Would it bother you ???

[FishChris]

.....if you looked mean ?

No, seriously. I've been told I looked kind of mean, a few X's in the past.... but a LOT more so lately, now that I lost all the fat, and putting on a little muscle > most especially by you guys !

I guess their might be X's and places, where looking mean could be an advantage... like people getting out of your way when your shopping.... or just generally not giving you any $#!+" LOL

But the thing is, at least in my case, it's really misleading, as I consider myself to be one of the friendliest / politest guys you would ever meet ! Really. I smile, or at least nod my head in acknowledgment, to pretty much any stranger I pass. I open doors for women.... especially older ones. Heck, I'll wait holding a door open, if they are 20 feet behind me !

So anyway, me ? Mean ? Ha ! Yea' right !

Okay, I do watch UFC / MMA on TV .....and I thank God it's not me in there getting my arse kicked ! LOL

Hmmmm...

Fish

PS, Then again, part of the reason I like Zack Kahn so much, is that he looks so mean.... But the other thing is that he is ridiculous swole to go along with his looks

[mslman71]

Funny, yes, all the time. Word for word. And no, it doesn't really bother me. I naturally look serious/aggravated no matter what's going through my head.

[DaddyR]

Yes, kind of, I guess. At least when I am angry or serious or peeved (or happy or pleased) it definitely shows. Supposedly my face is very expressive. I guess I would never do well at poker.

[crupiea]

I wished i looked mean. even with my danger face i still look too nice. Damn thing is, i am not really that nice of a person.

[lanolar]

I used to be told that a lot. Not as much after I started to make a real effort to smile at people more.

[pharmamarketer]

I have been told I look pissed since I was 5. Anyone that doesn't know me thinks I am mad. I am actually pretty easy going which is the irony

[muladesigns]

Ive always been told that I look mean. the good thing is it keeps people from f***ing with ya! (haha). seriously though. i have actually been trying to dress a little friendlier, and am learning to smile more with my eyes.

[theKurp]

Never mean, but I'm told all the time that I emit a "stuck up" aura and many women, for some reason, assume I'm a "playa".

The truth is, I'm shy and I have absolutely no game.

[latebloomingmom]

a woman's point of view-hope this is ok
first off, I prefer the word INDIMIDATING, rolls off the tongue so much nicer
anyhow, when I was a little girl with curls I was shy
when I was a teenager who was tall and quiet people thought I was stuck up or even, scary. I could go down the hallway in between classes and those kids would part like the red sea.
sometimes this ability comes in handy like when people try to cut in front of you in line til they turn around and look at you and you can see that quick spark of fear in their eyes right before the get the *ell outta your way.
am I mean? no, not really or as my kids would say "not all the time"

[mslman71]

Never mean, but I'm told all the time that I emit a "stuck up" aura and many women, for some reason, assume I'm a "playa".

The truth is, I'm shy and I have absolutely no game.

LOL. I know how this feels all too well

[67bird]

That what my wife told me until I shaved my beard off. Now she wants me to grow it back.

[cowboybiker]

Im told it all the time, bbut knowing my past I gotta perma-danger face.
but my wife knows how to make it go away, god bless her

[jayluk4600]

If I am not smiling I get it all the time.. people scatter, personally I dont see the scarey


But if I am smiling I look harmless (which I am smiling most of the time) and truth is I am as harmless as a fly. Just smile more !

Oh and yes it does bother me. I like the nice guy thing better. I dont want or need to be a hard ass.

[Whiskeyjack]

I wished i looked mean. even with my danger face i still look too nice. Damn thing is, i am not really that nice of a person.

So you're a bit like Santa Claus, and clowns, as I thought of them as a kid.

I liked your monk story in the other thread, BTW.

[Whiskeyjack]

If I am not smiling I get it all the time.. people scatter, personally I dont see the scarey


But if I am smiling I look harmless (which I am smiling most of the time) and truth is I am as harmless as a fly. Just smile more !

Oh and yes it does bother me. I like the nice guy thing better. I dont want or need to be a hard ass.

In this picture you look very much like an old friend of mine who was a coworker back in my bar security daze. He scared the ****e out of everybody with his frown, but his expression was usually sunny.

[paolo59]

LOL I used to get that a lot. There were folks in one little bar here in town that thought I was a Mexican drug dealer! Good Lord! Must have been the mustache. Now I just look old. I'm a bit stand-offish, quiet, mind my own business, and keep to myself. A lot of people mistake that for being 'stuck up' or arrogant. I can talk your leg off once I get to know you.

People are funny. You never know just what they're thinking.

[Keltron]

I wished i looked mean. even with my danger face i still look too nice. Damn thing is, i am not really that nice of a person.

I'm be beaming w/a smile 24-7 if I lived in San Diego too.. just sayin'.

