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    A female friend that "friend zoned" me comes back.

    I get a text from a friend of mine that turned down my advances to her in May. We went on a trip together to another city a few hours away for a fitness expo, something we are both interested in.

    I've known her for two years and I've been her first friend since moving here. I was always very physically and mentally attracted to her, but she was married. I had to keep my distance at one point because I knew she was someone I could never have.

    So time passed and she later tells me that she is getting a divorce and she wanted me to go on this trip. A hotel room by myself with her.

    Long story short I make an advance and she turns me down.

    It got awkward driving back with her. I told her that she gave MANY physical and verbal cues to me. I wasn't upset but I felt I shouldn't have had to tell this to an adult on how to behave. I have not been the only man who made these comments, but I was her closest friend.

    She apologized and I'm not mad but I don't think she understands where I'm coming from.

    I don't have much animosity towards her, but I'm not certain if I can just be "friends" with her considering that I'm sexually attracted to her and I CANNOT control it. It also ties me up emotionally when I should focus on meeting other women.

    Any thoughts on what I should do?
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    If she seeing other dudes, hanging with her is guna make you feel worse. You should probably move on but don't sever contact completely just incase
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    You know exactly what to do.

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    sucks bad breh, but you gave it a shot.

    I know these feels too, feels bad man.
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    What's the point of being friends with her again if it's not what you want out of it.
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    Originally Posted by Neybor View Post
    If she seeing other dudes, hanging with her is guna make you feel worse. You should probably move on but don't sever contact completely just incase
    I'm thinking on how best to do this. I don't get mad at her when I see her. I saw her two months ago with a friend and hugged her. I just have no reason to hang out with her and me concerning myself with her has made life easier for me.

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    You know exactly what to do.

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    sucks bad breh, but you gave it a shot.

    I know these feels too, feels bad man.
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    Maybe she chickened out of it because she's in a middle of a divorce, which isn't exactly a great situation. Or it could be tons of different reasons.

    Personally, I wouldn't pursue it. She might not be into you at all, or she might, but in any case she has that divorce thing and she should take some time for herself, and not give you any baggage she might be carrying.
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    The awkward car ride and boundary talk sealed it...


    If you proceed to fade away then the second she sees you with another woman, she'll idealise you as the man of her dreams


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    Originally Posted by TheJizzler View Post
    The awkward car ride and boundary talk sealed it...


    If you proceed to fade away then the second she sees you with another woman, she'll idealise you as the man of her dreams


    Dead srs
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    i think talking to someone going through a dviorce is going to have a high fail probability. id be annoyed traeling and staying in her hotel just to get shut down. but i probably wouldnt of done it. i hedge my bets some with situaitons like these and write off girls like this and stick to friends
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    Honestly, in your shoes I wouldn't persue it either like others have said. Would probably just slowly fade out of sight and out of sound with her.

    Originally Posted by Highwind7 View Post
    Maybe she chickened out of it because she's in a middle of a divorce, which isn't exactly a great situation. Or it could be tons of different reasons.

    Personally, I wouldn't pursue it. She might not be into you at all, or she might, but in any case she has that divorce thing and she should take some time for herself, and not give you any baggage she might be carrying.
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    Originally Posted by jack90 View Post
    i think talking to someone going through a dviorce is going to have a high fail probability. id be annoyed traeling and staying in her hotel just to get shut down. but i probably wouldnt of done it. i hedge my bets some with situaitons like these and write off girls like this and stick to friends
    Well she paid most of the trip and it was a fitness expo in which I had contacts there so it wasn't just about her.

    But you are right in the above about divorcees.
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    never understood why guys want to be friends with girs they can't smash?
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    She may have liked the idea of going on a road trip with a hot guy, but in reality she realized she still wasn't over her ex.

    Maybe now that time has passed, she is more open to date new. But you need to find out if she wants the d or not.
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    Why the fukk would u still be friends with her. All she's gonna do is tell u how much dick she's taking
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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post
    Any thoughts on what I should do?
    You seem to get around a lot, you're a good looking guy in great shape, you can find any number of girls out there. Me, I'd pass on this one. She tooled you around with that hotel thing (that's ****ing unreal, tbh) and I'd also be wary of divorced chicks. People who get divorced once are much more likely to get them again. I'd see less long term investment opportunity in a divorced girl. It's not a complete show stopper red flag, but in this case coupled with the obnoxious thing she'd already done and your inability to control yourself -- nope.

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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post

    I don't have much animosity towards her, but I'm not certain if I can just be "friends" with her considering that I'm sexually attracted to her and I CANNOT control it. It also ties me up emotionally when I should focus on meeting other women.

