How do you deal with a partner who doesn't like your lifestyle choices...

[OSWALLT]

I wasn't sure which section to post this in as it covers 2 aspects of being a gym rat (diet & exercise) but since diet has more of a role in this lifestyle I thought it would fit here best.

How have you guys coped with partners not liking what you do?

Every so often I will get the whole talk about how I rarely eat junk (it seems to almost make my missus angry that I don't eat rubbish), how I exercise 'too much' (5 sessions a week, around an hour each), how I'm not very 'blokey' (I drink very little alcohol, maybe 3 pints in a year).

I explain and talk to her until I'm blue in the face but the same old tosh rears its head again and again.

How have you dealt with this (with a male or female partner...or animal...I'm not judging) short of using a screwdriver to your ears to make yourself deaf.

Cheers

[Cumulonimbus]

IIFYM

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[CharlieBango]

left her and found someone who appreciated my life style and supported me.

[joelash302]

left her and found someone who appreciated my life style and supported me.

Agree with this fully. Once you find the person that actually supports your lifestyle, life becomes much easier. Not easy, but easier haha.

[WonderPug]

How have you dealt with this (with a male or female partner...or animal...I'm not judging) short of using a screwdriver to your ears to make yourself deaf.

My pug reacts this way from time to time, but I find that giving him a liver treat solves the problem. My wife, on the other hand, is very supportive of my exercise and dietary habits.

[kusok]

I wasn't sure which section to post this in as it covers 2 aspects of being a gym rat (diet & exercise) but since diet has more of a role in this lifestyle I thought it would fit here best.

How have you guys coped with partners not liking what you do?

Every so often I will get the whole talk about how I rarely eat junk (it seems to almost make my missus angry that I don't eat rubbish), how I exercise 'too much' (5 sessions a week, around an hour each), how I'm not very 'blokey' (I drink very little alcohol, maybe 3 pints in a year).

I explain and talk to her until I'm blue in the face but the same old tosh rears its head again and again.

How have you dealt with this (with a male or female partner...or animal...I'm not judging) short of using a screwdriver to your ears to make yourself deaf.

Cheers

Eat more "junk" (iifym), have a few more drinks, go to gym 3-4x per week for 45 minutes, and spank her?

[mburns92]

Doesn't sound like that good of a girlfriend/wife. Pics?

[psychodiver9]

A partner who doesn't want you to be healthy and live longer? Take off

[CharlieBango]

Agree with this fully. Once you find the person that actually supports your lifestyle, life becomes much easier. Not easy, but easier haha.

def not easy. lol.

i was dominating my macros and loving junk food a little too much for a week or two and the gf had to put me in my place.... feelsbadman.jpg

but also feelsgoodman.jpg to know she cares!

[ven33]

I wasn't sure which section to post this in as it covers 2 aspects of being a gym rat (diet & exercise) but since diet has more of a role in this lifestyle I thought it would fit here best.

How have you guys coped with partners not liking what you do?

Every so often I will get the whole talk about how I rarely eat junk (it seems to almost make my missus angry that I don't eat rubbish), how I exercise 'too much' (5 sessions a week, around an hour each), how I'm not very 'blokey' (I drink very little alcohol, maybe 3 pints in a year).

I explain and talk to her until I'm blue in the face but the same old tosh rears its head again and again.

How have you dealt with this (with a male or female partner...or animal...I'm not judging) short of using a screwdriver to your ears to make yourself deaf.

Cheers

Ask yourself this....is she really the one if she doesn't support you?

[juliacheh]

My partner doesn't share my lifestyle, and we have no problems.

1 - He has his own hobbies that I don't care about at all. I support him in that. He supports me.
2. When I make food for both of us, I use IIFYM, meaning I make foods that regular people eat (not typical bodybuilding style "clean" foods) and fit it in macros.

[kusok]

def not easy. lol.

i was dominating my macros and loving junk food a little too much for a week or two and the gf had to put me in my place.... feelsbadman.jpg

but also feelsgoodman.jpg to know she cares!

She doesn't. She just doesn't want a bf with belly

[psychodiver9]

My pug reacts this way from time to time, but I find that giving him a liver treat solves the problem. My wife, on the other hand, is very supportive of my exercise and dietary habits.

I hear ya. On am's where I go to gym instead of walking my dogs they howl like banshees as I walk out the door.

[Opies]

Sounds like a pretty serious maturity issue on her part.

