So you have a guy who is a 20 year old virgin and he has never had a girlfriend before, could not get a prom date, and he has never kissed a girl before. Now this guy says that after college he will move to a bigger city and a more progressive area than the south and become a player and successful at the dating game.
If you are a 20 year old virgin who hasn't even kissed a girl, had a prom date, or a girlfriend before, is it possible for you to turn into a successful guy in the dating world and at a later age like lets say 25 be the guy who has a lot of one night stands and gets with a lot of ladies or is too late by then?
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no, by then it is too late, other guys are way ahead of you
06-15-2011, 12:47 PM #1
20 year old virgin, never had a girlfriend before, is it possible to be successful?
06-15-2011, 12:48 PM #2
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because you are out of the college scene more then likely, and are running into girls wanting guys who are already on set career paths and set on life. Like even some of my closest friends who pulled alot in college, are rarely getting laid.
ive heard some of the older posters say it gets alot easier when you get in your late 20's and early 30s though. Though, im sitll confused how they even meet women as i can only meet them at bars.
06-15-2011, 04:29 PM #12
06-15-2011, 04:29 PM #13
OP, I see you posting this kind of threat alot, and I have one little advice for you.
DO NOT purposely try to get better with girls. Women are part of our lives, and the main focus should be on yourself. You are young and full of life, take advantage of it, improve your social skills, make more friends, find new hobbies, whatever you do to make yourself more worthy and confident, then the women will come at you because they want to be part of it.
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06-15-2011, 07:51 PM #20
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yes bro... it is.. im going to be honest with you.. attempted to chase girls in HS... rarley successful.. srs. it wasnt till my freshman year of college i kissed a girl... then after that, started my "career" i guess you can say.. and it wasnt till junior year, being 21 i finally had sex with one... sure, i was skepticalhippo about the situation, but im happy it worked out the way it did... you just gotta make the move, act like you know what your doing no matter how scared you are.. confidence is key with women.. srs. im still figuring out the logistics and trying to fine tune my "game" but the biggest advice i can give you is to go out, be yourelf, chase them.. dont wait for them to come t you.. sure, i got shot down, multiple times.. but for everytime you get shot down, you learn soemthing, and you get closer to that success*****official misc photography crew *****
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. and the girl stares me down every time i come in and i dont even act like she exist anymore and today she came and worked out on the machine right next to mine lol. Pretty sure while it creeped her out, she kinda liked the attention.
To me hitting on and getting rejected by hot bitches, is a hell of a lot better then ****ing fat girls lol.
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06-15-2011, 09:57 PM #25
long story short.
dropped out of highschool and went into a World of Warcraft induced coma from the age of 15-20.
quit woW, threw away/sold all games and broke all bad habits. Had visions of who i wanted to be and what i wanted to do and acted on all of them with passion. My life is 100% changed and I am "normal" girls are interested and i have sex 3+ times a week.
If YOU WANT IT BAD ENOUGH you will FIND A WAY.
change your habits, and act on who you WANT to be and make that your new reality.
throw away/burn everything that made you a 20yr old virgin and if you are ugly, find every way to improve your appearance.
this might sound harsh but its the truth.
you only have ONE life and everyday that passes you will be gone forever, stop wasting your time. Before you know it you'll be 40 and you will have to deal with the REGRET of letting these years slip away without giving maximum effort.
the pain of regret hurts alot more than the pain of being a virgin.
so ask yourself
is that cheeto in your hand worth it?
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06-16-2011, 03:34 AM #28
20 is not that late. Wild stories from friends, the net and the media make it seem like everyones been getting laid since 14. That's ball****.
Its this same crap that makes you focus on it constantly and over time ruins your self esteem, which by far is the key to making it with women (whether its for srs relationship or 1 night stand).
When you meet a woman, she doesn't know anything about you other than what you present to her. Even if you fumble kissing (or beyond...), no chick is ever going to be like "OMG haven't u don't this before?!" New partners are always nervous, and it'll come naturally if u take it slow.
And based on my experience and many around me, best thing you can do is work on building solid friendships with women and getting comfortable around them. One of them may turn out to be your next gf, suggest one, or just plain help you feel comfortable in your in skin
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