I was hoping to get some serious responses on here from "older" miscers. I'm sure there are a few guys who have dealt with something similar.
I have this buddy I have known for a few years now. He is a year or two older than me. I met him at the gym and we started hanging out outside of the gym. My lease was up at the last place and I moved in with him and found out he has some obvious mental issues (maybe biopolar) and he was a real dick to live with. Some of it was typical roommate s**t like eating all my food, taking my toilet paper, making a mess, being loud all night, etc. Some of it was real ******* type stuff. For example, one time he made me move my car from the driveway when he was having a party with old friends and told me "parking isn't including in the rent", it turned out it was just one guy coming over. It also turned out it was his parents apartment and they foot the bill for rent an all the crap. He mostly smokes weed and plays video games all day. Needless to say, I moved out rather quickly, but made the mistake of staying in contact.
About a year ago I got set up with a great job in a new city. He kept hassling me to visit, so I caved in and agreed. I introduced him to my friends in the new city, but it did not go well. He made a big scene at the party and demanded to leave. Since I drove I had to take him home. I should have cut contact with him right then. Luckily, there were no females at this party that I was interested in because I felt like a little bitch.
About a month ago I caved again and let him visit. I guess I feel sorry for him because he is bipolar or whatever. This time I made sure not to make any plans with any other friends and thought we could go to movies, bars, etc. Once he got here he didn't want to leave and just wanted to sit on my couch, smoke massive amounts of weed, and play video games. I'd suggest a movie and he'd respond "I only like independent movies, these mainstream movies are too dumbed down". I'd suggest a bar "I don't like to drunk or hang around drunks, weed is so much better." Etc, etc.
Since then he's texted me every 4-5 days to hang out. Quite frankly, I don't want him here because I don't want to spend all weekend hanging around my place with him. It's miserable. I've got other stuff to do and do not want to sit on a couch all weekend with another grown man who just wants to smoke pot and complain about his parents who pay all his bills. I keep telling him I am busy and that I quit smoking some time ago, but like clockwork he contacts me every weekend. I'm no longer 17, have better things to do with my time, and don't want to have "slumber parties" with another grown man. He needs to grow the fukk up, but he's been saying the same s**t for a few years now and he still hasn't worked anywhere for a few weeks. Do I just keep telling him I am busy until he gets the idea?
EDIT: Ummmm... I guess this sounds kind of gay. But, no it's not gay... Only reason he stayed over was because he lives 2-3 hours away. Honestly, if he lived closer I could probably deal with him in short spurts, but I don't want to waste another weekend. I have better stuff to do.