[kusok]

Ask yourself this....is she really the one if she doesn't support you?

Why should it be "the one"??? Maybe he just wants ass.

[CharlieBango]

She doesn't. She just doesn't want a bf with a bigger belly

corrected.

[trance__dreamer]

Eat more "junk" (iifym), have a few more drinks, go to gym 3-4x per week for 45 minutes, and spank her?

hahahahahahaha. sexy!

yea. i've had a few who got aggrivated. but they were also insecure about how i was fit & they weren't. who cares. i liked 'em for other reasons. but yea. i follow iifym. i eat whatever. but i stay w/in my range/limit. i.e.: i'm mindful of my total/tally for the day. & it bugged people that i was so rigid. ...lol. i have goals, motherfuker. if it bothers them, they really need to find someone who's a chubster like themselves. "...but they don't look as good." boo-fukin'-hoo. why the hell do you think i'm on the thinner side? i keep track, mofo.

anyway. it's pretty difficult to find someone who's like me. guys here aren't really into fitness. & if they are, they do yoga/run/hockeyyyyy/beach volleyball only. (...more common with downtown vancouver guys...but most are gay downtown. ambercrombie physiques.) no serious lifters; especially in the suburbs where i live now...lazy drunk slobs. err...yea. :S AND if they lift, they're clean-eating nazis. it's not a big deal. but it's annoying when i constantly get told not to order calamari due to the saturated fat, for example. & their stupidity w/ diet/exercise usually translates into other stupidity in other facets of their lives. meh. forever a drone. forever al capone.

i did find 1 guy here who was a serious lifter. but he was so mentally scarred/lifting for the wrong reasons. he was taking so many different "cell-techs" & still is. i talk to him regularly still. good guy. but very insecure/major issues. :S

[kusok]

Sounds like a pretty serious maturity issue on her part.

...and a stick up teh agnus on his part.

Relax a bit guys, have a drink, no need to be in gym 5-6 days per week, no need to avoid "junk" food, whatever that means. Obsessive-compulsive behavior is runnin wild around here. OH SHIIT! I can't eat that burger! Oh fack! I can't have a drink! Oh no, I've only been to gym 4 times this week and she wants to go out tonight!!! NO!!! My gainz are gone!!!!

[phal]

hahahahahahaha. sexy!

yea. i've had a few who got aggrivated. but they were also insecure about how i was fit & they weren't. who cares. i liked 'em for other reasons. but yea. i follow iifym. i eat whatever. but i stay w/in my range/limit. i.e.: i'm mindful of my total/tally for the day. & it bugged people that i was so rigid. ...lol. i have goals, motherfuker. if it bothers them, they really need to find someone who's a chubster like themselves. "...but they don't look as good." boo-fukin'-hoo. why the hell do you think i'm on the thinner side? i keep track, mofo.

anyway. it's pretty difficult to find someone who's like me. guys here aren't really into fitness. & if they are, they do yoga/run/beach volleyball only. (more common with downtown vancouver guys...but most are gay.) no serious lifters; especially in the suburbs where i live now...lazy drunk slobs. err...yea. :S AND they're clean-eating nazis. it's not a big deal. but it's annoying when i constantly get told not to order calamari due to the saturated fat, for example. & their stupidity w/ diet/exercise usually translates into other stupidity in other facets of their lives. meh. forever a drone. forever al capone.

i did find 1 guy here who was a serious lifter. but he was so mentally drained/lifting for the wrong reasons. he was taking so many different "cell-techs" & still is. i talk to him regularly still. good guy. but very insecure/major issues. :S

I love reading your posts.

[braggable]

I wasn't sure which section to post this in as it covers 2 aspects of being a gym rat (diet & exercise) but since diet has more of a role in this lifestyle I thought it would fit here best.

How have you guys coped with partners not liking what you do?

Every so often I will get the whole talk about how I rarely eat junk (it seems to almost make my missus angry that I don't eat rubbish), how I exercise 'too much' (5 sessions a week, around an hour each), how I'm not very 'blokey' (I drink very little alcohol, maybe 3 pints in a year).

I explain and talk to her until I'm blue in the face but the same old tosh rears its head again and again.

How have you dealt with this (with a male or female partner...or animal...I'm not judging) short of using a screwdriver to your ears to make yourself deaf.

Cheers

Man up and do you. If she doesn't like it, dump her.

[juliacheh]

I love reading your posts.

Yep, same here Love the style.

