For the year of 2016 I've been doing everything in power to meet some decent women. That includes going out, expanding my social circle, and trying new things. And as usual its like the twlight zone. I try to come correct as humanly possible and I just get nothing but disinterest. Race, subculture, and etc doesn't even seem to matter. I did manage to land a make out with a cute girl at Dragoncon, but honestly it was a rave and people were drunk and or on molly so to be real that wasn't a success. Manage to get a 5/10 mexican girl, but she told me I wasn't "relationship material" yet I was somehow good enough to have sex with. Then I met a nurse that turned out to be kinda psycho clingy. Posted that convo and naturally everyone told me I went about it wrong, but from what I've learned she got back with some abusive dude. Then recently came across a decent looking intelligent and driven girl. Naturally I knew something had to be up and low and behold she had an incurable STD. Easily have tried to actively hit on maybe 100+ girls irl and perhaps 300+ online this year and they arent like HBBs or anything. Sometimes I get minor interest but they generally flake out or stop replying. That said there are women that do like me. For the most part they're overweight to obese women and or single moms looking for a meal ticket. Sometimes I'll catch older women or 1-3/10 women glancing at me. Most of the Chads and self proclaimed masters of female psychology all seem to think I'm a 10/10 and my "anger" or "lack of game" is the reason. Yet my lines work for my friends that look decent. Recenty was at a bar and my boys were on Tinder. Gave them all lines and witty remarks. They all got numbers and set up dates. Meanwhile I just kinda sipped my drink and kept trying to talk to girls that were physically there but with no success. Yet they naturally inquired about my friends who stood there and did absolutely nothing. Granted this was an all white establishment so I expected nothing going in. Tried solo'ing black resturaunts, lounges, bars, and etc. Those women seem to reject my approach even harder.
To be honest I know my location and ethnic social group composition have a massive influence on my success or lack there of. Recently I spoofed my Tinder to several major cities where I'm looking at jobs (Seattle, D.C, Baltimore) and just like clockwork I started getting decent matches. Most miscers would still say things like "would not bang" but I just want average women that arent that large and in those cities apparently those women like my profile/looks. But my biggest road block in dating is the fact I'm not attracted to most women that show interest (obese women/occasional terrible looking skinny girl). You can call me shallow or the male deadliftbrah, but my standards arent high. Don't be fat, and be average looking. Maybe thats todays hot girl due to rampant obesity and I'm asking for too much. Recently I've had a lot of girls that I went to highschool with start hitting me up. Guess once they gain weight and have children I'm the viable option
Perhaps I need to disregard mass/strength and try to get diced up and see what happens with a more defined body
Perhaps I need to try to find more classier black friends so I stop running into the infamous "I dont date black men sorry" ( I legit get this irl and on OKC/POF) or "Ill sleep with you but we arent dating"
Perhaps I need to bite the bullet, risk financial ruin, and just move to some expensive metropolitan area and wing it.
Perhaps I need to understand my place and just accept the girls that like me.
But whatever I need to do the effort to reward ratio of going out of my way to talk to women isn't worth it.
Most foreveraloners that arent social idiots arent really FA'er. We just don't accept what gravitates towards and we fall for this idea if we just work harder or just do X it'll get better. pretty girls just seem totally out of my reach.
I'm pumping the brakes on dating completely. Rather focus on school, fitness (thinking about trying for a show), and free time (shooting, racing, hiking, and etc). For some of you talking to women seems to be fun and rewarding (which is why you enjoy the chase) for some of us. Its just draining. If you're gonna flame me then go ahead. Anyone gonna chill out with this whole pursuing thing?
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10-27-2016, 12:13 PM #1
Taking a break because I need a reset
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10-27-2016, 12:24 PM #2
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Best decision you could've made. Refresh your head and come back 6 months down the road. Maybe even take a break from the misc at this point. I'm rarely on the misc when my life is going well. If you're here for the luls and don't take it too serious, it can be a fun place. If you're here for support, I'd try to find another outlet in real life. I guess I need to heed my own advice as well.
