Approached a guy today, did not go well

[msbecks]

I was reading at Barnes & Noble this afternoon and I noticed a guy in his 20s giving me the eye by the magazine rack. We played the eye contact game for a bit, but he did not approach me and instead got in line at the cafe. Well I got up and decided I needed to get some coffee and stood behind him in line. He pretended not to notice me. I saw that he was carrying a magazine and I decided to say something, so I asked him about what he was reading. He turned halfway around and gave a one-word answer (title of the magazine), and then went back to staring at the back of the head of the person in front of him in line. I was embarrassed enough that I got out of line and packed up my stuff and left. I don't know what his deal was.

I can count on one hand the number of times in my life I've approached a guy, and none of those times did it ever go anywhere. It's not a huge deal because I don't have to worry about this most of the time, but it's kind of annoying having to rely on men to initiate everything.

[BIGrob84]

I can count on one hand the number of times in my life I've approached a guy, and none of those times did it ever go anywhere. It's not a huge deal because I don't have to worry about this most of the time, but it's kind of annoying having to rely on men to initiate everything.[/QUOTE]

I lold.

He just wasn't interested.

[Oneandonlysunkist]

1) Chill

2) Not every guys is going to be into you. Accept that.

3) Ever thought that maybe he was in a relationship and isn't a flirt when he's in a relationship?

[Punisher1012]

I was reading at Barnes & Noble this afternoon and I noticed a guy in his 20s giving me the eye by the magazine rack. We played the eye contact game for a bit, but he did not approach me and instead got in line at the cafe. Well I got up and decided I needed to get some coffee and stood behind him in line. He pretended not to notice me. I saw that he was carrying a magazine and I decided to say something, so I asked him about what he was reading. He turned halfway around and gave a one-word answer (title of the magazine), and then went back to staring at the back of the head of the person in front of him in line. I was embarrassed enough that I got out of line and packed up my stuff and left. I don't know what his deal was.

I can count on one hand the number of times in my life I've approached a guy, and none of those times did it ever go anywhere. It's not a huge deal because I don't have to worry about this most of the time, but it's kind of annoying having to rely on men to initiate everything.

that guy was me..you didn't try hard enough

[Tgeo]

He just wanted you to know that your **** still stink

[msbecks]

I lold.

He just wasn't interested.

1) Chill

2) Not every guys is going to be into you. Accept that.

3) Ever thought that maybe he was in a relationship and isn't a flirt when he's in a relationship?

Well he shouldn't have been making strong eye contact with a stranger. I never make prolonged eye contact with guys unless I'm interested, because I don't want to be a tease, nor do I want to put up with unwanted attention.

[TallWhiteDude]

OP, he was giving you that eye contact because from across the room he thought you looked decent, but when he saw you up close he was disgust































jk

but rly

[beaucephus]

We get embarrassed when girls notice us buying Spankit magazine.

Next time just say hi.

[Oneandonlysunkist]

Well he shouldn't have been making strong eye contact with a stranger. I never make prolonged eye contact with guys unless I'm interested, because I don't want to be a tease, nor do I want to put up with unwanted attention.

Just because he's eye contact with you doesn't mean he's interested in you or wants you to approach him. Did he do anything else that stood out? Like smile excessively/wink?

[BIGrob84]

Well he shouldn't have been making strong eye contact with a stranger. I never make prolonged eye contact with guys unless I'm interested, because I don't want to be a tease, nor do I want to put up with unwanted attention.

Probably gave you a small taste of what males go through. You should read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Should help your technique. lol.

[azn3r1c]

^^^ Lol'd hard.

[Punisher1012]

[eltoro24]

Well he shouldn't have been making strong eye contact with a stranger. I never make prolonged eye contact with guys unless I'm interested, because I don't want to be a tease, nor do I want to put up with unwanted attention.

Maybe you had a booger hanging??

What mag btw?

[azn3r1c]

Welcome to our world.

[xb28k]

It's possible that he wasn't interested
It's possible that he was shy
It's possible that he didn't think that a close-ended question is a sign of interest

If a guy would tell the exact same story everyone would make fun of him for even calling this an approach.

[wannabe-strong]

Probably gave you a small taste of what males go through. You should read the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Should help your technique. lol.

hahaha repped

[DocHol1day]

Well he shouldn't have been making strong eye contact with a stranger. I never make prolonged eye contact with guys unless I'm interested, because I don't want to be a tease, nor do I want to put up with unwanted attention.

maybe he was like

"wtf is that chick looking at?" *peeks up again* "**** shes looking" *ducks*

ever think of that?

[D3th 2 Aw3]

Need more women like you in my city. I have never been approached lol. Maybe it's my undesirable body or face.

[stoz]

Welcome to our world.

this

[Mr Beer]

That must be terrible, to make an approach this one time and have it fail. I expect every man who reads of this awful experience will be extremely sympathic.

[Tuga88]

So you stared guy down, creeped him out and made him run away, then followed him to his new spot and awkwardly made convo....

strong stalker.

[gswarrior510]

now you feel what it's like...

maybe next time a not so good looking guy approaches you, you wont be a bitch to him.


/lesson taught. good job guy at barnes and noble

[whyumadson]

Sorry babe, your face was ..................beautiful. Now I missed my chance



Ease up, he was too beta and thought you was too good for him.

[beaucephus]

lotsa anger ITT

Don't take it personally, OP. Could have been any of a million reasons this guy wasn't having it today. He may even be socially retarded and never approached by a girl before.

If everyone quit the first time something didn't go their way, this world would be a really weird place.

[gswarrior510]

lotsa anger ITT

Don't take it personally, OP. Could have been any of a million reasons this guy wasn't having it today. He may even be socially retarded and never approached by a girl before.

If everyone quit the first time something didn't go their way, this world would be a really weird place.

it's not anger, it's that girls have no idea how it is to approach somebody and they pull that **** on you..not that it happens often, but still.. just the principle

[beaucephus]

it's not anger, it's that girls have no idea how it is to approach somebody and they pull that **** on you..not that it happens often, but still.. just the principle

Da fukk you on about?

Getting rejected is half the fun. If it was always a win, it would get boring and there'd be no excitement.

[gswarrior510]

Da fukk you on about?

Getting rejected is half the fun. If it was always a win, it would get boring and there'd be no excitement.

not to me it's not. the most fun i have is playing the game with girls who play hard to get and act like their **** dont stink. getting borderline ignored on the approaches is the worst.

[SCbrah]

He could have just been a social retard and froze up when you said something to him.

[beaucephus]

getting rejected is never fun


that's like saying losing a game as a football player is fun, you retarded brah???



it's a natural part of the process but you should hate it and work hard to avoid it in the future as much as posible

Maybe I'm solo on this one, but getting rejected is a blast! (srs)

Some of the ways girls squirm and think up what to say is hilarious. Granted its usually, "I got a boyfriend/husband" but that can 20% of the time turn into something anyway.

Your analogy is also very flawed. It would be comparable to playing a football game without the possibility of loss. That wouldn't be any fun at all.

I like to laugh with my buddies about getting rejected almost as much as I like to get the digits/close the deal.

[csjesse]

It's possible that he wasn't interested
It's possible that he was shy
It's possible that he didn't think that a close-ended question is a sign of interest

If a guy would tell the exact same story everyone would make fun of him for even calling this an approach.

this, but most likely he was intimidated by a girl approaching. l2approach