I'm 22, she's 45. I'm a student, she's at the peak of her career. She's married and has a daughter 2 years younger than me. I met this woman while I needed some help regarding an issue. Someone gave me her number telling me she might be of help. We talked on the phone for 2-3 days and my issue was solved. After a while, she invited me at an informal meeting at her home, of like-minded people. That was the first time I met her. I was overwhelmed with her beauty and intelligence. We talked and I came back home at 3 pm thinking about her. At 9.30 pm, she texted me saying "It was great meeting you ". I texted back. She lives alone as her husband and daughter live in another city because of the husband's job.
In the weeks that followed we talked over the phone, texted, I attended more meetings and got a bit involved in her organisation. We texted at night, talked some fun stuff, but nothing directly sexual. Though she has sent suggestive texts but I'm not able to understand how she feels about me or what she really wants out of this.
But things go beyond this. It was she who always started the conversation or texting session. Initially, I was only interested in sex but things have changed. Now, she's on my mind all the time. I think about her when I go to sleep, she's the first thought when I wake up. Her beauty, intelligence, her maturity, no girl of my age can match that. I'm obsessed with her. I dont know what to do. Some may say I'm in love, but the thought of that is scary. In the meetings, I cant stop staring at her, I think she noticed it a few times. For me, she's the only person in the room, rest dont matter. I dont' know what to do. Should I pursue her? or should I let her initiate things? I get a feeling that she might not do anything even if she's attracted to me. In that case, should I do something about this? Any help would be appreciated, thanks!!
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03-05-2013, 11:53 PM #1
Deeply Attracted to a married woman twice my age. Need Help!
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03-05-2013, 11:56 PM #2
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Honestly, the way your thoughts are racing through your head, logic would side with keeping your mouth shut and letting her initiate things. Until you can approach things in a very cool, direct manner, don't. It will push her away because chances are that, while she could be attracted to you, chances are she doesn't see it to the extent that you do.
There is no such thing as "I can't."
There is, however, such a thing as "I won't."
Accountability over Excuses...
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03-06-2013, 12:29 AM #4
You're falling for her and this can't work. You'll end up with a broken heart and it's going to hurt. She is NOT on the same page as you, she has different intentions, she doesn't see you like that, she is waaaay further in life then you and you two can only work as friends or FWB. But in the end your heart will be broken.
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03-06-2013, 12:31 AM #5
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I would resort to indirect flirting. There could be a subject being discussed, and you can make a comment that can come off as relevant to what is being discussed but also has a subliminal message that only the woman would catch. Has to be something that only SHE can catch. When I was 19 I ended up hooking up with my 35 year old boss, but it took about 2-3 months of solid work. I started off with an indirect flirting, but she knew it was happening because she would take me off to the side and make comments like "I know you're flirting, and you need to stop!" She would say it with a smile, which obviously meant she wasn't opposed to the remarks. She would also make it a point to clarify that she was my boss and I was her subordinate, and I would smile in acknowledgement. Eventually, I would flirt with her a little more openly, but not to the point where it would be completely obvious. Other people would laugh, but never catch on. Eventually, we went out a couple times, and that is where the real games began. It took a lot of work, but in the end, I got a very nice Christmas present, lol...no seriously, it happened from the night of 12/24 to early morning 12/25, lol.
There is no such thing as "I can't."
There is, however, such a thing as "I won't."
Accountability over Excuses...
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03-06-2013, 01:09 AM #8
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In that case, just give it a little bit of time. Eventually she will either come up to you and initiate something...or, there might be enough of a comfort zone for you to be able to invite her out for an innocent drink. No emphasis added because it is to be treated EXACTLY that way...INNOCENT! Now, if she tries to make a move during that outing, all bets are off, ENJOY! But let her be in control, without losing control yourself.
There is no such thing as "I can't."
There is, however, such a thing as "I won't."
Accountability over Excuses...
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03-06-2013, 05:16 AM #16
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First of all - she's married, has two kids, and is twice your age, wtf are you even doing obsessing over this nonsense?
Regardless, the most you should expect out of this is a lay. A relationship is pretty much out of the question (unless she has mental issues of some sort), she is waaaay further along than you with life/family/career/essentially everything. There's really just no way it would work.The trouble with being punctual is that nobody's there to appreciate it.
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03-06-2013, 11:09 AM #28
Honestly? Dont be stupid OP.
Its plain and simple. She is still married with children. I dont know what kind of business you have with her but I'm just assuming its professional like psych consultation or similar. If I'm right then you maybe misjudging her treatment of you and it could be just part of her program.
If ever she is really attracted to you, would you allow having an affair knowing you can be the reason for destroying her family/marriage? You are so young bro, go look for someone your age and without complications.
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03-06-2013, 11:09 AM #29
On a real level here, you can date any girl who's single, has a bf, engaged etc.
When they get married, it gets a little bit more icky.
But when a woman has a husband and kids, then it's just plain wrong.
Doesn't matter if she's a sloot or if her husbands a dick.
Long story short, when they break up, their kids will have a ruined childhood/future.
Is getting laid with a milf really that worth it?
That's something only you and your morals can decide.
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03-06-2013, 11:11 AM #30
Best thing to do is. Keep on talking bases and wait it out . God will lead the path out in front of you. But man u never know when your last day is just live it up and see what happens.
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