I remember watching a vid where you were really well spoken. You just seemed a bit bland. Anyway I'm sure you're gonna make it one day. It just takes time. Good luck brah!
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10-27-2016, 12:33 PM #3
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10-27-2016, 01:53 PM #4
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10-27-2016, 02:07 PM #5
what happened to that pharmacy girl? I thought you had made it!
For real though...this is a good idea. Just keep in mind that you can't go just NOT have any sort of intimate contact and swear off women completely - I've tried that and if you are a healthy guy like myself that lifts, you will just want to phuck everything in sight after 6 months. Just focus on yourself and don't invest more than X amount of time a week/month into women. Hop on to tinder occasionally/etc and talk to a girl to pass the time or to get a quick lay (even if its an overweight one...we all have needs). So far it has worked for me since I started it at the start of the year - but my mistake was thinking that I could just invest NO time in women, which just results in you having so much pent up sexual frustration that you will phuck anything.
Also keep in mind, for people like US, taking break is for our sanity, it's not a weird way to get more women. Taking a break and "working on ourselves" for us does not magically mean women will just "come" or be more attracted to us, like the CHADS on the misc keep saying. you will set yourself up for dissapointment.-Max Squat drops from 415 to 200 after going 1 degree past 90 degree knee bend crew.
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10-27-2016, 02:20 PM #6
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10-27-2016, 02:22 PM #8
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10-27-2016, 02:29 PM #10
It is the same for me. One thing that I have been thinking and wanted to ask was I have came across so many profiles of girls which have been on the online dating for years. I mean how much time does it take to find a guy when you are getting so many emails daily ? One girl has been on the website since 2012 wtf.
The thing is the expectations of girls have skyrocketed since the Tinder and online dating stuff and also I guess I try to target the girls who are way out of my leauge so I do get shot down.
Being an Indian also does not help. One girl was interested and as soon as I told her I was from India she canceled the date, But When I do Cold approaches I always get the question " Where are you from ? " because I do not have an Indian accent and few girls tell me they literally thought I was an half caste or someone who was born here.
I totally understand what you are saying but apart from trying there is nothing much we can do. I have an attitude of where a girl is not interested I feel sorry for her for not seeing my worth. It is her loss not mine and move on.
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10-27-2016, 03:14 PM #11
i did the same thing except now I just smoke weed and play video games in my spare time. does it sound pathetic? To some it may, but i could give two fuks. i'm having way more fun now than constantly being on edge making sure I don't fuk something up, playing the flake game, arranging for halfassedmeetups, embarrassing myself in public , experiencing rejections
if your a chad and woman/relationships have always come naturally, it's worth it.
if your not, the effort and stress isn't worth the end result. you have to put way more effort for worse results. just do things u enjoy, and if a woman naturally comes into your life like it does for the chads/naturals, so be it. If it's not in your plate thats ok too. the vast majority of males of any species who ever lived die before passing on their genes...nothing to be butthurt about really. its only in the relative recent period everyone is supposed to be able to marry a cute girl, with all the positive traits, low sex partners count, etc. and now that those girls are rarer than ever with obesity/social media/moral standards just thrown out the window.... so unless u grow up a chad, you are going to either settle with a big red flag, or just do you. no matter how much "self improvement" one does which is basically codename for either gymceling or wageceling.
i think guys who dont grow up with normal relationships with women unfortunately grow up a bit cyncical when it comes to dating. i know it did for me. MGTOW(aka feminism for men), "No contacting" when the littlest thing goes wrong just so i can look "alpha" ....lol. all of that ****...i dont even know. i dont think any kind of game or selfimprovement can make up for missed out on missed experiences in teen/early adult years.
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10-27-2016, 03:39 PM #12
100+ in person and 300+ online in one year?
Jesus. I've never hit on that many in my life. Yes, take a break and reframe.Forever alone? Attraction and keeping the girl chasing you - http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=131498033
You will never know your limits, unless you push yourself past the imaginary lines you have drawn in the sand.
