Now she's peeved

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Okay the wife wanted to go to a jazz concert this afternoon. I said okay but then I have to go to the gym in the morning, which means she has to keep our 16 yo daughter moving and get her out the door to do to school. (she had to take summer school)

She got very ticked and said that wouldn't work because she has to get herself ready for work. (I am the one that keeps after our daughter in the morning) Of course my wife could get up 15-20 minutes early and get our daughter up early as well and they could both get out the door on time.

BUT NO! She automatically gets peeved and gets an attitude with me just because I don't want to blow off a workout completely.

For crying out loud don't non-working out spouses have to compromise at all? Come on, I HATE working out in the mornings so in my eyes I'm giving a lot and plus I will be getting up about an hour early for me and she would only need to be up 15-20 minutes early.

[Simpy]

I'm so glad my husband love fitness and extra loves that I'm fit.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

I'm so glad my husband love fitness and extra loves that I'm fit.

You are lucky.

My wife is starting to grumble that I'm getting to big as well. She tells me she has never liked big muscles. I hadn't trained for several years when we met and I was a bit smaller but trim than in the bow tie picture. Now I'm definitely more muscular (though not as trim YET!) and she isn't liking it.

[Bladerunner1811]

Okay the wife wanted to go to a jazz concert this afternoon. I said okay but then I have to go to the gym in the morning, which means she has to keep our 16 yo daughter moving and get her out the door to do to school. (she had to take summer school)

She got very ticked and said that wouldn't work because she has to get herself ready for work. (I am the one that keeps after our daughter in the morning) Of course my wife could get up 15-20 minutes early and get our daughter up early as well and they could both get out the door on time.

BUT NO! She automatically gets peeved and gets an attitude with me just because I don't want to blow off a workout completely.

For crying out loud don't non-working out spouses have to compromise at all? Come on, I HATE working out in the mornings so in my eyes I'm giving a lot and plus I will be getting up about an hour early for me and she would only need to be up 15-20 minutes early.

Dude you have to find balance,yes workouts are important,but so are you responibilties as a father and husband..sorry to say but Father/husband responibilties trump workouts anytime..comes with being a man ya know,just reschedule your workout man.

[Bladerunner1811]

You are lucky.

My wife is starting to grumble that I'm getting to big as well. She tells me she has never liked big muscles. I hadn't trained for several years when we met and I was a bit smaller but trim than in the bow tie picture. Now I'm definitely more muscular (though not as trim YET!) and she isn't liking it.

well you'll just have to set her down and talk to her on this maybe you and her can reach a compromise.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

Dude you have to find balance,yes workouts are important,but so are you responibilties as a father and husband..sorry to say but Father/husband responibilties trump workouts anytime..comes with being a man ya know,just reschedule your workout man.

Dude/MAN........... /:

I offered to do that.

Compromise is me moving my workout to the next morning (can't move it to friday night that won't work with other commitments we both have) but she doesn't want to work with me at all.

This isn't the first time this kind of thing has sprung up, she wants me not to reschedule she wants me to stop working out PERIOD!

[cowboybiker]

So no cardio ???

Suggest you do something nice or this will be a horrible night.


Deal With It


Get her some flowers.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

well you'll just have to set her down and talk to her on this maybe you and her can reach a compromise.

How? She doesn't like muscular men and I want to be as muscular as I can get to be.

I'd like her to be skinny again but she isn't and isn't willing to try to be, so I think that's enough of a compromise.

Don't get me wrong I love and adore my wife but she's never been particularly fair or willing to compromise about anything it's just the way she is wired.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

So no cardio ???

Suggest you do something nice or this will be a horrible night.


Deal With It


Get her some flowers.

It's already too late she's playing the "don't worry about it" card on me. My daughter is also going into orbit because she wants me to drive her to see her bf (lives in another town) and then come back for her. That makes for over 120 miles of driving just so she can see her bf who isn't really her bf in her words they just have a thing for each other. I tell you living with two women is pure he!!.

