Lol at old guys thinking they're superior
Newflash: Girls changed for you too, what they wanted at 18 is different from what they want at 30
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04-08-2011, 11:25 AM #91
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04-08-2011, 11:38 AM #92
My gf says if I don't have a ring by this summer (she's graduating and I have another semester to go) that it's over. The thing is a lot of my friends are 22 and getting married. I feel pressured to get married. I have a professor who is bald, 40, in good shape but he seems foreveralone. He isn't married and jokes all the time about how he's happily unmarried because his brother is "tied down".
Obviously I don't wanna be like this guy, waited too long, but I'm not sure if my gf is the one. Advice?
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04-08-2011, 11:59 AM #93
no real advice here. just breaking it down... the facts as they exist:
it honestly comes down to a matter of perspective and circumstance. when i was 19-25 (age i was in school) i was surrounded by a certain group of people and a certain environment that directly dictated how i acted when presented with specific situations. my responsibilities were also much different (still had responsibilities, just different).
in that time-frame, i was entirely surrounded by people who were living the same lifestyle as me. good people, just living in a very unique world. but because everyone was in the same boat, it was difficult to step back and get any kind of real perspective on it. it was just how life was... it's how my world operated. it didn't present itself as unique because it really wasn't unique in the time an place that we lived in. of course there were variations from social circle to social circle, but it felt like the entire community (all of the circles) operated almost dependently or because of one another.
each year that i lived in this environment, i became "better" at doing it... studying efficiently (least amount of time for best grade), picking up girls and closing the deal with a high success rate, understanding and building upon the limits of my alcohol consumption, setting up better parties, improving on my overall social interactions, etc.
not all of these things are necessarily "healthy" or deemed admirable by many people, but they do reflect things that are useful as you get older. example: if i see a group 30+ yr old guys at a football game, hosting a pathetic tailgate party, accompanied by no women, falling all over themselves drunk on a 12-pack of miller lite, burning the sht out of frozen burgers on their rusty hibachi, i always think to myself, "how can they not have the hang of it by now? they did it wrong when they were younger."
so, yeah... the advice of an older guy can be helpful in the sense that they can now offer a different perspective on the younger guys' circumstances. many of us have lived in that world and, now that we've left it, we can address it from the outside, being able to see the entire thing at once and offer an effective strategy for most situations. when you are actually "in" that world it can be difficult to do that.
it can obviously be just as unhelpful too... i know plenty of guys who more or less "failed" at living through that part of their lives. and these are the same who guys are often the most willing to hand out advice. they want to offer advice but they are doing so from a "this is what i did wrong the entire time, but now i know what's up, so i'm gonna educate this guy," type of way. problem is, they never figured it out. so, for the most part, their advice is invalid. these guys won't warn you that they sucked at life when they were your age before giving you tips, so it is tough to tell who to listen to.
my advice: just live through it... you'll probably figure it out.
btw: it takes a 31yr old a long-ass time to type this in between meeting with clients.Last edited by pittbleauxs; 04-08-2011 at 12:30 PM.
*pittbleauxs is why TK421 was not at his post.*
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04-08-2011, 12:01 PM #94
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04-08-2011, 12:11 PM #95
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04-08-2011, 12:47 PM #96
lol, well actually she's on the b2b sales fasttrack to making 100k a year easy, and I'm on the decided for a career change so only working chill jobs that pay 45k a year track while I go back to school and take advanced science courses.
So, I'm not to worried about it.
Thanks for the concerns though brah
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04-08-2011, 12:53 PM #97
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Turn the tables on her. Ask her isn't it important to her to acknowledge what you want as well? Tell her that you see her as the "one" but that you feel yall should be more financially prepared and your careers established before getting married. If she doesn't understand and acknowledge that, then honestly bro she's probably not for you. She's NOT going to become less demanding when you get married. You're 21, you are just starting your life, don't start it out by getting married when you aren't ready.
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04-08-2011, 12:55 PM #98
Ask yourself this:
If she really loves you, would she leave you because you won't marry her right away? If she really loves you would she put you in this frustrating and confusing position at all?
There is a huge difference between love and attachment. Your predicament does not sound like a healthy relationship situation to me brah. I'm sure your girl is swell, but don't do something you may regret, and that's really tough to get out of.
I'm on the verge of divorce and it's incredibly tough. We married when I was 25, and it was what I wanted, but a few years time is more than enough to grow apart, especially in your mid 20s.
Take your time with it, no matter how you feel now as f'ed up as it may sound love can change in an instant if you meet the right or wrong person.
The thing that keeps it all working, that makes everyone feel so damned obligated is our fear of change, and our inability to adapt to things going away that we're used to. Humans love patterns and we hate to break out of one we're already in.
Just try to put all that stuff in mind when you try to put your situation into perspective. Good luck man.
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04-09-2011, 06:06 AM #99
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04-09-2011, 06:15 AM #100
Great entertainment. I love the "wisdom" some 18 y/o's have about our economy, Israel, politics, careers and the women'z. Where else are you going to get sex tips, opinions on whether a gorilla can beat a polar bear, what careers are better than others, the secret power of yams and 'dick figures' on one page? Really entertaining.
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04-09-2011, 06:30 AM #101
23 year old here. I'm more mature than most of you 30 year olds:
-Brb been with the same girl for over 2 years and I will propose soon
-Brb have stable career but looking to go to school while work FT to pick up an advanced degree
-Brb almost have 6 figures saved up in a bank
-Brb have no debt
Only thing I am lacking are some social experiences. I was a bit of a loner in HS and never really felt comfortable in my own skin. Never went through a phase of chasing girls (I was always a loyal type of guy with the few girls I've been with), I still haven't traveled to too many places and there are some social skills I am still lacking but I have improve on them.So I live by two words, "Phuck you, Rep Me"
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04-09-2011, 06:32 AM #102
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04-09-2011, 07:30 AM #103
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04-09-2011, 08:02 AM #104
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04-11-2011, 06:01 AM #105
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04-11-2011, 06:40 AM #106
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