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    - I grew up next to a girl
    - We are super close. From playing tag, to hs dances together, to roommates in college
    - 2 years ago she started dating my brother
    - I don't get along with my brother at all and haven't for years
    - I still talk to her about once a week and see her couple times of month for lunch or something
    - Rarely see my brother (we both dislike eachother to a degree)
    - She calls me to come over to their place last night so I do
    - He is dicking around in the bedroom playing some game and me and her are in the living room shooting the ****
    - Somehow we got on the topic of her ex
    - They dated for 3 years and broke up due to fighting because the dude wanted to be a musician, dropped out of HS, and never made it lol
    - I guess she reached out to this ex 6 months ago to ask him something, and they stopped talking because she basically told him he is still a loser and needs to get his life in check. He said she was being mean and stopped.
    - Somehow they started talking again recently. And she told me how she wants to catch up with him and how she misses his family so much. They his family was amazing and was there for her during some very difficult times (which is true I remember when this was all happening).
    - She then says "My ideal situtation would be for me, your brother, my ex and his new gf all to be friends". But I know your brother would never allow it.
    - I go, does he know you guys text? She goes ya, and I don't hide it or anything, he can look through my phone whenver he wants, he doesn't care (idk if he really said that or not).
    - I go to voice my thoughts on this and my brother walks out into the room so I shut up.



    This morning she texts me asking what I was gonna say. Basically I said listen when you break up, you break up with the family too. You need to realize this part of your life is over and all you're gonna do is upset my brother, this ex, and whoever this ex is dating.


    She goes thanks P51!


    2 hours later she is following this dude on instagram.




    Do I mind my own business or do I bring this back up to him or her? Idk if she would cheat, but its super super weird she wants this dudes family and probably him back in her life so bad. Idk really what my brother knows and doesn't. I assume he doesn't know about this plan that she wants them all to be friends....
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    This just has bad news written all over it. Sorry OP, I don't know how to tell you to proceed, but tread lightly. You could potentially lose your friend.
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    Bro, you were one of the first people to ever rep me. I remember posting in the thread about your sister. Not trying to derail, but how is she? She was teaching right?



    Edit: Like the above poster said, tread carefully. At the same time, he is your brother....regardless of the kind of terms you're on and this is coming from a guy who lives by the motto "blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family".

    Don't know what to tell you. LOL.
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    Originally Posted by Solomonlike View Post
    Bro, you were one of the first people to ever rep me. I remember posting in the thread about your sister. Not trying to derail, but how is she? She was teaching right?



    Edit: Like the above poster said, tread carefully. At the same time, he is your brother....regardless of the kind of terms you're on and this is coming from a guy who lives by the motto "blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family".

    Don't know what to tell you. LOL.
    she just got a job a few weeks ago teaching 1st graders. It doesn't pay great, but it's something. She is for sure happier now. Good memory!
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    Originally Posted by P51 View Post
    she just got a job a few weeks ago teaching 1st graders. It doesn't pay great, but it's something. She is for sure happier now. Good memory!
    That's good! That shiit touched my heart brah. I never forget things that touch my heart.

    Hope you figure out what to do about your situation. I personally think it comes down to who matters/relationship matters the most to you............... your brother or your friend.
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    That's your brother. Blood > everyone else. Do him the favor and tell him. Not only are you doing him your brother a solid you might be able to repair your relationship with him.
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    bro the whole situation sounds like a huge mess. but your just her friend so just chill.

    also, the second a girl starts talking about her ex bf and her ex's new gf and wanting to all be "friends", i would get the hell out asap lmao.
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    Originally Posted by Alkosh View Post
    That's your brother. Blood > everyone else. Do him the favor and tell him. Not only are you doing him your brother a solid you might be able to repair your relationship with him.
    is this really a big deal though? I don't want to stir up anything if this is nothing. I may damage my already fragile relationship with him you know? May think I'm sabotaging him or something.
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    I think if you get involved you risk losing your friend and causing a bigger rift with your brother. It is weird that she wants to reconnect with her ex and family so much. If its true that your brother is aware of it all, then I would leave it be.
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    Originally Posted by P51 View Post
    is this really a big deal though? I don't want to stir up anything if this is nothing. I may damage my already fragile relationship with him you know? May think I'm sabotaging him or something.
    The question you have to ask yourself P51, is if you were in your brother's shoes... would you want to know what your girlfriend was doing? As implied, wanting anything to do with an ex (unless there's a child involved) is a SERIOUS red flag. So what would you want to happen if this was your gf?
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    Don't let a girl come between you and your brother. Ten years from now you will probably never talk to his girl, but he will still be your brother. Let him know what you talked about, just in a FYI capacity.
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    Originally Posted by Maverick77 View Post
    Don't let a girl come between you and your brother. Ten years from now you will probably never talk to his girl, but he will still be your brother. Let him know what you talked about, just in a FYI capacity.
    Except that he's been friends with this girl for years and years. Try reading the original post?

    Anyway, OP, I'd like the two of them figure it out. If she's being honest then he already knows (to some degree) about what's going on. The risk here is that you end up pissing both of them off. I'd watch from the sidelines awhile longer and see if any other red flags appear before saying anything. This is a tough situation because of the pieces in play, definitely have to tread lightly on this one.
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    Originally Posted by stev0n View Post
    This just has bad news written all over it. Sorry OP, I don't know how to tell you to proceed, but tread lightly. You could potentially lose your friend.
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    That feeling when girl you knew since age 3 dated and dumped you in middle and high school and now you can't feel emotions properly.

    Good luck in your situation, OP.

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    Originally Posted by peasantprince View Post
    That feeling when girl you knew since age 3 dated and dumped you in middle and high school and now you can't feel emotions properly.

    Good luck in your situation, OP.

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