Earlier today I told my daughter I would take her then workout and then go get her. Of course my wife doesn't want me to do this because of all the gas and because now she suddenly (this going to the jazz thing just came up this afternoon) wants to do something.... which now she says she doesn't because she knows it will make me feel guilty and I'll end up blowing off another workout to make her happy.

There's no way to make them both happy so I lose no matter what there's going to be one crabby female in the house.

[LisaSkinnoble]

I think if I were in your wife's shoes, I would have turned to the 16YO and said "busy morning in store for us. Set your alarm clock, get showered and dressed and packed up and be ready to go when I say. I'll have no spare time for shenanigans." And then I would have added, with a chesire cat grin and a wink, "I have a date with your father."

[LisaSkinnoble]

I tell you living with two women is pure he!!.

There's no way to make them both happy so I lose no matter what there's going to be one crabby female in the house.

My Dad had 6 women to put up with! lol... My mom, 4 teenagers, and one pre-teen. Somebody was always crabby in our house. The rest of us just ignored whoever happened to be crabby!

[cowboybiker]

It's already too late she's playing the "don't worry about it" card on me. My daughter is also going into orbit because she wants me to drive her to see her bf (lives in another town) and then come back for her. That makes for over 120 miles of driving just so she can see her bf who isn't really her bf in her words they just have a thing for each other. I tell you living with two women is pure he!!.

There's no way to make them both happy so I lose no matter what there's going to be one crabby female in the house.

Hit the gym and push some serious iron my friend.

The release alone will do you good.

tell daughter summer school does not come with benifits.


Still get the flowers

[Bladerunner1811]

Dude/MAN........... /:

I offered to do that.

Compromise is me moving my workout to the next morning (can't move it to friday night that won't work with other commitments we both have) but she doesn't want to work with me at all.

This isn't the first time this kind of thing has sprung up, she wants me not to reschedule she wants me to stop working out PERIOD!

Dude,you are just going to have to put the foot down,man up then tell her this is something imporant to you,and as much as the "RADICAL"womens lib types are going to hate this,take control and be the BOSSMAN of the household.

But I do feel for you man I had this same kinda crap go on for a while.

[discdoggie]

I think if I were in your wife's shoes, I would have turned to the 16YO and said "busy morning in store for us. Set your alarm clock, get showered and dressed and packed up and be ready to go when I say. I'll have no spare time for shenanigans." And then I would have added, with a chesire cat grin and a wink, "I have a date with your father."

That's why Flex loves Lisa. ^^^^^^



Well, one of the reasons.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

I think if I were in your wife's shoes, I would have turned to the 16YO and said "busy morning in store for us. Set your alarm clock, get showered and dressed and packed up and be ready to go when I say. I'll have no spare time for shenanigans." And then I would have added, with a chesire cat grin and a wink, "I have a date with your father."

Unfortunately my daugher likely would fall back to sleep and miss school entirely.

Doubly unfortunately the wife wouldn't wink like that.

Hit the gym and push some serious iron my friend.

The release alone will do you good.

tell daughter summer school does not come with benifits.


Still get the flowers

Now she doesn't want to go and said we'll go another time. But she flatly refuses to get up 15 minutes early in order to get our daughter going even next week. (these are weekly events)

I just don't get this?

No summer school doesn't come with benefits, ultimately it's making my life pure heck.

[Nikonguy]

Ask her WWJD?

What Would Jay (Cutler) Do?


Then duck!



srsly, sorry you are getting grief OTL.

[Bladerunner1811]

Unfortunately my daugher likely would fall back to sleep and miss school entirely.

Doubly unfortunately the wife wouldn't wink like that.



Now she doesn't want to go and said we'll go another time. But she flatly refuses to get up 15 minutes early in order to get our daughter going even next week. (these are weekly events)

I just don't get this?

No summer school doesn't come with benefits, ultimately it's making my life pure heck.

Dude you seriously need to take control of your family.Sounds like with your daughter you need to stop sparring the belt,and tan her hide,as my pops used to say.