    Any thoughts on what I should do?
    you already answered your own question bro. if you can do the friend thing, and stay normal than do it. if you cant move on with life
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    I've been in a similar situation, but w/ a co-worker. She was funny as hell, whip smart, and a bombshell, but married. We had mad chemistry. Fell pretty hard for her, but kept my mouth shut about it for obvious reasons. I will spare you the details, but long story short, she wanted an emotional affair for the longest time, then a real one. The constant back-and-forth and toying, whether consciously or not, wears on you.

    Looking back, I should've quit the job and went NC. Not saying you should go NC, for she may in time be ready for something, but I personally wouldn't spend time with someone who gives mixed signals like that. As I said before, whether they are conscious of their yo-yoing or not, it only causes frustration and confusion for you.

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    avoid her brah, every guy has a female kryptonite and she's yours (srs)
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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post
    I get a text from a friend of mine that turned down my advances to her in May. We went on a trip together to another city a few hours away for a fitness expo, something we are both interested in.

    I've known her for two years and I've been her first friend since moving here. I was always very physically and mentally attracted to her, but she was married. I had to keep my distance at one point because I knew she was someone I could never have.

    So time passed and she later tells me that she is getting a divorce and she wanted me to go on this trip. A hotel room by myself with her.

    Long story short I make an advance and she turns me down.

    It got awkward driving back with her. I told her that she gave MANY physical and verbal cues to me. I wasn't upset but I felt I shouldn't have had to tell this to an adult on how to behave. I have not been the only man who made these comments, but I was her closest friend.

    She apologized and I'm not mad but I don't think she understands where I'm coming from.

    I don't have much animosity towards her, but I'm not certain if I can just be "friends" with her considering that I'm sexually attracted to her and I CANNOT control it. It also ties me up emotionally when I should focus on meeting other women.

    Any thoughts on what I should do?
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    This is is my experience with women. I pick up some girl about a year ago. She is a young sloot, bar star, party girl but, looks like a good ****. Another notch on the belt. Off hands number, shoots nudes, and talks up a big game about being a freak. At this time, I am bouncing city to city for business, and keeping tabs on anyone particular chick is absurd. It happens or it don't. No sweat.

    After a week, this bitch does a disappearing act; no text; no re or re with one word answers. Next.

    Not even a month later, she begins hitting me up again only get this, "i was busy." Lifting, I hear she had been ****ing around with some dude who would not commit. Cool. It is what it is what it is. I ended up seeing her out one night, took her home, she asked me if I wanted to come in? I told her I had a important business meeting early so, I can only come for a bit. The result was I skull ****ed her till early stages of the next day. I am talking, it was dark as **** out... light out when I got through killing it.


    Of course, she thought this meant we are going to be something. lol

    Bitch got trolled on site.

    I saw a post by hub in the rh chat. He mentioned a bitch going ghost on him. When bitches do their disappearing act, its never cause they got busy unless that is female logic for "**** pushed in!"



    If you cannot be in control of your emotions management and feelers, do not bother. If she can fool around, all the better but, if she is not down, what good is she? The alternative to the following would be her introducing you to her hot but slooty friends and other skanks at bars or clubs. If she is not doing the latter, troll away!

    Edit - she sounds liek another jump off. Crush away if at all possible but, just don't get involved or attached. These same skanks toot their horn a fair bit but, the sec they begin to lose a step and aesthetic expiration date kicks in, she be barking for marriage, kids, white picket fence.


    Not happening.
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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post
    I don't have much animosity towards her, but I'm not certain if I can just be "friends" with her considering that I'm sexually attracted to her and I CANNOT control it. It also ties me up emotionally when I should focus on meeting other women.
    I've been here, and you have to drop her and go no contact. It will be tough but better off in the long run. You can't truly be friends with a girl if you have feelings that are that strong.
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    Well I responded a week later. Had to keep it real.

    "Look - you've been one of the closest people to me in my life. I'd love nothing better than to talk to you on a regular basis and see you. The thing is that you embody a lot of qualities in a woman that I desire and it pains me so much that I cannot have you how I want. I simply cannot control my attraction towards you and in order to not harbor any sort of resentment towards you and protect myself I distance myself from you. I hope you understand my position."

    That will at least let her know that if she comes to me with other intentions I will ignore it and not entertain it.

    Really, like someone said, she is my kryptonite. She also has made other women involved with me jealous. Why put up with that? I'm just shooting myself in the foot.

