Most people get married because they're insecure, weak, and afraid.

[LordBroski]

No this is not some bitter/jaded rant, and no, I'm not bashing the idea of marriage either. I'm simply providing my observations and insights into marriages I've witnessed.

If you don't read the whole thing, don't post. No cliffs.

This is how most people "fall in love": Person A, who is insecure and has issues, goes on a quest to find Person B (who they believe to be "the one" that they will fall in "love" with an get married, etc). Person A, due to this society which shields people from being brutally honest and introspective with themselves, thinks they're perfect and flawless just the way they are, blames everyone else when there is a problem, and continues on hoping they'll find their "perfect match". Bad relationships? Bad break-ups? All the exes' fault, of course.

Then Person B comes along, and they mesh. Person A is jealous as fuk, controlling, well, it just so happens Person B thinks jealousy = love, enjoys being controlled, and is used to being abused. Person B is very attractive and accomplished, but has a very low self-esteem, and thinks they deserve a POS troll loser like Person A. They "complete" each other. They feed off each others insecurities and issues and form a tight bond of trust that they will work to protect their fragile egos together, because alone, they are weak. Even if they are completely incompatible in every other way, they stick together, out of fear. Fear of abandonment just like how daddy left them as kids, fear of loneliness, fear of rejection from others, fear that they can't do better, whatever fears they have stemming from their own unresolved issues.

Then one day, bam, marriage, now both of them have a feeling of stability, of security, and finally feel accepted, for "who they are". However, this alone does not create a solid foundation for a relationship, so over time, it all crumbles, and the result is yet another divorce statistic. They do some soul searching, improve themselves, or get worse, change, and then, magic, "irreconcilable differences".

Nobody these days works on themselves. Nobody cares to do so. Everyone is perfect just the way they are and everyone's a winner. If anyone says otherwise to them, they're a "negative person" or in modern slang, a "hater". It's rare for someone to be completely secure, confident, with a healthy self-esteem and self-awareness, who has also addressed their issues. It's even rarer for this person to find another person who is the same way, but who also shares similar values, beliefs, interests, passions, to actually form a solid basis for a relationship. Hell, once you hit that level, and don't "need" someone to wean you, you're more likely to just stay single until someone who is really worth your time comes along.

This is why I roll my eyes whenever most people say they're "in love". Yeah, right. One nutcase found another nutcase to pacify them. Sure sounds like "love" to me.

Thoughts?

[Biggo123]

can confirm am nutcase

[SippinDaTech]

Cliffs: most men get married because they're stupid and beta

[djkernelbulk]

marriage at its roots is a business deal

if u can't hang in the business long after the love fades, that's bye bye
both ppl must be committed to preserving the contract for the betterment of the whole family + society

any reliance on romantic feelings to carry the marriage is herp derp

[6doublefive321]

read all of it and agree mostly. I cannot keep up any sort of sexual relationship with a female after a week or two for this very reason. I see them starting to sink their hooks into me to complete their final form. Im just like no thnx jeff and move on to the next one. Will not settle. Cringe when i see people who are terribly unhappy together yet refuse to change or go separate ways.

[thorpowers]

Agreed. Self improvement is masturbation.

We're a generation of men raised by woman, I'm wondering is another woman really what we need?

[Zinjetsu]

and they will say that youre just an awkward ***got that could never fall in love because you have commitment issues and foreveralone

... does anyone really give a ****? just do what you feel is right. there's many ways to win the game 'life'

[tommydec02]

so everyones a nutcase
strong logic

[BeastModeFTW]

Insecure weak and afraid dude checking in whose interested in finding the "one" to marry. Was hoping oneitis would be that special someone but it appears that won't be the case. Feelsbadman.jpeg

[Omfgorzzz]

O look its this thread again.....

[BrahmaDeej]

deep

[Mcfreako]

Cliffs: most men get married because they're stupid and beta

Agreed

[TheIronAsylum]

agreed i say this all the time just like on ******** once one friend makes the ******** official engagement or wedding pictures ect it sets off a chain reaction so all the weak minded kids now feel a need to get married or something

[poptartinspace]

Agreed. Self improvement is masturbation.

We're a generation of men raised by woman, I'm wondering is another woman really what we need?

Cringe/10

No hate to u brah but I hate movie quotes

[geminiguy]

Obviously marriage should be about a couple who want to work together to help improve each other and just have a companionship. Works out even better for the ones that have dreams to raise a family

Why you hating, OP?

[mrmister1]

Obviously marriage should be about a couple who want to work together to help improve each other and just have a companionship. Works out even better for the ones that have dreams to raise a family

Why you hating, OP?

Exactly. Eventually you get tired of the same lifestyle and family is the next progression. To offer life and investing your love to your children.

[EatnCleans]

Dis coming from the guy who has a thing for sensual chick?

I been watching you bro, GOT my good EYE on you bro.

<3

[autrefois]

how does one be brutally honest and fix all their personality problems? self loathing, abusive foreveralone nutcase here i spend almost all my time being introspective as fuk

[RustleCr0we]

People want simple answers to complex issues, that is why they're uninspired and incomplete cognitively/"spiritually"/etc.

[EatSleepSquat]

And out of nowhere BAM a plot twist: miscers who make these threads are insecure weak and afraid, hence why they make them seeking validation from other FAs

[hyuncho81]

this ******* again

[LiftCore]

Lol. "Love". **** off. OP has it right.

[ebrah]

I can agree with that. I've also noted that religious people often get married early too and people in extenuating circumstances such as military couples or couples where one person is trying to gain citizenship of a certain country.

*Not getting married before 30 crew*

[DotheDew563]

another marriage thread

influx of fa's and bks incoming

[composedpocket]

agreed, there is more to it but everything you said was spot on

[MurkinSeason]

Or it could be because they are in love OP.

What you are saying is just some insecure type **** an insecure person would say

[MurkinSeason]

Grow up *******

[LordBroski]

Cliffs: most men get married because they're stupid and beta

Extends to women as well. Women can be beta and pathetic too.

O look its this thread again.....

Most Misc threads on marriage are "i'm gun be singel so i can fuk lot of bitchs lol", so no, it's not this thread again.

Obviously marriage should be about a couple who want to work together to help improve each other and just have a companionship. Works out even better for the ones that have dreams to raise a family

Why you hating, OP?

You missed the entire point of everything. Congrats.

how does one be brutally honest and fix all their personality problems? self loathing, abusive foreveralone nutcase here i spend almost all my time being introspective as fuk

Depends on what your problems are and why you view yourself that way. What is really causing you to hate yourself?

And out of nowhere BAM a plot twist: miscers who make these threads are insecure weak and afraid, hence why they make them seeking validation from other FAs

Negged. Now you're below 4k reps (lol)

[LordBroski]

agreed, there is more to it but everything you said was spot on

I could go on for pages, but it will go beyond the average Misc'ers head and they lack the attention span.

Or it could be because they are in love OP.

What you are saying is just some insecure type **** an insecure person would say

Negging on r/c for beta response.

edit: I'll give you a second chance. Define what it means to be "in love".

[autrefois]

being foreveralone makes me hate myself. hating myself makes me forever alone. its like a vicious cycle of *******ry. im just Zoned out most of the time in my own head never knowing wtf is going on around me