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10-27-2016, 03:53 PM #13
Pretty much when I mean that you just dont and can't understand .Average looking women in my area just don't feel the otak. Theres a black girl about as far as the one you boastfully found on tinder for me, and a legit 2-10/10 white girl. She's skinny to the point where she has no body at all. Maybe I'm wrong for and my situation is my fault, but these women just arent pretty to me. I don't lift and eat right for obese women fam.
Spent the day reading comics, and sleeping it. 5 star use of time. Trying to find some programs to help at risk kids around the city now too. Think Im gonna try to de-vinly wrap my car roof as well. Since everyone is doing logs I'll keep this
Old Man Logan movie is coming soon. Curious how this is gonna work due to Fox owning the Xmen and Marvel owning everyone else that appeared in the comic. So its going to be extremely different. Probably similar in name only.
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10-27-2016, 03:59 PM #14
I'm considering taking a break too, and I'm currently seeing someone. I am finding that I just can't deal with the fluctuating good/bad feelings that come with seeing someone. Personal issue for sure, just kind of not in the right headspace to be dating anyone if I'm getting negative feelings to no fault of theirs.
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10-27-2016, 04:15 PM #15
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10-27-2016, 09:10 PM #17
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I'm glad you're finally looking into moving locations. Seattle would be a good cup o'tea for you assuming you don't mind some rain and cold. Summer time is beautiful there. Plus, you can snowboard. A'int no brothers up on the ski lifts so you'll stand out and maybe land some snow bunnies. (srs) I hope you get out of where you are, that **** can be toxic. When I lived in Georgia, it was probably the most unhappy I've ever been in my life. Every chance I could take, I drove to Florida or wherever I could to get away from the fatty mcfatterson types.
There's places where everyone fits in better. It doesn't guarantee success (nothing ever does) but it at least helps keep sanity. As I said in another thread, I was in Phoenix and I've never been hit on so much in my life. Meanwhile, my good friend is there (half black) and the dude only gets 3/10 chicks talking to him. He's frustrated as hell and for good reason, he's in shape, educated, successful, etc. Sometimes you just have to pack up and leave. The sooner you do it, the better. Get that suit ready and hit up every interview you can, even if it means you have to fly out for it.
And to sound completely cliche, remember every day is a fresh start. That's how I tackle **** when things go wrong. I learned that in ranger school. Treat everything as a block of time. It kept me sane and I watched A LOT of people fail out who didn't have that mentality. Right now you're in a rough block of time and soon it'll be over and you'll be somewhere else.
Hit me up on myspace if you do take a break from the misc.
Just kidding fam, PM me if you want. Also, if you have computer based skills (no idea what you actually do) let me know and I have some contacts who make legit money out this way who might have recommendations for work.
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10-27-2016, 09:11 PM #18
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10-28-2016, 10:48 AM #19
She brought it up over text before she stayed the night over. Yeah dating apps are just a bust in this area. I just got messaged by some atrocious women. Like jesus.
This is why I always lol at that "BBC" and white insecurity on this board. If you live in red states, rural areas, or conservative areas? Prepare to have fun dating. Then prepare to have soooooo many black girls ignore you because you arent a walking stereotype. But racism aint real doe lol.
Im not leaving the misc. However Im no longer approaching women unless they are blatantly showing interest.★cVc★ OEFx2
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10-28-2016, 11:13 AM #20
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10-28-2016, 12:19 PM #27
Eh. I don't expect anything from most women that arent black, but it is extremely annoying at how many black women seem disgusted by proper black men. Every black/mixed girl I've ever talked to always has something to say about my speech/accent or my hobbies. No other group of women does this. Like...its weird to see people subscribe to and EXPECT certain stereotypes from their own race.
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10-28-2016, 12:24 PM #28
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10-28-2016, 01:05 PM #29
The dating field is not going to magically become better in 6 or 12 months than it is now. Your dating problems are not going to vanish in 6 or 12 months.
Yeah, take a break. Or take it easy and slow, and don't make it a big deal of it. But, don't forget to chat up with women and pull the trigger, when an opportunity presents itself.
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