I have no problems with my girlfriend talking to other guys as it's pretty harmless and I don't want to be a controlling freak.
My problem is she can send out the wrong message to guys, even leading them on, but doesn't see any harm in it whatsover. She's a super sweet girl and doesn't like to burn potential friendships or be mean to people. She feels like she has to say "I can't talk to you because my boyfriend won't let me" which is ridiculous.
She never tells guys to back off because she doesn't want to hurt their feelings.
As an example, we were at this party start of the year and this dude was all flirty with my gf in front of me. Didn't bother me that much even tho the guy is a bit of douche doing it infront me of.
Now, about 4-5 months on, I've seen him txting her and emailing her etc. and she doesn't put him in his place. If it were me i'd say "Look, I have a girlfriend. I'm not interested"
but she'll pussyfoot around it so he still thinks he has a chance
Makes me uncomfortable that tons of dudes want to **** my gf and think they have a chance because she's no nice to them and doesn't tell them to back off. How do I deal with this without coming off insecure. She doesn't see my side of it at all