How would a MAN make you feel if he approached you.

[Zodprince]

Hi ladies, Im new to these forums though I had lurked around for some time. Im aware that many topics here are started by and/or responded to mainly by men. Men, feel free to respond though I would like to hear the thoughts from ladies on this especially.

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.

Now I don't care if you ended up in bed with the guy that day/rejected him/ended up in a relationship with him/married him, etc. I would just like to know why is it you did those things. (for example, how did he make you feel when he spoke to you that led you to sleep with him/reject him/marry him) and what type of impression did he have on you when he came up to talk to you. Confident? creepy? intriguing? Annoying? Would you like to be approached and spoken to in that manner? Or would you like someone to ask your 'opinion' on his faux leather pink pants and try to strike up meaningless chit chat when the truth is you both know exactly why he is talking to you. And yes I know the 'uuhh some women like it and some women dont' line, so just tell me why you do and why you dont.

I am leaving this pretty vague so you can answer however you see fit, or not at all.

Thanks!

[sonti]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

[Zodprince]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

Yeap fair enough. This is what I do, and as you had said it would work for some and it wont work for some. However the women I go for are usually all my age or a year or two older/younger and I cant stand party girls so I wouldnt think its necessarily an age thing.

[AnnieOlson]

I would be very flattered, but would have to tell him I'm married. I've never been approached like that ever lol.

[Zodprince]

I would be very flattered, but would have to tell him I'm married. I've never been approached like that ever lol.

There we go AnnieOlson, I was wondering about that. I'd like to think that even though the girl is taken/not interested or whatever, at the very least she will have a slightly better day knowing that someone found her attractive enough to take the time out and tell her that. (Not in a WK way) That way Im not as annoyed at getting rejected

[discdoggie]

I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.

[sonti]

Yeap fair enough. This is what I do, and as you had said it would work for some and it wont work for some. However the women I go for are usually all my age or a year or two older/younger and I cant stand party girls so I wouldnt think its necessarily an age thing.

I'm 27 But I guess I have also forgotten what dating was like, lol.

[RebeccaG]

I would have to be in the situation to know what I would do. There are too many factors that would affect my reaction. I will say, I would appreciate this approach much more than the standard pick up/cheesey line.

(Hypothetically speaking of course since I am married)

I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.

As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.

[seanb1979]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

its not the only thing we care about, its simply the first thing we notice

[sonti]

Sorry, that's what I meant - the #1 thing they notice. Same for women. And birds - hence those awesome giant red feather dance displays That's nature for ya.

[Zodprince]

Thats the thing really, in an approach like this a woman would have to make a quick decision on how attractive she finds the man based primarily on looks and confidence (and apparently they make the decision QUICK ) Nothing wrong with that at all,it is the way it is and it goes both ways. The only reason I would approach a woman is if I find her attractive so if Im not her cup of tea then Il go by the next woman who catches my eye and talk to her and so on.

Also, discdoggie. Of course the both of you could then carry on a conversation, but if the man approaches you because he found you attractive then he is just being honest in expressing it to you isnt it? He is giving you a chance to reject him, or stay and talk to him if you find him attractive or are inrtigued to see if he is capable on actually carrying on a decent conversation and getting along with you. There is just no head games...I HATE head games!

RebeccaG, yeah it would be a breath of fresh air from the 'did it hurt when you fell from heaven' line no?

Sonti: So then you would be the lady who walks away when I come up to you and tell you how sexy I find you. Oh well, at least I'd have made your day.

Pardon my replying in this manner, I dont know how to quote more than one response in a reply. (yes technologically illiterate).

[discdoggie]

As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.

If I was just walking down the street, I guess that's true.



Maybe I'm completely delusional, but I like to think that most of the time, except when I'm eating, sleeping, or playing around on the internet, I'm doing SOMETHING "commentworthy."

[Keltron]

Maybe I'm completely delusional, but I like to think that most of the time, except when I'm eating, sleeping, or playing around on the internet, I'm doing SOMETHING "commentworthy."

weighted pull ups.

