Has anyone here been through a miscarriage?

[sonti]

And did you let it happen naturally or have a D&C?

I am too late in the pregnancy to take any sort of pill. Please tell me your experience and what you felt was the best way to go.

Sorry for the grim thread, I can't see the doctor until Monday.

[NOVA888]

Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry. Yes, I had a miscarriage.

I was in the beginning of the second trimester, and I went in for my routine sonogram. I was chipper, but that was until I saw the expression of the person giving me the sonogram. The baby had failed to thrive, and with no symptoms at all--no spotting, nothing. I had to have a D&C because I was too far along, and there was no material being passed (sorry for tmo).

The horrible part was that I had to wait for days until the D&C was scheduled, meaning I was forced to walk around knowing that I was carrying...well, you can assume the rest.

You say that can't see a doctor until Monday, but in the meantime has this been medically confirmed? Again, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[sonti]

Thank you Nova- so sorry to hear about your loss too

Yes, I was in the hospital today and it was confirmed via ultrasound. It was already high risk with weekly ultrasounds due to heavy bleeding in the past month (a subchorionic haematoma), so a doctor has confirmed but apparently anything further needs to be done by my OBGYN on Monday. Nothing has passed and apparently the same happened (stopped growing, heartbeat stopped, failure to thrive). Thanks for your experience.

[DaniGrrl]

I don't have any experience, but wanted to express how sorry I am. I've had friends go through this and I can only imagine how difficult it is. Hang in there, and I'll send you some strength and hugs.

[thepowerwithin]

I am so terribly sorry this is happening to you. I hope you'll get through this with lots of support and love.

[NOVA888]

Thank you Nova- so sorry to hear about your loss too

Yes, I was in the hospital today and it was confirmed via ultrasound. It was already high risk with weekly ultrasounds due to heavy bleeding in the past month (a subchorionic haematoma), so a doctor has confirmed but apparently anything further needs to be done by my OBGYN on Monday. Nothing has passed and apparently the same happened (stopped growing, heartbeat stopped, failure to thrive). Thanks for your experience.

I'm so sorry sonti. Sending you all my hugs and love, I know how hard this is.

I was miserable for months. My doctor at the time said that I shouldn't worry, women go through this on a regular basis. But this flippant response only made me angry. I later read all the books on miscarriage, and was determined to get pregnant again. One of the top specialists was in my area, so I switched doctors. What he found was that I was estrogen dominant/progesterone deficient, which means that I probably would have miscarried with the same results over and over again. I read that Sophia Loren had this same problem. Although I was considered high risk throughout my pregnancy, something as simple as progesterone suppositories gave me the little girl I have today.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[RebeccaG]

Oh, Sonti. I am so very sorry.

I have no experience with anything like this and I don't have any advice to give. And I feel horrible that you have to wait until Monday to do anything. I couldn't imagine.

I know of a couple posters who have miscarried (or their partners have) and I believe they both had D&Cs. I don't want to post their names because, well, you know. But I will let them know about this thread so they can give their advice should they choose.

*Hugs*

[norinicole]

I am so sorry Sonti. My heart breaks for you.

From the experience of others I know, I think they would do a D&C since you're so far along. I hope that you have a great support system and someone to talk to. It's unfortunate how many mothers have gone through the horrible loss.

I'll be thinking of you.

[kimm4]

And did you let it happen naturally or have a D&C?

I am too late in the pregnancy to take any sort of pill. Please tell me your experience and what you felt was the best way to go.

Sorry for the grim thread, I can't see the doctor until Monday.

So sorry to hear this Sonti. I went through a miscarriage with my 2nd pregnancy. It happened early along, before the 8 week mark and I decided to let it happen naturally. I was young, healthy and never had any problems carrying full term with my first pregnancy. So in my mind I felt it was a chromosome defect (which normally accounts for 60% of early miscarriages.) I was positive that the chances of it happening again were very small. About 6 months later I got pregnant again and have a very healthy 13 yr old.

I wish you all the best hun, everything will be ok.

[sonti]

Wow girls, thank you so much for all the great support And to the men who left this thread alone, LOL. I'm doing okay - I have a rambunctious toddler to deal with so it's not like I get the choice to sit down and really drown my sorrows like I want to. My husband will take him tomorrow so I can go for a nice long river jog (and then likewise, my husband who is struggling even more than I am). I do have one healthy baby boy and he is my rock right now. Back to training tomorrow to help burn off some energy and help me sleep (I've been on bedrest for 1 month, this was inevitable).

Thanks again

[Carlycavwifey]

Sonti I'm so sorry to hear about the miscarriage I had a D and C and the recovery from it took about a week, I didn't feel any pain after the procedure other than some cramping from the bleeding. I think I had general anesthesia and was asleep the whole time and have no memory of the procedure. My 1 friend she miscarried naturally and she was able to see the remains of the baby, some women want to avoid this which is completely understandable. I'm unsure of how far along she was but I'm guessing she was around 8-10 weeks. My other friends had the D and C because they wanted "it to be over with" and they didn't want to see the remains of the fetus. All of them had great recoveries and went on to carry to full term with future pregnancies. I wish you well in whatever path you choose to take :hugs:

[Mindi912]

Sweet I am so sorry to hear this news. I am sat here with tears in my eyes (I mean this). I wish I were there to give you hug. E-hugs for you and lots of love being sent your way.

[erinlee01]

Sonti, I am very, very sorry to hear this.