[Bando]

I had a buddy that always looked like he was ready to beat the crap out of someone and he was a big dude. I went to a clambake with him and there was a girl I used to date there and her whole crazy family that hated me, everyone drinking, not a good scene. They looked at my buddy and did not say or do anything.

Buddy was a helluva nice guy, I doubt he was ever even in a fight in his life.

[justboo2u]

I have a 'built-in frown' so I have to be 'giddy' to look 'pleased'... and THAT is exhausting!
Moustaches make it worse... as well as adding years.

I also tend to 'frown a bit' when concentrating... so when Im paying attention to whats being said I look like I dont want to.
Actually had to explain that to a couple bosses B4 getting fired.

But generally a 'whistle a happy tune' kinda guy.
Geez.

[dungeonmistress]

People used to think I was angry because of my "mr T's" or "11's" - those pesky vertical lines between the brows. Thank the gods for botox.

Also op - I think the combination of tats, muscles and a shaved head add to the "mean" look lol.

[muladesigns]

I have a 'built-in frown' so I have to be 'giddy' to look 'pleased'... and THAT is exhausting!
Moustaches make it worse... as well as adding years.

I also tend to 'frown a bit' when concentrating... so when Im paying attention to whats being said I look like I dont want to.
Actually had to explain that to a couple bosses B4 getting fired.

But generally a 'whistle a happy tune' kinda guy.
Geez.

yea, I got that built in frown thing to! it helped me growing up in da bronx riding the subways till wee hours of the mornings though

[-=FLEX=-]

Is this real life?

My car was in the shop this week and they ran into complications (someone effed something up) and the guy didn't call me and tell me, nor did he let me get my car last night (I went and got it today) and his excuse was "He's timidating; I didn't want to tell him the bad news. Did you see the size of his arms???"

Seriously.

I'm so kind and gentle and sweet.

Ask anyone.

[jayluk4600]

Is this real life?

My car was in the shop this week and they ran into complications (someone effed something up) and the guy didn't call me and tell me, nor did he let me get my car last night (I went and got it today) and his excuse was "He's timidating; I didn't want to tell him the bad news. Did you see the size of his arms???"

Seriously.

I'm so kind and gentle and sweet.

Ask anyone.

Kind gentle and sweet, ya thats been my assessment of you since I saw your first post when I joined these forums

[IronCharles]

That what my wife told me until I shaved my beard off. Now she wants me to grow it back.

Sometimes I get odd looks from folks when I'm out and about in a tank top and maybe a Harley cap. Especially from little kids. Kids stare a lot! And I notice their dads hustling to move them out of staring range, lol! I've had kids ask me, "Are you a biker?" or "Is that a real beard?" and it's funny as hell to see their parent's reaction!


I have noticed that since I'm on my way to building a little more than average muscle, that folks tend to be more respectful around me. And that's cool, because I'm not a fan of confrontation. When I was a scrawny dweeb with a thin moustache, I got a lot more hassle from strangers. Now, folks are quick to move out of my way, and I'm perfectly fine with that.

[HoustonTXMuscle]

Funny, yes, all the time. Word for word. And no, it doesn't really bother me. I naturally look serious/aggravated no matter what's going through my head.

I, too, am told all the time that I look too serious, stern and even angry. Have learned to ignore it as I feel that I'm just the opposite.

[Bando]

Now, folks are quick to move out of my way, and I'm perfectly fine with that.

agreed

I'm not confrontational but I am impatient. When I'm dressed so people can see my work they will GTFOutta my way. Sometimes it's great, sometimes my appearance comes off as aggressive.

Either way if you're between me and getting a steak on the grill or between me and my Boy's baseball game, you need to be about the business of getting the Fuk outta my way.

[Karl_Hungus]

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I kinda wonder if peeps posting about their "mean" appearance are trying to give themselves a thinly disguised compliment: "I'm so big and badass, that people are scared of my hyooogeness".

People accuse me of not being friendly, but, I think that is because I am not a very outgoing person -- so am not very chatty around people I don't know.

[MiamiSpartan]

If I am not smiling I get it all the time.. people scatter, personally I dont see the scarey


But if I am smiling I look harmless (which I am smiling most of the time) and truth is I am as harmless as a fly. Just smile more !

Oh and yes it does bother me. I like the nice guy thing better. I dont want or need to be a hard ass.

You're built like my best friend down here, and for the first year I worked out in the same gym as him, I never talked to him, because he intimidated the heck out of me....Later I found out that he could not have been a nicer person, and he and his wife are now our closest friends....

[mikieson]

My wife has told me countless times that people at work be it her old job at sonic or at her newer job bk that I look really mean and like im going to kill someone..lol..

I try not to but I have that look sometimes..Im not mean at all..

[whatevergirl]

Looking mean, probably not a bad thing. BEING mean, bad thing. lol As long as you are a good guy, people shouldn't judge a book by its cover.