[psychodiver9]

Why should it be "the one"??? Maybe he just wants ass.

Can't imagine its that quality if she only wants to eat crap, drink, and not exercise

[OSWALLT]

...and a stick up teh agnus on his part.

Relax a bit guys, have a drink, no need to be in gym 5-6 days per week, no need to avoid "junk" food, whatever that means. Obsessive-compulsive behavior is runnin wild around here. OH SHIIT! I can't eat that burger! Oh fack! I can't have a drink! Oh no, I've only been to gym 4 times this week and she wants to go out tonight!!! NO!!! My gainz are gone!!!!

I'm not that bad yet :P

I lift the amount I do as it's a big change from my job and I enjoy the feeling

Personally I find it easier to eat no crisps at all than just have a packet as I end up binging like a badger in the bins, each to their own

[juliacheh]

can't imagine its that quality if she only wants to eat crap, drink, and not exercise

lol.

[trance__dreamer]

Yep, same here Love the style.

it's kind of a "sincere honesty" genuine thing. i sometimes fear i have way too little shame. i await the day where it gets me into trouble.

as i get older, i get more dissapointed w/ my life. haha. i really want to move. but i don't know where to. my city is great for a lot of things. but all women here complain about the men.

i keep going on really bad dates. the last one i was on last week, he admitted he cheated on his last gf. he didn't even give a shti. he was like "she wouldn't put out." i said to him "uhh...that's why you break up first and THEN move on." he was like "*blank stare*" & then tried to smootch me. i gave him a ray jay stare & said that it was getting late & we should head back. when i got home, & i blocked/deleted him. he was like 320 lbs, too.

...seriously? is that all this area has to offer? it's the same damn thing w/ every one. the downtown guys are slightly better. but still. i talked to another one recently who i dated a few yrs ago. he admitted he was just interested in me 'cause i didn't have a gut. LOL. da fuk.

[kusok]

Can't imagine its that quality if she only wants to eat crap, drink, and not exercise

haha, maybe tru ^^^ But some are genetically gifted like that, I do know some girls who drink, don't go to gym, eat not so "healthfully" and yet look like a 9-10. it's unfair Usually it's those who exercised very seriously in the past! it's strange, I guess their body remembers, their metabolism remains fast, their muscles remain visible and solid to the touch, cardio is impressive despite lack of maintaining it etc.

[hankst]

Eat more "junk" (iifym), have a few more drinks, go to gym 3-4x per week for 45 minutes, and spank her?

I think that's the wrong place to start. Don't cater to your partner's intolerance, find someone who likes what you do (utopia!).

[phal]

it's kind of a "sincere honesty" genuine thing. i sometimes fear i have way too little shame. i await the day where it gets me into trouble.

as i get older, i get more dissapointed w/ my life. haha. i really want to move. but i don't know where to. my city is great for a lot of things. but all women here complain about the men.

i keep going on really bad dates. the last one i was on last week, he admitted he cheated on his last gf. he didn't even give a shti. he was like "she wouldn't put out." i said to him "uhh...that's why you break up first and THEN move on." he was like "*blank stare*" & then tried to smootch me. i gave him a ray jay stare & said that it was getting late & we should head back. when i got home, & i blocked/deleted him. he was like 320 lbs, too.

...seriously? is that all this area has to offer? it's the same damn thing w/ every one. the downtown guys are slightly better. but still. i talked to another one recently who i dated a few yrs ago. he admitted he was just interested in me 'cause i didn't have a gut. LOL. da fuk.

Noooooo cheer up Lea.



Aren't you seeing them again, soon?

[deadpool9]

It annoys my wife that I count calories when we go out. Often I will pull up the restaurants menu on my smart phone to look at calorie/protein contents and she gets mad. Also does not like it that I get home at 7:00 every night (Get off work at 4:00, drive to gym at 4:15, change, workout and out by 6:00, then 1 hr drive home). It gets old hearing her bring it up time and time again. But I am doing what's right for me and just let her gripe and move on, lol.

[psychodiver9]

haha, maybe tru ^^^ But some are genetically gifted like that, I do know some girls who drink, don't go to gym, eat not so "healthfully" and yet look like a 9-10. it's unfair Usually it's those who exercised very seriously in the past! it's strange, I guess their body remembers, their metabolism remains fast, their muscles remain visible and solid to the touch, cardio is impressive despite lack of maintaining it etc.

Those people should die (not srs just jelly)