I confirmed the date last night (second date) already had sex first date, and today she texts me and says "I would still love to see you but a girlfriend of mine I haven't seen in ages wants me to go to the club with her, I want to see you and have drinks and dinner but if it's ok I'm just gonna leave after to meet up with her".
I said "Hi, listen, why don't we do it some other time, maybe we can get together and catch up then, just let me know what day you're free".
I feel like I had no choice, cause this shows very low interest.
I have no idea what happened here, our first date was last Friday night, did I wait too long to make the next date? I texted her once during the week to ask how she was doing and confirmed it last night, that's the only communication I had with her.
Did I do the right thing? Is she testing? Another dude? Let me know what you think, fellas...Thanks...
07-24-2015, 02:28 PM #1
She changed the date, I had to cancel, please advise...
07-24-2015, 02:37 PM #2
You did good by cancelling, but then you said, "let me know when you're free." You never say "Let me know". You let her know. You made it sound like you're a puppy dog waiting by the door for her to get home and give you attention. Hit her up in a few days and ask her how's she's doing, don't bring up the cancelled date, or her club date, or anything from the past. If you feel like asking her out again do it. But don't have sex the next time you see her. Act like you're friendzoning her. Trust me on this, you need to be in control.-Ice Cold. Everytime.
07-24-2015, 02:38 PM #3
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07-24-2015, 02:57 PM #5-Ice Cold. Everytime.
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She's had one date with you, whereas this girlfriend of hers could have been in her life for years. Of course she's going to want to see her. She tried to compromise with you by suggesting she sees both of you that night.
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07-25-2015, 04:34 AM #11
I have to disagree on that last part. His job as a man on a date is to have sex with her. Why play the game of acting like his friendzoning her when there's sex on the table. If OP wants sex then I say let him sex!!! After he sexs her he can then do the withdrawl technique to pull her in more. By doing this it's showing she is replacable cause op has options 😉
07-25-2015, 04:05 PM #12
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