Being boring/having no personality is the worst thing a person can be.

[damlurker]

Lettuce be cereal, it worse than being a "bad human being" (wut ever the fuk that means)..
Fuk it. At least people know you exist. people might hate you but you are still a presence.

You be boring, powerless, socially retarded and having no way to affect anyone = YOU SIMPLE DO NOT EXIST!

People dont even see you (i mean LITERALLY people cease to see you in RL). completely being serious.. Ive been in line to talk to a prof and this kid (nerdy Indian guy like me.. he wasnt trying to be cocky) just walks right in front of me and talks to the prof first cos I dont even exist.

People say "lawl! just be yourself! dont worry about it". but what if you realy are (or atleast what you can afford to show the world, since you're scared) is a boring as dishwater non-person?

And when it comes to actually getting laid (for a guy i mean, if ur a attractive female guys would still approach even if u're boring.. but god help the unattractive females who are boring) that it guys. game fuking over.

I mean look at it.. I wrote it in another thrad but srsly look at it:

Ugly people get laid. people with HORRIBLE morals/values get laid. Incredibly stupid people get laid. People with no remorse nor feeling towards others get laid.


But for the socially awkward, there is no chance.
Ive often said that being boring and uninteresting is the worst "sin" you could commit. You cannot connect with other people = YOU DO NOT EXIST.

you could be a total asshole/douche but people will KNOW you exist and in a way they will still CARE.

Be boring, be awkward and you cease to exist.

I saw a story on the news once of this legally mentally disable guy who had fathered like 10 kids or so with 10 different women or something like that..

mind = blown. this guy actually gets disability benefits, but manages to get laid so much he has 10kids in his 20's.. WTF.

But I've won scholarships to come here to study in the USA, majored in electrical engineering mastering bullshit maths and concepts that would blow the mind of 99% of the human population, and now in grad school for the same bullshit.. (just keeping it real.. no brag i know MILLIONS of people do the same thing and I'm in no way a good student.. well at least not anymore but that's a separate story), but lettuce be reality I cant get a single friend to even call me to do anything remotely fun on a weekend to save my fuking life.. (not gonna even talk about getting laid considering my 26yr foreveralone.jpg virgin status.. its a forgone conclusion i'll die a virgin at this point)

In fact I had a room-mate who i lived with for 5yrs almost. He was completely dishonest, utterly lazy and everyone pretty much knew it and hated him. I was pretty much the only friend he had and in the end we found out that he had even stole from me. (used my credit card to order food for god knows how long..)

But people STILL ask about him. in a weird way people still care about him. In fact I see people in the gym sometimes and the only reason they talk to me is to ask about that guy..

Why? Because even though he was a complete fail as a person he would still joke around with people, and connect with them.. he used to be, at least on the surface A NORMAL GUY. (plus he was excellent at bullshitting.)

But turn that shit around: I was gone for about 6+ months from the US and I doubt anyone EVER asked ANYONE where I was. No one ever messaged me on the internet.. no one i knew in REAL LIFE even ever replies to my ******** posts.. Only people who do are people I've never even met in RL.. fail.


fact of the matter is, if you are a boring sod who cant talk to people, you DO NOT exist. you might as well be dead as far as society is concerned.

heh in fact i could kill myself right now and not a single fuk would be given.

/Rant

[Weekling]

It's because you hate talking to people.....not because you have no personality. I just realized this a few days ago brah. I used to listen to people say "be yourself" and I would just think....wtf am I? What is a personality? (srs). I used to want to go back inside my head when I started talking to people so I was "boring" to stop the convo as quick as possible. I'm forcing myself to talk to people now. Just say anything to make convo's go and try to make a friend.

You have a personality, you just aren't using it so you believe you don't have it. Trust me. I'm learning that people actually enjoy talking to me when I listen and respond appropriately. The quick wits I still have to develop though.

The fact I even typed that to you means I have changed because a week ago I would have agreed. Just talk to someone man.

[DATNEWNEWNEW]

what you said is true.... How do you plan to change?

