that over analyzes everything but i sort of have to get you guys' opinion i guess. In my opinion, she could have atleast responded to the text in some way, but nope that was the end of it. Yet the next morning i can feel her staring at me and she sings my name (which i ignore cause i was busy at the time) when someone calls me. The only excuse for the texting disrespect could be her crazy arse fuark mom who constantly checks her messages, but i also flirt with her sister (sent her sister the same santa line before actually) and her sister is less attractive but a lot more responsive to me.
She's also forgetful-which is why i gave her more chances than normal to begin with.

That's pretty much everything i can say. What do?

I am attracted to her very much but thats probably clouding my judgement.

you mean to tell me you texted her sister and you expect her to be responsive to the text you sent her as well? what are you looking to get out of this cause if its a relationship you've gone about it in the wrong way and should prolly cut your losses. for the future dont text her sister the same **** you text her. for the future you should have prolly just initiated during those roughhouse times as you called it and tried to progress sexually. would have told you for sure if she was interested or not. i dont have much to go on but she might have been. best of luck.

[xplsive]

Cliffs:
Was unhappy in the relationship, i tell her lets go our separate ways and she says she agrees its not there anymore, then i try to get back with her and she says not right despite her saying she misses me and etc. She said its better off not right now ...couldn't give me a clear reason. What should i do if i want her back?

[RobleClient]

cliffs:

-friends since high school
-both had crushes on each but I never made a move
-she eventually got a bf
-fast forward to 2011, her bf since 12th grade broke up with her in july
-started chilling with mutual friends
-talked more online/text (even had a 20+ msg convo in one day) <- we don't see each other in person too often due to school
-asked her out to some place, she wanted to bring a mutual friend but friend could not show up and we still went anyways
-week later we were suppose to go to two different places and on Thursday she forgot/apologized. wasn't worried because it was a late plan but I planned to go to this place with her and incase we couldn't go she asked to pick a different date.
-i picked an earlier date and the day before she was confused since we were suppose to go the day after.
-on friday she didn't even tell me she went somewhere and we were forced to cancel.
-she said hopefully we could go some other day.

haven't contacted since last weekend.

EDITED: during the course of several months i've gotten many good/mixed signals so i'm very very confused.

[Bracket199]

GF always wants little things done. Like my status, look who liked my photo, WHY AREN'T YOU LIKING MY PHOTO, don't post offensive things on my statuses, why didn't you like my status...you better like it.

Things like that now are seriously pissing me off. I do lots to help in this relationship, and I ask for nothing in return. Makes me rage sometimes.

Tips on dealing with this?

[IronPuma]

Cliffs:
Was unhappy in the relationship, i tell her lets go our separate ways and she says she agrees its not there anymore, then i try to get back with her and she says not right despite her saying she misses me and etc. She said its better off not right now ...couldn't give me a clear reason. What should i do if i want her back?

well obviously you need to cut contact. you keep pursuing you'll just push her away. let he be and hopefully soon she'll be putty in your hands.

cliffs:

-friends since high school
-both had crushes on each but I never made a move
-she eventually got a bf
-fast forward to 2011, her bf since 12th grade broke up with her in july
-started chilling with mutual friends
-talked more online/text (even had a 20+ msg convo in one day) <- we don't see each other in person too often due to school
-asked her out to some place, she wanted to bring a mutual friend but friend could not show up and we still went anyways
-week later we were suppose to go to two different places and on Thursday she forgot/apologized. wasn't worried because it was a late plan but I planned to go to this place with her and incase we couldn't go she asked to pick a different date.
-i picked an earlier date and the day before she was confused since we were suppose to go the day after.
-on friday she didn't even tell me she went somewhere and we were forced to cancel.
-she said hopefully we could go some other day.

haven't contacted since last weekend.

am i reading this correctly that she's blown you off three different times already? i was in a similar situation to this. we found out later the people we were in high school was nit the people we are now. thats prolly where she's at and just doesnt want to tell you. if im reading this right that is but thats what it sounds like.

[RobleClient]

well obviously you need to cut contact. you keep pursuing you'll just push her away. let he be and hopefully soon she'll be putty in your hands.



am i reading this correctly that she's blown you off three different times already? i was in a similar situation to this. we found out later the people we were in high school was nit the people we are now. thats prolly where she's at and just doesnt want to tell you. if im reading this right that is but thats what it sounds like.

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was blown off twice, one because it was her mistake and other because her and her fam went out of town.