[Caesar735]

i'd feel flattered

[JessBM]

I would be flattered. I am a very open minded person so as long as he is being respectful, I would totally see where it could go. The honesty and confidence would be nice to see, but at the same time I may question his character. Possibly. But I am all for chances, so I would see where it went.

[kineticforce]

Well I'd jump for joy because I'm married and used to hauling a toddler around and haven't been approached in a long time.

But if I was childless and single, I would roll my eyes and tell him to move along to the 18-21 year old age demographic that hasn't figured out a shark when they see them Not interested in a man who goes up to random women and tells them they are attractive. Yes, I know, it's ridiculous to think that physical attractiveness is not the #1 thing a man thinks of (of course they do, I know this), but do remember that there is a fine line between "confidence" and just coming on strong to anything & everything because you want to get laid. I'm not going to waste my time/night finding out. Maybe others would. Moot point, I'm married. My husband & I chatted about our workouts & hockey before he asked me out.

I must say I find your aesthetics fascinating and your rear delts very becoming..... I'd like to take your well sculpted gluteus maximus to a delightful resturant where we would have a couple glasses of red wine and exchange some witty banter and than maybe find ourselves getting closer and closer as the day goes on.... to exchange a kiss or 3...

and than to walk away never knowing each others name - what do you say?

I suppose I would be flattered. I wouldn't run away screaming "rape!" or anything like that. I would be MORE impressed if the approacher had something nice or complimentary to say to me besides my physical appearance.

you're front left inner most abdominal muscle makes my loins set fire and my mind just want to expand at the thought of seeing you outside of this fine grocery store establishment. You would accompany me to a great wine bar where we'd eat some nice horse douffers (spelled incorrectly for humor) and have at least one bottle of red wine and laugh about the other people there and how un-cool they were and how much we were a pair of thugs to these punks. We'd walk around the park, randomly stopping at secret entrances and embracing and finding ourselves giddy because of the great chemistry we have ...

you'd smack me on my butt and I the same to you - ending our night near some wild cove doing some things that may or may not be mentionable

:}

I would have to be in the situation to know what I would do. There are too many factors that would affect my reaction. I will say, I would appreciate this approach much more than the standard pick up/cheesey line.

(Hypothetically speaking of course since I am married)As a stranger, physical appearance is pretty much all he's got. Unless you happen to be reading a book or otherwise doing something commentworthy.

I would like to take you to a place of dim light and of copious amounts of beer and shots, we'd drink the night away and laugh with the other patrons of the bar. Yelling irish songs and talking about the things we most enjoy, while moderately slipping in the occasional innuendo about certain "Art" on statues we enjoy.

We'd make extreme eye contact while watching each others pupils dilate and become more and more attracted to each other, we find ourselves stumbling over the stools at the end of the night ... we'd be lucky to make it out of the bar at closing since we'd get kicked out because of our antics.

We'd leave each other with hopes of seeing each other again but never knowing each others names....

and ride off in the sunset of our horse cabs....

man I shoud be a writer :}

[kineticforce]

i'd feel flattered

I would like to take you out to the highest end club and get you in VIP style where you'd be lucky enough to accompany me in my 2013 lambo merc. you'd be bought shots and high end champagne all night long, I'd wk the fuuu outta you and tell you - we're no good for each other...

than I'd drop you off on the side of the road

:}

I would be flattered. I am a very open minded person so as long as he is being respectful, I would totally see where it could go. The honesty and confidence would be nice to see, but at the same time I may question his character. Possibly. But I am all for chances, so I would see where it went.

would you be willing to engage in some witty banter to which we could laugh at each other and see who's intelligence and wit would out do each other? We could go from store to store looking at all the interesting things, every so often stopping and getting a shot with a glass of wine (gotta keep it classy) and than we would make fun of the people getting dressed, just cause we can do that and we are a pair of punks who like to do fun things...

we'd then go to an airport close by and go skydiving, than get caught by a helicopter and taken to the closest island restaurant where we'd be so strung out on adrenaline we would just be so wide eyed and entranced by each other. We then would find ourselves greatly attracted to each other and let the night fade into the darkness as we walk along the beach in our rolled up jeans.....