[Brackneyc]

Show her a "before" picture of me, and ask her if this is what she wants for you, or her. She will drive you to the weight store, and you get a shopping spree, and all the time you could ever want, to work out.

This morning I was your exact height and weight.

[Corbi]

My wife is starting to grumble that I'm getting to big as well. She tells me she has never liked big muscles.

Some women are just fickle like that, my wife likes my arms but complains that i'm getting "lumpy" because my traps are developing. I agree with her that the pro BBer look like Jay Cutler is not good, but a decent build and having some mass as well as definition is great.

[WonderPug]

I hate to say it, but I fear this will not end well...and by "this", I don't mean this particular episode.

From your description, there's substantial resentment building up and likely progressive push-back.

Perhaps you guys should try talking with a marriage counselor...before things escalate beyond repair.

[Nikonguy]

What ever you do DON'T Say "well if I don't lift weights who is going to carry your ass around when you are 70!"

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[Old-Time-Lifter]

Some women are just fickle like that, my wife likes my arms but complains that i'm getting "lumpy" because my traps are developing. I agree with her that the pro BBer look like Jay Cutler is not good, but a decent build and having some mass as well as definition is great.

She doesn't like my pecs, traps or lats.

Truth is I really don't train my traps and they are just what they are and they are what she hates the most.

[LisaSkinnoble]

Now she doesn't want to go and said we'll go another time. But she flatly refuses to get up 15 minutes early in order to get our daughter going even next week. (these are weekly events)

I just don't get this?

No summer school doesn't come with benefits, ultimately it's making my life pure heck.

Wow, I don't get it either. What's 15 minutes?

And summer school should not disrupt your life - only your daughter's. When I was in highschool, our highschools went to Grade 13, but I wanted to complete my 5 years in 4. So every summer I took advanced credits at summer school. 6 weeks and 4 hours a day. I set my own alarm clock, got up in time to go for a morning swim, shower, get ready, and I took the public transit bus to school. But then, it was my choice to do so.

I was never late. But I was surely tempted the day of Prince Charles and Diana's wedding. Oh how I wanted to skip that day or go in late. But my mom reminded me that I had committed - not committed to school, but committed to myself.

[GuyJin]

Maybe you should go to the concert in just your bow-tie. You know, reliving the good old days...?

Just sayin'...

Actually, I got nothing.

[luxx]

Feelsbadbrah

[discdoggie]

She doesn't like my pecs, traps or lats.

I don't get this, either.


When I last loved someone, I loved everything about him. Even his fat rolls. Srs. Because they were his and a part of him.

[Bladerunner1811]

She doesn't like my pecs, traps or lats.

Truth is I really don't train my traps and they are just what they are and they are what she hates the most.

Look tell her it's your body,and you don't want it sagging all over the place,and tell her she married the person on the inside not just the body.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

I hate to say it, but I fear this will not end well...and by "this", I don't mean this particular episode.

From your description, there's substantial resentment building up and likely progressive push-back.

Perhaps you guys should try talking with a marriage counselor...before things escalate beyond repair.

Well I'd like to think not. We've had worse in our marriage and made it through. I think ultimately it's the old saw that she is frustrated that I'm closing in on being in as good a shape as I was in my 20's and she's obviously not the cardio bunny she was when we met.

What ever you do DON'T Say "well if I don't lift weights who is going to carry your ass around when you are 70!"

beentheredonethat.gif

I maybe stupid but I ain't that stupid. LOL

[Bladerunner1811]

Well I'd like to think not. We've had worse in our marriage and made it through. I think ultimately it's the old saw that she is frustrated that I'm closing in on being in as good a shape as I was in my 20's and she's obviously not the cardio bunny she was when we met.



I maybe stupid but I ain't that stupid. LOL

Dude encourage her to get back into it.

[stillfit]

You want her to get in shape but she won't change for you so why should you be something you don't want to be for her. A man has to do what a man has to do. Be true to yourself or resentment will swallow you up.