    Well, life has been easier with her not in my life.
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    We've all been there, brah... that sloot who seems like relationship material who isn't interested in a relationship, but acts like a gf and shoos other girls away... I was on and off with a girl just like that for years... she invited herself over one night and got to watch me hook up with some girl at the bar... problem solved, feltgoodman
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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post
    Well I responded a week later. Had to keep it real.

    "Look - you've been one of the closest people to me in my life. I'd love nothing better than to talk to you on a regular basis and see you. The thing is that you embody a lot of qualities in a woman that I desire and it pains me so much that I cannot have you how I want. I simply cannot control my attraction towards you and in order to not harbor any sort of resentment towards you and protect myself I distance myself from you. I hope you understand my position."

    That will at least let her know that if she comes to me with other intentions I will ignore it and not entertain it.

    Really, like someone said, she is my kryptonite. She also has made other women involved with me jealous. Why put up with that? I'm just shooting myself in the foot.

    Well, life has been easier with her not in my life.
    Originally Posted by CCAurora View Post
    We've all been there, brah... that sloot who seems like relationship material who isn't interested in a relationship, but acts like a gf and shoos other girls away... I was on and off with a girl just like that for years... she invited herself over one night and got to watch me hook up with some girl at the bar... problem solved, feltgoodman
    do you think the better approach is to just casually smash girls like this and see if something devolops or do you think it would be better to do direct approach like sword?

    everytime i straight up told a girl what i wanted, it has ****ing blown up in my face
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    Originally Posted by sword_ View Post
    Well I responded a week later. Had to keep it real.

    "Look - you've been one of the closest people to me in my life. I'd love nothing better than to talk to you on a regular basis and see you. The thing is that you embody a lot of qualities in a woman that I desire and it pains me so much that I cannot have you how I want. I simply cannot control my attraction towards you and in order to not harbor any sort of resentment towards you and protect myself I distance myself from you. I hope you understand my position."

    That will at least let her know that if she comes to me with other intentions I will ignore it and not entertain it.

    Really, like someone said, she is my kryptonite. She also has made other women involved with me jealous. Why put up with that? I'm just shooting myself in the foot.

    Well, life has been easier with her not in my life.
    Kudos on being honest with her, though very cringeworthy.
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    Originally Posted by CCAurora View Post
    We've all been there, brah... that sloot who seems like relationship material who isn't interested in a relationship, but acts like a gf and shoos other girls away... I was on and off with a girl just like that for years... she invited herself over one night and got to watch me hook up with some girl at the bar... problem solved, feltgoodman
    Yes it happens. Someone in this thread told me to make her jealous. I just want to pursue other women.

    Originally Posted by Gatorm8ter View Post
    Kudos on being honest with her, though very cringeworthy.
    No use beating around the bush. I will be 31 next month. No need to hide my emotions around her. I know what I want and I know what I'm worth.

    She has a lot of great qualities I like about her and I would totally own her sexually, I know this. She isn't the only woman out there though.

    I had to tell her in "cringeworthy" fashion so she doesn't come back into my life with anything less. Being emotionally vulnerable to women has served me well with other women. If she doesn't genuinely her loss.
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    Originally Posted by TheJizzler View Post
    The awkward car ride and boundary talk sealed it...


    If you proceed to fade away then the second she sees you with another woman, she'll idealise you as the man of her dreams


    Dead srs
    Maybe not this extreme, but it may make her a tad jealous.

    At this point, I would just distance yourself from her. If she reaches out to you via text, smoke signal, telepathy, etc; respond. Don't be proactive though. Definitely don't make any plans to see her, because after all, what's the point?
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    Honestly OP props for making your intentions clear, that's a mature thing to do. I'm in a similar situation myself and am currently in the process of cutting off a gal who, as you say, is my kryptonite. There is nothing more frustrating than speaking to a girl on a daily basis who you could really see yourself being in a relationship with - or even just smashing. I feel like the best thing to do in these situations is to cease the daily routines of which you share whether that be texts, phonecalls, snapchats etc purely because the 'friendship' if it can be classified as that will have an effect on your mental state.

    I think it comes down to whether you can safely say that you would be cool with her talking about guys she's dating, boring casual small talk (lets be honest, if the conversation with a girl isn't cheeky/sexual, they're fcking boring compared to guys). Based on the message that you sent her it kind of seems like you want it all or nothing, which is respectable and a wise move in the long run. I feel like you should not be bitter towards her, as it may reflect badly on you in her eyes which could ruin any future potential that may occur with her. Just don't reach out to her whatsoever, let her do the chasing and keep it brief. You know what you want, as does she. It's her move really.

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