[FLChamp]

For some reason, I don't think it's a good idea to play the father to ten different children whose mothers you probably met in some random subway. You definitely have problems if you're envious of that.

[LovesMuscles]

It's because you hate talking to people.....not because you have no personality. I just realized this a few days ago brah. I used to listen to people say "be yourself" and I would just think....wtf am I? What is a personality? (srs). I used to want to go back inside my head when I started talking to people so I was "boring" to stop the convo as quick as possible. I'm forcing myself to talk to people now. Just say anything to make convo's go and try to make a friend.

You have a personality, you just aren't using it so you believe you don't have it. Trust me. I'm learning that people actually enjoy talking to me when I listen and respond appropriately. The quick wits I still have to develop though.

The fact I even typed that to you means I have changed because a week ago I would have agreed. Just talk to someone man.

I lol'd.


I guess having a personality means having quirks that make you unique, how you say things/what you say.


That's actually seems hard to answer lol.

[Weekling]

I lol'd.


I guess having a personality means having quirks that make you unique, how you say things/what you say.


That's actually seems hard to answer lol.

No sh!t and its the reason I wallowed in self-pity like a *******. There is no answer. Every thought that races through your head is unique and only you know about it.

I majored in computer engineering and I felt I was better than everyone else and "should" get laid for being smart. LOL what an asshat I am. Think about it OP. Being smart makes a girl want your wallet not your d!ck.

In your pics you're mean mugging in every single one. Smile man, I would think you were about to bomb me if you were walking the streets all mad-like.

[Rockchalk0420]

ppl who have a ****ty personality take life wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to srsly. Be able to laugh at yourself, get enjoyment and fulfillment out of life.

[rob112]

when you use parenthesis(like this) the sentence should flow as if they weren't there.

In all seriousness, if you had the balls to speak your mind like you are right now, people would notice you. Could be good, could be bad, but they would notice.

[Weekling]

OP I will give you the concept of self-prophecy:

You think nobody thinks your interesting, you think you have nothing to offer. This is in your mind all day. So even if a girl walked up to you and said she knew you from somewhere, instead of taking advantage of situation and saying "yea i saw you at blah blah blah" you just think to yourself foreveralone and say you've never seen her. Hence affirming your prophecy of being boring and dull.

Dude im telling you once I realized this I wanted to fuking scream. My mindset changed overnight. This exact situation happened to me Saturday and she was cute. Once you realize you cause your own problems it will start slowly getting better. I'm actually looking forward to getting shot down at the bars tomorrow night so I can feel like I am getting somewhere (srs). They just gunna shoot me down and it'll maybe be a second or 2 before their brain starts to process something else. Look at everything positive man, your not in Japan getting irradiated right now. Your an engineer stop being a moron.

[Jaycee41]

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[Weekling]

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Hahahahahahaha your the party alone kid!

[Jaycee41]

Hahahahahahaha your the party alone kid!

yeah. whats the big deal?

[Weekling]

yeah. whats the big deal?

Nothing just thought it was funny how you got him back lol

Good will always triumph over evil OP so if you act evil your gunna be alone.

[MakeTheChanges]

this is the most retarded logic I've ever seen. So you'd be "terrible person" so you can win some stupid popularity contest? Your a engineer graduate for ****s sakes. You sound pathetic. Grow some balls and make some use out of your life.

Face it, you want to get laid, and the only reason why that is such a high priority for you is because you've never had sex before. So why don't you go out every night and try to pull some pussy until you get it.

Until then, I don't know what to say to you. You are wasting your life away stressing about nonproblems. Be reasonable and make a list of goals for yourself. Change the way you think. Build some resiliency. And just enjoy life for fuks sakes you are 25 years old.

[MakeTheChanges]

also, everyone has a personality. you are just afraid to show it.

[Hetzen]

1. stop bitching

2. find a sociable hobby. car people are usually very friendly if you're not a d-ck and it'll give you something to do. or find something else.

[EaS2010]

being shallow, pedantic and creepy is the worst.