:}

[JessBM]

Perfect.

[kineticforce]

Perfect.

I know I am, what did you think about what I suggested ?

:}

[RebeccaG]

I would like to take you to a place of dim light and of copious amounts of beer and shots, we'd drink the night away and laugh with the other patrons of the bar. Yelling irish songs and talking about the things we most enjoy, while moderately slipping in the occasional innuendo about certain "Art" on statues we enjoy.

We'd make extreme eye contact while watching each others pupils dilate and become more and more attracted to each other, we find ourselves stumbling over the stools at the end of the night ... we'd be lucky to make it out of the bar at closing since we'd get kicked out because of our antics.

We'd leave each other with hopes of seeing each other again but never knowing each others names....

and ride off in the sunset of our horse cabs....

man I shoud be a writer :}

I don't drink beer.

But I am ALL for yelling Irish songs.

[erinlee01]

I'm down for a Guinness and some Irish songs. That is my kind of party.

[discdoggie]

weighted pull ups.

Yes!

you're front left inner most abdominal muscle makes my loins set fire and my mind just want to expand at the thought of seeing you outside of this fine grocery store establishment. You would accompany me to a great wine bar where we'd eat some nice horse douffers (spelled incorrectly for humor) and have at least one bottle of red wine and laugh about the other people there and how un-cool they were and how much we were a pair of thugs to these punks. We'd walk around the park, randomly stopping at secret entrances and embracing and finding ourselves giddy because of the great chemistry we have ...

you'd smack me on my butt and I the same to you - ending our night near some wild cove doing some things that may or may not be mentionable

....
:}

Yes.

[latebloomingmom]

OP..gotta say I'd probably either think you were nuts but..would walk away grinning and shaking my head.

[MalteseManbeast]

I must say I find your aesthetics fascinating and your rear delts very becoming..... I'd like to take your well sculpted gluteus maximus to a delightful resturant where we would have a couple glasses of red wine and exchange some witty banter and than maybe find ourselves getting closer and closer as the day goes on.... to exchange a kiss or 3...

holy rep power batman.


just clap dem cheeks phaggot

[Zodprince]

OP..gotta say I'd probably either think you were nuts but..would walk away grinning and shaking my head.

Yea we cant win em all..

[latebloomingmom]

Yea we cant win em all..

Geez man what would ya do with em all if ya did?

[kineticforce]

holy rep power batman.
just clap dem cheeks phaggot

sarcasm-missed/10

[Zodprince]

Geez man what would ya do with em all if ya did?

I'd do what any person would do. Be excited....temporarily. Then Il go find something else that challenges me.

[BrotherWolf]

Hi ladies, Im new to these forums though I had lurked around for some time. Im aware that many topics here are started by and/or responded to mainly by men. Men, feel free to respond though I would like to hear the thoughts from ladies on this especially.

What are your thoughts on a man approaching you like, well a man? No rubbish about the weather, your opinion, none of that. Just coming right up to you and telling you that he finds you incredibly attractive in a very confident way and then proceed to have a conversation with you, which is kept just short enough for a future date to be set up where you know that things would get romantic real quick.

Now I don't care if you ended up in bed with the guy that day/rejected him/ended up in a relationship with him/married him, etc. I would just like to know why is it you did those things. (for example, how did he make you feel when he spoke to you that led you to sleep with him/reject him/marry him) and what type of impression did he have on you when he came up to talk to you. Confident? creepy? intriguing? Annoying? Would you like to be approached and spoken to in that manner? Or would you like someone to ask your 'opinion' on his faux leather pink pants and try to strike up meaningless chit chat when the truth is you both know exactly why he is talking to you. And yes I know the 'uuhh some women like it and some women dont' line, so just tell me why you do and why you dont.

I am leaving this pretty vague so you can answer however you see fit, or not at all.

Thanks!

Dude without a picture?? it's not just what you say .. it's how you say it and who is saying it

[latebloomingmom]

I'd do what any person would do. Be excited....temporarily. Then Il go find something else that challenges me.

Ha...I knew it!