I miscarried a few years ago right around 11 weeks. I found out on a Monday when I went in for an ultrasound due to some light bleeding. I didn't think anything of it as I had 2 successful pregnancies before then, the second of which I also had bleeding in. Same as Nova, I knew something was wrong when the ultrasound technician left the room, then came back to tell me that the doctor wanted to meet with us. We scheduled for a D&C on Thursday. I ended up miscarrying naturally on Wednesday.

It took almost a full day to happen. It was like period cramping, only the pain was a little less severe than my worst period (I have very painful periods). But, it was like labor in that it came and went in waves. Then, finally, once it passed, the pain was over. I believe I bled for another 3 or 4 days, but I was completely back to myself (or as close as I could be) right afterwards.

It's good that you have a toddler to focus on. My miscarriage was on the 4th of July and having my sons around made it a little more tolerable (I was only in major pain periodically). And it was 3 days before my wedding, so I had something positive to keep me moving forward. It kept me from wallowing in my depression.

I'll be sending positive thoughts to you and your family.

[swooshie]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Sonti I went through the same thing with pregnancy #3 and I came to realize that people don't really understand the loss that it is unless they've been through it before. It is truly a heartfelt loss that perhaps only a mom-to-be understands.

I'm also on the nursing staff at an OB/GYN clinic and I have been for a very long time. Please feel free to PM me. I'm happy to try and answer any questions you may have.

Thoughts and hugs to you

[Rowyn]

Oh lord, Sonti, so sorry to hear! I have been through it twice, once I miscarried naturally and once a D&C. Though I am Ms Health Nut lol, I recommend the D&C for a couple of reasons. First, it is HARD to walk around for weeks knowing that this is going to happen, yet not know when. It is mentally very tough. Second, I actually had the D&C for the second one because a natural miscarriage went way wrong and I retained some tissue and couldn't stop bleeding (my uterus couldn't clamp down all the way due to the tissue). I HAD to get the D&C at that point as it was emergent. It was relatively easy and painfree. After having it done, I wished that I had had it done for the first one too.

I had the first miscarriage when I was in my early twenties, the second in my thirties. Normal, healthy kids between and since.

Good luck, {{{{Hugs}}}}

[sonti]

Thank you ladies. I see a lot of you have been through the same - I suppose it is inevitable for many women, nature is fickle. Thanks for your support. I did a 30 minute hike today on the treadmill along with a nice 45 minute walk with my son in the sling, it did a lot of good. I'm still not sure how to deal with it but I think I'd like to take the natural route if it is medically okay.

[discdoggie]

Sorry, Sonti.

I had the D&C.

[britchick884]

Sonti I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Simpy]

Sonti, I have no personal insights to add to this thread, but I do want to express my most sincere sympathies. Thinking of you.

[FitMommy2]

Hey Sonti,

I thought you were going through a miscarriage from your last post to me on the other Thread you responded to. I didn't want to ask to many questions in my response to you but then I came across this post. I just want you to know that I am praying for you and your family. I have been through two miscarriages. The first one happened when I was about 5 months along and I too had to let it pass naturally which was very hard. My body felt like I was in labor until everything came out. I went to the hospital a couple of times because I was bleeding so bad (clots like I don't know what). After my body labored through it and everything came out I was back to my old self. My doctor had me bring in what came out (ughhhh!!!) to make sure it was a complete sample and nothing was left behind. 6-8 months later I became pregnant with my now 14 yr old son. It was a healthy happy pregnancy. a few years later I became pregnant again and when I was about 4 months along I had another miscarriage. Little did they know but it was caused by something rare called a Partial Molar pregnancy (girl, a whole other conversation). My doctor gave me the choice of a D&C or let my body go through it's natural process of riding itself of the preganancy. Given my previous experience I chose the D&C. I it was a good thing because that is how they discovered the whole Partial Molar pregancy situtation through the pathology report afterwards. It was a blessing because you have to be carefully monitored afterwards because you can develop uteran (sp?) cancer. I did fine and went on to have a sucessful and healthy pregnancy after that one a few years later. When I got pregant this last time I didn't have any miscarriages before the pregnancy and had a healthy baby girl who is now 18 months old.

Hope sharing my story helps you out. God Bless you sweetie!

[Echo814]

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this I wish you and your family peace at this time.

I miscarried when I was 25 years old and didn't even know I was pregnant at the time. It happened at around 8 weeks so it passed naturally albeit painfully. The way I found out was a blood panel done at the ER a couple of weeks later which revealed trace amounts of pregnancy hormones, luckily I didn't need any further procedures after. It may not be much help but I would have opted for the D&C if I was given the choice.

[toodlepip]

Hi Sonti - just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I've had 2 ectopics and one m/c. It's a rough ride. Hoping you find peace and healing in time.

[JerrysGirl]

I miscarried the first time around six weeks. Actually, it was the evening after my U/S. I went in to date the pg b/c I thought I was eight weeks
and the midwife dated it at six weeks. Everything was fine, heartbeat and all. That night, I just had terrible cramping and back pain....
It went on for about two days until everything (!!) had passed.
The second time, I was not even late but when my period started, I had back pain again. I never ever had back pain and haven't had back pain since!
So I am fairly certain it happened again.

Sorry about your loss.

[sonti]

Thank you everyone I appreciate it. Baby passed naturally on Monday night, I decided to forgo the D&C.

[MarauderMitch]

I am so sorry for your loss. My wife and i had a stillbirth at 7 months and i understand your pain. But my wife get pregnant again soon after.

If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't.

[FitMommy2]

Thank you everyone I appreciate it. Baby passed naturally on Monday night, I decided to forgo the D&C.

Hope you are feeling and doing okay

[GirLInterrupted]

Oh no, I am so sorry So very sorry. I have been through 4 miscarriages. I had D&C's with all 4. ((((Hugs))))