EDIT: to go into detail, she mentioned break coming soon and that we would be able to see each other then

[Chubsman]

Have had a new gf for about month. Since i have met her i knew she had a very good male friend who i trust because i know him also, but recently the other two guys who were talking to her before we started dating are texting/calling her, and today she went to a bookstore with one of them. I don't really care about it, but I'm wondering what some of you brahs would do, should i just not care and not do anything, or end it and say that if she wants to talk/go places with other guys then she can do that? She has way more guy friends than girl friends and all i have seen lately if the guys/girls cannot be just friends.

[IronPuma]

GF always wants little things done. Like my status, look who liked my photo, WHY AREN'T YOU LIKING MY PHOTO, don't post offensive things on my statuses, why didn't you like my status...you better like it.

Things like that now are seriously pissing me off. I do lots to help in this relationship, and I ask for nothing in return. Makes me rage sometimes.

Tips on dealing with this?

3 questions how long have you been dating her and how long has this been going on and do you love her?

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was blown off twice, one because it was her mistake and other because her and her fam went out of town.

EDIT: to go into detail, she mentioned break coming soon and that we would be able to see each other then

well then i'd say try and make something happen and be sure to initate when your out with her alone. the fact that she keeps inviting friends says otherwise so idk. plan an alone date she blows you off or doesnt want to kiss you **** like that then move on cause you'll have your answer.

[IronPuma]

Have had a new gf for about month. Since i have met her i knew she had a very good male friend who i trust because i know him also, but recently the other two guys who were talking to her before we started dating are texting/calling her, and today she went to a bookstore with one of them. I don't really care about it, but I'm wondering what some of you brahs would do, should i just not care and not do anything, or end it and say that if she wants to talk/go places with other guys then she can do that? She has way more guy friends than girl friends and all i have seen lately if the guys/girls cannot be just friends.

guys cant be friends with girls. there is always an ulterior motive. ask yourself the same question. would you **** girls your friends with? I think you have your answer.

[Bracket199]

3 questions how long have you been dating her and how long has this been going on and do you love her?

Do love her. Been 8 months. Happy, but sometimes these small controlling things get on my nerves. I never ask her about things like this because I don't care, and don't see them as a big deal.

Funny enough, I don't bring this up to her because, just like another poster said, I don't want to deal with an argument on something small.

[IronPuma]

well me personally i would have nipped that crap in the but the minute it started cause i cant stand it. if this is becoming a huge problem for you (i hope it is) you should be very stern about it and let her know this is not acceptable behavior and your not gonna put up with it. if you let this continue it will only get worse. feel free to pm me with help and updates to your situation.

[chivasregal]

-I Broke off a relationship where we'd grown VERY close. It's been about 2.5 months.
-Reason was due to colleges being rather far away, which is definitely a problem. Was very sad at the time.
-It was VERY sudden, and I regret it at times. She still wanted to be friends, but at the time I couldn't do that.
-Not heartbroken/sad anymore, but 2 good opportunities have come up in that time, but "it" just wasn't there.
-Lately...I've really debated texting her and seeing where it goes. Maybe waiting for Christmas morning or something. Because when we stopped... she said all she wanted for Christmas was to know I cared about her.

Would I be stupid for texting her?
And would it come off as I'd be crawling back?

Whoa man. In the same situation but we are still very happy with each other. Gonna be with her whole christmas break. I live about 5 hours from her. We've fought once but that's it. I hopeeverythings okay with you now. Itd be nice to hear more of your story though (srs)

please respond.

[IronPuma]

Do love her. Been 8 months. Happy, but sometimes these small controlling things get on my nerves. I never ask her about things like this because I don't care, and don't see them as a big deal.

Funny enough, I don't bring this up to her because, just like another poster said, I don't want to deal with an argument on something small.

also your 20 years old bro. if this doesnt work out your still young this doesnt have to be the girl your gonna marry. trust me.

[IronPuma]

Whoa man. In the same situation but we are still very happy with each other. Gonna be with her whole christmas break. I live about 5 hours from her. We've fought once but that's it. I hopeeverythings okay with you now. Itd be nice to hear more of your story though (srs)

please respond.

want to share your story?

[Chubsman]

guys cant be friends with girls. there is always an ulterior motive. ask yourself the same question. would you **** girls your friends with? I think you have your answer.

But wat do? I mean it's sketchy that she is always talking to another guy. Should i just end it or try to talk to her?

[Bracket199]

also your 20 years old bro. if this doesnt work out your still young this doesnt have to be the girl your gonna marry. trust me.

That's the advice? I could've went into like 40 threads and gotten the same thing.