[damlurker]

wow just watched a movie review and the reviewer, while trying to explain why motion capture works, said something which pretty much explains it:



starts @1:45 or so... the stuff he says on how humans get information about other humans 90% from non-verbal means.

wow... mind = blown.

[xvicknumber7x]

You need a job in sales. I was pretty similar to you until I got a job in sales... **** turned my life around.

[wannabe-strong]

Really if I was getting a masters degree and knew that I was gonna make bank in the near future I would think that I'm the fukking sh!t and everyone should want to be chilling with me...this is the mind set you should have.

Example, I'm majoring in econ, math and probably computer science I'll get it done in two years and knowing that I'm going to make bank after, I don't know what more you can ask for.

Get built. Get ripped. Be nice and friendly to everyone because someday they might be a good connections.

And to be noticed by people you have to dress nice, be well-groomed, and be in places where you CAN be seen and where you can be NOTICED. The reasons I go to study at the library and sh!t is to be mired especially by other friends...lol thats my main motivation...plus I get to show people how studious I am and sh!t. All good qualities to have in a friend.

[damlurker]

Really if I was getting a masters degree and knew that I was gonna make bank in the near future I would think that I'm the fukking sh!t and everyone should want to be chilling with me...this is the mind set you should have.

lol! at this point I dont give two fuks about getting a degree or even this field tbh..
everyone considers engineers as nerds and socially awkward losers with shit pay anyways..

I'm considering leaving and going back to living with my parents. At least I will have some place to live, food and a internet connection to just live out the rest of my life.

meh.. I'll be making a on this within the next week... mom will probably make me stay though.. fuk it.

[Piranha89]

lol! at this point I dont give two fuks about getting a degree or even this field tbh..
everyone considers engineers as nerds and socially awkward losers with shit pay anyways..

I'm considering leaving and going back to living with my parents. At least I will have some place to live, food and a internet connection to just live out the rest of my life.

meh.. I'll be making a on this within the next week... mom will probably make me stay though.. fuk it.

Nobody feels sorry for you. Get out there and live your life...or not.

However, crying about it over the internet won't get you anywhere.

I used to be like you, luckily I snapped out of my gaming addiction at 19 and have made a 180 on the type of person I am.

Tough news but it's true.

[MacMan07]

You seem to connect with everyone on here just fine. You have your opinions and views, and you make others aware of them. Not everyone agrees, or likes you, but we all have an opinion of you. You exist here.

By that reasoning, you possess those same qualities in person as well, you just lack the confidence and social skills to properly express them. You can hone these qualities and skills if you wanted to. Yet, you are choosing to hide behind a computer screen, even though you know what you need to do. Pretending that your doomed is equally depressing and relieving for you, because it takes the pressure and accountability away from you, and places it on some bizarre and erroneous rationalization you coaxed up in your head.

[wannabe-strong]

are you kidding me?!?!? i go to umd and everyone loves engineers i love engineers lol they kick as$ and in my mind when I hear someone is an engineer i think they're smart ****s whose gonna be making bank after college. I try to be friendly as hell with anyone who is an engineer because of this and the ones I met are cool as sh!t and two of my best buds are engineers.

Everyone wishes they could be an engineer, but are scared because they don't have confidence in their math/science skills and sh!t and they have to resort to other easier majors.

Here is advice from my Comp Science teacher, just focus on your career and screw everyone else because when they see you on the top everyone will be coming to you.

Geesus dude get that ****ing masters it will help your game in the future and will make you look smart as hell and sh!t. Thats one of the reasons I'm trying to get a Ph.D some day just for the challenge and to reach my potential intellectually!! All you have to do is lose ****ing weight and get ripped and ****. You still have a baller piece of hair. Look at the mofos in those transformation threads and see how much their life changed after getting built.

Try to live up your potential bro thats what makes life fun. Live it up socially, intellectually, physically and financially!

[MacMan07]

OP, you should try smoking some herb and making some stoner friends. Nothing is less awkward than smoking pot together, it totally eliminates any social pressure, and it allows you to connect with others, all whilst having a ton of fun. I mean, you already piss away your free time on the internet, why not replace it with smoking every now and again, if it made you less hard on yourself and allowed you to connect with others.

[Megisto]

dude, get some drinks in ya and go find some chicks. When I was going through **** in my late teens, i'd just get drunk and hang out at social events/college bars w/e, you'll get laid in no time. Just don't ****ing drink alone, that'll just make **** worse lol.

I realize ur an engineer and all, but stop thinking so much. Sounds a lot like whenever you're in a halfway social environment you start thinking like mad and justifying everything/second guessing yourself. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone, if some ******* cuts in before you just tap his shoulder and tell him to gtf back in line (probably the most polite response you'll get on bb for this haha), you have that right. Your prof would prolly give you props for that.

and judging by your avi you look indian or guyanese or something (sorry if i'm being presumptuous), are you/your family hardcore traditional? i know a few indian guys who don't have game (or rather, don't really make an effort to have one) bc they're close with their family and pretty much have their parents bring em girls to marry. If this sounds familiar you it might just be you're goin through a really extended culture shock.

also, see a therapist man! its not a bad thing, I used to go a couple years back, they help you sort out **** and make you think in ways you don't normally think about things. It's not only for 'crazies', i think about half the people i know have been to a psychiatrist at some point in their lives. If ur in college, u def should have counsellors who'll basically do the same thing.

[nail clipper]

It's because you're still fat. Simply put. Brown people have a disadvantage in American society realize that. So if you're a fat brown guy, you're not getting any of the hot white/latina poon America has to offer. And I have brownie friends who get so much hot poon so don't even blame it on that.

Seriously, just focus on getting your degree and then getting jacked for this next year. You'll be making $$ with a good stable career + jacked = swimming in poon. Stop complaining, and think about this.

[TheComedian]

By that reasoning, you possess those same qualities in person as well, you just lack the confidence and social skills to properly express them. You can hone these qualities and skills if you wanted to. Yet, you are choosing to hide behind a computer screen, even though you know what you need to do. Pretending that your doomed is equally depressing and relieving for you, because it takes the pressure and accountability away from you, and places it on some bizarre and erroneous rationalization you coaxed up in your head.

What can he even really do at 25/26? lol

Once you get into your late 20s and hit 30, it's kinda too late for you. The social scene changes drastically. You won't fit in in younger bars and clubs. People will be wondering what the creepy older guy is doing there. And if his only social outlet and chance to be social is engineering classes at his college, like he said, the people there are probably 10x worse than he is.

[Weekling]

What can he even really do at 25/26? lol

Once you get into your late 20s and hit 30, it's kinda too late for you. The social scene changes drastically. You won't fit in in younger bars and clubs. People will be wondering what the creepy older guy is doing there. And if his only social outlet and chance to be social is engineering classes at his college, like he said, the people there are probably 10x worse than he is.

Most 20 year old's aren't jacked either. That's why he should be working out. Also once he has some money and a career that will look way hotter than some 23 year old whose still paying college loans and getting sh!tfaced every weekend. What do you think the 25 year old hottie's biological clock will pick.....hmmmmm

Directed at damlurker:

Dude just go to sleep now your talkin about giving up your dream.......dude its just pu$$y that's really going to make you go home? I guarantee if you talked to some chicks and danced with them at a club it would change your whole outlook on sh!t. Start there and stop thinking about getting laid. Thinking about getting laid only brings up negative emotions in me and I bet it does for you too so cut it out. Come on dude. Go to sleep, wake up and your going to realize thats retarded.

[DERJEVPOO]

What can he even really do at 25/26? lol

Once you get into your late 20s and hit 30, it's kinda too late for you. The social scene changes drastically. You won't fit in in younger bars and clubs. People will be wondering what the creepy older guy is doing there. And if his only social outlet and chance to be social is engineering classes at his college, like he said, the people there are probably 10x worse than he is.

brb rollin over and dying because I'm 27